I Am Going To Loose My V Card Soon. I Want To Know How To Spread My Vagina A Lil So That My First Time Wont Hurt So Bad.
Definitely use lube, as Jasmine said, but also remember to use a condom. Safe sex is very important. Other then that, it's still going to hurt a bit for your first time because, as a virgin, your vagina will be quite tight, and the penis is going to stretch it. Just thought I'd give you a heads up. Hope this helps!
~RF
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i have very regular period n this time missed it...today is 3rd day n hvnt had yet.having a headache also.pregnancy test showed negative.wat could it be
Just to add to what Adviceman said, I also know some people that have been pregnant and the test always showeed negative. So if you resort to what adviceman said and go to your gyn. doctor, also maybe ask for a blood test. Those are more accurate. Other then that, adviceman said it all :) Good luck!
~RF
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I have a boyfriend, and we've been going out for 3 months. We started really nice and everything was lovely. Recently he's been under pressure due to stuff going on at home, even though he won't talk to me about it much. We were at his house and he got really upset. I tried to hug him but he pushed me down onto the floor, it didnt hurt much but it was a shock. Numerous occasions after this he's hit me or shoved me when he's got annoyed. I know he's stressed, but he doesnt apologise. He just pretends it never happens. Im beinning to bruise and im scared. What should I do? (17, girl.)
Honestly? Break up with him. Please. Now let me explain why..
A friend of mine was in an abusive relationship, and I believe it started out the exact same way you've just described, but she stuck around. She made up excuses as to why she should stay. She justified his actions exactly like you are by saying "he's just stressed". You need to realize that that is in no way an excuse. Because my friend had stayed with him, it showed him that his actions were acceptable because she did nothing about it. Things for her only got worse. He was pushing her down stairs, and hitting her to the point she had bruises. You need to remember that none of this is your fault and that in no way do you deserve what he is doing. You need to get yourself out of that relationship before it gets worse and you become hospitalized. If you break up with him and he threatens you (which I've heard has happened to people), make sure to get the police involved.
Remember to take care of yourself. You deserve so much more, and I know it's out there for you. Remember how much you're worth. I really hope this helped you in some way, and I wish you the best of luck
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There is this girl who has been a great friend of mine for about 6-7 months now. We were basically great friends from the moment we met and everyone keeps telling us that we should date, some are even suspicious that we're secretly having a relationship. Yet neither of us really feels that way, I can't be sure about her but there were times when I thought that "hmmm, maybe..." but there was never this 'little push' that makes you actually fall in love.
We all know the stories of two people where everyone knows they're in love but themselves. Those stories got me thinking...
I mean, have any of you been in this situation and what happened then?
When we are confronted with it we both react kinda awkwardly, it's never like "Ewwww.no" but more like "why does everyone think that?". She also told me that "She didn't know what she was missing" when the girl I liked said no (A couple of months ago) . But of course she was just being nice.
I have gone through this with my best friend also. Me and him have been friends for a very long time, and so many people have asked us why we're not dating. Our reactions are about the same as the two of yours. What you really need to do is step back and think about it. Talk to her about it and see where you guys stand. If you're happy where you are, and find that you don't see eachother in that way, then just remain friends. However if you talk about it, you may find that you really do see eachotherthat way and then start dating from there. It could be like me and my friend; we love eachother, but more like a brother/sister kind of love, which is what you two might have aswell. The best advice I can really give is to seriously think about it from all the angles you can, and talk to eachother about it. And if your friends keep telling you to date and you find it becoming a little annoying, then just talk to them about it aswell and explain it to them in a way they'll understand. Hope this helped in some way! Good luck! :)
~RF
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Hello everyone. I have tried EVERYTHING to lose weight or so it feels like and I am finally willing to admit I can't do it on my own. Do you know where I could find weight loss support groups in my area? I don't even know where to look! What would it be called? "Fat people anonymous?" lol! I know that sounds funny but I have no idea how to find local ones. Can anyone help?
