well im 16 and im gonna put myself in your shoes. now what i would do (and i still do know)i would still be friends with both. i have friends all over. one is a nerd but shes so nice and funny and everyone else agrees, a couple that a super popular and my friends in my group:the popular nice friendly athletic group. but if i had to chose i would chose clique 2. the reason why is because group one got mad at you, talked about you, were mean, ect. you know this will happen again most likely and then you would have ditched your clique 2 group you wont have anybody else and group 2 would be mad at you for ditching them. especially your 2 best friends and thats a another reason to pick group 2. the 2 best friends you have made. are you jsut gonnaa ditch them for your old group just because they are suddenly being nice to you again?? How would you feel if one of them did that to you? it wouldnt feel good. You can still talk to them but i think its better if you stick with group 2. Like my mom told me about these girls that were my friends, then turned on me, and then started to be nice to me and they would do the same thing again: they are too wishy-washy meaning they go back and forth to much and cant make up their minds on wether to be friends with me or ditch me and i would cry because they would be mean and i was in the 4th grade. she just said stick with the group you are now. its better this way and all the friends i made that were so much better. thats how your group one is. any sec. they could turn on you all over again. just like she replaced you on myspace. also you can talk to them about it. explain how you feel toward eachother but you dont wanna ditch group 2 and please dont ditch group 2. i have had friends do that and it hurts. it makes you feel worth less and stuff like your not good enough and obviously gets you angry.but next time you guys have an argument you need to work it out. dont just blow it off. you gotta fix it.but once again i would pick group 2 because group one is way too "Wishy-washy" and could turn on you anytime. they are not that trust worthy and i would know from experience. well i hope i helped answer your question and send me another anytime. email me to tell me how it goes. scdgirl288@yahoo.com. good luck on the choice you make.

well honestly you can not make someone like you. if you want to get closer to him just be yourslef. flirt a little bit talk to him and treat him as a friend. then take it a little step closer. maybe start dropping hints that you like him like staring, flirting, smiling at him, ect things you do around a guy you like. see how his reactions are and make sure you take it step by step. if he starts to stare at you, talk to you all the time, and flirt stuff like that try to make him jealous al little bit. believe it or not thats fun and it makes him want more. dont talk to him all the time. once everything starts going well let him talk to you thats the key. believe me it works!!! i have recently tried it and its fantastic. also make sure you let him know you can have fun without him. it just makes him want to have more. after all this everything should fall into place. also give him a compliment every now and then. let him know you care. know if you want to impress him you know what they say: "Dress to impress." even if your in uiform you can spice up you out fit. i wear a uniform. You need to be nice to him and have a good sense of humor. Try not to monopolize whatever conversation you have, and keep it short at first. Learn good conversational rules, i.e., you ask him how his weekend was, or if he saw someone's concert or whatever. He answers and YOU LISTEN. He asks you a question. You answer briefly and HE listens. Be confident. Don't let anybody else's opinion wear you down.
Don't follow him. Nobody likes a shadow. Or a stalker. Don't say hello every day. Greet him every time you see him, but try to vary the way you walk to class so that sometimes, you don't see him. Try to wait and let him greet you first from time to time, then make believe you're just noticing him and wave with a nice big, cheesy smile. Not too cheesy. You want him to like you.
Never take advantage of anything he says, but be yourself!! In other words, don't spread things he tells you around to make yourself look mean or whatever. well i hope i helped. send me a question if you like!!
Bluebell78*

