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so i broke up with me bf (of 2 months) about a week ago. We still talk everyday he's my bestfriend. the reason i called it off was because i would think about other guys, and i was confised so i broke up with him. BIG mistake i miss himm soo much . . .he is now going out with someone else and it is truley killing me i love him soo much and i know he still loves me beacasue he was talking to my sister and shes like you really like her dont you and he like no . . i love her. he tells me that we'll get back together soon, but its just killing me i let him go, like i cant even eat and im just o depressed. what should i do?
thanks in advance!
hey "I miss him" plain and simply throw your feelings out there. but do it in private, you wouldnt want to start added drama with the new girl he is dating. If what he said is true, then do it when you feel ready, because whats worse then not being with him?
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Oh Jesus. The other night I did some stuff that was kind of close to cheating on my boyfriend at a concert. He found out and got really mad. At first he was mad because I was denying it. Finally I couldn't help it and told him what I did. And he cried and took it real bad. Now he doesn't trust me and thinks I'll cheat on him. How do I get his trust back?
hey there "YIKKKKers", I think trust is something that takes a long time to build. So right now you might be kind of powerless because the ball is in his court. All you can really do is stand by his side and just let him know you are there and nothing like that would ever happen again. It might take awhile but it just depends on the person for how long it will take for him to totally have your trust again. So dont be surprised if he suddenly wants to know eveyrthing you do. Its just something that comes with the territory. So if you really want to be with him just be patient with him, and try and talk with him about it.
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I've just started to make love with my boyfriend, and I have a vague recollection from my sex education classes at school that when you become sexually active you should have a check-up, examination etc. Is this the case? Thanks!
yes thats true. Really when you turn 18(if you arent sexually active) is when you should be going for annual check ups, but yes when you start having sex no matter what kind of sex, you should have annual check ups with the doctor.
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i've recently come to terms with the fact that i'm bi. a few of my friends know, but some of my closest ones don't. i think i'm ready to tell them, but i have no idea how to bring it up or how much to tell them. also, the reason they don't know yet is because these are the friends whose reactions i'm having the hardest time predicting (they're girls, by the way). i know that they love me and that if they're as mature as they seem and they realize we're living in the 21st century they should be able to handle it, but i really don't want them to be uncomfortable around me. i really want to be open with them and comfortable with myself and not hide anything, but i'd almost rather not tell them than risk our relationship changing. this is probably the typical cliche question, but i'm mostly asking how to go about telling them and where to stop rambling (ie: ...and it doesn't mean i check out every girl i see and no i don't like you and yes sleepovers are safe and...). eesh this is getting kind of long...just one more thing: two of the friends have a class with me at school, and in that class is the girl i happen to have a crush on. so part of my question is also whether i should just tell them i'm bi, or tell them i have a crush on a girl (i know you can figure out #1 from #2, but i don't know if it's better to give them a general idea or what).
thank you so much for the 5 hours of your time that you just gave reading this, and thanks in advance for your answer!
hey,
i agree with what you say. it's the 21st century, and if they really are your close friends then superficial stuff shouldnt matter. If you want some help, try bringing up bisexuality with them first in a subtle way and get their opinion on it if you dont already know. or sometimes just talking about it helps, try going to your school's guidance counselor or local therapist. i promise talking helps, or just talk to your friends who already know. And just because some of your friends know, doesnt mean you have to come out to all of them, dont do it unless you feel ready. There's no pressure.
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ok i have a friend from school that have lied to me and she told me the truth like yesterday and shes my best friend i don't want to loose her if she keeps lying to me. What should i do?
hey,
all you need to do is send her a wake up call, put the ball in ur court. you shouldnt always have to b the one getting taken advantage of, even if she is your best friend. show her how you feel. sometimes telling someone about something they do isnt good enough. sometimes you have to actually do it for them to understand how you feel.
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Well, I don't mean to sound conceited but a lot of people come up to me and say they like me, but it's always these guy's friends that like me. Is there something wrong with me that the guy who likes me can't come up to me and say it himself? Why is it always their friends?
lol i know how annoying that can be, but the best one is always the hardest. maybe he wants to back off just because so many guys are going after you or he could just be insecure. but if you really like him and you wanna go for it just tell him how you feel. it couldnt hurt.
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well i know the siptums of gonneriea( sorry if i spelt it rong) and its burned like 3 times while i was going to the bathroom. and my urine smells really strong. could this be gonneria? i know this question sounds nasty but im really scared.
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hey "SCARED", if you have been sexually active multiple times in the past then i would definitely consider going to the doctor. and dont worry you dont have to tell your parents. it might ease the stress a little but even if the burn and smell goes away you should go to the doctor annually if you are being sexually active.
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Okay. I'm in love with this guy. I always have been. He doesn't know. He never will. I'm moving in less than a month and I am NOT going to tell him. That's not my question. My question is, this love for him is killing me. KILLING me, because I can't do anything (I AM NOT GOING TO TELL HIM, SO DON'T TELL ME TO!). I don't want to stop loving him. I know my feelings are true. But for my own sake, I have to.
How can I?
--thanks.
Hey Love sick one,If he is moving away and you know for a fact there is no way you are gonna tell him, then you need to try to move on. Trust me I know for a fact how this feels and i know how much you hurt. the same thing happened to me with this guy that i had known for almost 7 years. I never told him when i had the chance and I'm still trying to move on. I still really regret it and its been almost two yrs. Now i am not going to tell you to tell him but I will tell you that if your not, then maybe its time to let go. So just try. try to let go.
so my boyfriend and i just had sex for the first time together...he was a virgin i was not...and we both love eachother and so we both decided we didnt want to have "kinky", "horney" sex...we wanted loving, passionate sex..so when we were having sex i expected it to be amazing...but i was kinda dissapointed cus i thought he would look at me , or telll me he loved me while we were doing it...but he dditn..he did not look at my face the whole time...and he didnt say he loved me once....was he just using me for sex..?
hey, I think that you should consider whether or not he has a reputation for being a "bad boy" but I am guessing that you wouldnt even consider sex if this was the case , so if he isnt then i agree with what everyone else said, which is that he was probaly nervous for it being his first time and all. does it sound a little bit like how you were when you first had sex? who knows i could be completely off but I hope I helped.
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hey i have a problem, lately i noticed im not happy and high spirited as usual. i mean i have things ive always wanted, I.E.-an awesome boyfriend, pretty good grades, doing well in basketball, a lot of friends. but problem is, im not like...happy or high spirited like i used to be. is there any way to fix that?
I can tell that you really mean what you say about your friends and your boy friend. But have they maybe ever done something that maybe didnt ever clear up. like they said something to hurt your feelings and they apologized but it still hurts? i dont know maybe that could be it but sometimes when you have everything you thought you wanted there is something that you want a little more. is there?
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