Honestly one of the best programs I've heard of is Weight Watchers. My ex's mother was a volunteer there and she loved it. I'd even look into that and see if there's one in your area. Otherwise google never really fails :) Sorry, I just don't know what area you're in or I may be able to help out a little more. Good luck though and hope it all works out for you! :)
~RF
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16/female -- him: 18/male
So me and this guy have been best friends for years and years and years. He's my rock. However, we've always felt extremely physically attracted to each other and recently weve started hooking up (not sex, everything but). I am NOT looking for a relationship and neither is he and we both made it clear that we did not like eachother or even wanted it be a "talking" (like pre-dating situation or dating without the title) none of that. (also, he didn't want anyone to know about us hooking up because he didnt want anyone else treating our relationship differently)z But I still wanted us to be friends and when we started hooking up he started getting a lot meaner. He's always teased me and his personality is not the kind to ever be serious or mushy but it felt different. Before when we hung out and he'd constantly make fun of me I liked it and it seemed harmless and funny. But now I can't even be around him without feeling awful about myself. He calls me stuff like worthless, helpless, stupid, and that's just not okay with me.
So that's when it started to go downhill. One of my friends found out we were hooking up and told all the rest of my friends (she saw my texts to him) so I was like well shit what am I gonna do so I just told them not to tell anyone. But he still found out they knew and he got so angry at me. I found out he had been showing his friends our conversations saying shit like "look how annoying she is, she acts like we're dating" WITHOUT telling them we hook up, making me look like some crazy desperate idiot. It was then that I told him how sick I was of how he treated me yadayadayada. I tried to tell him I didn't wanna hook up anymore but he convinced me it would work. And we worked it out. But then the next day he's like: "I changed my mind I don't wanna hook up anymore cause you told people about it" even though I explained to him what happened and he understood an we were fine about it? I was like wtf okay... And Idk why that pissed me off so much but it did. Cause then two days later he asks me to come over to "hang out" obvi we hooked up. But of course, when I asked him two nights ago he replied with a straight up "no." and then Didn't text me back te rest of te night.
I hate this. I just wanna be friends with him, hook up, and not feel any of this shit but I honestly feel like I've been dumped? I HATE looking stupid and I feel sooo stupid. It seems like he doesn't even wanna be around me... like he's embarrassed by me.. Even though when his friends found out what we do they were like damn that's impressive we never thought you'd get her. And he's gotten better about being nice but he still makes me feel pretty shitty sometimes. He found out I was considering hooking up with my ex and he called me a stupid slut. Like why am I still wasting my time with someone who makes me feel awful more than he makes me feel better? He says he cares about me but I know if I tell him I don't wanna talk to him anymore or anymore I feel like he won't even give two shits. And that would hurt most of all. So PLEASE someone help me??:(
Guys like this want nothing but a hook up. Him calling you names is probably his way of making himself feel all bad-ass, when really it just makes him look like a terrible person. You need to stop hooking up with him, and if you want to still be friend with him, you need to talk to him about what he's doing and how it's making you feel. No friend should ever make you feel worthless, otherwise they really aren't your friends. Another issue that hadn't been addressed is the fact that I think you also should talk to your friends. I'm sure they didn't mean anything by it, but I think it would benefit you if you told them not to go around talking about your personal life behind your back. It's not fair to you. Anyways, back to the guy, if you talk to him and he ends up saying he doesn't want to be friends anymore or something, keep your chin up. Just hold onto the thought that he wasn't really a friend if he treated you that way and then just left when you finally stood up for yourself. I hope this helped you in some way, and I really wish you luck!
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So I'm 12 year olds in 6th grade and please you don't have to starts throwing suff at me saying I'm to young for this site and love and blah blah blah!
