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Question Posted Wednesday August 10 2005, 10:16 am

When my boyfriend & I started dating, naturally things were a bit weird at first. Then we became more comfortable around eachother & it started to seem like it was more about touching then talking. Now we talk on the phone more since we're back at school & don't get to go out as much. The day before yesterday, everything was fine & we were having a great time on the phone but yesterday he didn't call me. I texted him & we had fun texting back & fourth but then when I signed on he didn't IM me. I'm not sure if I'm overreacting (please don't be mean if I am, it's my first relationship). I'm hoping he's just overwhelmed by school because I really care about him & I would hate to think that I felt stronger about him then he does about me. What should I do?

xox kelly

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gessyka answered Saturday August 13 2005, 6:49 am:
omg you sound like me. With the worrying. Thats how I was at first and still am sometimes and I dont even mean to be. I mean you probably are overreacting. If you know hes not like that and he's a sweet guy then I'm sure he had a good reason for not being able to IM you at first. IM him next time or else he's probably thinking the same thing like: "Why didnt she IM me?"

Just relax.. let the relationship flow. Don't worry, that just will wear you out, Trust me, I'm a worrier.. I know.

Good Luck.

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shutupnkissme98 answered Thursday August 11 2005, 4:06 pm:
ok well im not trying to be mean but i think you are just over reactinga little bit.just because he didnt IM you doesnt mean anything.his computer probably automatically signed him. alot of peoples computers do that.i wouldnt worry about it.hope i helped XoXo

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karenR answered Thursday August 11 2005, 8:23 am:
I think hes probably just busy with school stuff. I do think you should ask him and talk about it with him if its bothering you. It will make you feel better :)

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singursoul answered Wednesday August 10 2005, 10:08 pm:
I say don't worry about it, if he goes for days at a time w/o talkin to you there might be a problem but otherwise i doubt it's anything. Don't expect your bf to call you everyday. I'm sorry, but most guys don't once some of the newness wears off. If he signed on and didn't IM you he may have just gotten on to do some homework research and check his e-mail and didn't even pay attention to his bl or he may have noticed you were on but didn't want to get distracted until he finished what he needed to do. Don't read too much into it and don't worry about it. Trust me... this one's on experience.
Hope I helped ya

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bethers13luvsyou answered Wednesday August 10 2005, 12:23 pm:
well i say you should ask him if he is mad at you and if he still cares about you thr same way he did when yall first started going out and if he doesnt ask him what changed that and if it comes to this you may have to break up and give him just a lil bit of space i mean school just got back into school and he may be really busy with school and just need to get everything straight there and then yall can possibly get back together and if you dont then he must not have liked you the way you thought you did! i hope it all works out!


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SoInToYoUx0x answered Wednesday August 10 2005, 11:51 am:
i dont see anything wrong with your guys realtionship.. maybe he was just busy yesterday and ddint call you. talk to him about it if it is botherin you so much.. about the IM thing maybe he was doing some school work and didnt IM you. dont worry so much about this. hope this helps you out.

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Teza answered Wednesday August 10 2005, 11:51 am:
You are'nt over reacting but its okay to get a little worried. Did he promise to call you?? Maybe it slipped his mind or he was busy with something really important. Maybe something for school or for his family. Dont worry about it though. I mean you guys texted back and forth so that prooves that he isnt mad at you or anything. Okay about the IMing thing. I dont think you shouldnt worry about that. So many people forget to put their away message on and they end up going to a different room or they are just doing something on the computer and too busy to talk. There could be a lot of reasons why he couldnt IM you. But if the calling thing happenes again just talk to him about it.

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X0C0URT answered Wednesday August 10 2005, 11:24 am:
Everything seems to be ok to me. Just because he didn't call doesn't mean something is wrong. Besides you ended up texting each so that shows he wasn't mad at you or anything. If you think you need to, talk to him about it. At school you can just say, "Is there a reason you haven't been calling or IMing me?" He'll probably assure you that nothing is wrong. But if the problem persists, you might want to rethink your relationship and have a more serious talk about it.


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TheCynic answered Wednesday August 10 2005, 10:23 am:
Currently, I'm in my fifth (and hopefully last) relationship, and I've been with this guy for three years. I know what it's like. Now, to answer your question:

The not calling you thing could be a problem. If he says he's going to call you, he should call you. If he does it again, talk to him about it. But if he only did it once, I don't think it's that big a deal.

The IMing thing isn't a problem at all. Sometimes, people just get up and walk away from the computer to do something, or are doing something and don't notice you signed on. There's plenty of excuses for the IM thing, so don't even be concerned about that.

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