|
I'm so tired of being single! Help!!
Ok honestly I don't care if I sound desperate but here it goes...
I HAVEN'T HAD A REAL BOYFRIEND....EVER! And practically everyone I know does! One of my cousins is married, one of my cousins has a boyfriend, the whole school (almost) is going out with SOMEBODY! I'm 13/f
I'm so sick of being single it bothers me so much. Everytime I even get close to having a boyfriend they either transfer or fall for some other girl. I'm not ugly-BELIEVE ME! I get a lot of compliments about that stuff...
I've heard the saying when girls are so beautiful that the guys just settle for something less because they're afraid of rejection but...I don't really think that's the case all the time because I've been asked out before...
BY PEOPLE I DON'T EVEN LIKE THAT ARE YOUNGER THAN ME THAT I'VE NEVER SEEN BEFORE THAT FOLLOW ME OUT OF NOWHERE IN PUBLIC!
How am I ever supposed to get a boyfriend?
I'm not mean
I'm not aggressive
Could it be the people I'm hanging out with?
I'm not loud
I'm not quiet
I'm not weird in a bad way..I just don't get what's wrong with me.
My mom is always telling me "Whoa, you're certainly not going to be one of those girls stuck home on a saturday night in highschool once you get older...but what if i am?
help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I don't want to be boyfriendless forever. I know I probably won't but it's killing my self esteem!
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Work/School Relationships?
wow this was just like me. i would cry and get mad ect becuz i didnt have one and everyone else did. but then i told myself ill get one yea but ill get one when im ready. i told myself that everyday. dont obsess over it. thats what i used to do and then i kinda forgot about it. had fun, hung out with friends. but then i switched schools. and i still wasnt obsessing over about I HOPE I GET A BOYFRIEND HERE!! i just knew ill get one eventually. when God thinks your ready. but i started to like this guy and i got excited because i thought he like me and he did and he was my first boyfriend. so what im trying to say is dont obsess over soenmthing you have no controll over. i believe everyone gets a boyfriend or girlsfriend. no matter what. mentally ill or physically ill. so dont think you never will. enjoy what you have know. i thought something was wrong with me too. nothings wrong with you. and believe it or not most girls get there boyfriend at 13/14. i got mine in the 8th grade. just have fun. dont worry about it all the time. i think God doesnt want you to think about it and obsess over it. complain like some 3 year old. when your ready hell give you one. so dont worry about it. i know you wont believe this advice because i sure didnt but you will. give it a minute. some time to sink in. dont worry over it. just talk to some guys you know get to know them flirt a little. its not ugly or something is wrong. your only 13. that doesnt mean anything. theres nothing else i could say. i just want to tell you i was in your shoes for about a year and a half. i know exaclty what you mean its just hard to explain. i hope you understand what im saying. so feel free to email me about it if you want. i know you dont know me but im here for advice. believe me your gonna cry and get mad but im here if you want to talk to me. really. also i would always talk to my older sister. she told me that she thought the same thing. "o ill nevr get a boyfriend blah blah blah but then before she knew it there he was. just try to have fun get your mind off it. flirt, smile, make yourself availible, have fun, relax, hang with friends, dont worry,and you'll be fine. my email is scdgirl288@yahoo.com. i check it everyday. so if you wanna email me feel free. i know exactly how you feel except mine was in the 7th grade. so just have fun youll get him eventually. dont stress over it. have fun:) dont forget to email me or tell me if you feel better. you'll be okay. dont worry. seriously.
bluebell78:)
scdgirl288@yahoo.com
]
I might be the oddity, but seriously, 13 is not a bad age not to have had a gf/bf yet. I didn't have one until I was 18. Maybe it would make it seem a little less important if you figured out why you want one. What is a "boyfriend" to you? Why do you need one to have good self-esteem? If I had to rely on another person to feel good about myself, I would be really worried.
Being too "needy", or too "fast" is a no-no though. If you act as if you're too keen to have a boyfriend, or you take relationships too fast, lots of people will kind of back up and go "whoa, hey wait slow down a bit" and get freaked out by it. Same thing if you call them too often, or act as if you NEED them too much - Clingy=bad!
Hope something in there helps, even if it just lets you know you're normal.
-K
]
[deleted]
]
the same happened to me at your age!! i totally understand you its like you start thinking :S why sheee (a REALLY ugly girl) has a boyfriend and i don't!!! why does shee that shes so mean has a boyfriend!! whyy everyone but you!! ...but they i realize something when i get to know guys more ...sometims..they don't ask a really good girl out because they prefer going to the easier girls! not the kind that look like hard to get...like i mean ...she's not mean not agressive, cool ,fun etc...they start thinking like ..i don't want to bother so much into getting her cause obviously she should have someone better than me cause she's so great ...buuut its a huge mistake ..when i had my 1st boyfriend and people i had get to know really well. they go like ..why you never had a boyfriend :S if your such a good girlfriend maerial , they couldn't believe that cause they said things like anyone would be very glad to have you as a girlfriend and stuff but nooo it took a while for me to get a boyfriend ...but i see it this way and really worked for me ....stop thinkin too much about it ..it'll come someday..i know at 13 it looks like one of the most important things in the world but is not ..when you least expect it , it will happen and it will be great =)! trust me on this one ...just keep being nice with them have a lot ot friends, hang a lot with them keep meeting people and it will happen . also remember guys at your age are really inmature
]
hey, well believe me having a boyfriend isnt everything. sure it makes you feel good about yourself and being loved feels wonderful, but having bestfriends is way more beneficial. you cant find love. true love will come to you when you least expect it. some girls get there first boyfriend at age 14, but then some get it at 19. you just have to wait it out. it will come for you, believe me.
]
More Questions: |