So anyways I'm a female. I have a twin brother who has a friend and that friend is also my friend now too. This guy (the freind) texts me a lot saying hey or hi. I used to be mean to him back then because I hated him so much cause I though he was a jerk but thay was 4th grade. Now he's more mature, athletic, and just nice a fun guy. He and I are good friends and have told eachother whowe have liked this year and stuff (he used to like me). So lately we haven't txted much but I look forward from getting a text from him. I realized that I have feeling for him and like him a lot. I really wanna date him but my Mom wouldn't be satisfyed and it would be awkward telling her. How do I tell this guy I like him not so awkwardly and drop hints. Also i forgot to add that a lot of guys like me or have liked me in the past which probably made him let go of liking me. Please, what should I do? If we do date I don't want anyone knowing except us but where could we ever be alone? Advice? i dont even wann-t my parents, brother, sister, friends, hs friends or anyone but me and him knowing whch probably wont be the case but i just want him. It's just something about his personality. Any advice is needed and i will take any. Btw i rate on what i think you deserve :)Thanks so much for reading this long thing and dont be afraid to answer ;) :P! Hehe
Honestly, being your age I'm not sure where you could go with him to be alone. If you really like him, then just go for it! Wait until you see him alone and just tell him. Make sure to let him know that if he doesn't feel the same, then you'd still like to be friends, because I'm sure you don't want to lose that. As for no one knowing, that might be difficult. But if he agrees to give it a shot, then maybe you can work together on finding some solutions. Honestly, I'd say you should tell your parents, but that's my opinion. It's your decision ultimately, but I really think you should. At least then you'd be able to go back to your house. Hope this helped a bit!
~RF
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Basically, im a 16 year old girl who one night decided to go to a party that my mom did not know about. I told her i was staying at a friends and ended up stranded, so i stayed at a boys house with a few of his football friends. I ended up getting really drunk and one of the boys, who i do not know, forced me onto the sofa, unbuttoned my trousers and fingered me against my will. I tried everything to get him off but i was too drunk so i started to cry, he then said if i tell everyone hes going to start rumours about me. What do i do?
Tell your parents. By far the best thing you can do. Either them or the police. Trust me. I've gone through something similar, and I made the mistake of not telling anyone. My friends knew, of course, but I couldn't tell my mom. And every day I wonder if the jerk has done something worse to someone else all because I was too young and too scared to tell someone. Just know that it's normal to be scared, but make sure you also know that this is not your fault. Don't be worried about the "rumors" he said he'd spread, because what he did to you is way worse then anything he could possibly say. And if you're too scared to tell your parents to their face, even write it in a letter to them. I'm sure they'll be more worried about your well-being then the fact that you were underage drinking. I really hope your okay, and I hope that you'll find a way to tell someone!
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what can you do when you`re so lost you dont know what you`re doing anymore and want to kill yourself but dont really know which way to do it?
Honestly, I was in the exact same position as you. I wanted to die, but I perservered. So you want to know what you should do? Sit down, take a deep breath, and talk to someone you can trust about it. If it's worse then just something you need to talk through, then go to the doctor or the hospital and they'll be able to help you. Don't think your alone. Just take deep breaths and take days one at a time. I can promise you that it won't feel like things will get better, but they will.
~RF
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what are songs about fathers not being in their daughters life and how much they have been hurt by them.
I love this song. It reminds me of my dad who left before I was one.. I still talk to him, but yeahh.. Anyways, hope you like it.
Perfect - Simple Plan
Hey Dad look at me
Think back and talk to me
Did I grow up according
To plan?
Do you think I’m wasting
My time doing things I
Wanna do?
But it hurts when you
Disapprove all along
And now I try hard to make it
I just want to make you proud
I’m never gonna be good
Enough for you
I can’t pretend that
I’m alright
And you can’t change me
‘Cause we lost it all
Nothing lasts forever
I’m sorry
I can’t be Perfect
Now it’s just too late
And we can’t go back
I’m sorry
I can’t be Perfect
I try not to think
About the pain I feel inside
Did you know you used to be
My hero?
