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Okay, well, I'm a 14 year old girl. Typical teen but everyday is like a constant reminder of how much I have failed. The weird thing is no one says anything to me. I wake up every day wondering what the fuck my life is about. I wake up every day feeling like a failure to everything. I talk to myself. I think myself as fat and I weigh 155. I feel so horrible about myself that it is effecting my personality. I used to be happy and hyper but lately at lunch at school everyone seems to be annoying to me. Everyone talks about the same damn things. I really feel like I can't get out of this so called slump. Trust me, I have no friends at all that I would consider good friends cause they all hate me and talk behind my back. I get fucking sick and tired of this shit. I don't know what to do. I don't like telling my parents or family about it nor do I go to my counselor I used to see. What's wrong and how can I fix it because I feel like i"m done. Completely done. :/ (link)
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I know it's so hard now a days to keep a real smile on your face and to find people who actually care. And it's not easy to live in a world where the messages the media is sending is "you have to be perfect to happy." But, guess what? Your imperfnctions are what make you perfect so I'd first like to say that, you are beautiful. If you be your self, I promise you will stumble across someone who cares about you and finds you flawless. There's something about you that makes you the perfect you. At 14, people are so self centered and some people probably feel the exact same way you do. So secondly, you're not alone. If you can't find the courage to tell an adult how you feel then Maybe write in a journal and share the journal with them. I know writing helps me with me emotional pain as well and if you really share how you feel in a journal and they see it, they'll be able to get the message and help you. As for friends, everyone's still trying to find who they are and want to be. Some people are lost and they make take their confusion out on you but don't let that Bring you down and if they're not being nice and loyal maybe they're not a true friend. Try joining a club at school that your interested in and meeting people with the same interests as you or try a new sport! No matter what, stay strong and confident. You'll find someone and they're going to think your absolutely perfect. Xoxo
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ya, ive been out of football 4 about 2 months and i am probably out of shape, how many miles should i run a day. i was thinking 4, what do you think (link)
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Start of with like 2 and every week increase the amount of miles you do per day. So week one you start with 2 miles then the next week go to 3 or stay at 2. But don't start of right away with doing 4 because that can hurt you.
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My girlfriend and i are 16 we've been together 7 months we are still virgins we have talked about sex
i'm still nervous about it not sure if i'm ready my penis is not that big i am worried that i may not measure up do girls care about penis size? (link)
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If you're not sure if you're ready, tben WAIT!
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Well im a 15 year old male and i'm gay i've known for a couple of years now i have spent time talking to girls but i'm only attracted to guys i haven't told anyone yet it is normal to be gay? (link)
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There's nothing wrong at all with being gay.
nor·mal
/ˈnôrməl/
Adjective
Conforming to a standard; usual, typical, or expected.
Noun
The usual, average, or typical state or condition.
Synonyms
adjective. regular - standard - ordinary - common - usual
noun. normality - normalcy - perpendicular
Most people would consider it to not be normal because our society has problems accepting people for who they are now a days. But normal's not always the best thing for people. Just because something's not normal doesn't mean it is bad. I think you should try talking to someone about this that you really trust and will help support you. I hope everything turns out okay. If you need anymore help or have anymore questions, I'm here to help. xoxo
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My parents are currently divorcing and they keep dragging me and my sister into it. Im 23, sister is 18. But I keep telling them to leave us out of it. Everyday they want to talk about what they should do. Is this really a problem that I have to deal with? (link)
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Their divorce should not be something you have to deal with. I know it's hard for the family but you'll never have the same relationship with your mom or dad as your mom and dad have with each other. Staying out of it is best because only they know what's right for them and right for them to do. The next time you dragged into this, tell them that only they know best.
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So, I have a second instagram that I use to quotes and stuff (do bacically not a personal). Well my friend just made hers this week and has more followers than me. And now she's trying to help me and its so annoying. It's like so brags when she's trying to help me.😠 I should have more followers than her.😞😒 I just don't like it, but when ever I try to tell her how I feel she just doesnt listen or she'll just say " no I don't" what do I do? (link)
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Honestly, instagram isn't really about followers. It's about sharing your pictures with family and friends and it even took me a while to figure that out.
