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was it romantic?
so my boyfriend and i just had sex for the first time together...he was a virgin i was not...and we both love eachother and so we both decided we didnt want to have "kinky", "horney" sex...we wanted loving, passionate sex..so when we were having sex i expected it to be amazing...but i was kinda dissapointed cus i thought he would look at me , or telll me he loved me while we were doing it...but he dditn..he did not look at my face the whole time...and he didnt say he loved me once....was he just using me for sex..?
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He was probally shy hun.... It was his first time.... most likely didn't know what to do.. you don't go into a pool knowing how to swim... (unless your a fish) anyway yeah. hope that helped..
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Remember he's a virgin. So he probaly didnt get the idea of "passionate" sex... Maybe you should clear things up with him, tell him what you expected "passionate sex" with him was all about.
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he was a virgin so he was nervous
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♥ probably not hun. Since it was his first time maybe he just didnt no how it was going to be. Think of it as a rough draft of the next time you have sex. He knows what to do and things you like now so Im sure he will get better. If it doesnt improve, try talking to him about it. Im sure he would understand.
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wait until the second time. lots of people talk about how much the first time is supposed to mean. But there's all these worries, nervousness, how's it going to be, how the other's feeling, the technical aspects. Its a lot of stress. Wait until the second time, when your both more comfortable. Then it'll mean more. like others have said, tell him how you feel. Try again, and tell him how you like to look at his face, and in his eyes. it sounds like you two are comfortable w/ each other. Make sure he gets how close your feeling to him, and he'll show you that he's feeling the same way.
Hope this helps
~reach28
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Females use sex to get intimacy, males use intimacy to get sex. In other words our brains work differently and expectations between the sexes differ. In the heat of the moment it is difficult to think long term about all the things that go along with sex. Those things are likely to surface after sex (commitment, the relationship, possible pregnancy). His brain could have been flooded with confusing information. In addition, he may have been concerned and completely focused on his performance and what your expectations were. Especially since it was his first time, he was feeling less than confident, and he knows you have the experience to compare. Guys dread that comparison--or to think they might not be as good as someone else. Does he tell you that he loves you at other times? Are you sure this is going to be your life partner? Are you on the same level as far as commitment? I am guessing that you might not be sure of that, or you wouldn't be disappointed and worried now.
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Uh.....yea hun!! Wow your brain was gone with that. With virgins they don't know kinky from passionate sex. It may have got out that you have had sex and that you were a good toy to use or that he just went with his feelings as a first timer. Like i know he probably was on top of you breathing hard over your head and it was like he was not exactly raping you, but not exactly pleasuring you either, but just himself. If he's still talking and going out with you then it really was his first time and that's all he knew to do and maybe me needs a little more guidance. It's nice you made him feel like a man and try to take charge without you telling him anything, but with a virgin you gotta stir him in a right direction and help him a bit. Try to go on the internet and teach him stuff and try to progress your sexual activities with him if you love him like that. But if he's doesn't talk to you anymore or acts funny towards you then he used you to just not be a virgin anymore.I'm sorry if he does(what a bitch!). hope i helped!!
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its his first time..give him a chance lol :)
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hey, I think that you should consider whether or not he has a reputation for being a "bad boy" but I am guessing that you wouldnt even consider sex if this was the case , so if he isnt then i agree with what everyone else said, which is that he was probaly nervous for it being his first time and all. does it sound a little bit like how you were when you first had sex? who knows i could be completely off but I hope I helped.
later
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Most likely not, if he's a virgin hes really new at this and probably didn't know what to do. Next time just say it to him, and than he'll know that thats the tyep of stuff your supposed to say.
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I doubt he was using you. I mean, he gave you his virginity. He probably didn't say anything because he was nervous, scared, or too excited. Just talk ho him about it & tell him how you feel. Ask him what he was thinking.
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Well I dont think he was using you for sev considering he was a virgin, normally if people use you for sex they do that to alot of ppl. So no I dont think he was using you.
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I doubt he was using you, I'm sure that he really loves you if you were ready for sex and talked it over before hand. Plus, if it's his first time, he was probably both excited and nervous, and possibly a little afraid of talking or looking you in the face, because you'd be able to read what he was thinking.
I'm going to agree with TheOldOne here. If you're ready for sex, you should be able to have completely open, honest communication with eachother. Bring it up with him and talk to him about it. Just tell him that you want to be able to see his face and his emotions when you're that close, and that sometimes you feel like he's using you if he's just focusing on your body or not telling you that he loves you. Be sure to tell him that he can be completely comfortable around you, and doesn't have to be nervous talking about sex or having it with you.
All that said, a lot of 'first times' aren't nearly as amazing as one's fantasies might make them out to be. It takes time to get to know eachother physically as well as emotionally. If you're willing to keep an open line of communication, it will get better.
Hope this helps!
Love,
Nevaeh
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Maybe. But maybe not. He may have been scared, or nervous, or embarrassed. The first time is really scary for everyone.
One good way to find out would be to talk to him about it; how he felt, what he's thinking. It's easy to overlook direct communication, but if you're having sex with him, you need to be comfortable enough to talk to him about it.
Good luck!
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