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Help please I dont know what to do. I'm being blackmailed. I am a 19yr old male and she said she was 20yrs. I sent a nude picture of myself with my face in it to a girl on Kik and she said if I don't pay her money she would post it on Ellen show website and try to have her show it on CNN or something like. And ruin my life. She wants me to pay her $100 and if I do she said she would delete the picture. Im scared that she will post it and ruin my life. I can't tell my family because they would be upset at me and cause more issues. Please someone help me I don't know what to do. (link)
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If you pay her, then when she spends it, she will blackmail you again.
All you can do is tell her you will go to the police if she posts it. Maybe see a lawyer, first. Estimate how many dollars damage posting this photo will cause you, and explain that if she posts it, you will have to sue her in that amount.
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I have invited another woman to have sex with my husband while I watch. She and I have meet and I like her, she is just the type I wanted for this experience.
She and my husband have not meet and won't until the night of the event. She is coming to our home where we will enjoy drinks and conversation first.
I'm looking for ideas on how to make the transition between conversation and sexy time smooth and less awkward. She and I have talked about bondage and restraint being part of the evening.
Ideas? Suggestions?
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Not sure I'd just go straight into tying this woman up. If I was her - no freaking way.
How about for this first time she and your hubby tie you up?
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usually when I am in a long conversation with someone I start feeling that my nose gets itchy. it appears weird to me as a part of my brain remains busy scratching the tip of my nose. my mom suggested it may be because I don't feel confident. but it even happens when I'm talking to my friend about my usual self.is that because I'm an introvert? what can be the possible reason? how do I get rid of it especially at social meetings, presentations , interviews ? (link)
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Maybe distract your trigeminal nerve by chewing gum, or pressing your toungue into the roof of your mouth?
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My first counselor was in high school, she saw that I had a hint of depression. During this time, I was 18 years old. I was taking 27 credit hours (wasn't a choice because I was also a high school student), working 24 hours/week, and my boyfriend at that time and I weren't doing so well. The next two years, my depression had worsen, my boyfriend (same one from high school) was "dragging me on" and I was waiting for him and didn't completely leave him until I was 21. During this process, I didn't realize that my well-being was winding downward because I was so focused on my relationship. Since then I've been having trouble feeling better. I still feel very sad and I sometimes feel the need to cry for no apparent reason. I sometimes feel sad when I don't even have a reason to feel sad.
I think my anxiety is due to my current relationship with my boyfriend. He has broken my trust several times, and we've been going to couples therapy to try to rebuild trust. But I would sometimes get random anxiety attacks out of nowhere--shortness of breaths, sweaty palms, rapid breathing, mind racing, and feeling as if I'm going crazy. I'm not thinking about anything in particular, but I do fear that something bad has/is going to happen.
I feel as if my life is falling apart. When something good happens, I feel that something bad/terrible happens to me right afterward. For example, yesterday my boyfriend came back from a business trip. I was excited and looking forward to him coming back. Not feeling depressed, I was being very productive in the morning--cleaning, took the dog out for a walk, etc. But when I was about to take the dog to visit my mom, my car was not working at all. This may be a coincidence, but it seems as if something bad is always going to happen even if I feel great.
I don't like my current job (I'm a graphic designer), and I'm trying to get my alternate certification in teaching. However, when I was studying for the EC-6 generalist test, I received a notice that the EC-6 generalist has been discontinued and was replaced by another test. I was advised to buy another test that related to the current test, meaning that I had to start over. My family life is stressful. My family is about to lose the house, my mom (also has depression and anxiety) tends to focus on getting a new car instead of trying to save this house, always being lectured by my mom (regular conversations turns into lectures), and when I'm not being lectured, my older sister tends to complain to me about everything happening in our home or in her current life. I feel as if I don't have a place for myself. When I go home, I'm always being bothered and I feel that the environment at home does not benefit me in any way. When I stay at my boyfriend's house, I feel as if I'm taking care of his chores, taking care of his dog, etc. There is not a place for me to actually relax. I miss my room; I miss my stuff; and I'm just feeling miserable, yet lonely at the same time.
The only reason why I haven't moved away and started over is because I know that my family needs me. If there was any hint that they would be okay without me, I probably would have packed everything and left. A lot of people thought it would be best for me, some say it would be very difficult, but I feel that it would be so much easier than to wake up to my current life.
