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My friend and I just fought over something that happened weeks ago. Apparently she never let it go and felt she had to bring it up again. She won't leave me alone and keeps texting me about it and I'm getting sick of it. What should I do? (link)
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You get sick because of the bad toughts that go into your head. Go talk with her and make everything ok so you wont have a reason to think negative. Once this goes away you wont feel sick or awlful anymore.
Nick
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can someone rebirth into an older person like i dont know how to explain it right, or do they have to be reincarnated into an infant first? plz dont think im stupid, im just wondering (link)
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Yes rebirth is part of the original christianity you can read about it if you go to the library and not rely on wikipedia or internet.
You and everyone live life here on Earth like in a school for souls. You go to the next class and the next until you graduate so to speak. SO yes reincarnation exists.
Nick
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It's my last year of high school and I regret one thing, I regret staying in my one group of friends (two people) and not branching out and befriending other people, I mean I've made many acquaintances but the relationship never becomes at least a friendship. Long story short the friends that I came into high school with aren't the friends I'm leaving high school with, one of the friends completely cut me off she was never really my friend I knew she was waiting for an opportunity to cut me out of her life and she finally did last year. The other friend is my friend but we only talk in school, last time we hung out in public was at her birthday last year. Now it's my last year and I feel like a total loser I have no social life, I'm always home and I barely have any friends. I know I should be greatful for the ones I have but how would you like it if you had friends and they always made you feel left out or the third wheel? It's like a cycle with me ever since elementary school I've always been that third friend to two best friends. Nobody has considered me they're best friend and if they have they have another friend who they'd call their sister, so it's like the "best friend" title is pointless. Like I've tried making different friends but like I said earlier the relationship never passes the acquaintance stage. Here's some background info on me I'm almost 17, female I am socially awkward and have socially anxiety people complain that I talk too quiet but I don't understand it's like when I'm around people I don't know too well I feel uncomfortable, my eyes feel like they're gonna cross and I start to stutter (I've never had a stutter before) also I don't have any guy friends, the ones that I do are from my elementary school so they don't really count. My school is basically a school where if you're attractive, people will approach you no matter what and everyone will know your name or want to be friends with you, if you're not attractive like me you're basically fighting to fit in, or at least get someone to talk to you. (but that's for another story) anyways please give me some tips on how to make friends and how to make my speech better because it wasn't this bad till I started high school, in elementary school boys made fun of me saying my voice was too deep (this was before they hit puberty) ever since then I stopped talking and now people complain that I'm monotone, soft-spoken and mumble. It's like I can never win (link)
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Making friends is tough if you dont want to be like them and since you dont want to be you have not so much choice of people who you can share your time with. Take it from me i was the same and i am 20 and still have 3 best friends and also my family is the best friends i got for life. So i am suggesting if you cant find or cant attract for now wait and read this book : http://www.yourcoach.be/blog/wp-content/uploads/2014/02/Dale-Carnegie-How-to-win-friends-and-influence-people.pdf
And then Look at the key principles from the book here : https://www.dalecarnegie.com/assets/1/7/Secrets_of_Success.pdf
After you are patient and know the principles then TAKE ACTION and i Wish you to find the best friends you really deserve.
Good luck and TAKE ACTION!
Take care !
Nick
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i am 13, and i live with my adoptive parents. my real mom had me at 16 and got me token away when i was very young. i have always said that i would not be a teen mom, that i would wait for after marriage. but yesterday i found out that i am pregnant. how do i tell my parents? and i will not get an abortion and i don't want to give my baby away. so how will i tell my mom( that is 6 months pregnant) and dad that their 13 year old daughter is pregnant and wants to keep her baby? (link)
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Hello, dont be afraid and be strong. Your heart and willpower will guide you in this tough situation. Babies are a present from God so you make a good decision to keep it. Its normal not to be pregnant at 13 but you and your baby will go trough some tough times that will make you both stronger. So explain to your parents that this is a chance for all you, your mom and dad to have a new member of the family who you will charish and will bring even more light to your Home.
Dont worry and NEVER LIE.
