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I don't want to offend anyone with my questions but theres just so much that doesnt make sense about god and religion. i really do want to believe but i dont understand somethings and it makes me think god cant exist becaus of these things that dont add up.
firstly evolution. humans evolved from apes, there's been loads of scienctific evidence and documentries about it and you learn about it in science. But the bible says adam and eve were the first man and woman, so according to religion evolution cant have existed, well not in humans anyway.
If god is so great and loves us all, why does he make people suffer? i mean even highly religion people. the pope sufferd loads before he died and he's about as religios as people get, so why would god make him suffer?
Also, if god is so great and loves us all, why does he send people to hell? i know some deserve it but surely he wouldnt want anyone to be sent to hell for eternity?
This last point is not something i thought of, it's something that was talked about on the radio but it makes you think. There are lots of religions, but if any, only 1 must be true and the rest of them are lies. people must have made some religions up because some say theres only 1 god, some religions have many gods and all different types of beliefs, so they cant all be true. i hope someone can help me, because its so confusing and i honestly do want to believe.
sorry, if i offended anyone, i really dont want to. its just so confusing.
thank you x

OK, so i am going to try and keep this short.

Everyone is confused about religion. Well, anyone who has not been brainwashed. You have to find what you believe in and be willing to leave some questions unanswered. In time, some things may become clear to you. I personally believe that in this day and age, there is no TRUE religion, as all of them have changed certain aspects to suit their desires. To me, religion is a creatin of man, inorder to keep some sort of control over humankind. So believe what feels right to you, but be a good person. If you really want answers to your questions, meditate, or delve into different religions to see if you can find something that they all agree on that YOU like. like hell. it isn't a teaching in all religions. nor is the belief that everyone goes to heaven, or that a man should only have one wife. So you do some sould searching and then you'll know what you believe.

Don't ever let anyone tell you it is wrong though. Stick to your convictions.

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im a guy 15yrs old yes im gay i need your advice. i like this guy well actually i think i love him and im not shore if hes gay or not. now my question is should i ask him and take a risk of him hating me. its not like hes like straight every one thinks hes gay so theres a strong possibility he is. my only fear is that i will ask him and he would say get the fuck away from me and hate me 4 ever and that would crush me. n e imput would b realy helpful.

thnx much

15 years old and gay. Ok, I can deal.

My question for you is how well do you know him? is he a friend? acquaintence? stranger? you have to decide on which of these he really is before you fancy yourself in love with him. lust, sure, love...well... maybe not so much.

And it is always better know then to spend your life wondering whether or not it could have worked out.

And don't judge; just because EVERYONE says he is gay does not mean that he is. Don't make assumptions; get facts.

If he tells to to get away and then hates you, he isn't really worth it, is he?

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i think that i'm kind of self conscious .. i didn't know where to put this under but i think im really self conscious about my body and my looks and stuff. so i dont know. but anyway .. how could i get rid of some of my self consciousness?

thanksss

Ask yourself what you don't like about you, and then try and figure out why you don't like it.

Is it because you have bouth into the media's idea of perfection? or is there something really off?

Then look at the people around you. Are they upbuilding, or do they cut you down all the time?

One thing i try to do is tell myself that I am Pretty the way i am, and sometimes, you can trick yourself into confidence. That is when everyone else notices it, which in turn, builds you up.

Do something that you like. That always makes one feel good.

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is it okay to have your period and go in the ocean wearing one of those wet suits and you DONT have a tampon on? or can you wear a napkin under the wet suit because i really like to swim in the ocean but i tampons. please help ill rate you high!

You really should not wear pads in the water... for obvious reasons.

Tampons are not so bad; you just have to find the ones that fit you. they are much much better than pads for water; they don't absorb the water and they aren't as noticable.

you could just go with out, as your period goes on a temporary hiatus while you arein water. it shouldn't affect you too badly.

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ok i am an athiest i have read many things supportin the exsitence nad nonexstence of god. I was just curious as to why people believe so strongly in a religion or a single god.

Well...

Numerous reasons I suppose. One main was is that no one really wants to belive that we are alone here, wandering throught time and space with n real purpose.

Some just want to have faith, but no matter what you belive (in God or not) than you have faith. If you don't belive in God, then you have the faith that God does not exist, whereas if you believe in God, then you obviously have faith in him.

Belief in God gives people something to do with their life, and for the most part, lets them believe in good amidst all the strife around us.

To counter that... they ask why does god let us suffer?

In which case, they believe because Then they have someone to blame for ths predicament we are all in and contribute to.