I don't know what to do, or how to feel better. I've done counseling, I've done different types of exercises to help me feel better (I'm not taking medication, I wanted to do everything naturally), but it only helps with a short amount of time. Most of these things are environmental and not biological. Since my family is going through the same stressors and we don't have any other family members that have depression and anxiety, I'm not sure what I should do. (link)
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"The only reason why I haven't moved away and started over is because I know that my family needs me."
Your family does not need you. Your family will do perfectly ok without you around. Other families all over the world do fine without you - what makes your family so special?
Dump your b/f. Same comments apply, btw: your b/f does not need you to do his chores, take care of his dog. Millions of guys all over the world manage perfectly fine without you around to take care of things. Your b/f and his dog aren't that special. You are the one making such a big deal of this.
By all means, consider seeing a doctor for some anti-anxiety pills. But beware of making a lifetime habit of it.
The secret of depression is that it gives us power to get rid of stuff we don't need.
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Hello,
22/F. In a 3 year relationship with a rocky stand point. Met a guy at a bar on of the nights that I was out with a couple friends and we were just friends getting to know each other and we started having feelings for each other. Similar life and both very ambitious. We both have very good jobs. We’re both family oriented in fact both our mothers passed with the same disease. But that’s not why I’m asking for advice. After us completely stop talking for a good month which was also the last time we saw each other. I saw him again this weekend. I was drinking my coffee and happened to look up and he had just walked in and we both made eye contact. He looked at me and he made a sad face (literally frowned) and I look at my friend next to me and completely freaked out. Mind you my boyfriend who knows nothing about this is right behind me having another conversation with someone else. The guy, let’s call him M.. M slowly makes is way over to where I was and requested for a coffee and a shot. And he started asking how I was and how work was, then he started teasing me about always drinking energy drinks when I go out instead of actual alcohol. And he pretty much implied to my friend that we should all hangout again soon. M then walks away. My boyfriend didn’t even notice that someone was talking to us. I started giving my friend the (WTF) look and he told me that when he come over he nudged his leg before he started talking to me. There isn’t a day where this guy doesn’t not cross my mind and I don’t know what to do. I don’t get what the purpose of him coming over and starting a convo with me was when we haven’t talked in a month. Even though last time we talked it was a great conversation even if he is a little on the shy side where I’m not.
Please help
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Maybe he frowned because he discovered you are the kind of girl who flirts with other guys while she has a boyfriend. Everyone knows that girls vine-swing, but it's still a bit offputting when you catch them doing it.
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I'm a white cisgender homosexual female. White racism isn't real, cisphobia isn't real, misandry isn't real, and heterophobia isn't real. Were white people enslaved and segregated for decades and still get killed in hate crimes? Nope. Do cisgenders get an increased risk of being bullied, suicidal, or killed? Nope. Did heterosexuals get burned and prevented from being married and have people insult them for holding hands in public, or people call things they don't like "straight"? Nope. Do rich people starve on the streets and have no clothes or water and need to work their ass off? Nope. Did males ever get sold into sexual slavery, rights taken away, pushed from science careers? Nope. It makes no sense to me these people who had everything handed to them on a golden platter with a silver spoon in their mouth already with a head start in life feel opressed. Why? (link)
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Yes, black people in the USA were enslaved. Now they are not.
White people *are* killed in hate crimes. Google "Polar Bear Hunting". There is a massive problem in Sweden with islamic immigrants raping white women, and no-one dares say a word.
Gay people - fair enough. But most of the hatred directed at gay people has been directed at gay *men*. Gay women were mostly given a pass.
Of course rich people do not starve on the streets. Poor people do. Most of those poor people who are starving on the streets are men. There's no WIC program for *them*. In the USA, many are veterans of your various wars. There are thousands of shelters and programs for women. Men are dispoasable and if we fall between the cracks, no-one gives a damn.
Males gave usually not been sold into sexual slavery - we were sold into real slavery. Or have you forgotten your first paragraph already? Men have never had their rights taken away??? Throughout most of history, pretty much no-one had rights.
Oh, and have you ever heard of "conscription"? Look it up. Wikipedia is only a click away.
What else have we got here:
Women are not being pushed away from science careers - the STEM fields are bending over backwards to try to get women interested, and they aren't biting because those fields involve math and are mainly concerned about facts rather than feels. Any woman with a STEM qualification can walk into a job that men are queuing up for.
