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girl hating my guts
ok, so thats me, the one with the girl hating my guts. I couldnt log into my account, so i had to reset amd i just used a quick account, but, the girl (L) will crumple up my notes when i send them to her, and shes been pissed now for about 4 months. And is anerexsia really that serious? She needs professional help? :0
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I'm sorry that I've replied back late. Yes anorexia is very serious it can infact be deadly. The best advice is to just support her and listen to her. Everyone who deals with anorexia has their own story behind why they are that way.. but yes I would say she should go to counseling to help her with her condition. But situations in this manner should be handled delicately... Because telling her she needs help my be a challenge because she my feel she doesn't need it most people who need help don't want it.i wish you well on patching up your friendship and getting her the help she needs
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I think you should distance yourself from her, because clearly she isn't in the right place and probably needs some space. I also think you should stop sending notes to her, because as of yet, it's only resulted in her crumpling them up. As for the Anorexia, it is very serious and potentially life-threatening. I don't think that bringing that up to her will inspire her to seek help. What I think is best is to talk to a school counselor about how she has Anorexia and you are concerned about her health. The counselor can guide you, and possibly bring up this issue with the girl herself-- don't worry, since all information is confidential, she will not find out that you spoke to the counselor- simply that the counselor him/herself has concerns. I don't know what the process is as far as family involvement, etc., but that's not your issue to worry about. The counselor can take care of things.
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Yes, anorexia is that serious.
And that means it's a good reason to avoid this person: never fool with crazy, and anorexics are crazy. Mentally ill.
If she is pushing you away and wants nothing to do with you, this is a good thing. Get out while the getting is good.
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Sorry, but I'm not sure that I remember your question in particular. But, anorexia is very serious. I suffered from anorexia during my teenage years. It is not a physical illness. It is a psychological illness that has physical consequences. She looks in the mirror and she doesn't see what's there. She sees someone much bigger and much heavier. Anorexia is an obsession with eating as little as possible and burning as many calories as possible. It's all you think about: day and night. It consumes your life. It is difficult to have ANY kind of relationship with any person: family, friends, significant others... when you are anorexic. You are in a committed relationship with getting thinner and thinner and it consumes all your waking hours. In school, you don't listen because you are just calculating calories and thinking of meals. At night, you just spend your time thinking of everything that you aren't going to eat the next day or perhaps planning your meals. If you do not get professional help, your body will instinctively start bingeing because it does what it needs to, to stay alive. Thus, you will get heavier very quickly and not in a healthy way. Most importantly, you will never learn to eat right or practice intuitive eating. That is basically eating when you are hungry and stopping when you are full. I did not get professional help and I suffered big time for about two years trying to figure it out going up and down the scale. I was also taking medication at the time, which really didn't help because meds can be tricky with weight sometimes. Please seek professional help for this person immediately! There are anorexic people who are at normal weight and have died! They are not getting enough food into their bodies to survive!
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If she hates you, just don't talk to her anymore. Obviously she doesn't value you enough to get over it, so just leave her alone and find someone new.
Also, anorexia is very serious, and she could die... but it's not your problem. If you are concerned enough, you can tell a school counselor, or even her parents... but neither action is going make her hate you any less. In fact, she will probably hate you MORE for it, but that's the risk you have to take if you care enough.
When push comes to shove with that, though, unless the person in question is willing to get help, most places where she could get help don't want her there. I had a friend whose parents checked her into eating disorder facilities over and over... and they'd kick her out.
Still, though. If she hates you, F*ck her. Let her starve herself to death. Not your problem.
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Yes anorexia is a big deal. It has the highest death rate of any mental disorder. You're body literally eats itself from the inside out because you just flat out stop eating, causing your busy to shutdown. Talk to this girl instead of pestering her with notes.
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okay. sorry its taken me so long to log in. I don't recall what she is even pisseed about, but it might be in your best interest to just let her be. Yes, anorexia* is quite serious
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Ok calm yourself in those type of situation a clear mind makes the best decisions :)
Anerexsia is a serious thing and seeking professional help is a must in these type of situations.If anything is out of control you start fixing it.As a side note not every word that a professional on this theme will give you the best advice so visit various specialists not only one to see the situation clarly and heal. :)
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Good Luck !11
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I couldnot get what you are actually saying..please explain
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Hey! I know exactly how you feel to have someone hate your guts. The same thing happened to me a couple of moths ago. I screamed at a girl and we hated each other for like a month. Then, I realized that if they're not going to budge when I apologize, it's not worth it to keep saying the apology. In order to be forgiven, you have to MATERIALIZE your apology. Make a friendship bracelet, or an apology card. Offer it to L, but if they say no, just leave them alone. The thing is to make them feel a little guilty. If they approach you, act a little bit hurt and standoffish that they wouldn't forgive you. Then, you two can forgive each other. In many cases, yes, anorexia can be very serious. I really hope I helped.