Nick
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I have known this boy since elementary school and we are seniors in high school now. I never really liked him in this way until this year.. I sit at the same table with him And 3 other classmates with whom we share a friendship with that's hard to explain. One of my girlfriends at the table knows how I feel towards him And she notices how we fight like a married couple. I really like him And he talks to me like I'm his wife or something. We argue all the time but I think it's just a part of our chemistry. My question is how do I know if he really likes me the way I like him or if he's just joking all the time. By the way he's only dated white And Hispanic girls in the past And I'm African American And so is he. (link)
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OK great that you have this relationship with him.Im not a super expert but my opinion is that since he is spending time with you plus putting emotion behind your relationship he can be your BF.The colour of the skin does not matter just show him you like him and if he reponds with giving to you emotions good company without wanting something in return means he is OK.But never rush with those important decisions experiment around and remember that with people fast is slow and slow is fast. :)
NIck
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I daydream a lot and I did a little research and I am not sure if it is a maladaptive daydreaming. I think it becoming a problem because I don't like pain. However, when I have a painful experience I create a scenario in my head. The scenario is even more painful but I am in control of what happens. During these daydream I get emotional because they are very painful experience but it worse than the pain I am going through. It my way to escape and process my emotion. I can cry without dealing with my actually emotionally pain. (link)
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You are not in the moment read the Eckhart Tolle book The POWER OF THE NOW.I cant explain exactly why thats why i am connecting you with an Expert on the matter. (you are getting too much pain he also talks in the beginning of the book about the same and after that he just cracked his ego and got into the NOW after this intense pain). HIT me up with some other questions you have. And remember pain is good so you can become ANTIFragile
stay STRONG ..
NIck
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I sent a few nudes to a guy I met online and he's sent me money in return for them and now he's blackmailing me saying if I don't send him something else then he'll post all my pics on the internet.. Is there anything I can do to stop him? Can the police do anything? (link)
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Dont do it anymore and he is maybe bluffing.
If you can send some form to say someone is blackmailing you maybe if you sent it trough skype send the form to them.
NIck
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I'm 20 and I broke up with my first love a year ago. I loved him with every fibre in my being and did literally everything for him, even if it went against my morals. I spent all the money I had on getting him expensive gifts and I stuck with him, even when he couldn't care less about me. When we broke up because of the fact that he didn't wanna deal with commitment, at this stage in his life, he wasn't upset, not even for a day. It's been over a year and I've been the only one carrying all this pain and I've been holding so much hope that we could get back together, someday. We still see each other and he kisses me and that's what gave me hope that he still likes me. But last night, he told me that he'd never even think of marrying someone like me and that he needs a submissive kind of girl who doesn't pick up on the wrong things he does, like I did.I always picked up on all his lies and everything he hid from me. It hit me all at once, last night that he's been using me this past year and using my vulnerability. I cried in front of him for two hours straight and he kept saying the same things like "You're not my first love so I can't hold that much love for you" and "I told you I didn't want a relationship" "My first made me lose all my emotions" . I don't know why I'm so attached to him or why I'm even this devastated over a jerk like him. I just need someone to talk some sense into me. I worry, that I'll never be good enough for someone. What else can I do for someone to make them appreciate me? I allowed him to cross so many limits of mine and went above and beyond for him, and I get this, in return. How will I expect the next guy in my life to appreciate what I'll do for him and not break my heart again? (link)
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The first thing i noticed is that you are an amazing woman one who is one in a million and you were just with someone who could not see that.But you were too much good to him there has to be balance learn to be not so good to everyone.I know you think you gave him years from your life but sit and think you are giving him your precious time again thinking about him.Learn from great people Warren Buffett said if you make a mistake think about it until you find the lesson from it.Then keep the lesson forget the mistake.You just have to see too that you are too much focused on him and you dont see your other opportunities in being in a relationship with other guys.HE is keeping you on a hook.Sorry for the language and with as much as care i have for your issue but gonna tell you go fuck someone else and you will forget him.Start searching again dont stop and dig a hole for yourself to be in.
Read books from Dr. Helen Fisher Why him why her
and Men are from Mars women from Venus Dr John Gray to get some knowlage how not to make Huge mistakes in your life and how to next time just experiment with 1 or 2 days dating someone to see if he does not suit you or you dont feel he is for you on to the next one.Because you are a beautiful person and you deserve the best one for you.Thats my rule too for relationships.