Men are not handed life on a golden platter. We work until we die or join the forgotten homeless. If we run out of money, we are divorced, sued for alimony, and imprisoned for not paying it.
Getting life handed to you on a golden platter would involve - oh, I dunno - someone making a legal agreement to support you for the rest of your life while you swan about the home and complain about how haaaaard your day has been.
It's not something men get a lot of.
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My boyfriend asked me tonight if I was a virgin because he is and has never done anything at all. We've been dating on a couple weeks and I didn't know how to answer it though. This is why:
I've gave a few guys head
I've been fingered A LOT
I had anal twice
I masturbate like once a day
I never had like...sex sex, you know? Like the making babies kind LOL. You know what I mean. Does that mean I'm a virgin? (link)
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It doesn't matter. If you have sex with your b/f (or whoever), then you will definitely not be a virgin after that.
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Hello!
As the headline says, im trying to be a better man, and being able to do some self defense is never bad idea. I heared that some martial arts are tied with some sort of philosophy and through it teaching other things for life then just "beating people" (because beating people is NOT my desire in the first place). I will be most grateful if you give me any suggestions i could follow.
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The stuff you are asking about is fourth or fifth on the list of things you need to know. The most important things are:
* Where are classes held? When? How much?
* How much gear do the want me to buy?
* Could I like the people that go there?
* Is this a scam dojo?
Find what classes, dojos, whatever they call it are nearby. Find out when they run an introductory session. Sign up and go to that session. Don't overlook things like boxing. Do this three or four times. Pick one.
I wouldn't worry about philosophy and becoming a better man, because just like learning woodworking will teach you attention to detail, the process of learning a martial art - winning and losing sparring bouts, practicing the stuff - will give you confidence and awareness. Put the effort in, and you will begin to see the world a little differently.
That is: the philosophies follow and are a consequence of putting the work into mastering a physical art. So first, put the work in.
Things to avoid:
* Places where it's all kata, no sparring. You must hit and be hit if you want to learn to handle yourself in a fight.
* Places that guarantee you a black belt in X period of time. These are the equivalent of pay-to-win online games. In a real martial art, not everyone can make black belt for roughly the same reason that not everyone can be very tall.
* And perhaps, places that are a front for some religion you have no interest in.
That's all I know. Google "scam dojo". But first, sign up for at least one newbies night being held soon.
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I need your help regarding my experiment about plants. I'm studying about aerial plants. I had observed that the upper part of the plant are dead while the lower part of the aerial plant is still alive and healthy. What would be the hypotheses about this? I'm thinking about sunlight but I think it doesn't affect the upper leaves of the aerial plant to die because it gets enough sunlight. Please I need your help. Thank you. (link)
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Is the upper part a flower stalk? If so, it's probably usual for the plant to put this out and then it dies off. You you have a photo of the plant?
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This is long - sorry
So last night my best friend and I went to a concert together. We were drinking quite a bit and I got tired and overwhelmed by the crowd. About 30 minutes before the end of the show, I asked her a few times if she was ready to leave. She reacted REALLY angry and told me to leave without her. I was taken aback by her reaction - I think it was a bit overreacting. Well I wasn't about to leave her, especially since she was staying at my house that night. I went and sat outside the crowd, and told her where I was. I texted her to meet me whenever she was ready, no rush.
Well the concert ended and everyone cleared out - there was no sign of her. I called her and she said she couldn't find me so she was in a cab to the train station. I don't even think she looked for me, because I told her a distinct landmark that I was right in front of. But anyways, I got in a cab and followed to the train station.
Once I got there, I found her and gave her the ticket. She started yelling that I was being a bitch and I just apologized and asked her what I could do to make it better. She just walked away. She disappeared and did not sit with me on the train, and ended up sleeping at her ex boyfriend's house rather than mine. I texted her a long, sincere apology - no response. I haven't heard from her since.
Anyway, I think she should apologize for overreacting, but I know I will never get that out of her. We've been friends for 18 years and have had fights like this before. It always happens that everything is my fault and I'm a terrible friend, and she can do no wrong (not always true, of course).
I guess I just have to give her time? Any suggestions/comments/advice would be great! Even if you agree that I'm a bitch and deserve the anger :) (link)
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If you were a guy, I'd tell you to dump the cow without hesitation.
