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Making New Friends
19/m
So I recently started college, everyone told me it would be a great time of my life and I would meet a bunch of new people.
So I have always struggled with making friends, and keeping friends, and I am very shy and never know what to say to people.
When I got to college I didn't really meet anyone here. I have met a total of 6 people that I talk to on a daily basis.
4 of them being students that live in my dorm
1 being my RA
1 being my roommate
I would like to meet more people, guys and girls (especially girls, what guy doesn't want that?) but I never know how to approach a group of guys or girls and I never know how to make small talk with them to get a conversation going. I noticed in high school most of the time I made new friends it was by accident or just luck that I met them. I never have gone out of my way to make new friends.
I would love any advice on meeting new people and getting to know them. Especially for girls lol I would love to meet new girls. But any advice will be appreciated as I want to get more social and be more out there.
thank you
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
SO MANY people struggle with this, especially when starting a new phase of their life (like college).
The simple answer is to just be yourself and find a club or two that share an interest of your's that way you'll automatically have something to talk about with anyone you meet there. Or you could also go to the different sporting events and share in the school spirit. Or you could find a study group.
Really, the opportunities are endless. But the important thing is to be yourself and really find something you enjoy because if you're not having fun the people around you will pick up on that and associate that with you not being a fun person and we all know that's not the case, right?
So, go out there, be yourself, and show off your great personality. Soon, you'll have more friends than you'll know what to do with. Just, don't neglect you studies...
Well, I hope you got something useful out of my answer. I also answered your question on YouTube, if you want to watch, it's at: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location) (the video is set to start right at your question so you don't have to sit through or fast forward past the others...)
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try and put yourself out there little by little. just try to say hi to some one that is frequently in your classes or if you are struggling then you can ask someone for help. but honestly never go too far. if makes you extremely uncomfortable then don,t do it.but saying hi to them wont hurt you or them it will probably make their day
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This is a question I see quite often so you are not alone with this problem. As we get older are inhibitions get in the way and we find making friends harder to do. One of the best ways around this that I have found and offered to many others is to find places and activities where you and others have a common interest. When there is a common interest conversation becomes more natural and easier.
It is much easier to walk up to a group of people who may be discussing say travel and maybe they are planning to put together a trip to say Rome. Well maybe you have been to Rome. Whether you would be going on the trip with them or not having been to Rome you would have knowledge that would be very useful to them and they would welcome you into their group. From this friendships start. Now this was just an example.
What I would like you to try is this. Sit down with pen and paper and make a list of all the things you like to do both in school and out; both on campus and off. Trust me I have made this recommendation to others and they write back it works.
Include everything you like to do. Include church activities if it applies, camping, fishing, reading, hiking, cooking, photography, nature walks, sports playing and anything else you can think of. Then number them 1 to whatever.
Now take the top five and look to see if there are not any groups or activities going on specific to these activities and go to their meetings. I'm positive you will find one or more that will welcome you with open arms. You would be surprised to find that both boys and girls like to take part in many of the activities you do. You start by listening to conversations and adding your own interest or knowledge to the conversation.
Before you know it you having coffee with someone after the meeting and then you are dating. One other thing; many college professors and teachers support having study groups for their classes. These groups are a good learning tool and another way of making friends. You can either join a group or start one of your own
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