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toxic relationships with family
hi i m rachel from china. when i and my twin sister was 7 months old my parents divorced and my mom left soon for europe. I stayed with my maternal grandparents but my mothers brothers never liked it, and took my grandmother away when i was 16, and my grandfather died when i was 13. I had a tough childhood and then i and my sister were thrown out of the house at the age of 16. We lived in a rented apartment. My mothers asks for money from her brothers and she pays the fees, she is very rude and always gets her way. She never listens to me and my sister and always says that she wont send any money for university . I always try to have a bond but she is too strict . She is emotionally and physically abusive. I have just stayed with her for a year. she is a narcissist . I feel lonely and sad. And my family is very traditional and non supportive, she blames me for her divorce and says she never wanted kids, i just keep quiet. whenever she calls she shouts. I just feel i had good parents and a good family.
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You mother is the problem here so it's probably best to avoid contacting her where possible. Don't listen to anything she says about the choices she made when she was younger - you have nothing to feel guilty about.
Can you speak to your uncles directly about the financial support you need? Remember that you and your sister are a team, and you will always be there for each other. Look to each other for emotional support when things get tough. Remember there is always pleasure and peace to be had, even if it is simply going for a walk outside.
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ik the hardest thing is to just watch it happens and it hurts alot to watch your family fall apart but my counselor always just said theres nothing that i could do about it and i was deppresed always crying one day i got in a physical fight with my friend and accidently broke her nose i was so asshamed and i only faught her because she was making fun of my father and i have my whole family to blaime me for everything it sucks but sometimes ther is nothing we can do about it :(
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