All the days
You spent with me
Now seem so far away
And it feels like you don’t
Care anymore
And now I try hard to make it
I just want to make you proud
I’m never gonna be good
Enough for you
I can’t stand another fight
And nothing’ alright
‘Cause we lost it all
Nothing lasts forever
I’m sorry
I can’t be Perfect
Now it’s just too late
And we can’t go back
I’m sorry
I can’t be Perfect
Nothing’s gonna change
The things that you said
Nothing’s gonna make this
Right again
Please don’t turn your back
I can’t believe it’s hard
Just to talk to you
But you don’t understand
‘Cause we lost it all
Nothing lasts forever
I’m sorry
I can’t be Perfect
Now it’s just too late
And we can’t go back
I’m sorry
I can’t be Perfect
‘Cause we lost it all
Nothing lasts forever
I’m sorry
I can’t be Perfect
Now it’s just too late
And we can’t go back
I’m sorry
I can’t be Perfect
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so ive been chatting this kid that goes to my friends school and we were supposed to meet up but we couldnt. and the next time i see him i want to wow him or whatever. i think he likes me he thinks im pretty and shit. and i rly dont want to be single anymore. i am really god at giving advice to my girlfriends on how to get a guy and go out, and it alwayd works. so for me i know them but if you guys know any tips can you say them please thank you. Also just in general what are some ways guys get attracted to girls and like them. Just some tips thanks
I've had alot of friends ask me this kind of question, so I'll give you the same advice as I gave them. Hang out with the guy, and see how it goes. If you want to wow him, maybe dress up a little bit, but only in what you're comfortable with. If you want a guy to like you, be yourself. Because if you're not yourself, and he starts like you, he won't know the real you and you won't actually be happy. And if you're being yourself and he ends up liking you, then you know he likes the REAL you, not just the you he'd hope you like. Goodluck and keep smiling! :)
~RF
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So I recently started hanging out with a new group of people because I started dating David, a really sweet boy I met a few months ago. I love his friends because they are all super crazy and fun and they know how to party and they are a very close knit group that actually like doing things together (which I always wanted). So basically dating David opened up this whole new lifestyle for me with constant activity and fun, and it's a dream come true. He's also very sweet and we love each other.
The problem?
In this group of friends there is one girl, Mia, who basically is in charge. She is dating Miguel, this really chill guy in the group and they are very very cute together, like the "it" couple. Everyone, myself included, loves them. However, this girl is basically the leader of the group in that whatever she wants to do, everyone follows. She is confident, very attractive and very cool. I'm not one to look for or need attention and I'm often cool with doing whatever everyone else wants to do, so this would not be a problem, except for, I cant help but feel weird about how much everyone (David included) talks about/fawns over her. It's not that I'm jealous, because I really admire her as well, but I get uncomfortable sometimes when I spend time with David and he talks about Mia and how she is...a lot. Plus I go to a different school on a different schedule than they do and so I cannot always hang out with them and David does because obviously they are his friends but one time he even blew off coming to see me because she wanted to go to a party (he went with her and her boyfriend and another friend).
I don't want all of this to sound petty, but I cant help feel that they all have high favoritism towards her, and it makes me feel anxious although I don't want it to and I try not to let it. I just don't know how I can feel better about this because I hate the fact that it makes me feel this way.
Also, it's not that I would EVER suspect David cheating or anything, this isn't the issue at all. Hes very sweet and he loves me and the thing about this whole ordeal is that I fit in very well with all of his friends but I don't get to see them that often so I'm not that close with all of them yet. I hope that once summer comes and I have free time I become closer to them, it just bothers me that I feel anxious about this girl when I shouldn't. I don't know how to make it stop. Advice?
My advice would be to try to speak up. Maybe everyone else follows her because no one else can think of anything to do. If there's something you'd like to do, suggest it. They either accept it or reject it, but at least you tried.
Maybe it's even just as simple as getting to know everyone better, then maybe things won't seem so favoritist(if that's a word).
Lastly, if it bothers you that your bf talks about her so much, just ask him not to. I had that problem with my bf and one of his friends, and I talked to him about it and everything's fine now. He probably just doesn't realize that it bothers you.
Hope this helped! Goodluck and keep smiling! :)
~RF
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Hi I really want to be in a beauty pageant but my mom thinks beauty pageants a demeaning to girls.I think I should have the option.natural beauty pageants is what I what to be in. How can I convice my mom to let me do one?
I agree with Jasmine. If you're close with your mom, maybe even ask if she'd help you out with outfits and makeup suggestions and whatnot and turn it into mother-daughter time. I think that would be really fun. Goodluck and keep smiling! :)
~RF
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Hey, im a guy in hs. And theres this girl in my class who is soooooooooo hot... i mean, oh my god. I dont know why, but i cant keep my eyes off her, and i dont know how the other guys in class dont even look at her. she is a cheerleader, perfect, tanned ass, legs, nice stomach, big tits. I just want her so bad and i want to do her.
