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did my friends reaction to my joke mean anything?
I was at a restaurant having a couple of drinks with some friends of mine. Two of them were single, and the other were a married couple. I am also single. Well my one single friend asked me to talk about my uncle and his crazy wife for some entertainment. None of them know my uncle and wife, or have ever met them. They live in another state so I didnt feel bad making a joke about them. They ARE crazy (in my opinion). I wanted to make them laugh so I told them how last Xmas my uncle said infront of the whole family that if you saw his wife naked you would need therapy. Everyone laughed. Then I said in front of the group" well uncle jim if you hate your wife so much, why don't you divorce her"? His response was that he "couldnt afford it". Everyone at the table roared, everyone, that is except the husband of the married couple at the table. I think I'm the only one who noticed this, but his face actually went white and he looked like a deer had got caught in the headlights when I made the comment about asking my uncle why he wouldnt divorce his wife if he hated her so much. So my question is, was his reaction a sign that his marriage may be on the rocks? I've heard from my other friends that they have been fighting a lot.
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Most likely, yes, their marriage maybe experiencing some trials. But it's THEIR MARRIAGE. You have/had NOTHING TO DO WITH THEIR PROBLEMS. So don't worry about them. LET THEM WORRY ABOUT THEM AND THEIR TROUBLES. I'm not trying to be rude or anything, but people get really #@$%$#@, you know, when you get into "THEIR BUSINESS." So, AS LONG AS HE DOESN'T SAY ANYTHING TO YOU ABOUT THE JOKE, STAY OUT OF IT. Don't even approach him about the joke and his reaction to it. STAY OUT OF IT. Only do something when HE ASKS YOU or TELLS YOU SOMETHING. Let them handle their own problems. Trust me, getting involved in marrital problems is messy, most of the time dangerous, and @#$%$#%$#. So, do yourself a favor, and avoid it. Stay out of it.
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Well, perhaps, but by no means necessarily. He could have just found the story in poor taste and not found it funny - as a married man himself, he might have thought it was very unkind of your uncle to disparage his wife in front of a room full of people. Perhaps it offended him because it mocks the idea that marriage is something based on love, an idea that he probably believes in as somebody who is himself married, but still in that young and relatively idealistic stage. Perhaps as you suggest your telling this story played on a fear he has that the only reason his wife stays with him is because of the financial cost of divorce. It isn't really worth speculating about. If your friend's marriage is in trouble, it isn't really your buisness exactly what's going on and if they are fighting and how. As a friend, you should be watching out to see if your friends are upset and need you, but not watching out for signs of strain in their marriage out of curiosity. It's perfectly reasonable to ask your married friend if everything is okay, because he seemed a little quiet at drinks the other day, but it isn't acceptable to confront him about whether his marriage is failing and whether you hit a sore spot with your story. If he wants to tell you why it bothored him, he will, but until then, don't push it, just be there to listen if he wants to open up.
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yes, most probably their relationship isnt going very well. only people who are guilty or thinks exactly the same share a common reaction. :)and if you are thinking that maybe it was your fault that made him look terrible or sumthing, theres nothing to worry about because its not your fault. it was just a coincidence. :D
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