"She started yelling that I was being a bitch and I just apologized and asked her what I could do to make it better."
If you were a guy, I would explain to you that the medium is the message. If your g/f starts yelling at you in the middle of the mall, the message is not whatever it is she is saying, the message is "It's ok for me to yell at you in the middle of the mall".
But you're not a guy. The difference is that a guy is only really allowed to have one g/f at a time. So - are you allowed to have more than one friend at a time? Or does this person break it up the moment she notices you getting cosy with someone else?
Because if she does, you should take the advice I'd give to a guy in this situation.
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I'm Kayla and I'm 23 years old. I have been battling with depression for a year and a half now. My life is pretty great actually. I have my very own beautiful house that I pay for, with the help of my 2 best friends, I have a wonderful boyfriend that loves me more than life itself, I have a college degree, a stable job, a car, a dog, everything people typically strive for. But somehow, I am just not satisfied. I think I hate myself and will never give myself the credit for my accomplishments. I hate my face. My nose is way too big, bigger than any nose I've seen on anyone. It's not little and cute like every other nose. It's long, pointy, with a huge hump. My hair is too dry, I can't do anything with it. My toes are all the same size and look ridiculous in sandals. I can't find any clothes I like to wear because I feel so ugly 100% of the time and no crop top or accessories can make me feel sexy. My boyfriend wants to have sex ALL the time but I never want to. I used to be 100 pounds like 6 months ago. I had a flat stomach, abs, bathing suit body to a T. Now I'm 130, my stomach pokes out, sometimes I look pregnant. I know most people think "oh poor you." but it's really messing with my head. I think about suicide on a daily basis. Everytime I drive, I think "If i just turn the wheel and close my eyes, I won't feel a thing". Everytime I walk into my garage, I think "All I have to do is leave that door closed and turn the car on and just sit here and breathe." Every time I'm at home and my roommates are gone (like this week, they're in New York; We live in Texas) I think "I'm sure I can guess the code on Caitlyns safe and get her gun. One second, boom, don't feel a thing". These are thoughts that bombard me every single day. And leave me with whatifs. I have never made an attempt. But I think that's only because I'm scared to feel pain. I would never drown myself, or set myself on fire, or jump off a bridge. Is this doctor worthy? Can I just get assurance that I'm not the only one who feels like this? Why am I not satisfied with my life? I know it could be alot worse. Please help me :(
Sincerely,
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Yeah, pretty major problems there.
"I know most people think "oh poor you.""
Paranoid delusions. This is some really rather serious sh*t. Take this post you wrote and show it to a doctor.
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I want to apologize if this ends up being a little long, but please take the time to read it if you can. Let's say that you had a friend (a 27 year old man) who you cared for very much who's behavior towards his ex girlfriend is starting to worry you.
We'll call this guy by his first initial, D. D basically stole this girl from his good friend, P after having not shut up about her or left her alone for a while. It was a little creepy the way he'd talk about his friend's girlfriend and the way he'd look at her, but whatever. They ended up getting together eventually anyway.
You got the feeling that D didn't think he was good enough for this girl, who we'll call A. While they are both attractive, A is kind of out of D's league. D is boyishly good looking in a way that not everyone sees. Also he's gained quite a bit of weight and started dying his hair a weird color. A is jaw droppingly beautiful. She's very different and interestingly looking and has gorgeous features, but is very, very modest.
D was always paranoid that A was going to cheat on him or that she was only dating him because she was too modest to know that she was out of his league. He was always worried that she'd eventually realize that he was prettier than he was and she'd dump him for it. To be honest, I think she already knew, but wasn't as shallow as he was and got sick of him worrying so much about it.
I knew it wouldn't work anyway. They were too different. A is a devout Christian while D is a staunch,militant atheist. A is more conservative while D is very liberal. And they have different values and goals in life. It was bound to fall about eventually, the only question was when.
A broke up with D a couple of weeks ago when her ex boyfriend, J came back. J is a lot like A and is definitely more in her league than D. He is, like her, jaw droppingly beautiful. To say that he is movie star handsome would be an understatement. He's a Christian, he's more conservative, and his personality, values, and goals are more like hers.
It's for the best that they broke up, but D is unwilling to stand for it. I've tried to tell him that he's better off because they were too different and because she's kind of a player anyway, but he won't let her go. He calls her all the time and gets crazy, tornado pissed when she won't answer. He asks her friends where she goes all the Tim, specifically with J and then shows up at those places and begs her to come back to him. He shows up at her house all of the time and stands outside of her window while she's asleep just to be near her.