Nick
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can kissing and fingering causes late periods
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You should consider asking some doctor about this question if it's related to your health it needs pro attention.
But in MY opinion not.
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Here's a picture of me: http://i.imgur.com/e2uF7w6.jpg
I have a stupid haircut and i don't look good.
I have no idea what hairstyle would look good for me, but could someone tell me what hairstyle would look best with my face? Every time I've asked this, people have just made fun for how I look; I know I'm ugly, but I just want legitimate advice as to what would look good for me. (link)
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Listen the question goes deeper than haircuts their is a confidence issue on the line.So we men want to be liked and admired by everyone but thats just BS because even if you are the nicest person talking about for example the colour Blue someone will eventually respond with cursing you in some way.But you know what friends i want close to me and girlfriends ones that like me at the beginning not making fun or anything.As i said we want to be liked by everyone so thats why we lose the friends and girls that like us the most because we want to change someone's mind to start to like us.Be yourself and better yourself everyday and you will find or attract people that like you for you because even if the quantaty is little the quality is Giagantic.For the haircut question find for example Ryan Gosling and stick with his hairstyle but i reccomend you finding your own Unique ...
Stay Strong
NICK
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will god forgive me and will I still go to heaven when I follow through with what I'm about to do. I figure if I'm going to loose everything I'm going to loose it on my terms. I am going to jail for driving under suspennsion and I,m on disability and I'll loose everything I'm already living my life in a wheelchair from a motorcycle accident. I already have my mind made up (link)
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Live fast die young is your mentality but its still not as bad as the amazing story of W Mitchell. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/W_Mitchell
Read it and research this amazing man how when was still bad for him he made it.He was in a motorcycle accident and was scared and burned his skin for life but he did not give up.He co founded a company that was worth 64 million.Thats not all he had a later injury in his spinal cord and was weelchaired for life and his wife left him because she didnt want to be around a burned cripple.But what do you think happened he did not give up he went running for mayor in his city and made it.Now he is in love again with his wife. AND WHEN YOU THINK IT IS BAD IN YOUR LIFE THINK OF W MITCHELL . DONT MAKE STUPID THINGS you are in a stupid state now.I can prove it to you think when you were little were you thinking like this.IF you were not you CAN change.
Stay Strong
NICK
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I havnent been able to sleep very well for the past week, and when I do it's maybe 5 hours a night with me waking up every 45 minutes in that time span. What should I do to get some sleep? (link)
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Listen sleep is HUGE for your health deal with this problem no matter what because it can cause a lot of damage if it is not fixed.OK sleep is tied up with stress and the bad or good emotions you feel.MY best way to deal with stress is to work out but not in the gym take a buddy or go alone running somewhere in nature.OR just organize a hike somewhere to chill out.As a side note its the best way to take perspective on your life and think where you are heading and is this the best path for you.
So again deal with your stress find any way to tackle it,NO giving up thats your life make it happen now picture if you dont fix it what will happen to your relationships health wealth happiness.
Stay STRONG
NICK
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You answered my question about making a job change recently. After initially accepting the offer, I recanted and turned it down. Later that day the HR Manager left me a voicemail stating management really liked me and wanted to sweeten the offer. I called this morning. Instead of making an offer, she asked me what it would take to get me to come. I gave her a number that was 6% more than what Iwas offered, but still well within the stated salary range. She later sent an email saying she gave the proposal to management and that they were going to pursue other candidates. They didn't even make a counter offer, and said they really didn't think I wanted the job. I thought it was bizarre. (link)
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MOVE on since they dont see the talant in you other people will.You tried once so it leaves you 1001 alternatives in your hands.Assume Abundance in opportunities and act like you already have the job and they will feel it off your vibe.I think this was the "bizzare" thing that happened.They just dont feel you are confident enough in yourself try in your next interviews or tryouts to be 10/10 in your passion and confidence.This is how a true manager feels like.Ask how would i feel if i was the most successful manager. AND ask yourself WHY do i deserve the job not how can i get it to get the passion im talking about.BEcause 80% is WHY 20% is HOW .
STAY STRONG
NICK
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My father took everything of value and left us.
My mother is mentally ill and now has no insurance(so she's off her pills).
My sister is a major suck up to our mother(Favorite child).
