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I am a girl,age 23. my father has died in 2009, my mom is alive but she never take care of me. i live with my elder sister,she has 3 kids. she always quarreled with me. if i don't do any household work, she got angry with me. i have boyfriend,who never let me cry,he love me so much.i didn't meet with him for last 3month because my sister never allowed me to meet with him. i stay my room whole day lonely.nobody of my family call me or ask me anything. my study is also hampering day by day. for my condition my boy friend also feeling very bad for me and his study also destroying day by day.i cant tolerate this anymore.it is seem to me that my death is the nice solution for all.my family will get rid of me and my boyfriend will get a better life.i have no way to live.what should i do beyond this?
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You should go to talk to someone if you are feeling like this. Maybe a school/college councillor? There are always ways to improve a situation. You should talk to your sister, talk to your boyfriend tell them why you are unhappy. I really recommend talking to a school/college councilor they will be able to help you, and help you come up with solutions to your problems. Right now everything seems horrible but most of the time if you push through and have goals etc, then things get better. Work at your studies so you can get a good job and support yourself eventually. Then you won't worry about your sister. Really there are ways to solve this without contemplating suicide. You just need to talk to people and figure out ways to improve your situation. Even if it's just little ways to start off, like working at a library as opposed to your house, so you spend less time at home. Things like that.I really think the first step is to go talk to councillor.
Goodluck. Feel better.
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My friend found a baby kitten at her work and I ended up taking it because she couldn't. It looks about no more than 2 weeks. It can bearly hold its head up and shakes when it walks, its eyes are fully open and it fits in the palm of your hand. I have a bottle for it and it takes a few drinks then pushes away. How do you know how much to feed it? Do you know exactly how old it i? Do you know what I need to do for a kitten this young? Please help!!! (link)
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I would call a vet, explain what you wrote here and see what they recommend. It sounds like it is very young, so feeding it with the bottle is probably best. But a vet will be able to tell you how much to feed it and how often. Unfortunately I wish I could be more help, really just talking to a vet will be best. They will be able to tell you what to do and what not to do. And maybe even what age range it is. I hope this works out! It sounds like you are doing the right thing for the kitten. Good on you for taking in the kitten! Message me if you have any more questions.
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So, I'm a 14 year old girl and I'm pretty sure this isn't normal. It's usually every morning I wake up with soaked underwear, it doesn't smell that nice either. During the day it's nit so bad but it's still happening, it's very uncomftable. I find that whenever I need to pee I all of a sudden become very desperate to go and I can't hold it in for that long and if I don't go I can't hold it in. I don't want to have to wear a panty liner or something like that, any ideas on what this could be?
I'm too scared to tell my parents about it as I would be embarrassed and I really don't want to have to go and see a doctor unless I really have to.
Thanks. (link)
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Unfortunately if you think something isn\'t normal with your body, specifically down there, then you need to go see a doctor. Tell your mom. I\'m sure she will understand. There is no remedy I can suggest. Rather see a doctor who can sort this out for you quickly, it\'s their jobs so you shouldn\'t feel embarrassed or worried about it. Go to a doctor sooner rather than later. You will feel better once this is sorted.
Goodluck. I hope it sorts out.
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My boyfriend is trying to give hints that he wants to take the relationship further, he's asking me how far I would go and what I would do, asking me to send him dirty pictures and if I would have sex. I'm 14 years old! I'm not ready, I'm not comftable with my body and I'm not comftable thinking about it. I want to tell him somehow that I'm not ready to go that far yet but I'm not sure how to tell him, he said he would never force me which I hope he won't...
Anyone got any advice on how I can tell him without it breaking us apart?
Also he wants me to send him a picture of me, a dirty one... I really don't want to, how can I tell him I don't want to do this aswell?
Thankyou x (link)
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You tell him calmly that you aren't comfortable with taking the relationship further. And when you are you will let him know but it's unlikely to be anytime soon. Thats really all you should have to say.With the naughty pictures you are more than entitled to just say no. Really, "no I don't think im going to send you a picture like that". It's as simple as that. You don't need to provide reasons more than that. It's your choice! If he tries to force you into it, then he is not the type of boy you want to be dating. Don't waste your time if he tries to pressure you.
Goodluck!