He made a comment once about how he wished he was stronger and more in shape so he could use his muscles to keep A and J away from each other. D's not a big guy. He's about 5'7 with no muscle and a lot of fat. J is over 6 feet tall and would be all skin and bones is t wasn't for his muscles. He's got some good sized ones and if he and D ever got in a fight, J would win. Even A would have a chance at taking him if they got in a fight.
The comment he made implied that he'd beat J and intimidate A out of leaving him if he could. I don't think he ever actually physically hurt them, but I know he's thought about it and wishes he at least had the ability to do so.
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"D was always paranoid that A was going to cheat on him"
A very sensible thing to think, seeing as he "stole" her off P.
"A is a devout Christian"
A is a devout hypocrite if she is having sex with someone to whom she is not married. You say that A is "jaw-droppingly beautiful". People tend to think better of attractive people than they deserve, and it seems to me that that's what you are doing here.
"A broke up with D a couple of weeks ago when her ex boyfriend, J came back."
LOLZ! So A was only doing D because she was temporarily without her preferred "the D", if you know what I mean. How long did she last without getting some? A month? A week? My picture of A begins to come into focus.
"I've tried to tell him that he's better off because they were too different and because she's kind of a player anyway"
No kidding. That's putting it mildly. He religion means nothing to her, her relationship with J means nothing to her, and poor Mr D (whose penis she was using for a while, until J came back) means less than nothing to her.
"Does D sound like a stalker? If so, what, as his friend, can I do about it?"
No. If he'd been going through her trash or spying through their windows, *then* he would sound like a stalker. He's just coming to grips with the problem that he has been steamrolled by some attractive people.
You know what this sounds exactly like? It sounds like the plot of "The Great Gatsby".
"They were careless people, Tom and Daisy--they smashed up things and creatures and then retreated back to their money or their vast carelessness, or whatever it was that kept them together, and let other people clean up the mess they had made."
My advice? Show him my post here. Let him read this:
D, you know how you feel that A would be more into you if you were better-looking? You are absolutely right. She would. Loose weight. Get in shape. Maybe even take up a martial art, for confidence. Oh, you won't get A again cause all the work in he world won't make you tall, but you will be able to get the P you want. Leave J and A to it.
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Hi I'm a 19 year old single female and I have a male friend who is 49 he always acts odd when my mom is around and when he is alone with me he puts his fingers in between my fingers and rubs my hand.
I lost my father to suicide 3 years ago and I don't really know if he is trying to be supportive or just creepy btw one time I was walking and my mom was inside the house when he put his hand in my back jean pocket I don't know if he was feeling my butt or what he was doing.
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I am a guy, and I will be 49 later this year, ok?
Dude wants to bone you, girl. The whole "like a father thing" is only with respect to people who actually are your biological daughters. If he didn't have to empty your potty when you were an infant, then he does not feel fatherly towards you.
Dude wants to bone you. Oh sure, life slows down a bit for a man once he hits 45. But it doesn't stop altogether.
And yeah, he was totally feeling your butt.
As to how to deal with it - can't help you with that.