Were stuck in an Extended Stay hotel and,its sucking up all the income we have.We have tried all "free" places for medicine and help.But our income is too high,but its not enough for us to live on.
I barely make $150 a week from my job and, its considered part time.I'm at my job all day from 10AM to 4PM and,they don't consider it full time.So because of the time and all the work,I can't get a 2nd job.We have no car,so we take the public city bus everywhere(which is $1.50 there and back per person).
My problem is my mother.She's always been an mental abuser and only to me.She says that "I'll never be anything","I'll never go to college,and even if I did I'd fail it","Ill never be anything in life,or have a husband let alone a boyfriend"... That was just this week.
She said that to me because I told her to "hold on one moment" while I was filling up water bottles,and she wanted me to look for a phone number for her.It only took 2 minutes and I couldn't look away or I'd have water on the floor.
My sister is a major suck up to our mother.She sides with her even when moms wrong.She won't stick up for anyone and can't even keep a job that long.she keeps calling out at work and lying to them about why.I tell her to quit it and I get screamed at by mom (mom encourages her to call out).
Right now I got no friends,because I don't have time.I got no other family to go to,and right now mother plans on leaving with my sister.They plan to go to grandma's and I can't come.she made that clear.Were all old enough to be on our own,but we weren't ever encouraged or pushed to go on our own.Our mother was one of those ones that did everything for you,even when you didn't want her to (tried getting her to stop,but that only made her mad and she'd guilt me into letting her).
So where do I go?Do I leave my job and beg my deadbeat dad to go,live with him in another state?
Or do I take my chances on the street?If I do that I lose everything I own. (link)
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Hey i know its tough at your place now but keep your head up whatever it happens life is just giving you an opportunity to become stronger.I know it sounds cheezy but start reframing everything that you dont like.For example your mother doing this to you she is challenging you to become better frame it like that and you dont need to be proving anything to HER just prove it to YOURSELF that you are a strong woman.I advice you to go try something new change everything since there is no place with them i know they give you something otherwise you would not be there.BUT you should move on RIght NOW because this is your life dont lose your time living a life you dont like.DESIGN it yourself and listen to inspirational people who have helped thousands like Anthony Robbins if you dont have money try downloading Personal Power by him.IT will give you the tools to change everything into the positive and will help you find out why do you want to change your life not only how BUT THE WHY is very important. 80%WHY , 20%HOW is in life.APPLY IT NOW
and keep me updated here or on email:ni3koto@abv.bg im honored i can help you. STAY STRONG
NICK
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ok, so thats me, the one with the girl hating my guts. I couldnt log into my account, so i had to reset amd i just used a quick account, but, the girl (L) will crumple up my notes when i send them to her, and shes been pissed now for about 4 months. And is anerexsia really that serious? She needs professional help? :0 (link)
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Ok calm yourself in those type of situation a clear mind makes the best decisions :)
Anerexsia is a serious thing and seeking professional help is a must in these type of situations.If anything is out of control you start fixing it.As a side note not every word that a professional on this theme will give you the best advice so visit various specialists not only one to see the situation clarly and heal. :)
write me if you need anything else
Good Luck !11
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I am 25 years old and I am a female and I had oral sex for thefirst time ever I have ner fone anything sexual before nowb in my life and I am a virgin . I knowbyou proble dodon't get a lot of women who are old as I am who are virgins asking about stds on this site but iam terrified that I might have aids when I didn't even have intercourse. We were both naked and he ate me out and I sucked his dick and he gingered me could I get aids from letting this guy that I have known since I was 16 do this to me . I know this may make .e sound like a whore but we was only dating a week before he wanted to have sex and I said didn't want to have sex so we decided on oral sex . I am so scared because the other day I was in the shower and I noticed 3 little bumps inside my vagiana and I also have a boil that's kind of grey looking sorry if this is to grafic but I wanted to give you complete detail of what's going on with me so you could answer my question properly. I talked to my cousin about my situation and she said that I needed to go see a gbyon and get tested for aids and other stds . I am so scared. Please help . I made an appointment gor the 10th of my next month and iam absolutely terrified because I don't know what to they are going to do. How do they check for aids is it s blood test or do they actually have to check down there ? Will they tell anyone if I have aids . Please help me. Thank you so much. (link)
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First it is tottaly normal for you to be scared but you have close friends and relatives you can talk about this and will help you this is one of the things you can do.Anyway DONT BE SCARED our psyche tends to overblow everything that happens to us.For example when we meet someone unknown our brain comes with million bad scenarios but REMEMBER IT IS NEVER AS BAD AS WE THINK IT IS.Go and get the tests and have the dude or someone close to you to go together for support so you do not feel alone dealing with this.I only know about the blood test but since you think you have something down let them check you out so you can be sure what the result is.The test is 100% personal only you know the results even they do not know them.