wow this was just like me. i would cry and get mad ect becuz i didnt have one and everyone else did. but then i told myself ill get one yea but ill get one when im ready. i told myself that everyday. dont obsess over it. thats what i used to do and then i kinda forgot about it. had fun, hung out with friends. but then i switched schools. and i still wasnt obsessing over about I HOPE I GET A BOYFRIEND HERE!! i just knew ill get one eventually. when God thinks your ready. but i started to like this guy and i got excited because i thought he like me and he did and he was my first boyfriend. so what im trying to say is dont obsess over soenmthing you have no controll over. i believe everyone gets a boyfriend or girlsfriend. no matter what. mentally ill or physically ill. so dont think you never will. enjoy what you have know. i thought something was wrong with me too. nothings wrong with you. and believe it or not most girls get there boyfriend at 13/14. i got mine in the 8th grade. just have fun. dont worry about it all the time. i think God doesnt want you to think about it and obsess over it. complain like some 3 year old. when your ready hell give you one. so dont worry about it. i know you wont believe this advice because i sure didnt but you will. give it a minute. some time to sink in. dont worry over it. just talk to some guys you know get to know them flirt a little. its not ugly or something is wrong. your only 13. that doesnt mean anything. theres nothing else i could say. i just want to tell you i was in your shoes for about a year and a half. i know exaclty what you mean its just hard to explain. i hope you understand what im saying. so feel free to email me about it if you want. i know you dont know me but im here for advice. believe me your gonna cry and get mad but im here if you want to talk to me. really. also i would always talk to my older sister. she told me that she thought the same thing. "o ill nevr get a boyfriend blah blah blah but then before she knew it there he was. just try to have fun get your mind off it. flirt, smile, make yourself availible, have fun, relax, hang with friends, dont worry,and you'll be fine. my email is scdgirl288@yahoo.com. i check it everyday. so if you wanna email me feel free. i know exactly how you feel except mine was in the 7th grade. so just have fun youll get him eventually. dont stress over it. have fun:) dont forget to email me or tell me if you feel better. you'll be okay. dont worry. seriously.
bluebell78:)
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what i do i always try to make them laugh. thats my thing. i give them hugs and tell them that it'll be okay and it wont be that bad. they just want some comforting. thats about it but make them think of something that gets there mind off it but not totally off subject and random. give them hugs and tell them it'll be ok. thats about it. ask her if she feels better and make sure she is through the. thats all i have. good luck.
bluebell78

i really dont think its a good idea. think about what could happen. your friend is a good one. what happens if she gets caught?? what will happen to you?? what will happen to her?? and your boyfriend?? think about those questions. your mom is gonna figure it out. so i say dont even do it. you mom is going to know either way. moms know that. so make the right choice. all of this just to see your boyfriend?? its alittle out of controll. but i cant stop you. if you wanna get around this... dont do it. theres nothing you can say. i know this isnt the advice your looking for but this is the best. what if you cant see your boyfriend anymore or if he cant see you. think about it. good luck. and sorry this isnt what your looking for but this is my advice and what i think. good luck
bluebell78

believe it or not you just answered your question. what i would do i would tell him exactly what you told us. tell him how you feel. you dont want to be too controlling. your scared you'll lose him or something will happen. you just dont think it will turn out well. your just uncomfortable. but also ask his opinion. see if he wants to go. if he does then... i would say let him go. just thinking about it seems hard. but tell him how you feel first. so he knows. but i hope everything works out. just look at your question. tell him what you told me and everybody else and that should make it cleat. just explain it to him. talk to him at school tomorrow and hope everything goes as you planned. good luck!!!
Bluebell78

i just wanna say i think it is so good your going to tell him. anyways when i flirt i always touch them. like on the arm or shoulder. do i light hit like when he does something. when you see him practice saying hi in a flirty way. stare at him. smile at him. lets see what else. start conversations with him. this is called like the "spritz and walk" somthin like that. you spray your perfume on you then you walk past him or while hes at his locker. its mostly just the way you act and speak. also the way you look. give him a secret admirers note in his locker.invite him to a movie with you and only you. i think just keep doing those things and sooner or later he should get the picture. i really hope i helped. this was hard to answer because im kinda in the same situation as well. good look. feel free to email me anytime. good luck.

its just depression. everyone has this. i would recomend seeing a phscologist because you seem like your under alot of stress. i dont think you know what else to do but just cry and thats okay to let everything out. also go see a doctor. if your blood pressure is that high then it seems kind of serious. your just havin a tough time right know where it is like attacking you like never before. its gonna take some time though. but i hate to say the hurt will never go away. sure youll feel it but it wont make you cry and have panic attacks. tell your mom that you need to see someone becuz if not this could turn into something and something bad. so the answer is yes. the death or your father does have something to do with it. i just wanna say dont be sad. your father wants you to be happy and remeber all the good times you had together. he looking down on you right now at this moment because he is worried about you. he doesnt want you to be upset. he wants to watch you grow and become a successful, caring woman. and you can talk to him. he listens. hes always there. you may not see him but sure hes there. have conversations with him at night. i so that and i really get into it :) tell him how your day went. and he responds you just have to waych and listen for it but dont be sad. give it sometime. you cry because thats the only thing you can really do. go hang out with friends more. go to a couple parties to get your mind off of it. spend time with your mom. go to the mall buy some nice clothes kind of treat yourself. everyone feels better when your with friends. just chiil with him. go on a date or whatever you enjoy. get your mind off of it. but really you need to go see somebody because like i said this could turn into something. well im really sorry and if you want you can email me anytime about this stuff. i know what your going through. i get it too. so dont be upset. be happy because everythingi said is true and hes always there when you need him. but please feel free to email me if your feeling upset. im always open. so go to schoo tomorrow and have fun. you can talk to me again if you need :). well i hope i helped you and good luck. everything will be okay too :)!!!
Bluebell78

