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Why do people lie so much?
Why does everybody lie soooooo much?! For some unknown reason, people lie to me, especially! Certain people keep thinking that I'm not smart enough to notice a lie when I hear it. For example, my ex-boyfriend told me that my best friend black mailed him so that he can stop liking me and that story seemed so outrageous, it was hard to believe. So I told my best friend about it and she told me that he's lying. So I confronted him about it and he said "Stop fucking jumping to conclusions." Now he's saying that he loves me when I know that he doesn't because how can you be able to lie so easily to the person you love, romantically that is. Why is it like people make it a habit to lie or destroy some bodies friendship just to get what they want? My ex is also saying that my best friend made her ex-boyfriend (which is also my ex's best friend) gay. It makes no sense since my best friends a girl and not all girls are like her unless her ex is so close minded to believe all girls are like her. I don't understand how someone I trusted, maybe even more than I trusted my best friend would want to break that so easily. I can't even talk to him without having second thoughts of every word that was coming out of his mouth is a lie. All of these boys that I know are so untrustworthy that it's crazy!
So in the end, why do people lie so much just to get what they want? Why do people lie in general? Why does it come so easy for people to lie? Why do some boys think of girls as unintelligent enough to notice their lies?
P.s. I'm 14/Girl
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I'm not hearing that "everybody" lies so much. I'm hearing that your d-bag boyfriend does.
Maybe you should stop dating d-bags? Just a suggestion.
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I'm glad you put your age because that explains part of why. You already probably know that it is very important to all teens to feel liked, wanted and accepted, they don't like to be different or seem odd or weird, they often have a low self confidence and low self image, they are stressed and many these days are confused as to how to act because the parents even if good role models have a good portions of society and media showing teens a different way to be.
Now add in the fact that the frontal lobe of the brain in teens is not complete yet in growing to adulthood and won't be until at least ones mid 20's. this part of the brain is responsible for how we interact with and treat other people, and affects our decisions making...not able to comprehend what consequences may come from any action. This all can make ones teen years miserable. Lies are used to cover up when a person feels caught red handed, so of course the lie will be obvious. People are growing up not learing to be willing to own up to their mistakes, tell the truth and ask for forgiveness.
But I was once a teen and I steered clear of the people who were too immature and lied and cheated and treated me badly. I found enough friends who treated me well and had no reason to lie to me. Yes, there are still people like that and you;ll find even more as the ages grow. More at 17, 18 than now and a heck of a lot more from 25 or 30 and on. Its a matter of learning how to find these people, are they in some kind of group? Maybe, but for the most part, they will seem loners with just a couple friends. Or you might try to befriend some kids who attend church or attend a youth group yourself. I am not saying you won't find kids in this setting who aren't as bad as the ones you know. the difference is their parents and youth pastor are working hard with them to teach them the right way and a good many will have caught on. Not perfect, but a sight better than what you are dealing with. I also eventually attended a youth group when I was a teen, and though I no longer attend church, it was a safe place to find some friends of a much better caliber.
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