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I know this may sound like a dumb question but I have dark reddish brown hair and really fair skin (like the skin of most redheads) it has pink undertones and it's freckled. Most brunettes I know even if lighter skinned aren't as light skinned as myself...? (link)
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Is your family paled skinned? It's most likely genetics. Just the way you were born. I'm sure you could tan if you wanted too with lots and lots of sunscreen. I wouldn't worry about it though, your complexion sounds beautiful!
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I am a 20 year old female. As the title sums it up, I really can't stop lying. I make up stories about almost anything and about the silliest things. sometimes I don't realize that I'm lying but now that I do I see how much it is affecting important aspects of my life. My relationship with my boyfriend is being jeopardized by this, and recently my lies have been catching up to me. I don't want to be this person, any advice on how to stop? (link)
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The only thing I can suggest is that you try to become super aware of your behaviour. If you find yourself about to lie, backtrack and try talking about something else. Also why do you think you lie? Is it because you think your stories are boring? Do you want more attention? Do you want to stir a reaction? Do you feel like you need to lie to maintain friendships? If you figure out the underlying reason you can fix it in a way that will make you not need to or want to lie.
In terms of your boyfriend apologise and explain that you are trying to fix it. He should be supportive not negative or antagonistic. But keep in mind it is natural to be angry at people who lie to you.
The last thing I want to suggest is that you wear a bracelet or hairband on your wrist. When you are about to lie stop and snap the bracelet or hairband as a way to remind yourself not to. Or take it off and put it back on. Just something to remind you not to lie and it will focus your attention on something else for a few seconds.
Once you get into the habit of not lying it will be easy and you will have better relationships. You already know the negatives that come with lying and it will only get worst if you keep going. Just keep that in mind. Everyday make an effort. Even if you start by just reducing the number of lies and then totally stopping.
I really hope this works out. Write back if you need any help while you are breaking this habit!
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Hi,
So its not that I'm shy, its just that I'm friendly with everyone, but as a result don't have many close friends at the moment.
So I'll be going to Uni this year, and I'm worried about not making friends.
Its annoying, because although I consider myself nice to a lot of people-I think I come across as a pushover or whatever. People don't really bother with me outside class atm.
Also, I feel like I do a lot of the work for people. So if you were about to advise 'just say hi to people', I do this already. Honestly, like I do try with people in class, but they are a bit stand off ish with me-and all I was doing was being friendly!
So how can I make good friends in my first year at uni? (link)
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Go to orientation. This is most likely the place you will first meet people at Uni. The people you first meet will probably begin to be your friends. Then stop worrying so much, you can't force these things. You can just be yourself and not overly friendly. Invite people to do things, say yes when you are invited out. Eventually there will be a close group of people you can relate to. Also the great things about Uni? You meet people with similar interests to you, as in the people who have chosen the same subjects. This will help more than you.
Relax. Enjoy Uni and the parties :) Study hard.
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which are the best pads to use during menstral cycle?price is not an issue (link)
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This is going to sound obvious, but go try out a few brands. I swear you will have a personal preference. I was using a brand my sister recommended, I tried a different one and actually liked the other one more. Just some basics, pads with wings are better than ones without. Thinner as opposed to chunky.
Go and just choose two brands and try them out and you will see which ones you prefer. Also its a bit odd but the ones for teens seem to always be thinner.
Hope this helps.
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I want to see if i can stay awake all night from 7am till 7am the next day is thier any tips or any ideas on how i can stay awake ... its just a random thing i got going on and i want to see if i can do it ;) lol its a bet i got going on don't ask lol (link)
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Right. The only time I have ever managed to stay up 24 hours straight is when I have been at a party or when I have a deadline I need to meet. And that's because I was having fun with my friends or my brain was active with doing the assignment. But here is what I recommend, keep active... Like don't just sit and watch TV. Read, write, surf the internet, watch a show you love and don't want to stop watching, dance. Then the normal time you go to bed? Say its at 10:00 PM, your body will automatically feel tired and sleepy around this time. Push through it, once you do you get your second wind and its a lot easier to stay up.Try not to get bored because you will most likely sleep. Do fun stuff. Go see friends if you can. Pick a day that hasn't been exhausting.
Make sure the next day you don't drive or anything (not sure how old you are) but keep to safe activities. You will probably badly want to sleep in the late afternoon. You would think it would be earlier, but when you are so tired you actually feel like you have energy.
I hope you win the bet! Goodluck.