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My best friend has been in my life since childhood. We grew up together, went through middle and (most of) high school together. That was until our junior year when she got her first serious boyfriend. She was 16 and he was around 26. Within a few weeks she fell head over heels for him and started talking to me less and less. he would get mad when she came over, or even talked to me too much. he said i would get her hurt or not watch out for her well enough. she was her own person but he acted like she was his child. eventually he made her choose between us and ultimately she did, and we weren’t really true friends again until after graduation. i now understand that she’s in an abusive relationship. we have talked about that since then and she has come to terms with it. she has said she was scared before, and then the next day she will be happily in love. we both just turned 20 and for years it has been a roller coaster of a relationship. we will secretly reunite and email in private, sometimes even videotaping or meeting for lunch. she will always say she wants to leave him, but she never does. we will talk for months and get really attached again, it’s like we’re friendship soulmates in that way. she’s like a sister to me. i have a connection with her like no one else, ever. no matter how long it has been we will reunite and within weeks it will be like the old days. she will eventually tell him she wants to be my friend and then after a while he makes her choose. we will talk about a plan for her to leave him but she never follows through with it and i will be left in the dust. once or twice i have went with her to leave him (at hear request) and he always talks her out of it. he’s so controlling. she can’t see her friends, family, go anywhere, etc. she never leaves him no matter how depressed she becomes. it’s like a cycle, sometimes he will be okay and give her freedom, and then he will get worse again. that’s usually when she decides to email me again. i don’t want to victim blame but she is hurting me! even if she is in an abusive relationship. i want to help her and be there for her but it’s really negatively affecting me. i don’t think she wants to hurt me, but she definitely does. we were friends in secrets from january to march and then he found out and it eventually ended AGAIN. she just emailed me a few days ago saying: "this is nothing more than a happy birthday email. hope you’re doing okay, and so is your family and pets. i got another ferret, he’s the cutest. anyway, like i said this is nothing more than just a happy birthday. hope this doesn’t upset your day. “ /// i don’t know what to reply to this. i want to, but i don’t want to get hurt. what does she want from me? she says we can’t be friends and that she will never message me again until she leaves her boyfriend. does she want me to reply? is she just taunting me? it instantly upset me and i can’t stop thinking about it. what do i do? i miss my best friend more than anything. i don’t know what to do. i just want her back in my life but i don’t have much hope. i want to be there for her, what if her life is bad? from her social media she seems to be happy but i know looks can be deceiving. what does she want me to do? i’m so lost. i feel like such an idiot trying to go back and help her and then getting hurt over and over again.
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I'm getting the feeling you are a guy.
This person has you on a string - you are her plan B (or C, or D, or even more). All she has to do is send you a text or email once every six months or so to keep you on the leash.
Can I recommend some music?
"Reelin' in the years" - Steely Dan
"Jessie" - Joshua Kadison
And there's thousands more just like those two. I only know those two in particular 'cause I am getting old.
You need to move on. You say that she's like a sister. I don't believe it, 'cause I'm a guy too. You need to accept, to deep-down accept in your bones that this girl will never, never, never have sex with you.
Ever.
I mean *ever*.
Not going to happen. If she snagged a 26yo when she was 16, dude: even if you caught her, you wouldn't know what to do with her.
Get over it. No contact. None. If you feel like some drama, suggest that you have a g/f and just see how fast she comes on to you to try to break it up. But I say skip the drama. You don't need this. Get a g/f. Have sex with a hooker. Whatever. There is no way this "relationship" plays out such that you wind up winning the girl. She has better options, and always will do.
Give it up, and get on with your life.
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Hi i am 16 and my last relationship with a guy who is more than 6yrs older than me.We never had sex because it was sort of a LDR. We would send dirty pics and videos but honestly i liked to do it for my bf... he would masturbate over me and i would just barely touch myself ...just place my hand. My bf and i broke up but we still talk as normal. But i am now really horny for him. Recently i have start playing with my clitoris so that i can have an orgasm.It doesnt work and i have to to it more than 3 times a day.i feel guilty in the end and say i would stop but i cant.when i touch myself my pelvic area hurts and ankle. I dont even know how an orgasm feels or what suppose to happen.i hate feeling horny and not touching myself until i feel better but i also hate touching myself. I dont watch sex videos because i dont want to be addicted to it. What should i do continue touching since i can not penetrate myself or stop? If i should stop how can i? (link)
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"Hi i am 16 and my last relationship with a guy who is more than 6yrs older than me."
So, 16/22+. In many places, this kind of relationship is called "statutory rape". I'd rather be giving this guy some advice than you, I'd be saying "Stop it, man - it ain't worth it. Find someone else, or wait two years."
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I do competitive cheerleading and I love it a lot but since I am going into my sophomore year of high school I really want to focus on that. Also, it cost a lot of money and my family doesn't own that much. I was on a different team last year and I loved it so much. This year my heart isn't really in it and I dread going to practice. I want to quit so I don't have to worry about these things but I don't want to lose my friends and I also I don't want to end up regretting my decision to quit. What should I do? (link)
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"This year my heart isn't really in it and I dread going to practice."
There's your answer there.
Will you lose your friends? If cheerleading is all you and they do, then yes. Sorry. People move on, it's part of life. It's a little sad, but its not the end of the world.
