I am an aspiring YouTuber and a blogger. I love helping people. My goal is to help as many people as possible to lead the life of their dreams.
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Member Since: September 1, 2014
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Last Update: September 12, 2014
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So I recently started college, everyone told me it would be a great time of my life and I would meet a bunch of new people.
So I have always struggled with making friends, and keeping friends, and I am very shy and never know what to say to people.
When I got to college I didn't really meet anyone here. I have met a total of 6 people that I talk to on a daily basis.
4 of them being students that live in my dorm
1 being my RA
1 being my roommate
I would like to meet more people, guys and girls (especially girls, what guy doesn't want that?) but I never know how to approach a group of guys or girls and I never know how to make small talk with them to get a conversation going. I noticed in high school most of the time I made new friends it was by accident or just luck that I met them. I never have gone out of my way to make new friends.
I would love any advice on meeting new people and getting to know them. Especially for girls lol I would love to meet new girls. But any advice will be appreciated as I want to get more social and be more out there.
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SO MANY people struggle with this, especially when starting a new phase of their life (like college).
The simple answer is to just be yourself and find a club or two that share an interest of your's that way you'll automatically have something to talk about with anyone you meet there. Or you could also go to the different sporting events and share in the school spirit. Or you could find a study group.
Really, the opportunities are endless. But the important thing is to be yourself and really find something you enjoy because if you're not having fun the people around you will pick up on that and associate that with you not being a fun person and we all know that's not the case, right?
So, go out there, be yourself, and show off your great personality. Soon, you'll have more friends than you'll know what to do with. Just, don't neglect you studies...
Well, I hope you got something useful out of my answer. I also answered your question on YouTube, if you want to watch, it's at: http://youtu.be/Wu2dIrMNUKY?t=15m20s (the video is set to start right at your question so you don't have to sit through or fast forward past the others...)
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I'd like to move out of my parents house and move in a 1 bedroom apartment. This would be my first apartment. I saw some nice apartments that were 375-$435 for 1 bedroom
How much should I have saved up for bills & furniture cost? (link)
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It honestly depends on where you live and your income level. The first thing you should do is, price EVERYTHING.
Figure out the average monthly cost for utilities (electricity, gas, water), phone, cable (if you want it), internet, renter's insurance, and any costs associated with your car (if you have one) and don't forget the cost of groceries, cleaning supplies, hygiene products, etc.
Then I would suggest taking all those costs, addin in the cost of rent (don't forget the security deposit!) and saving up 3 months (6 would be better) to a year, just so you have some cushion in case of an emergency.
As for the furniture, you can find some inexpensive items at thrift/second-hand shops or yard sales. Also, Ikea has some cheap picks. Or maybe a friend or relative has some things they don't want anymore and will give to you for free.
In any case, it might be best to price the items you want and save up the cost of those (in addition to the savings from earlier) that way, if you do end up getting less expensive stuff, you'll have even more in your "rainy day" fund.
Anyway, I hope my answer helped. I also answered in video form, if you would like to watch that it's here: http://youtu.be/Wu2dIrMNUKY?t=11m47s
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14 / F / About 120 pounds / 5 foot 3 inches
When I was younger, I was a little overweight. I do believe I still have weight from back then.
I want to lose the fat in my face and stomach. I don't eat much sodium either, so I know it's not from that. I don't exercise because I'm just too lazy to; But I can. I just don't know which exercises to do. It's also hot outside, so I don't want to go running or anything. I barely leave my house too.
I eat somewhat healthy; I'm a vegetarian, so I eat fake meat that's made out of vegetables and all that. I drink a lot of water, and I count my calories to make sure I don't go over 1200. I'm trying to eat less, because - I admit - I eat when I'm not hungry. But I still count my calories.
What are some exercises or some ways to lose weight quickly? I am SO self concious, and can barely do anything. Sorry if this was long, I just need some advice.
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First, 120 lbs is NOT overweight. Really. If you go by the BMI (Body Mass Index), you are right in the middle of the healthy/normal range.
That being said, I understand the pressure to be skinny like the models in magazines and on TV, but that's not always healthy (and a lot of times, the models themselves don't even look like that).
