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SELF CONSCIOUS .. ?
i think that i'm kind of self conscious .. i didn't know where to put this under but i think im really self conscious about my body and my looks and stuff. so i dont know. but anyway .. how could i get rid of some of my self consciousness?
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Ask yourself what you don't like about you, and then try and figure out why you don't like it.
Is it because you have bouth into the media's idea of perfection? or is there something really off?
Then look at the people around you. Are they upbuilding, or do they cut you down all the time?
One thing i try to do is tell myself that I am Pretty the way i am, and sometimes, you can trick yourself into confidence. That is when everyone else notices it, which in turn, builds you up.
Do something that you like. That always makes one feel good.
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excercise!! it can make you feel better about yourself.. it will make you feel healthier and stuff ;] and maybe go shopping and buy some new cloths that make you feel beautiful.. =] hope i helped hunnn
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hey,
well, everybody is self consious about something, whether they choose to admit it or not. I am self consious about most of the aspects of my appearance. But ive gotten over it by focusing on the things i like myself. I know it sounds kind of lame. but maybe you should take some time && stand in front of the mirror && ask yourself. "what do i like about my body?". Maybe that will help. But you can never really get rid of your insecurities completely.
♥*KAYLA
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Im like you.
I'm horrible to myself about my weight.
But now im realizing i cannot sit, around drowning in myself i need to step out, and change it.
I suggest to you you make a list of all the stuff you dislike about you, and find ways to change it.
And then make a list of all the good stuff, also.
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Man just thinking you are hot will make you hot. Its all in the attitude
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you have to realize that everyone is self conscious, however, not everyone always shows it. you probably spend a lot of time thinking about how you look and what people think of you, well the truth is that those people that youre trying to impress are thinking the same thing, that they dont have time to be thinking about you. (which is a good thing). the key to not feeling so self conscious is confidence. be confident in what you have to offer, and focus on these good points. that way, you wont focus on your imperfections that make you so self conscious. if you look confident, people will see this confidence and wont see your self consciousness :-) its also good to just be happy and smile and laugh. if you set good vibes people will be comfortable talking to you. good luck. <3
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When you feel self-conscious it means you are putting too much attention on yourself, too much focus on what you are doing and how you are doing it. And this is a formula for poor performance.
The secret then to dealing with this problem is to become other conscious.
If all you do is shift your focus from self to others you will communicate better, perform better and become a far better listener.
Another positive consequence is that other people will enjoy spending time with you because it is so obvious you give them your complete attention.
Your goal is to become so fascinated by other people that your focus is on what they say, how they say it and why they say it.
6 Tips for Becoming Other Conscious:
1. Pay attention to the way people breathe, watch closely and observe the relationship between breathing and speaking.
2. Listen not just to what people say but the way they say it. Pay very close attention to speech patterns, changes in tempo, volume and tone.
3. Ask thoughtful questions to understand the way others think. Really strive to grasp why others think what they think.
4. Whenever your focus shifts back to the way you are behaving ask yourself questions about the other person so you need to pay attention to him e.g.
- What does he really mean by that?
- How does he manage to be so boring?
- How does she keep people so entranced with her words?
5. Use your imagination to change your mood and to keep your mind too occupied to be self-conscious.
You could for example imagine that the people you are talking to are wearing no clothes or inappropriate clothes. Why not have some fun, feel good and still enjoy a good conversation?
You owe it to yourself to find as many ways as possible to feel good. As I have said before excellent communication skills are more dependant on your mental and emotional states than on clever language patterns.
6. Use affirmations to condition a new belief about your ability to be relaxed and other conscious. For example:
- I am fascinated by the way people talk
- I give my complete attention to whoever I talk to
- I am an excellent conversationalist
- I feel fantastic when I meet new people
Use these 6 tips each day and you will be amazed at how quickly you become more confident with others.
-Peter Murphy
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