But she is so hot that i just wanna go crazy and do something nasty to do, like grab at her outta nowhere. Dude, wtf, like, should i? or what. Damn.
Smack her in the face or no?
You honestly want to know what you should do? Stop oggling her and try getting to know her. Then if you guys hit it off, ask her out. Then you'll have a reason to look at her all the time.. but if she catches you staring, she might get nervous and creeped out. I know that's what happens to me. So, again, just try getting to know her and go from there! Goodluck and keep smiling! :)
~RF
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Theres this girl in my class... who has... the most... perfect ass. Like it is literally a work of art. And to all of you guys, im telling you, ITS A M A Z I N G. Like no joke. I wanna go up to this girl and ask if i can grab it, or if she can sit on my face. Should i ask her or no?
I'm sorry, but is this actually a serious question? DEFINITELY NO!!! And for future reference, don't ever think of just asking a girl to grab her ass or it WILL earn you a slap in the face.
~RF
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Im a guy, 18 years, and ive always wanted to move out of California and move somewhere more peaceful and happy.
AND I KNOW ALL OF YOU SAY, THAT CALIFORNIA IS THE "dream land" but its BS. I've been here all my life, and yeah, the weather is great, the girls, the beaches, sure. whatever.
But.
There is traffic up the ass...
People are rude, rich, obnoxious, stuckup
girls are slutty, unmannered, and have no values
guys are potsmokers and screw-ups
mainly, i just hate the people and the culture.
I've always wanted to move to Toronto. I went there last summer and my experience was great. People were nice, weather was nice and chilly, less traffic, more smiles, people were civilised( although not so friendly) but girls were classy and behaved.
Ive never been to Australia, so idk about that.
But 3 of my friends moved to the Southern Ontario region last year and each one of them tells me they love it.
Should i move there?
By what you said I'd suggest you moved to Canada. You wouldn't want to move to Australia only to find out you hate it. My dad lives in Ontario, and yes, it's very nice. But remember this; wherever you go there will always be those unmannered, not friendly people and you can't escape that. But if moving is what you really want to do, I say go for it! I love living in Canada, so if that's where you choose to go, I hope you enjoy it! Goodluck and keep smiling! :)
~RF
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I have never asked for advice before but this is really upseting my entire world. I will try to make this clear. Also, I will try to keep it anonymous by not including the actual wedding date and will use *'s before the made up names to disguise the real people. OK~here goes. I am 33 yrs old and the mother of one extraordinary son! In the month of May, 2011 (nothing like waiting till the last min I know and I apologize) my cousin is getting married, the guest list stops at second cousins due to large families. On our side of the family she(bride-to-be) only has 3 second cousins. Our cousin *AA's 2 children--(*AA1 & *AA2) and then me, *BB ,also her cousin and I have 1 son(*BB1) who is her second cousin. Now, according to the rules no second cousins are invited. However, *AA1 is in the wedding and *AA2 is her Godchild so both of them will be attending. This creates a situation where not only is my son the only child on our side of the family not invited but it just so happens then that he is also the ONLY FAMILY MEMBER on our side not invited. So essentially when our sides family picture is taken~my son would be the only one absent (if I would attend). To make feelings worse-nobody in my family seems to think this is wrong or hurtfull. In fact they have said many times(not to my face) that I should not take this personally. How can I not? I am really hurt! Even more so because not one person bothered to mention all of this to me-not even the bride-to-be. I only found out the second cousin rule by accident because I asked my aunt about a meal selection for my son or if he should just share with me! We all get along and there are no hard feelings or background incidents that need to be mentioned. In fact~we all celebrated Easter together and I was very warm and talkative to my cousin and her fiance hoping that one would explain more to me or at least address it but not one word was mentioned and I couldn't bring myself to ask. How do you suggest is the best way to handle this? Thank you so much! Miserable in MN
I agree with Adviceman, but I do also suggest you ask your cousin directly. Even ask her if it's because of your son's age, and if not, why it would be a big issue for one other person to come. Simply explain to her what you explain to us; that you feel hurt because your son is the only one being excluded. Hope that helps! Goodluck and keep smiling! :)
~RF
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I've been seeing this guy for about 3 months. I'm 20 and he's 25, so there's a bit of an age difference. He is also a college graduate and I'm not even in school right now. It's been going alright in that I really like him and I think he enjoys my company, in some way. The only thing is, i've been really shy from the beginning, basically. I'm so afraid to talk or to be myself, especially around someone whose opinion matters to me, especially around him.
