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Being a bit pushy.
I have a boyfriend, and we've been going out for 3 months. We started really nice and everything was lovely. Recently he's been under pressure due to stuff going on at home, even though he won't talk to me about it much. We were at his house and he got really upset. I tried to hug him but he pushed me down onto the floor, it didnt hurt much but it was a shock. Numerous occasions after this he's hit me or shoved me when he's got annoyed. I know he's stressed, but he doesnt apologise. He just pretends it never happens. Im beinning to bruise and im scared. What should I do? (17, girl.)
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You need to get out now. These things ALWAYS escalate. It's particularly worrying that he doesn't show any remorse, because it means he thinks it's ok. It isn't. Trust me, leave NOW while you still can. Before he rapes you or beats you severely or kills you. You deserve much, much better. He will undermine your self esteem so you stay with his loser ass. He already has from the sound of it or you wouldn't be asking, you would be out the door. He will not change, he will get worse and worse as he knows he can get away with it. Check out project unbreakable. A hell of a lot of girls your age are raped by their bf and he sounds like the type. There is a lot of help out there for you. This is not your fault. He has probably seen this behaviour growing up and will repeat the pattern with you.
Good luck.
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Honestly? Break up with him. Please. Now let me explain why..
A friend of mine was in an abusive relationship, and I believe it started out the exact same way you've just described, but she stuck around. She made up excuses as to why she should stay. She justified his actions exactly like you are by saying "he's just stressed". You need to realize that that is in no way an excuse. Because my friend had stayed with him, it showed him that his actions were acceptable because she did nothing about it. Things for her only got worse. He was pushing her down stairs, and hitting her to the point she had bruises. You need to remember that none of this is your fault and that in no way do you deserve what he is doing. You need to get yourself out of that relationship before it gets worse and you become hospitalized. If you break up with him and he threatens you (which I've heard has happened to people), make sure to get the police involved.
Remember to take care of yourself. You deserve so much more, and I know it's out there for you. Remember how much you're worth. I really hope this helped you in some way, and I wish you the best of luck <3 Wish I could do more for you.
~RF
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Please break up with him - you're in what's turning out to be an abusive relationship. Don't give him the benefit of the doubt because he's "stressed" - we all get stressed. It doesn't mean you can take it out on your partner and harm them physically or mentally.
You do not deserve this. You've been together for 3 months - it should be the happiest time.. not where you're scared of the next time he will lash out at you.
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You should call it off with him. If that's what he does when he is stressed, who knows what he'll do to you when he gets really upset. Trust me it only gets worse, because the boy feels he is in control of you. A man should never hit a woman, no matter what the situation is.
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You need to break up with him ASAP. Him having problems at home is not an excuse at all. You deserve way better than someone pushing you around and hurting you physically which will turn into emotionally. You're 17, even if you like him a lot, you CAN find someone else, who will treat you like a princess. Hope I helped! Good luck!
-Bri
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Break up with him.
Or at least, tell him that this behavoir is a serious problem, and that this is is final warning. The next time he pushes or shoves you in anger, get to a safe place, and then break up with him.
The fact he even goes so far as to simply pretend that it never happens, makes this an even bigger problem. He isn't being 'a bit pushy'. He is being 'a bit abusive'.
NOTHING he is going through at home, makes this excusable. It is one of the worst kinds of things you can do to your partner is take your anger out on them physically. It shows a lack of respect and self control that is completely unacceptable.
If you are too afraid to speak to him about this, then that fear should be listened too. That degree of fear means the relationship is already over, and you need to end it.
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