I know what it's like to look in the mirror and not like what you see, it's a feeling that most women (and men) go through at one point or another, but it's important to remember that the beauty standards in the media is not what beauty really is. Beauty is being confident and making healthy choices and not stressing about food.
Food is something we all need. It's good for you and shouldn't be something to obsess over. If you really are concerned about your eating habits, I suggest talking to your parents about it and seeing if you could possibly see a nutritionist who can teach you what your body needs and coach you and your family into healthy habits.
As for the psychological part of feeling very self-conscious, if it is affecting your everyday life, perhaps your parents can take you to a counselor/therapy to help you work through it or maybe there is a trusted adult you can confide in?
In regards to the exercise part, I suggest finding something you love to do and not thinking of it as exercise, like putting on some fun music and dancing for 30 minutes.
Well, I hope I've helped in some way...
I also answered your question in video form. If you would like to watch it's at http://youtu.be/Wu2dIrMNUKY?t=6m58s
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I'm 20 and I broke up with my first love a year ago. I loved him with every fibre in my being and did literally everything for him, even if it went against my morals. I spent all the money I had on getting him expensive gifts and I stuck with him, even when he couldn't care less about me. When we broke up because of the fact that he didn't wanna deal with commitment, at this stage in his life, he wasn't upset, not even for a day. It's been over a year and I've been the only one carrying all this pain and I've been holding so much hope that we could get back together, someday. We still see each other and he kisses me and that's what gave me hope that he still likes me. But last night, he told me that he'd never even think of marrying someone like me and that he needs a submissive kind of girl who doesn't pick up on the wrong things he does, like I did.I always picked up on all his lies and everything he hid from me. It hit me all at once, last night that he's been using me this past year and using my vulnerability. I cried in front of him for two hours straight and he kept saying the same things like "You're not my first love so I can't hold that much love for you" and "I told you I didn't want a relationship" "My first made me lose all my emotions" . I don't know why I'm so attached to him or why I'm even this devastated over a jerk like him. I just need someone to talk some sense into me. I worry, that I'll never be good enough for someone. What else can I do for someone to make them appreciate me? I allowed him to cross so many limits of mine and went above and beyond for him, and I get this, in return. How will I expect the next guy in my life to appreciate what I'll do for him and not break my heart again? (link)
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First of all, I'm sorry you've had to go through this! Secondly, I'm glad to see you have so many responses.
Okay, on to my answer...
It honestly sounds like your ex is a major jerk and he was just using you for his own wants. You can't always help who you grow attached to so don't beat yourself up for caring.
As for doing something to make someone appreciate you, you shouldn't have to. If someone doesn't accept and appreciate you for who you are, forget them, move on; they aren't worth the potential heartbreak. You are good enough as you are and no guy should make you feel otherwise.
The problem isn't you. NO ONE should EVER pressure you into compromising your morals and no relationship should be about one person catering to the wants and desires of the other.
You will find someone who is right for you (and good enough for YOU), you just have to be patient and take the time to get to know yourself and love yourself. Figure out who you are on your own so you don't end up losing your identity in a relationship.
I wish you all the best and hope that I've helped in some way...
I also answered your question in video form. If you would like to watch it's at http://youtu.be/Wu2dIrMNUKY?t=2m48s
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I sent a few nudes to a guy I met online and he's sent me money in return for them and now he's blackmailing me saying if I don't send him something else then he'll post all my pics on the internet.. Is there anything I can do to stop him? Can the police do anything? (link)
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Hi, first off, I want to say that I am sorry this happened to you and I am happy to see how many people have already responded trying to help you. As many of the others have said, this is a tough call because the law does vary between different places. I would suggest contacting the police (or a lawyer) to at least see what your options might be. You may be able to report him for blackmail, at the very least.
If you're underage, then you should tell your parents so that they can help you or at least support you in this difficult situation - you might want to do that even if you are of age (or at least a friend).
Anyway, I hope I helped in some way...I also answered your question in video form if you would like to watch it's at http://youtu.be/Wu2dIrMNUKY?t=46s
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