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im sorry its long but i need help
ok well heres the thing, i like this one guy {lawrence} alot alot, and sometimes i even think more then just alot alot. so i thought i knew him pretty well. then one day his cousin and him were in a fight and his cousin told me that he was lieing to me about his virginity, and how he never lost it, he was just trying to impress me. and stuff like that. and i told his cousin that i didnt really care if he was a virgin or no, what bothers me is that he lied and stuff. so after that i just went home, and i didnt really care like i honestly didnt. so usually lawrence calls me like everyday just to talk or w/e or someitmes i call him. well for the past few days he hasnt called once. and then his cousin told me that he had told him that he told me about that whole lieing thing. and so now lawrence knew that he told me, so i was like okay maybe he thinks im mad at him. because lawrence knows that i cant stand people who lie.and so now he hasnt called or anything. and i just like want to call him. because i know if like i was in that situation i would have wanted him to call me to tell me he wasnt mad at me and stuff. but at the same time, i dont know...i just dont know why every part of me is telling myslef not to call him. hmm but yea help please =/
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definitely call him, if ur not mad, dont try to play games guys hate it
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Call him and tell him that you are not mad at him. and ask if you can start over.
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He's probably just embarrassed, considering what the lie was about. I think the bigger deal you make it, the bigger issue it will be between the two of you. Call him or email him and just act normal and don't bring the whole thing up. It will show him that you really dont care and its not that big of a deal and you two can move on and be as you once were hopefully. Good luck and keep me posted.
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If you think there may be a problem and you think he has lied to you then the best thing you can do is speak to him about it. Tell him first of all what his cousin told you and then ask him if it's true.
From there, you need to decide what you want. If you think you really like him, then by all means, go on at least one date with him and see what you think after that. However, if you don't think he can be trusted after this then you may be better off staying away.
One important thing to remember is that guys DO lie when they like a girl. It's very possible that he thought you wouldn't be interested in him unless you thought he was a virgin. But if you want to know for sure why he lied, you need to ask him and ask him to be honest about why.
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there is clearly a communication dilemma. usually this situation starts when we rely to 'she said/ he said' thing. so i think you should call him and say that you are not mad, and that you really dont care. dont worry, its just a call... it doesnt mean that you are spilling that you are head over heels with him. because both of you call each other before. so when you call him, you can ask him questions if the things you heard are true or not. it would be really nice if the situation can get clearer. ill bet, you'll feel good ryt after you cleared things up with him. :)afterall you had a great friendship with him, you wouldnt wanna waste it by miscommunication ryt?
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