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It doesnt have to be anything you've done to earn a girls anger or hatred. There in fact is often no valid reason of some outward experience to bring such change into a girl emotionally. Unless she's always been like this with people since she was in grade school, my guess is that we are talking about a girl going through puberty or recently gone through it. In a nut shell, many young females bodies today have an overload of too many female hormones because their bodies have picked many up just from the environment so when the body starts adding to it during young teen years, several things can happen:
A total change in their personality
Uncontrollable anger and hatred targeted at one, or a few people or in some cases towards almost everyone.
Depression occurs and due to the depression caused by hormonal imbalance, and they may start cutting, become obsessed with binge and purging (anorexia/bulimia) or become suicidal.
I have 2 nieces at this age and both from different families, in different states, and both have this issue and have needed to see a doctor to get treatment for it.
If this girl was once a friend, you might try talking to her face to face instead of sending notes and see if she can explain whats bugging her. Most likely there will be no good reason but once you have her in conversation you could say that perhaps its not you doing something or her doing something wrong but maybe something wrong that a doctor can help. Likely in her state, she likely won't think there's anything wrong with her. It may think her mom deciding to look for answers in her daughters behaviour and reach out to doctors for help. But at least, knowing this helps you to understand why a younger teen girl can have problems like this.
Doesnt make them a bad person, its other circumstances affecting them. If its hormonal, hormones even out by late teens and she should improve in her behavior as a person.
Another thing that can affect teens is that the pre frontal cortex of the brain is the last thing to finish completion in growth and is still immature, not fully developed until we reach our mid 20s at least or perhaps older. So a lot of a teens choices or decisions and actions may not be the best ones for themselves or affect others in less than positive ways.
This all comes with the territory of this age group.
You can tell, I've assumed that you are in this age group. If you both are older adults, my advice is to try to talk in person, no notes or texting. If that doesnt happen. Don't try to force something thats not going to happen, just leave her be and move on to hanging with other people.
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Hi,
Anorexia is a serious issue. I say that only a clinical doctor might be able to help with. That is beyond my advise. Good luck with this...seek help ASAP. :)
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Since I have no idea why she hates your guts I am going to have to advise you based on what you have told me. If she has been totally pissed for 4 months, yeah she's really pissed!I am going to assume YOU know what you did to bring this on, right? Whatever it was try to apologize to her face if she will let you. If not there is really nothing more you can do. As for your question about anorexia, yes it is VERY serious. A person can die from anorexia if the disease goes untreated long enough. Anyone suffering from anorexia needs professional help immediately!Even if you are worried the person will get pissed you need to tell someone anyway. You might feel bad because they are mad at you but you would feel even worse if they were dead!If this is what you did to piss her off, then you really don't owe her an apology. You should never have to say you are sorry for trying to save someones life. My best advice based on what little information I have is to stop sending notes and just let her anger run its course. Maybe she will get over it, maybe she won't, but there is really nothing more you can do but move on with your life. I am sorry, this is probably not what you want to hear but I don't think there is anything more you can do at this point. Good luck!
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She's anorexic? Well from my experience, a girl's gotta eat or else she will be pissy and bitchy all day long. Anorexia is pretty serious because if you go about your life not eating, you can die. A body needs food for nutrients to keep the body functioning. Don't need professional help but some help and guidance is fine. Anyways, if she crumples up your notes when you send them to her all the time, I think you should consider not giving her your notes then. If she's so rude, it would be better if you just keep your distance and avoid trouble.
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Anorexia is an eating disorder characterized by extreme weight loss and lack of eating. Anorexics may also exercise obsessively. It is a very serious condition and can result in death if it is not treated properly. (found this info at mirror-mirror.org)
Anywho, it's sort of a mix with mental and medical complications. The person sees themselves as fat, and they do anything they possibly can to loose weight.
Saying, "Oh stop it you look fine," doesn't really work in this case because they most definitely see themselves fat. They will most likely think you're lying to make them feel better. So it is best if you leave this girl alone.
If you want to help her just talk to her parents, and if they don't respond just go to any other adult you think may be able to help her.
Best of luck!
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It's the mental illness with the highest mortality rate, so, yes, it can be rather serious.
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Okay,and oh dear!! Your question wasnt very detailed,so I will answer as best I can
You mentioned Anorexia,does this person that you claim hates you have anorexia? If so,it would be best to get help,she may be going through some emotional trauma that she is that way,so it could be pyscological.
You mentioned that you send notes to her and she throws them out,she may or may not be just wanting you to leave her alone permanently.
If you have had an altercation,or exchanged words or had an argument,try giving a note to a friend of hers to hand it to her and try to clear the air,do NOT mention her anorexia if she has it,like I said,emotional trauama or someone making fun of her could have lead her in that direction.
I hope you have a peace of mind!
Be blessed
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i dont understand your question
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well maybe I can see why she hates your guts...its none of your business...if you see she is ill...why not let her family in on it.,..but here is my question...IF she is crumbling your notes, well that means shes doing it in front of you...and HELLO< she obviously doesn't like you...do you get that?? 4 months?? there is something so wrong with this question...is this really a real person? or are you emotionally retarded? why would anyone be with someone, who so OBVIOUSLY didn't like them or want their help...mind your own business, take care of your own backyard...volunteer, if your that into other people.
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