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Hi i am 16 and my last relationship with a guy who is more than 6yrs older than me.We never had sex because it was sort of a LDR. We would send dirty pics and videos but honestly i liked to do it for my bf... he would masturbate over me and i would just barely touch myself ...just place my hand. My bf and i broke up but we still talk as normal. But i am now really horny for him. Recently i have start playing with my clitoris so that i can have an orgasm.It doesnt work and i have to to it more than 3 times a day.i feel guilty in the end and say i would stop but i cant.when i touch myself my pelvic area hurts and ankle. I dont even know how an orgasm feels or what suppose to happen.i hate feeling horny and not touching myself until i feel better but i also hate touching myself. I dont watch sex videos because i dont want to be addicted to it. What should i do continue touching since i can not penetrate myself or stop? If i should stop how can i?
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"Hi i am 16 and my last relationship with a guy who is more than 6yrs older than me."
So, 16/22+. In many places, this kind of relationship is called "statutory rape". I'd rather be giving this guy some advice than you, I'd be saying "Stop it, man - it ain't worth it. Find someone else, or wait two years."
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At your age, I had trouble too. Its a matter of practice and learning to notice what places to touch, use lube to increase the friction, use different speeds, and softer or harder rubbing. Experiment until you finally have an orgasm.
You will want a time and place where you're not going to be disturbed. For starters, laying in bed is best. There are a couple basic ways to massage down there.
Using just one finger (your index finger is best), very lightly and softly glide over the middle of your vagina and clitoris, from top to bottom, up and down. Really listen to your body to feel which areas provide the most pleasure and stimulation when touched.
Above your vagina is your clitoris, under the clitoral hood. For many women, your clitoris will provide you with the most pleasure when masturbating. Simply rub your finger over and back side to side. Or try concentrating on massaging just towards one side of the clit and then the other. I tend to be more sensitive on one side than the other. Everyone is different so theres really no right or wrong. Make sure to experiment with the amount of pressure you apply along with how fast you are stroking.
There is nothing wrong with touching yourself. Its natural and do it as often as you need. I remember when young doing it over and over until I had about 3 orgasms in an evening.
As to how it feels, or what happens, its hard to put into words. You know what adrenaline feels like when you've been scared or something, that pounding racing feeling in your heart and veins. Well, thats the closet I can describe what your body can feel with shorter breaths or heavier breathing, and it starts as a nice tingle in the area you massage and then like a coil, feelings start winding up tighter and tighter, growing stronger and spreading to consume the whole pelvic region or for some, experiencing the sensation full body until you reach the most intense pinnacle where it feels like all the sensations explode in you and then slowly start unwinding again. Once you're really good at this, you can even experience after shocks. Like after a major earthquake, where your body jerks ramdomly , or the womb does, for a split second, as these after shocks slowly grow weaker. You can also experience your legs feeling limp as noodles and unable to move or walk for a minute or two. It doesnt happen every time for everyone but thought to mention it as I wasnt expecting it as a teen and it scared the crap out of me. Once you get this all figured out, the next step will be your g-spot. Dont worry about that though. If and when you do get ready to attempt g spot manipulation for a different kind of orgasm, also good, look up info on line, or better yet, write to me and I'll explain best I can. There are still so many people who believe it is a myth and women aren't capable of doing so but that is so false. Scientists have recently made great strides in learning more of the female g spot and how that all works.
good luck dear.
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