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18/f
Me and my now ex boyfriend broke up a couple days ago. He hasn't been happy for the past month so as a result, he didn't treat me right.
We were together for about 2 years. I just don't know how to handle it. Every guy I ever dated, I broke up with them. So when he broke up with me and didn't seem to care, I felt really hurt.
I haven't told my dad yet. They were really close and my dad was so supportive of us dating. So I know he'll have a lot of questions that I can't answer. It just meant a lot to me that I had a guy my dad loved.
With my previous break ups I was in school. I could easily move on because I had friends around and things to keep me busy. But I graduated last year and most of my friends moved. The only ones left are the ones that are best friends with my ex.
I'm pretty much being sad at home. I don't have a car and I went to school for a semester last year out of state but I'm currently not in school..and obviously it's summer.
I'm dealing with the break up the wrong way.
I've never learned how to be alone. Throughout my whole high school experience, I always had a guy. I never realized I was one of those girls until I reflected and noticed I spent only two weeks alone between my break ups without talking to a guy at all.
Most people have told me to just go out and have fun. I have one friend who I go to on Sunday nights because that's the day she doesn't work. So that's my friend time.
I spend a lot of time home alone. My dad works and both my mother and my brother are in rehab.
I guess my question is, how do I handle this by myself? What can I do at home to keep me busy?
Thank you so much. (link)
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Ok, it kind of sounds like you don't know how to handle not being the one in control of the situation. The truth of the matter is you can choose how to handle the situation now. Either to your benefit or not. Now there is nothing fun about break ups. Obviously if there is something you can do to try fix the relationship and you both want to then do give that a shot. However, I'd also suggested learning to be happy and alone with yourself. Don't get me wrong, don't become a loner. But knowing the things you like and how to make yourself happy is important. Don't dwell, try hard not to recount memories of you two. Go out. Join some clubs. Its sounds silly but keep busy. This you can even do at home, read books, research stuff? Anything that actually has your interest. Then talk to your friends that are there. Talking always help.
I hope you feel better!
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The past 2 months my boyfriend and I have scraped by. Both unemployed we barely got our bills taken care of and have been living off tuna and eggs. Well we both finally found work. My boyfriend has a lot of debt and needs extra money to pay a bankruptcy lawyer so he took two jobs, one his permenant while one is temporary.
My hours are 3pm-11pm Monday through Friday. This will change after 8 weeks.
His hours.
11pm- 7 am Sunday through Thursday.
9am to 5 pm Monday through Friday this one is temp and ends after 8 weeks
I have no doubt he can handle that much work. He used to work 16 hour shifts a while back.
But, doing the math made me realize I will only see him 2 hours a day and one weekend day. And he also has a child so I know there won't be a lot of time to see him. We have been together a year and a half and we spend a lot of time together.
I do not know how I am going to sleep alone or manage (I know I can do it)
I just want advice.
I know a lot of people have the trial of being apart from the ones they love. How did you cope and what did you do when you had time together? What can I do to show my love when I am not there? (link)
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Its not going to be easy. You are going to get frustrated but just try hard not to let it turn into anger. Obviously, you have to do what you have to do and it won't always be this hectic with work for you guys,so just hang in there. You will adjust quickly to the sleeping alone etc. The biggest obstacle is feeling like you don't see your boyfriend or spend time with him anymore. The best solution? Make the most of the time you do get. So the two hours a day, try do stuff together even going out for a coffee or watching some TV. Just do stuff together, even taking a nap. Its the little things that actually bring the intimacy back. And then on the weekend go have fun, see his kid etc.
Send him messages during the day. "Hope work is going well" etc. It shows you are thinking about him.
Anyway, I hope this helps!
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Alright well about 5 months ago my ex boyfriend who was my boyfriend at the time cheated on me. We had been together on and off for two years, but for distance reasons. He left me for the girl he cheated on me with and I was hurt really bad. Well things didn't work out with the two and they split. He came running back. The only problem is I moved to another state right afterwards. I couldn't stand living there and being around that, I knew it wouldn't go for a good recovery. He wants me to move back and move in with him. The problem is I've met this guy here and I really like him. He treats me really good and he really likes me. I've been lying to my ex and tellin him that I haven't been seeing anyone because I don't know what to do. I love my ex more than anything but I'm scared to make such a big move and then he treat me bad again. Because he wasn't all together the best boyfriend in the first place. He had asked me at one point if I had slept with anyone else and I told him yes and he freaked and started crying and everything. I just don't know what to do because I don't want to let him go but I don't want to let this new guy go either. And hurting either of them is going to hurt me. I'm tired of lying to my ex. Any suggestions as how to handle this situation? (link)
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He left you for the girl he cheated on you with and then when it didn't work out he came back to you... You shouldn't settle for that. In actual fact no one should be treated like that. And you have this new guy you really like and treats you well. So if you leave this new guy and new life you've started by going back to your ex and your old life will it be worth it? Will it be different? Can you guarantee he won't cheat on you again?
