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Self Asteam
Well lately ive had low self asteem in myself. i feel like i have no chance with every guy i like. im starting too be uncomfy with things i was comfortable like being tall as i am [5 11]. Well now all i think is no guy would go out with me because im tall and black. iunno what to do but i hate feeling this way. i really need some good advice!
P.S last yr i wore lower cut shirts and flirted mroe and was more loud and guys liked me. i feel like i had to b slutty to get guys to like me. should i go bac to that or waht can i do to get the same result?
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Hun, you should never try to act like a slut to get guys, you need to do what you are comfortable with. Any guy who wants a girl for being a slut, is just going to use you, and abuse you, and end up breaking your heart. All the guys I know, prefer taller girls to short ones, I mean I am 5'3 and I have had guys not want to date me because i am short. I don't think it matters how tall or short you are, guys all have different prefrences. So my advice to you is to just give it time, and eventually that will pay off, because you will find a guy who is genuine and will like you for you, and not for being a slut.
I hope all goes well.
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Never EVER feel that you have to have your goods on show to get attention from people. Yes, it does get you attention but the wrong kind. Eventually, it will make you feel worse as you learn that people aren't liking you for you but instead for what they can see of or get from you.
(Just as a side note here, I'm 5'4-5'5 and I hate being short! I'd love to be as tall as you!!)
There are a LOT of tall women in the world and a lot of tall black women. I bet if you looked at the WNBA, all those women probably have boyfriends or husbands. Perhaps basketball is one way you could use your height to your advantage?
Unfortunately, you're at an age where low self esteem is very common. There's no absoloute cure to this, as everyone needs to find their own way to feel good about themselves but my recommendation is that you take a long hard look at yourself in the mirror. Chances are that you are a tall, beautiful girl and that if you could get your self esteem up a bit and show a little self-confidence, there would be plenty of people flocking in your direction. It doesn't matter whether you are tall, short, fat or thin. Everyone is beautiful in their own way and EVERYONE has something to offer someone in this world and you are no different to them. So try to rememeber all the things that are great about you and make them work for you, not against you.
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a guy should like you for who you are. not how you look or how slutty you are. but as much as us girls want this to be true.. most guys arent like that. yes there are some who are out there so dont give up hope. a little trick is to make guys think youre all that. in order to do this is by being comfortable in your own skin. if youre comfortable being you itll show and make you look confident. what makes a girl really attractive to guys is confidence. once youre confident you can talk to anyone and be fun to be around. dont put yourself down because you dont mold to the "perfect" image. there is no such thing. everyone has their good assests and their flaws. emphasize your good assests and nobody will notice the flaws or insecurities. you definetly do not need to dress slutty for a guy to notice you. make him notice you with confidence and just by being yourself. :-)
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no you shouldnt go back to that its not good for yourself.ill tell ya im 5'9-5'10 and i also am pretty tall which makes me uncomfortable,but i dont let it get me down because i know there are guys just as tall as me or even tall so thats nothing to worry about.well whenever i get down i make myself feel better by going on a diet or buying new clothes....dont change yourself just try and make yourself improve.sometimes yu need to spoil yourself abit to feel good.and remember theres someone for everyone u just havent found them yet.
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You will see more results if you are yourself. When you try to project a different image it will show through and people will naturally be a little suspecious or stand offish. The different image may get people to notice you, but will not likely result in any solid long term relationships. Write down all the good things about yourself and memorize them and repeat them. Such as "I am smart" "I have a caring personality" "I am tall" (yes that is a positive) "I have beautiful black skin" and so on..."I have wide eyes and long eyelashes" etc...you get the drift. Once you start to feel these things about yourself others will feel them too and in time you'll magically meet the right person. Most of all (Smile a lot) people are generally attracted to other people who are happy!
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That's the problem with ahving low self-esteem - you'll do anything you can to make people, especially guys, like you. Unfotunately acting like a bit of a slut may make guys like you, but they certainly won't have any respect for you. This is something I went through for a couple of years and only stopped recently when I realised this is the case. You're lucky to be tall, I wish I could be! Be proud of how you look - guys love it if you're confident in yourself and that will make them like you more. Hope I helped :)
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First of all, you shouldn't be self-concious about your height (I WISH I was that tall). I mean, look at supermodels. Tyra Banks, Naomi Campbell, Giselle (not even cute).. they're all tall or even taller than you and guys love them. Being tall = more woman! But you said that last yr. you wore lower cut shirts, flirted more and was outgoing and guys liked you.. but thats what guys like. You dont have to be perfect but showing a little cleavage and being outspoken gives off a confident vibe even if youre just faking it. It doesnt make you slutty, just dont over-do it. There's a fine line between sexy (ex. Alicia Keys) and slutty (ex. Mya).. lol
hope i helped
x3
kali
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