For others, God justifies their actions. ie Holy Wars, Religious Persecution etc and so on... And the belief that if they do something wrong, they don't really have to repent, because God will forgive us.

Twisted, aren't we?

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is there anywhere in the bible were it says someone from another race or color cant marriage someone of a different race then them? i was just wonder.

any advice on how to get my parents to approve of me datin a guy of the darker skin then me?

Look.

Everywhere you turn in modern religion, you find contradictions and such. The bible itself is full of things that don't quite work, but that is for you to judge for yourself.

If you like ths guy, go for it. Your parents can forbid you to see him, but they can't tell you who to love, and love will always find a way. If it's worth it, then you know what to do.

But no, as far as i know, the bible says no such thing.

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my modeling manager wants me to be in the magazine MAXIM. i am 14, do you think this is weird?
he says its good for exposure since i am just starting.

No.

Find yourself an new manager honey. Hell yeah it's good for exposure...he'll expose you. Besides, Maxim id for adults, and therefore all their "models" have to be adult, otherwise it is illegal... i mean, MAXIM caters to men, and has women in skimpy/trashy/barely there outfits.

So reconsider your manager; he doesn't have what best for you in mind.

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Ok, so I like this guy. But, the thing is, I dont see the point of liking anyone is, if they dont like you back, or they do and you totally think they dont. I've liked guys, but, I dont see what the point of liking them is, if they dont end up liking you back! It doesnt make sense, because I just get hurt, from liking them so much and them not liking me back. I know, your probably going to say, i have a while until I get a boyfriend etc. but, I just hate having to like guys...it just...brings me down. I told myself to stop liking someone that I liked for 4 a long ass time, and I mean a long time, I started crushing on him when I was like 12. But, I've been telling myself to just stop liking him, so i dont talk about him with friends or anything. Now, theres a new guy, he goes to a different school, I met him somewheres, and i got his email. But, im scared to talk to email him and stuff because I know he probably doesnt like me....ugh....any feedback on this?

thanks.

-Confused

Right now, I am having this same issue, so i know what you are going through.

Really, there are ust two things you can do. The first thing is the easy way, with the hardest consequences.

*You can do nothing... not tell him you have a thing for him, and always say well, i know he doesn't like me...but you will always be wondering What if?

Let me tell you, you can never KNOW for certain what someone else feels.

The second thing you can do is

*Tell him. Either by writing, talking, emailing, a friend... this way might be hard to do, but then at least you know. then you can move on, or let things develop. But at least you won't always be wondering.

I hope it works out.

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AHHHH!!! HELP Okay well, theres this guy... we'll call him jimmy and first we were friends and then we wnet out, the first day he was GREAT.We held hands and hugged it was the best day ever, then for the next two weeks he compltely dissed me, now we are really good friends, and my best friend thinks i still like him, i keep telling her now but then she said "why don't you like him?" and the truth is. . i cant think of any reasons why i don't expect that he's a little bit dramatic at times and thats all. My heads telling me no no no but my heart is telling me yes yes yes. I know he doesn't like me but it justs breaks my heart when i see him fliritng with anotehr girl. When me and him are haning out it's all good, but then when a nother girl comes into the pictures he totaly ditvhes me as my friend tells me i don't notice it but she syas she sees the pain in my eyes. I don't want to like him anymore. I got over him once but that's because i dint see him flirting and he started to again, so now i dont know waht to do anymore, i DONT want him back he's going to break my heart. I don't want to like him, i can't stop thinking about him, it's dirivng me NUTS< HELP AHHHHHHHHHHH!!!

You want honesty? You got it.

Nobody is a great friend if they ditch you completely when another girl is around. It seems to me like he is a player, and when he between girls, you're there to pick up the slack...

So maye you need to ask yourself if the heartache is worth it. Which is more important to you: A sense of self worth, or the value others place in you?

And if you don't want to like him anymore, then get over him: Cut yourself off from him... trust me, I know what I am talking about.

Surround yourself with people who love you. Find a new guy. (easier said than done, i know)

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How do you survive a horrible haircut that is short and curly? My hair is shorter than my brothers, and im a girl. Skool is tomorrow and we cant wear headgear. I look like a man, so what do i do?

Well, having curly hair myself, I know what you mean. I once had this awful haircut and never wanted to show my face.

Bad haircuts are not the end of the world. It will grow back. And haircuts don't generally change your personality, so you really have very little to worry about.

But whatever you do... DON'T HIDE IT. Attitude IS everything, and people are less likely to ridicule you if they think you don't care. If Someone does make a remark, come back with a snappy comment...

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