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Boyfriend got asked to prom? I didn't
Hi i'm a sophomore and my boyfriend is also a sophomore and we've been dating for a year and a half. Only juniors and seniors are allowed to go to prom, but they can take freshman or sophomores as dates. This girl who is my friend and is also my boyfriends friend asked him to go to prom with her, but he didn't know what to say. So he asked me if he should or not. And I dont really want him to go with her because she always flirts with him. And I just don't feel comfortable with him going with her. So I guess my question is... Is it okay to tell him that I don't want him to go or is that too controlling? Because i don't want to be a mean girlfriend who won't let her boyfriend do anything, but I just feel bad if I don't let him go. Thanks!
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believe it or not you just answered your question. what i would do i would tell him exactly what you told us. tell him how you feel. you dont want to be too controlling. your scared you'll lose him or something will happen. you just dont think it will turn out well. your just uncomfortable. but also ask his opinion. see if he wants to go. if he does then... i would say let him go. just thinking about it seems hard. but tell him how you feel first. so he knows. but i hope everything works out. just look at your question. tell him what you told me and everybody else and that should make it cleat. just explain it to him. talk to him at school tomorrow and hope everything goes as you planned. good luck!!!
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You can tell him how you feel, but you can't tell him whether to go or not. Ultimately it's his choice, but hopefully after you tell him how you feel, he will make the right one.
And when you tell him, don't be like "I don't want you to go. If you go I'll be so mad". That comes off really threatning and controlling. Explain that its uncomfortable for you, and ask him to think about how he would feel if the roles were reversed.
If he ends up going, don't get jealous about it. If you've been dating for a year and a half, you should be able to trust him, and while it may suck for you to think about for awhile, things will more than likely be okay after all is said and done.
And one more thing-- Did your "friend" ask you before she invited your boyfriend to prom? If she did, did you tell her that you would prefer she ask someone else? Because if you didn't tell her, they probably have no idea that you are upset at all. And if she didn't ask you... Well, if I were you, I wouldn't call her friend much longer. She should have at leasts ran it by you first.
Good luck =)
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sit down and talk to him and let him no that you dont feel comfortable with him going out to a prom with another girl. tell him you dont want to controll him or seem mean its just you have a bad feeling about it and dont want anything to happen. And see what he says mayb he will understand were you are comming from.
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if your boyfriend asked you if you thought he should go, then you should tell him what you really think. the truth will come out eventually and he should understand how you feel. He wouldn't want you going to prom with his friend that flirted with you, would he?
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No personally I don't think that's mean. Just explain to him that you feel she might like him and that it's just uncomfortable for you if they went together. He asked you if he could go so he respects your opinion. Just be like I wanted us to go to prom together, not with seperate dates, you know. And im sure he would be that same way if a guy asked you. Hope I helped.
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Yes it is OKAY to tell him.
There is a reason he asked your opinion in the first place, most likely because he feels awkward about it too. And hello he is your boyfriend not hers. You arent being controlling, controlling girlfriends wouldnt even let him talk to another girl. So you are just fine feeling the way you are, go ahead and be honest tell him and I'm sure he will understand :)
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Wow that is a tough situation. If I was you, I would just simply talk to your boyfriend and let him know what you feel and what you are thinking. He may not feel comfortable going with this other girl, you never know until you talk to him. Also, I don't think you would controlling at all if you tell him you don't want him to go. Prom is a big deal in high school and people want theirs to be memorable. I don't know what that is implying but I am trying to say that if you don't want your boyfriend to go, tell him. You've probably been together long enough to have a serious, no jokes conversation. Well, hope this helps.
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