I would first off tell my ex the truth and see his reaction. And then I would really consider if your ex is worth it? And if you can actually have something meaningful with this new guy? Talk to someone objective about this- and that really knows you. Like a good friend. Because they will give you the best honest advice.
Good luck!
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My girlfriend just broke up with me and we were both really sad. I'm an 18 year old male and she is 18 as well. she is the first girl i've had sex with. after a few days she told me i have to fight with her and talk to her more and we will get back together. i asked her how i'm doing and she said very good. but she has been really weird lately. she said i can't rush her with these things when i just asked how i'm doing. i love her a lot and she says she loves me too. but it just doesn't seem like she does. i'm getting more sad and more sad everyday and idk what to do. (link)
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This is tough one. She wants to see that you care about her, this is why she wants you to fight with her and talk with her more. I think the way she is going about this though, is a bit silly. I would talk to her about it. At the end of the day you cant do more than just try and show her you care. But if she isn't willing to put in effort as well, it won't work. Sorry. I know that's not the greatest thing to be told.
Talk to her about it all. Tell her you care about her but you also want to know where you stand.
Good luck!
I hope it works out!
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So i want to be a Archaeologist when i start to get abit older. And i was wondering do i have to get good grades in Social Studies to be a Archaeologist? (link)
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Well, If I understand correctly what Social Studies comprises of, then yes you will need relatively good marks for it. Archaeology is a degree which can fall under both the humanities and social science faculty. Which means history is important and so are subjects like biology, geography etc.
I'm currently studying Archaeology so if you have any other questions about it, send me a message!
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Like all my friends are so much prettier then me. Like i have one who's super skinny and is just really random and fun. And then my other one is Just plain beautiful. it sucks because since i always hang out with them boys are always flirtin with them and they just look right over me. I hate it. Im like the second choice. Is there anything i can do to get boys to like me or be prettier?? (link)
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Have confidence. Seriously. Stop putting yourself in the back ground. Be confident that you are pretty because I am sure you are.
When boys are around don't sit in the background, because you think they're only interested in your friends. Interact with them.
Really the trick to this is to be confident in yourself. Don't compare yourself to your friends. Don't put yourself down.
Good luck!
:)
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i have ben haveing black brown discharge for nearly a week and it smells very bad. im 16 and a virgin. i looked online and it says its for pregnant people, im not pregnant. i have no pattern in periods, never have. but im also highly anemic if that could have anything to do with it? i dont want to go to a gyno so what could be wrong? (link)
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The only person who can tell you what is definitely wrong is a doctor. Go see a gyno. This is something you should see a doctor about! You need to know if something is wrong or if its nothing serious. Go to a doctor. This could be an infection of some type.
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so long story short, i got into a bit of trouble recently. and my dad doesn't trust me anymore. he says i have to earn it back, since he can't take my word for anything anymore.
i was wondering if anyone would have any thoughts on what i could do?
i'm 17/f, and i can't drive. if that helps any. (link)
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Be patient. You are going to have to earn it back and there is no quick and easy way to do that. The best way is to just be sensible about this. Don't demand anything. If you want to go out ask nicely, see if he will consider it, tell him who you are going with, where, give a time range. Its things like this that will show him you are trying and will help earn the trust back. Also talk to him about stuff. School. Friends. Whatever topic.
One step at a time. Be responsible. Don't give him any other reasons not to trust you. All this will take is time and some sensible actions on your half.
Goodluck!