Anyway, that just isn't cutting it for him. He's been silently pulling away, and I asked him why. He said that he doesn;t know me and he doesn't know my dreams or aspirations, he thinks I must be too laid-back to take hold of my life and go for it. He doesn't like my job. He wonders if we are too far apart in age, at different stages in our lives.
I answered him telling him basically that I'm afraid to open up, and that I haven't really felt comfortable around him (which is more about me than him) and probably a bunch of other stuff--I don't even want to read over what I said, it's too embarrassing.
He says that he wants to meet for coffee or something, but I'm afraid to. I don't want to face him. I feel pathetic, and I know that I can't hide it. I can't hide any of this anxiety anymore, but I don't want to put myself out there like that. I don't want him to know that i'm sad and alone and that I'm afraid of the world. I feel like i'm just feeling sorry for myself by telling him these things, and I worry that he pities me. I feel like this relationship will go nowhere because of my issues. Should I just face my fears and open up more about it? I really just want to say that this whole relationship doesn't feel right and that we should just move on, but i'd feel like a coward. I really just don't know what to do in this situation...part of me is angry at him for saying the things that he did.
Honestly? I think you should meet up with him. Tell him you like him, and just explain to him that you're just nervous around people you like. I'd suggest talking to friends or something so you can start opening up, and maybe you'll be able to become a little happier with yourself. Just let the guy know you ARE interested, and you understand where he's coming from, but that you're trying to sort your life out. You're still young. I'm 19, and I don't even know what I want to do yet. It's not the end of the world. Hope this helps a bit! Goodluck and keep smiling! :)
~RF
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So ive had a lot of the signs of pregnancy(headaches, nausea, fatigue, bloating, constipation, light headed/dizzy, cravings,slight cramps,gas etc) and my last 3 periods have been just heavy spotting for 3days and either early or late. I didnt really notice i could be pregnant until last week and since ive taken 3tests, all negative. Id be about 16weeks if i am. I was suppose to get my period friday and got a single light spot of dark almost brown blood(sorry if tmi) thursday and today but thats it. i dont have any cramps like i usually would. What should i do? btw, im 17 and has had my period since i was 10 so its pretty regular. i had sex jan 19th. and my last regular period was jan 5th.
16 weeks would not be too early for a pregnancy test. However, I do suggest going to the doctor. It sounds alot like you're pregnant, but the doctor will be able to help you the best. Just tell them your symptoms, and ask for a pregnancy test. If the urine test comes back negative, request a blood test. Urine tests are not always the most acurate, so if that becomes negativem just remember to take a blood test. Better to know then not know. And if that comes back negative, go back to the doctor and ask them what else could be wrong, or even request an ultrasound. That's what I did when I thought I might be.. and if you are, blood tests and ultra sounds are the most acurate. But regardless, go to the doctor because even if it's not pregnancy, there is probably something going on and it would be the safest to get a professional opinion. Hope this helps. Goodluck and keep smiling! :)
~RF
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Okay. So heres my ordeal. Im gay, 17 years old, and i have been crushing on this guy for a while now. I have just this far been dropping subtle hints, but he is the type that its hard for me to read his feelings. I dont know if he has the same feeling for me. Im guessing he is, but im not for certain. I dont know what to do, either give up and find a new guy, or tell him about my feelings and hope that he likes me back. Im very confused. so any advice at all would be great. thanks.
I definitely say go for it! When it comes to having a crush, it's better to let them know. If you give up, you'll always wonder what would've happened if you had told them. So just give it a shot, and worst comes to worst, he'll say no and then just ask him if he'd still like to be your friend. Goodluck and keep smiling! :)
~RF
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