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I have a boyfriend, and we've been going out for 3 months. We started really nice and everything was lovely. Recently he's been under pressure due to stuff going on at home, even though he won't talk to me about it much. We were at his house and he got really upset. I tried to hug him but he pushed me down onto the floor, it didnt hurt much but it was a shock. Numerous occasions after this he's hit me or shoved me when he's got annoyed. I know he's stressed, but he doesnt apologise. He just pretends it never happens. Im beinning to bruise and im scared. What should I do? (17, girl.) (link)
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You need to get out now. These things ALWAYS escalate. It's particularly worrying that he doesn't show any remorse, because it means he thinks it's ok. It isn't. Trust me, leave NOW while you still can. Before he rapes you or beats you severely or kills you. You deserve much, much better. He will undermine your self esteem so you stay with his loser ass. He already has from the sound of it or you wouldn't be asking, you would be out the door. He will not change, he will get worse and worse as he knows he can get away with it. Check out project unbreakable. A hell of a lot of girls your age are raped by their bf and he sounds like the type. There is a lot of help out there for you. This is not your fault. He has probably seen this behaviour growing up and will repeat the pattern with you.
Good luck.
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I am Junior in High School and I have been contemplating suicide for a few years. This year, it's appeared in my thoughts more often than previous years. I am drowning in my own misery and I wish I could silence this storm in my mind. I feel empty and yet I have a loving family and a wonderful girlfriend. Nothing heart-wrenching has occurred recently and I have no idea why I feel this pain. I know how selfish it is, but I'm very puzzled. Often, I feel like I'm the source of disappointment and pain of all whom I love. This "feeling" has consumed me completely and I've cut many relationships with family and friends. But, no one takes my struggle seriously and some even encourage it. I don't know what to do with myself.
I just want to disappear for a while or sleep. I just feel so dead and empty but everything is going so well. The other day, I carelessly plugged in a rice cooker with wet hands and it sparked, but I was unharmed. I was verbally scolded and as I ignored it the only words that I heard were, "I don't give a damn about that thing! It's you I'm worried about! That's replaceable, but there's only one you!"
That makes me want to kill myself all the more. (link)
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The thing with suicide is it really only hurts the people who love you. You will devastate all of their lives forever. They are the victims of a suicide. Not you. Trust me i know. My beautiful 20 yr old nephew went home one day and hung himself he didnt leave a note and no one has any idea why he did it. He had everything to live for. ( But depression does run in his family and these things often appear in your late teens early 20s.) It has utterly destroyed his family and his many, many friends. It sounds very much like you have a chemical imbalance which is strongly effecting your thoughts and emotions. You need to see a dr and a psychologist ASAP. This is not your fault and not something you can fix yourself. You will probably find that medication will help greatly. But also taking to someone about how your feeling is very useful and will help you untangle what and why you feel the way you do. Good luck and remember that the only true constant in life is change. You will not feel this way forever, it only feels like it.
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Okay well does any-one know of a website that is free forever and has phycoligists that I can talk to 24/7 I was sexualy abused by my brother in-law and I don't know how to talk about it.by the way I'm 12 and he started it when I was 9 turning 10.I really need help urgently please (link)
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You are very smart and brave for coming forward and seeking help. You need to tell and keep on telling until you find someone who will listen to you and get you the help you need. It's really disappointing and hurtful that your mum is being unprotective but it's not that uncommon unfortunately. Mine was the same :( I wish I had been as brave as you and gotten help when I was a lot younger. The abuse has effected me very badly and wrecked much of my life because of that. I was 36 before i got the help i needed. So please don't give up! Perhaps a teacher, a friends mum or an aunt? There will be someone. What has happened to you is very serious and NONE of what happened was your fault. The abuser is ALWAYS to blame. You were a baby, you still are. He knew exactly what he was doing. Your town will have a rape crisis centre that will have free councilling. There are lots and lots of people who can and will help you. If you cannot find anyone you know to listen to you I would phone them. He is dangerous, guys like that usually gone on to hurt other girls. He should be held accountable for his actions, and you must ensure your safety.
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