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So back in June, i hooked up with this boy my age that i just met that night. He goes to a different school, but we know the same people and had heard of each other before. We were all drinking at this one kid's house, and we were kinda meant to hook up cause everyone else there had someone to hook up with so it just happened. But we talked a lot and hooked up a lot and even a little more, like he gave me a hickey. And i'm PRETTY sure he asked for my number, but I don't completely remember. We were talking about hanging out and stuff, and he acted like he really liked me that night. The only issue is, he never talked to me again. It really hurt me for some reason, because I have this problem that whenever i hook up with someone I become attached to them for a little. But when I tell my friends that I'm upset he never texted me or said anything to me and we never hung out, they just say 'who cares, it's just a random hookup'. Like no one thinks its a big deal to hook up with someone and never talk to them again, but personally I hate that. It's the worst feeling ever. He sseemed like such a nice and mature guy and everyone said he was, but I just don't get what I did wrong. I was thinking into it a lot, and I was thinking maybe I gave him the wrong idea because he was trying to do more with me and i told him I didn't want too and he was like 'sorry, sorry'. and then we just went to sleep. And then i got up to go to the bathroom and instead of laying back down with him i layed on a different couch. And my one friend was saying this might have made him feel like I did'nt like him or something, but really I wasn't even thinking about it like it wasn't a big deal at all. And now to make matters worse, he is back with his ex-girlfriend. They were done for about 2 months before I hooked up with him, and the reason I knew it was okay was that my friend hooked up with him the weekend before me. I feel completely used and I just think that he is one of those boys who just wants to get some whenever he can, considering he hooked up with my friend the weekend before when they were drunk, so now i just feel like shit. And i've decided never to hook up with a random person again unless I know they will talk to me after. And he told his ex-girlfriend that he hooked up with me because she wanted to know everyone he had hooked up with since they broke up. Now i just feel like one of those girls who hook up with people's ex's as a rebound, and i NEVER wanted to be that girl. I"m the type of girl who's all about playing hard to get and not being needy to boys and being independant. I mean i don't really feel that way, but I try my hardest to act that way in front of guys. So something like this has never happened to me and idk what to do. I can't stop thinking about it even though i should of forgotten about him a WHILE ago, because he obviously never thought about me again. the thing that pisses me off SO much is that i'm the type of girl who is not easy at all, and guys know that. I've worked so hard on making that my image and living up too it, because for some reason my worst fear is being 'easy' or a 'slut'. so, i play hard to get , sometimes i even come off as a bitchy to guys, because i am so afraid of being used or getting attached. And i don't get it, it's like this guy for example, his girlfriend is SUCH whore, she is the biggest slut i've ever met literally and i'm NOT just saying that, i mean she probably has diseases. and i am not at ALL, guys know that if they want ANYTHING physically from me they have to actually like me, except this night was an exception.i KNEW it was a bad idea to let my guard down for once. but of course, all i would do is make out with him because i would never do anything more with a random guy.. (link)
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Ok... So I'm not exactly sure what you are wanting advice on. But here's what I think. I think you should laugh this off. Now before you think I'm crazy just here me out... I'm sorry to say it but it was a random hook up. This guy got with your one friend the weekend before you and then with you the next weekend. He was looking for a good time. Stop beating yourself up for this. Most people have done the random hook up thing and really it comes down to exactly that and the way to not feel used, hurt etc... Is to laugh it off. It happened. You were at a party. Drinking. Its kinda what happens.
No one is going to see you as a 'slut' or 'easy'.Most people aren't even in the position to judge.
His back with his ex. So move on from this. Don't beat yourself up for this so much. Just learn from it. Lift your head up, don't worry about being judged, laugh it off (as hard as that is), don't dwell on it anymore and go move on and have some fun with your friends and some other guys- who you may end up dating. (I'm not saying get with those other guys! :)) Its his loss. :)
Goodluck!