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20/f
I have been dating this really sweet guy for a few months. But my mom won't accept him cause she thinks I deserve better. In her head she thinks I'm something special just because I'm pretty,quite intelligent and study medicine. He may not go to college,but he is hardworking and he really cares about me. The main reason she won't accept him is that he wears hearing aid,which to her makes him disabled. I honestly couldn't care less about that,just because he lost his hearing due to an accident doesn't make him a bad person. Also she minds because he is from a village and I'm from a city. She thinks he wants to take me away from them and trap me as a housewife. In short,she demonizes him because of some prejudice and she has never even met him. I tried talking some sense into her but she sticks to her opinion. (link)
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How many times have we seen this movie? This man will sacrifice everything to put you through med school, and you will dump him the second you start earning more than him.
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Hi there.
I have a crazy problem.
I'm nearly 17, a girl haha and the guy whom I'm going to be dating soon is 31.
Is that too old?
He doesn't have kids and isn't a freak like that, I've known him for a very longn time and we've always had a connection.
Would that make people uneasy?
What should I do??
Coz me and him definitely have a future :)
Anyways,
Thankyou
From:
Ella xoxo
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Age minus seven and then doubled it the limit for "creepy". So for you, the upper bound is 20. 31 is way too old.
And yes - he'll wind up on the sex offender's register and never be able to work again.
"Going to be dating soon" - what an interesting way of putting it. Does the guy have any idea that this is about to start happening?
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I am a 24 year old woman, who has decided that she wants a baby within the next 2 or 3 years. Currently I am not in the financial position to have one in the nearer future.
Considering that I will be graduating within a few months, I think that 2 or 3 years is realistic (do not dissuade me). We should both be working, starting our careers, and living together by then.
The problem is that my 26 year-old boyfriend of four years says that he does not plan on ever having kids. Yet, he constantly talks about wanting a future with me, and I cannot see myself without him. If I left him I think it would absolutely wreck the both of us.
The funny thing is that he constantly jokes about me getting pregnant. For example, I was speaking to him on Mother's Day, and he said, "You might be celebrating Mother's Day this time next year."
On a more serious note, he has asked me if we had a child if I would consider vaccinating him or her. I told him that of course I would. He was satisfied with my answer, and told me that if I had answered the other way he would have had to break up with me. The two of us also experienced a pregnancy earlier this year, and after we found out that I definitely wasn't, I asked him if he had a full-time job if it would be such a bad thing. He said, "Absolutely not."
I know that I need to have a serious talk with him. This is very important to me. Is it likely that I could talk him into planning to have a baby with me within the next 2 or 3 years? (link)
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"I am a 24 year old woman, who has decided that she wants a baby within the next 2 or 3 years."
Stop.
I'll give you the same answer I give to anyone else posting this exact same quandry.
Stop calling it a "baby" and start calling it a "child", because babies are not babies for very long. The very fact that you use that word indicates that you are not really coming to terms with the reality of what you are proposing.
"I am a 24 year old woman, who has decided that she wants a child within the next 2 or 3 years."
Does that change anything? If it does, well - that's significant.
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Why does everybody lie soooooo much?! For some unknown reason, people lie to me, especially! Certain people keep thinking that I'm not smart enough to notice a lie when I hear it. For example, my ex-boyfriend told me that my best friend black mailed him so that he can stop liking me and that story seemed so outrageous, it was hard to believe. So I told my best friend about it and she told me that he's lying. So I confronted him about it and he said "Stop fucking jumping to conclusions." Now he's saying that he loves me when I know that he doesn't because how can you be able to lie so easily to the person you love, romantically that is. Why is it like people make it a habit to lie or destroy some bodies friendship just to get what they want? My ex is also saying that my best friend made her ex-boyfriend (which is also my ex's best friend) gay. It makes no sense since my best friends a girl and not all girls are like her unless her ex is so close minded to believe all girls are like her. I don't understand how someone I trusted, maybe even more than I trusted my best friend would want to break that so easily. I can't even talk to him without having second thoughts of every word that was coming out of his mouth is a lie. All of these boys that I know are so untrustworthy that it's crazy!
So in the end, why do people lie so much just to get what they want? Why do people lie in general? Why does it come so easy for people to lie? Why do some boys think of girls as unintelligent enough to notice their lies?
P.s. I'm 14/Girl (link)
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I'm not hearing that "everybody" lies so much. I'm hearing that your d-bag boyfriend does.
Maybe you should stop dating d-bags? Just a suggestion.
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