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how guys feel about a girls downstairs
F/18 ive been nervous about letting my boyfriend ...go down on me... Because im afraid he might think it looks ugly down ther (i think its ugly!) Or im afraid it might smell bad or taste bad for him ...do guys like going down on girls? And what should i do considering the hair...? Shave...? Wax...? Or dont guys mind? Im so scared he thinks its gross...
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Well If I was you I'd consider trimming it but not
So it's not long and hairy, shaving is out of the option
It leaves you red and itches, and waxing hurts like a bitch
So if it was me I would just trim it.
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Let me try to guess what you mean by what you wrote cus I took it two different ways, Number one: he's already been giving oral sex to you. If he hasn't made any comments then he probably has no issues or problems with you just as you are. You can ask him if he likes the hair, would like you to try trimming a bit or waxing. When you end up with your life long partner/husband, if both of you prefer the totally bare look, then you might want to look into laser hair removal. They do it for the pubic area and a female will do the work on you. Just a thought for the future. Its not necessary and its a bit expensive but worth it for a married couple, after a few treatment, hardly anything grows back at all.
Honey, guys love the scent and taste of their sweetheart. The only time it won;t work well for either of you, with you not liking his scent and taste, even the taste of his kisses/saliva, is when the two are not a good chemistry match. They may enjoy some of the sex but not like each others musk smell or kisses or even scent of sweat. I have only one come across a guy who once the clothes were off, I couldnt give him oral as his musk smell made me gag and it wasnt because he hadn't washed.
Dip your own fingers down to your privates and get used to your own scent, what it smells like daily. That is your natural scent. Every female has a scent, so does every male.
Now compare your natural scent with the smell you catch when on your period, you know...that sometimes fishy smell, which is caused by oxygen getting to the blood once it exits the body and being kept warm by being close to your body.
If you are familiar with your healthy scent, then you will know when something smells a bit off or real bad, like something fishy that died, or like something rotting in a garbage can...and would mean you likely have an infection like vaginitis and need to see your doctor.
If you ever think you smell something other than your natural scent, ask your partner if you smell off to him down there and tell him you are willing to go use a wash cloth to wipe yourself.
As for being clean internally, your body does that all those weeks when you don't have a period, you know that clearish liquid that ends up in your panties dried on? thats your bodys cleansing system working. If you dont use douches or other cleansers or sprays inside or near the vagina, then you'll be okay. Use them and you rinse away the good bacteria that keeps bad bacteria (the ones that smell rotten) from multiplying. If you wish to do anything at all to freshen up down there...then in your shower once a week while washing, insert a couple fingers and swish them around. If there is anything that hasn't drained out on it's own yet, it will be on your fingers. You can take a sniff to see if that was the odor you picked up. Maybe twice a year I find a slight off odor that way. ..usually cus i was dehydrated and hadnt drunk enough water.
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Heya
F/17, so I had this EXACT problem! I have been with my boyfriend for about a year and in the beginning I wasn't fussed but then I just because really self conscious about my 'downstairs' and put off him giving me oral sex for quite a few months. It actually upset him because he felt like he was rubbish at it and that it was like putting space between us.
I would just recommend what I did as I now don't have a problem and everything is happy and healthy. I would advise you to shave and shower before seeing him so that you know that it is clean down there! As for the smell, I wouldn't worry about that! If you have showered earlier then it won't be an issue at all.
As for worrying about the taste then I really wouldn't as we have to put up with theirs so it's only fair that they put up with ours haha! And besides it really can't be that bad. But if you are worried about it then try using flavoured lube (I recommend strawberry) because then you won't have stress about it and it makes it nicer for you.
Finally, just relax! After all he's your boyfriend and he likes you for who you are. Just enjoy your time together and have fun. If you are really nervous about it then try and discuss it with him, I'm sure he will put you at ease and it will all be much easier if you feel relaxed. If you just stop worrying and go with the flow then it will be fine.
Good luck- SliceOfAdvice x
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First like most guys your boyfriend is not interested in what your vagina looks like. His interests primarily are what you will allow him to do with your vagina.
Will you allow him to finger you? Will you allow him to give you oral sex? If you do then then your scent is all part of what he is after in performing oral sex on you. Your scent has the pheromones that excite him and prepare him for intercourse. As for smelling bad your scent is a natural scent, if your bathe daily you will have a musky scent that will be a turn on to him.
Now as for your hair; each guy has their own preference. If you and your BF have not had sex or oral sex yet I would suggest you stay natural and let him see and taste you as you are. Afterwards you can ask him or you can wait to see if he asks you to shave.
Personally I like a girl with hair. I understand during the summer they do not want their pubic hair sticking out from their bathing suit. That does not mean they must shave themselves bare. They can trim to fit inside the swim suit.
You are 18 an adult and you are now entitled to a sex life, although your parents will tell you different. As a parent I believe once you become an adult you are entitled to all the privileges of an adult but need to be responsible about them. You are old enough now that even though you may still be on your parents’ health insurance they no longer have a right to know anything about you medical records or doctors’ visits. In fact legally they cannot even make a doctor’s appointment for you.
This means if you want to have a sex life you can have birth control medication, which is the responsible thing to do. Plus you always make the boy use a condom. But most important is that sex is a learned activity and in order to learn it you must communicate with your partner.
Before you find a life mate and marry you may have more than one sex partner. When it comes to pubic hair those partners may each have different preferences? You need to talk to each other in order to have a successful relationship and this includes sex which would include a hairy or naked vagina.
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