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14/f
A very close friend of mine and I fooled around together two weeks ago, a week after he confessed his love to me. He was my first boyfriend. We made the mistake of going out when we didn't really know each other so once the relationship ended we decided to remain friends and became really close. I've never felt so close to someone before. Last week, a couple of days after we fooled around, he went to visit his family in Florida for a month and never even texted me once untill last night. After what we did and how close we were, you can imagine how hurt I was that he never even contacted me for a week. I felt like he did the "hit it and quit it" thing with me. So he finally texts me last night and we began talking about his trip, and the people when he happens to mention that he met his old girlfriend and that they had a super long hug together and that they missed each other and that he apparently "texts her all the time". The only thing that broke them up was him moving to Cali. I would have never done what we did with someone who I liked as "just a friend" so I finally asked him, "What are we?" and "What am I to you?" He said he didn't understand the question and then after a few seconds said that i was "a really close friend who knows him pretty freakin well lol". I feel really hurt right now because honestly...he said he loved me. Was I being used? What does he mean "I love you"? I feel like he just said it to take advantage but at the same time don't want to believe it because I really do think good of him...I really thought that I was more than a friend to him and...idk, I just feel...really really stupid. Stupid and hurt. So basically I'm sort of in need of any advice on how to handle this and basically how to address this problem of mine. I feel terrible because i really honestly thought he loved me. So yeah, any advice would be greatly appreciated. (link)
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I know you are hurt. What he did was really wrong. But you shouldn't let yourself be used and from what it seems like this boy only wants you for hook ups. I know that's horrible. Here's what I suggest, pick yourself up. Don't let this bother you anymore. You are young! and You will find other boys that treat you well, and text you when they should and show genuine interest in you. Honestly he is not worth your time! You should not allow yourself to be treated like this.
He told you that you are a really close friend... That indicates he doesn't want to be anything more at this time. And you shouldn't want to be anything more with this boy either. Honestly, move on, as hard as that is going to be. Go have fun with your friends. I can guarantee you will meet other boys.Don't let this boy use you.
Sometimes the people you think of the best can surprise you and show you their true characters. Which this boy seems to have done.
Don't feel stupid. Don't feel hurt. Know that you deserve better than this. Talk to this boy as a friend now, not even as a close friend just a friend. Move on. And just have fun. I cant emphasize this enough you are young... So enjoy being young. Forget him.
Hope you feel better.
Goodluck!
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15/f
this is a VERY long story, but im gonna try to lay this out as short as possible and please, im desperate here, you have NO clue what i've been through these past few months, and i need all the help i can get..
last year i met a REALLY sensative guy. he was 16, about to be 17, and i was 14.. he was soooo shy, hes VERY insecure. when we first started dating, all he said to me was how i saved him and pulled him out of his misery because he has had no luck with relationships and was treated like shit by girls his whole life. hes not even that cute and popular, and i have a waaay higher social status in my grade/ school then he does in his grade.. but ive been known to have wierd taste and i can look beyond looks and things like that very easily. i think when we first started dating him i was just excited over the fact that he had a car and he was a junior and i was only a freshmen.. but i actually did end up falling in love with him. and he was COMPLETELY in love with me. we lost our virginities to eachother and ill tell you, im smart, and not at all a bit naiive.. i knew this kid loved me. & we did NOT have a sex based relationship whatsoever.. we became eachothers best friends. both of us lost all of our other friends because we were only with eachother 24-7. he called my mom 'mom' and i did the same with his mom.. we were incredibly close.. and sense he was older, i felt so comftorbal and secure with him, and i went to him with all my problems, and he would help me.. ive been suffering from depression for years and me and my mother never had a good relationship, and my father left me, and i was molested as a baby.. but when i was with him, he made me feel so comftorbal. we told eachother EVERYTHING. and i was postive he was there to stay. he promised me forever every single day. we dated for a year. i messed it up, biggest mistake of my entire life.. he started getting very annoying and up my ass. you know when youre in a bad mood and you just want to be left alone? well he would never leave me alone. he'd be like 'its okay babe i love you' bla bla. all mushy, when i just want to be mad!. i tried talking to him about this many times and all he could say was im sorry i just love you soooo much i cant help it.. all my friends called him whipped cream and everything.. it was BAD. but anyways, one night i was out with my friends the day before a cheer competition, and my ex was there.. and somewhere along the lines, we kissed.. my boyfriends friend was there and told him that if i didnt tell him, he was going to.. i knew he wasnt going to break up with me or anything.. so i told him.. but the thing is.. i think i was looking for a fight with him because our relationship was so boring. when i told him, it pissed me off how he was crying instead of being mad, yelling at me. so i started saying things to make him mad.. i