get your guy friends to defend you or you can handle this battle by your self. if their your friends they should supposrt you. just so you know the boy to thing doesnt make any sense so dont pay attention to it. she doesnt know what she is talking about. "Boy toy" is a term for a MALE who is the sexual play toy of a woman. A female can NOT be a boy toy! and if your not comfortable to do that then i wouldnt recomend it. She is showing just how ignorant she is when she calls you one. just forget them, get some new friends, you don't need friends that ignore you for no reason or call you something stupid.Just ignore the ignorance. You shouldnt let anyone bother you especially some jealous stuck up snobby girl. Go about your buisness,,get good grades and dont worry about her or other people who are just JEALOUS of you. You are in school to learn,,,its not a popularity contest. You are bigger than them if you just ignore them type of people. and i know you tried that but keep doing it.dont respond and play her game youre too smart always say good things about her and your friends will see though her. also just make sure you talk to your friends like why they are laughing and tell them how you feel. The girl who told you that you are a boy toy is just jealous because you get more attention from the boys and she is jealous of you too. If you think about she is probly only teasing you because you let her. You need to step to her and let her know that you are not going to take anymore stuff off of her. keep flirting. no one can tell you who you are or anything and she doesnt have the right to say that. continue hanging with guys.I know that sometimes they can be better friends then girls, at least they don't fight with each other for their girlfriends like girls do for their boyfriends! well i hope i helped and good luck at school tomorrow since its Mon. and im sry i goy to ur question late. i have been so mbusy its not even funny. its too long to explain. i hope i helped u and good luck!!

it doesnt seem that he hates you but i guess he is offened when u said that you dont like him, he was expecting an yes. So go to him and ask him y he is ignoring you...and if u really like him tell him that you like him.This makes alot of sence to me.....He has been putting in alot of work with you....Yes you are worth it.....But in these days people are extreamly busy......These extra things he has been doing is because he likes you and is feeling it in a physical way also............He is starting to not see any light at the end of the tunnel so he is getting frustrated....He obviously seems like a nice guy so he has not made any advances.........If you like him and want him to be more then a friend you need to act soon!!!! Like now or in a day or two.........If he is putting this on you that means he has alot of respect for you and does not want to ruin his friendship with you, by taking that leap..........He is frustrated and needs to know where you two stand and can not play out the roles any longer. i would suggest that you dont IM him or E-mail him, til he does so to you. and maybe try talking to him. tell him how you feel. he prbably doesnt hate you though. he could also be scared to talk to his crush who doesnt like him back. i think now you have to work your way up. just tell him its just best if we are friends. then once everything starts to go back to normal then ask him. well i did the best i could with this answer and i hope i helped you out. im sry i got to your question late too. i have been so busy latley and its to long to explain. well good luck and hope everything works out between you. everything should be okay!

i would ask him. how i would ask him is by saying, "pleases dont get mad at me becuz i heard around school that you have herpes. im not sure if its true or not thats why im asking you and be honest with me. im not insulting you. whatever you tell me i will believe so if you tell me it isnt true then i believ that." and thats it. now dont go up to him and say, "I HEARD YOU HAVE HEPRES IS THAT TRUE!" then somethin would happen. hope i helped you and ask me questions anytime. good luck

i think its hard to talk to guys becuz you get nervous. your afraid your gonna screw up and look like an idiot and get made fun of. you might also just not have the ability to go up to a guy and start talking to him like other girls do.it takes you alot of courage to go up to them. you amy also feel insecure about yourself and in other words low self-esteem or dont wanna talk to them because you think you look bad and stuff like that. your afraid what they may think of you. you may alsso think that you dont have anything in common with a guy but you really do or you need conversation starters. most of the time its just nerves. fear of what they will think of you. or you may be afraid to talk to them because they're so popualr and you may not be or something like that. well i hope i helped you and ask me anymore questions anytime. just go up to that guy and think as if he were just one of your girlfriends. :)

well "smack that" by akon seems to suit most guy's "love" tastes..