If you're really desperate followers you can try the hashtag trick or follow and then unfollow people once they follow you back, liking a ton of other people's photos may cause them to follow you too.
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I'm a 15f and I'm just so down..my aunt has cancer and do does my cousin..my friends just bailed on me all at once for no reason..me and my mom really aren't close anymore..I've been stressed latey and sad because of drama and so I'm failing 2 subjects in school now...I really don't talk to anyone anymore I became more quiet and less social..alot of people bully me because of it and I'm different..I really don't eat or sleep much anymore..i don't know what to do.help! (link)
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I feel the same way. I get bullied, my two best friends are both moving soon, a lot of my friends kinda turned on me and everyone acts too cool for anyone now. I don't even want to go to school now and I've been trying to get out of the habit of cutting my self and im afraid to talk to anyone about it. But recently I found a new way to express my feelings. I'm not the best writer or anything but I like to tell my stories on paper. I've recently been writing all my problems in a journal. It helps because I feel like now since I let my worries out there not in me anymore. I'm also kind of used to getting little sleep now but I found a song and it motivates me to try harder. It's called "Charlie Brown" - by Coldplay. Id you want to try doing all the things I just told you, I do, I think you should. Just try and smile and I'll try too (:
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My prob is that i like a guy but not sure if he likes me... our parents know each other for the past 10 years... though i haven't seen him or talked to him a lot, i have just seen him twice. The only thing we do is have a couple of silly fights through social networking site. i cant tell him that i like him as im afraid what he would think of me n that the relationship between our parents n between us wud end forever. I keep on thinking of this guy n unable to concentrate on anything. Can any1 pls advice me on this ? (link)
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You should tell him how you feel about him.I know your worried about affecting the relationship you already have with not just him but also his parents. The truth is your most likely to grow older and regret that you didn't tell him your feelings about him than if you did. The worst I could see happening is he doesnt like you back and things are a little awkward for a while but theyll go back to normal. i strongly encourage you to tell him your feelings.
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What are some things we can do for a talent show? (link)
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Gymnastics, sing, act, dance, so a skit, a jump rope rutine. Magic tricks, play an instrument. The talent show is made so kids like you can show their talent so show your talent! Good luck
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I'm 13yrs and a female duh, and I want a boyfriend, my friends make up bfs caz i never see pics and I want 2 be the 1st of me frineds 2 have a hot, sexy bf, what do I do to get a boyfriend? (link)
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What you need to do to find a boyfriend is to BE YOURSELF and not worry about finding a boyfriend since you're only 13 yrs old! Enjoy being single if it's the last thing to do and just keep your eyes wide open and don't go for looks go for personality and kindness because he's not gonna look the same in 10 years
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I know it's kind of personal but how did you know when you were in love? What things did you notice? Do you feel good knowing you were in love? How old were you the first time you were in love?
I am using these answers to help figure out my own feelings. Thank you! (link)
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I'm 13 and I think im inlove but to many love is different like people may say at 13 it's not love or at 70 it's not love but you can be any age to be inlove. I'm inlove with my boyfriend because I think about him all the time and get butterflys around him but for you, you may not do the sane as me. Hope I helped answer your question
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I am 20 years old, female and my boyfriend is 46! We have been together for almost a year and a half. My parents are forcing me to break up with him! And are taking everything away from me untill I do. like my truck, phone, and are going to kick me out. I just started a minume wage job and can't afford these on my own yet! Not sure what I should do? (link)
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First sit down with your parents and think about this decision. How far do you thin this relationship will go? Are you truly in love? Do you think he means all the love for you? This guy is close to 50 and you're only 20!! That means he's more than doubled your age which most of the time won't work out. You have your whole life ahead of you. Do you really see being with him your whole life? I justthink it could be hard. But talk about it with your parents and ask tut self these questions. Think ahead! Xoxo good luck
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I just recently started dating this guy, and I don't know if he wants to kiss me. I've never kissed anyone yet and I'm in 6th grade (don't hate) so if he tried to kiss me, I won't know how! How do I know if he wants to kiss me? (link)
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I'm in 7th grade and I haven't had my first kiss yet but trust me you'll know what to do and how to do it when that time comes. Just let it be natural and enjoy it but dont force it.