said TERRIBLE things. like i was gonna keep cheating on him because he basically lets me, and how i know i take advantage of him because he trusts me so much but i shouldnt.. and he was like well maybe i have to break up with you then.. and he was like i really dont want to. and i was like fine just do it idont care! yelling at him and stuff.. and then he did. i was thinking we would get back together in a couple weeks.. so after we broke up, we still talked because we obv. still loved eachother and everything. we acted like we were going out, and we even 'hooked up' a few times.. but when he asked me back out, i kept saying no, i wasnt ready.. because the relationship was SOOO akward after we broke up.. he was acting so different. and i knew why. it was because i broke his heart. and i did, bad. so one day after we hooked up, my friend told me that her brother saw my 'boyfriend, x-boyfriend, whatever u wanna call him' at a store.. and he was saying how he was done with me and he was trying to get with this new girl 'leesh'.. i was FURIOUS. i called him up screaming at him asking for all my stuff back and it was over for good and everything. but really, i wanted an appology from him, not my stuff back. btw, i was very remorsful for cheating on him and saying what i said to him, i mustve appologized a million times.. but he didnt say anything, he justgave me all my stuff back and acted like it was nothing.. and then i kept trying to get him back, but he kept rejecting me. i was litterally down on my knees for this kid. until one day i found out he had a girlfriend. not just some girl.. the girl who dates ALL the boys that i date after me.. but thats a whole nother story.. anyways, i was devistated. i couldnt eat, i couldnt talk, i couldnt sleep, i couldnt go to school,, nothing. all i did was cry and cry and cry and cry. i tried talking to him seeing if we could be friends and stuff, but he hates me now. if i send him one text, he shuts his phone off. he goes all different ways in the halls so i dont have to see him in school, he wont even look my way. he saw me practically drown in my own tears and he didnt even care. i wrote him long long letters, i tried everything i could just to be able to talk to him when i need to, so i wouldnt be so hurt about the situation.. now, i have two weeks left of school and im failing 4 classes.. and im an honors student. i DONT fail. its not me. and im grounded because of it, so i cant even go out and try to forget it. its been sense thhe end of february... and still,all i can think about is killing myself.. people say they are heart broken.. but this gives heart broken a new definition. there is litterally a hole in my chest. and i keep getting maaaassive anxiety attacks in class, and i do go to counceling wich is sort of helpful but we mostly talk about my parents.. three days ago, she broke up with him. and he was very upset from what i heard.. he hasnt tried talking to me or anything but i dont know what to do, i want to talk to him but he'll just ignore me.. i love this kid and care about him with my life. today i thought i was going to DIE. it was the last day of school for the seniors. the last time ill EVER see him again. the last time ill ever get to look for him i the halls so i can walk by him.. that was the only time i ever got to see him, and today was my last day. and when i walked by him for the very last time of my life today, he didnt even look at me. it was so painful. he couldnt even have the heart to say bye to me considering im his first love and helll never see me again. i havent been able to stop crying sense i last saw him. i dont even know what to do with my life any more. someone PLEEEEEASE tell me what to do to get him back. ANNYTHING. I AM DESPERATE FOR HELP. we had such a good relationship till i cheated and we Never ever had one fight. but you dont even understand. this kid wouldnt even look at any other girls, deleted all the girls in his phone book, couldnt go an hour without texting me just saying he loved me, couldnt go a day withouth seeing me, brought me flowers randomly, did EVERYTHING for me. how can you love someone so much and go through everything we've been through together, and then just completely shut them out of your life? (link)
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I read this like three times and each time I read it I had the exact same thought... Now you aren't going to like me for saying this but here goes: You need to move on.Here's the harsh reality, life doesn't stop for a broken heart and you shouldn't stop doing what you do because of it. You are failing 4 classes! You need to get your act together. First loves are hard to get over yours will be especially hard to get over because it ended really badly. You weren't happy in the relationship so you sabotaged it... You guys had problems in that relationship.So what makes you think that if you guys got back together those problems wouldn't be there? Ignoring them makes its worst. And think about it you hurt this guy just to get a reaction out of him. That's not a healthy relationship.
Here's another thing to consider, you are young you should be having fun and chances are you will meet other boys and possibly have amazing relationships with them.
Right now you need to sort yourself out, pull up your marks, have fun with your friends and remember how to live your life before this boy was in the picture. You can do it. And you will be so much happier.
He is moving onto a new part in his life and I think you should too. I think you should sms him and have one last conversation with him for closure. Say your proper goodbyes and tell him how sorry you are. This could even help you guys to become friends.
Right now I don't think you guys are going to be able to get back together.The time is just not right. But I do believe in fate and I think if you guys are meant to be that eventually you will find your way to back to each other.
I know this wasn't what you were looking for but I just thought you should consider it.
I hope you sort everything out!
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