but truthfully try some vertical horizon. I specifically like the "your a God" and" "best i ever had" by them.. and im not gay so yeah. heres something else. make sure you know what he is interested in like country, pop, rock and roll, hip hop whatever. but thats my thought but after you find out look from there. im having trouble with this question becuz i dont know the age and that would really be helpfull. if you want you can email me back. dont ask him because that might give it away. ask like his friends or something. well i did the best i could without knowing his age so i hope this helped you a little. good luck and like i said you can email me again so i can know his age then i can give you a better answer.
Bluebell78

i dont even know you and you have me worried! if you want me to be honest that i will. you nees to put on wait. your way to thin to me. eat eat and eat. please. you may not be able to trust the things online but from what your pictures say you need to put on weight. please. work on it. all i can tell you id to eat. just eat. and go from there. i hope everything works out and please be carful you should talk to a doctor to just to make sure its nothing serious. hope i helped and feel free to email me anytime to ask a question. good luck.

it think he likes you but doesnt know how to show his feelings for you. he shows them in different way. hes like going a little overbaord and is getting kinda confused. he may feel strange around doing this infront of his peeps thinking that they may nag on him about it and doesnt want to hear it. tell him to stop. tell him that its not funny anymore and annoying and dumb and immature. stuff like that. but dont be too harsh. and make sure you say it in a nice way. dont have his feelings hurt. thats what i do to guys but i say it ina nice kind of way and they usually stop. he also may not want his peeps to get an idea that he likes him. he could be shy too. well hope i helped and send me a question anytime!!

Bluebell78

i honestly would talk to him about it and tell him what you think and how you feel. and i wouldnt worry about the fighting becuz all relationships gt into fights. a guy should always listen to what you have to say. and if you talk to him and he is still doing this i would make the choice to break up with him or give it another try. if you love him like you say you do then keep trying. you should tell him school or when he is away from home and can really listen to what you have to say. so hes not distracted with anything and make sure he is looking in his eyes. that way you know he is concentrating and paying attention to you and nothing else so he can fully grasp what you are trying to say or try to keep it in a quiet area where its just you and him. well hope i helped and email me anytime for more questions.

Bluebell78

im kinda in the same boat your in.im not that crazy about it even though i want to. i think you do. you probably getused to it and dont mind it becuz your used to it. YES!!!! guys (that are stuck up and jerks) judge you on your kissing skills. but i highly doubt all guys do that. the nice charming ones dont mind. now that i do know. they care less about looks and the way you kiss and when you meet that perfect guy he will apreciate you for who you are and not the way you kiss. i hope i helped you. feel free to email me anytime.
Bluebell78

i think it is crazy!!! something is going to go wrong sooner or later and then youll both be introuble and your teacher will go to jail. i dont care how much you like him. its wrong and im sure your teacher knows thats wrong too. STOP THE realationship. im sorry i dont want to be rude im just concerned. this is just my opinion. umm...meet on the weekends and tell your parents that your going out with some friends and meet him somewhere secret but thats all im saying. stop before something serious happens and if you dont want to get introuble and if you care about him dont do it becuz if he and you get caught you in trouble and he is in even more trouble. but i cant tell you what to do. good luck.

good thing i take study skills at my school.lol find a quiet place to work. that means no TV and no computer. take ten min breaks every half an hour. think to yourself. the quicker you get done the more TV and relaxation you get and you get out of the way. anymore questions send me a question or check out my advice column. Good Luck.
Bluebell78

well i think there is really a way to lose pounds quickly unless yoour willing to put your mind into it and work hard. the key is to exersice. run up and down the steps. jog around the neighborhood. do exersice tapes if you have any. Then eat healthy. eat nice steamed veggies, salad, plenty of water,fruit, gronala bars that are healthy, slimfast shakes to keep your hunger down. yeah so thats about it and dont cheat. but you get the picture. and pleasse make sure you dont STARVE YOURSELF!! that is the worst way to lose weight as we all know.well i hope i answered your question as best as i could so good luck and email me anytime if your have anymore questions. im open to anything. so ask me questions. well GOOD LUCK!!

i love giving advice. i do admitt i havent been on everyday but school has been crazy but im gonna try to be on anytime i can. None of my answers are jokes and dumb. i put thought and compassion into all of my answers and take each one seriously. please dont be afraid to ask me anything. whoever i answer questions to i hope i help. again please ask me anything. im on everyday. i hope i can help anyone and check out my advice column!!

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