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Parents Divorcing.
My parents are currently divorcing and they keep dragging me and my sister into it. Im 23, sister is 18. But I keep telling them to leave us out of it. Everyday they want to talk about what they should do. Is this really a problem that I have to deal with?
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no, that is not your fault and they shouldn't bring you into this!!
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Short answer to your question is no.
What is happening is your parents are fearful of losing your love and respect for them because of the divorce.
What I suggest you do is say to each of them that, regardless of the reason, the divorce will not cause you or your sister to feel any different about either of them.
You tell them that you and your sister are both adults now and that the divorce is something that is happening between them. Something that the two of you out of love and respect for both of them refuse to be drawn into.
You may have to remind them of this a couple of times before they actually accept this as fact. Once they do I'm sure life will be easier for you and your sister.
The biggest problem when parents divorce for people your age to deal with is not being dragged into the middle or taking sides. If it is any help to you and your sister I believe you are doing the right thing staying out of it. Just be supportive to both mom and dad when the divorce is final.
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Their divorce should not be something you have to deal with. I know it's hard for the family but you'll never have the same relationship with your mom or dad as your mom and dad have with each other. Staying out of it is best because only they know what's right for them and right for them to do. The next time you dragged into this, tell them that only they know best.
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