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He said if i tell everyone hes going to start rumours about me. What do i do?
Basically, im a 16 year old girl who one night decided to go to a party that my mom did not know about. I told her i was staying at a friends and ended up stranded, so i stayed at a boys house with a few of his football friends. I ended up getting really drunk and one of the boys, who i do not know, forced me onto the sofa, unbuttoned my trousers and fingered me against my will. I tried everything to get him off but i was too drunk so i started to cry, he then said if i tell everyone hes going to start rumours about me. What do i do?
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Tell your parents. By far the best thing you can do. Either them or the police. Trust me. I've gone through something similar, and I made the mistake of not telling anyone. My friends knew, of course, but I couldn't tell my mom. And every day I wonder if the jerk has done something worse to someone else all because I was too young and too scared to tell someone. Just know that it's normal to be scared, but make sure you also know that this is not your fault. Don't be worried about the "rumors" he said he'd spread, because what he did to you is way worse then anything he could possibly say. And if you're too scared to tell your parents to their face, even write it in a letter to them. I'm sure they'll be more worried about your well-being then the fact that you were underage drinking. I really hope your okay, and I hope that you'll find a way to tell someone! <3
~RF
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Go to the police!! What he did was wrong. They will tell you that you were wrong for underage drinking but they wont charge you for it as you are a victim. If he starts spreading rumours about you all you need to do is tell them that he sexually assulted you and you're having him charged which has made him angry and causing him to lash out. When they find him guilty he will be considered a sex offender and its quite possible that he wont even get the opportunity to spread any rumours as he will be incarcerated!!
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Girl go talk to the police they will take care of you and you Raper honlistly if I saw him he would be dead after we tourcherd him
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You tell your parents what happened. Yes they will be upset but they will be more upset at the boy for what he did to you. He knows what he did is wrong and he knows what he did can get him in serious trouble. Trouble that very well could include a visit to a judge.
You were sexually assaulted. This is RAPE by the very definition of the word. In police terms they will call it Rape in the second or third degree depending on the laws in your state.
I am old enough to be your grandfather so please listen to me. You should not live in fear of him as this is what he is counting on. He expects you will be afraid to tell your parents. Don't BE.
You start by saying "Mom, Dad I have been sexually assaulted by". Then you tell them what happened. Yes they will be upset. Dad will probably yell and scream. Mom may even cry a bit. They will be upset that you have been hurt, that you disobeyed them. Most of all the will be angry that this boy violated you. They will call the police.
Tell the police exactly what happened. You need to do this not only for yourself but for other girls he may assault. He assaulted you, he could do worse to the next girl if he gets away with what he has done to you. It is going to be your word against his. In today's world your word is going to carry more weight.
The police will visit his home and talk to him and his parents. If he tries to make good on his threat to you it only validates what he did to you so don't worry he will only get himself in more trouble.
After you talk to the police I would like you to call this organization. The are called RAINN which stands for; Rape, Abuse, Incest, National Network. You can if you want call them first and they will help you find people to help you tell your parents and the police.
RAINN operates a 24/7 hotline to help people like you find people to help them with what has happened to them. Their number is 1-800-656-HOPE.
Call them for help or support in telling you parents and call them for help in dealing with what has happened to you.
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Try to get him to repeat what he has said about starting rumors either record his voice somehow or see if he will email or FB his plans if you were to tell someone and then set him up and all those responsible. This is terrible what has happened to you. You don't deserve any of this and these people should be in jail for a long time. This probably wasn't the first time he's done something like this but you have the power to see that it's the last. Save all texts and emails you get from anyone at the house that night. Get all the info about this guy. He is disgusting! I am so angry right now I practically shaking wishing I could get my hands on this mFer! Definately report what happened don't wait any longer please. I'm so sorry this happened to you. Please be safe in the future.
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You tell someone anyway, You were sexually assaulted and HE IS WRONG. You should not giving a flying crap what the guy says, You should respect yourself enough to rat his ass out for what he did. You have NOTHING to worry about, This is not your fault.
Press charges against him, Take him too court do whatever you need to do but do not let the bastard get away with it. Trust me, He won't look so cool once people find out the truth. Tell an Adult preferably your parents.
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Think about it...What's more important to you, having rumors about you spread and teling? Or not telling you and having him get away with it, do it to other women, maybe rape you if you don't tell. If you don't tell he's gonna think ' O she's scared to tell and now I'm gonna do it again' DO WHAT'S RIGHT AND TELL! Because honestly he's just gonna hold that against u and do it again and again! TELL. Rumors are faulse information more than 95% of the time. Please tell cause it's the right think to do and I say so. Just think about what could happen if you don't...
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