DONT worry its all going to be OK I Know you will be perfectly Safe and Fine. :))
Write me whatever the result is if you want me to give you some advice in the future : email: ni3koto@abv.bg
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I am a 13 year old girl. My height is 5.4 ft and my weight is 135 pounds.I am overweight for my age/height.I want to do the lemon diet because i'm feeling sluggish and tired.I also want to lose weight but i want to lose fat not muscle.should i try the lemon detox for a few days?
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Great more energy is welcome to anyone.
But you have to continue training to maintain the results.
Have someone who wants to lose weight do it with you so she or he would keep you accountable if you do not train or eat what you should..
Peace
Futher questions ask to : email: ni3koto@abv.bg
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I'm Male, 19 years old. I've been with my girlfriend for almost 16 months. We're both virgins. Lately, since I started working, I've had the temptation to just go out and cheat. I'm always super horny and fantasizing about doing stuff with other girls. I love my girlfriend and I feel super guilty for wanting to cheat. We never really do anything besides kiss. I don't want to pressure her into doing anything she doesn't want, and I don't pressure her. But she'll do stuff that hints that she wants to do something, then doesn't do it. Like sometimes we'll be sitting and she'll grab me and/or stroke me for a few seconds then stop. Sometimes she'll put my hand on her crotch so I could rub, but we never go any further. I work at a busy place in nyc, so I'm always seeing and meeting nice attractive girls. I always fantasize on my train commute too. Like everyday. Sometimes I even wonder about calling an escort, but I don't want to mess up. (link)
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Start learning Female Psychology .. I reccomend David Deida the Way of the supperior man.
After that try to talk to her about going out together and meeting with other women.Become good at making girl on girl scenarious.She just wants someone to have fun with and wants you to share the experience with her.SO begin and in time you will have a GF that does threesomes with you.After that bye bye daydreaming hello reality.
IF she does not like doing that you should find a girl who does we only live once so why not DO IT.
For further questions write me to : email:ni3koto@abv.bg
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i liked this girl i started dating who i thought was an innocent girl. in fact i didn't even try to kiss her until the third date because of how innocent i thought she was. well the thing is after i kissed her and don't ask me why we started talking about sexual experiences ( i thought she had practically none so what did i have to fear). well i found out she is what is known as a virgin slut or virgin whore, a girl who is still a virgin but has kissed around 40 guys and had blown off 4 guys just because she was horny and returning the favor after they had sucked her off.
i feel a little disgusted with the horny attitude with random guys in the past and don't know what i should think.
anyway, she is leaving the country for a year so we broke up but still talk as friends. we only kissed so i didn't even get blown off myself but she is going to do some religion studies outside the country, meaning no more sex life for at least that year (no kissing, no nothing). the thing is she went to Aruba as her last opportunity to party and i hate the feeling i get when i think about the certainty of she kissing at least a couple of guys a night (which really doesn't bother me that much)and the possibility of she sucking a guy off just because she is horny (that one does bother me).
i know this inst exactly a question but i need counsel from someone.
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Dude Girls will be girls like you they LOVE SEX.
Just get over it .
IT is a great illusion to think the girl you fell in love with has kept herself for you.Believe me they are even more aroused than you scientificuly proved.
So if you love her but want to get over her GO and be with ten other women.After that you would not be in the situation you are ...
IF you have more questions ask : emial: ni3koto@abv.bg
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How to lose weight
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Start with just pushing the plate when you think you had enough dont overeat.
Next is you seriously have to be moving your body because its like a river it has to be flowing in order to be clear.
You can start by finding someone who already is running or going hiking and ask him if you could join him or her.This way you can have somebody who holds you accountable.
For more questions write me on : my email ni3koto@abv.bg
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