Xox
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for 7 years me 7 my wife have each done things to hurt each other.. we met in colorado & she was married @ the time. she left me & i would come home from work to note on the table talking about her confusion. this went on for about 2 weeks before i came back to north carolina, so i get back home & she has called my family members looking for me. so my grandma found me & said i should go back & i did.. it wansnt $ days after getting back she left again.. i stayed & waited for her to come back.. she has kids which are not mine.. so we moved on past that & it has been rocky, we have had good times but alot of bad times. i was very verbally abusive to her & just did whatever i wanted to do with no regard of how she felt. last december the fighting came to a head & i had to leave.. my wife is a baptized jehovah witness who has recently been reinstated & she wanted me to check it out & i did.. it has really had a positive impact on my life & i now know how to be a loving husband & father but she has been hurt by me to the point she doesnt want to see the actions of what it has done to me... please help!!!! (link)
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Okay, I have 4 things to say to this
1.) Forget the past, you cant go back and make a new beginning but you can start now and make a new ending. What you did to eachother is done, over, their just scars to replace them.
2.) In order to prove you've changed your disapproved actions you have to show you have by doing what you've changed the right way.
3.) If things don't work out, please move on, I Know it may be hard.
4.) You were horrible to eachother so don't expect it to automaticaly just change, cause no matter what it won't be the same.
Hope I helped. Sorry, for your troubles
Xoxo
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There's so many laptops on sale right now at on the Futureshop flyers! How do I possibly choose which one to buy?! So many different names!
I would just love to bring my PC with me to school but since I'll be sharing a room with two other roomates I can't think of just myself... (link)
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Do some reasearch on laptops and look at reviews on line, that's your best bet or maybe visit a computer store near you and ask what's recremmended!
Hope that helps!
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What are some good skits to do for a elementary school talent show? (link)
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Lets brain storm...
Who will be watching. Elementary schoolers? What kind of genres to Elementary schoolers like? Funny stuff, so comedy.
Do something funny that will get the croud laughing so they will be interested in it.
If you don't want to do a comedy then do something cool for example: one person sits on other person stomach while that person is laying down then the person sitting puts a sheet over the prson laying down and their legs then the prson laying down lifts leg so the person sitting looks super flexible.
Hope I gave you a few good ideas and remember there's more examples than just the one I gave you. Good luck
Xoxo
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if zach is my boyfriend then what is a good nickname for him (link)
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Specific ones for Zach is like Zacky, Zach-o, zachery, zachhon. But common ones are like babe,honey, sweetie, cutie, baby or pumpkin. If you wanna go unique there's like Sugar, pumpkin pie and sweet stuff like that.
Hope I helped
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sometimes i love the way i look and sometimes i feel disgusting. whats wrong with me? (link)
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It's not necessasarily "looks" that make you bipolar it's the way your feeling that may make you feel good about your self or not so good. To be Bipolar means to have automatic mood swings. So just try and stay confident and I hope i eexplained that well enough for you to understand!
Xoxo
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Hi, bit of a strange question that I'd rather appreciate answering really. I tried asking in my English Literature class, but everyone just laughed at me; which was embarrassing to say the least since I'm the best poet in the class, possibly school- having won a few competitions I've bothered to enter ... Yet, I wasn't granted an answer.
So, my question is what actually makes up a poem? Any help would be greatly appreciated, thank you and have a good day :D
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A poem is different to all, it could be expressing thoughts or feelings/emotions to someone or just work to another. To you to make up a poem, u may only need a few happy things and you got it. For me something that makes up a poem is a lesson learned about your life with out sraight forward saying it. It's hard to answer this, but I tryed my best. Best wishes to you, good luck
Xoxo
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What could I be in a talent show (link)
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A talent show, is to show your talent so if you're talented at magic tricks, do a magic trick for the audiance. Here are some suggestions of stuff you can do in a talent show:
dance
act
sing
make a skit
a comedy
magic tricks
intrument
gymnastics
glow in the dark act
doing something for a long period of time (example: hitting tennis balls on ur racket with out the tennis ball falling. example 2: longest hand stand)
Building something nd presenting it
There are many more ideas for you but hope i helped
Xoxo
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