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soo, i'm 15 F, and I just had a crazy night. I've had a crush on my english teacher for a while. he's 42 but is extremely hot and sweet. I thought he never noticed me, but it turns out he did. Yesterday afternoon, i went to his office for extra help and one thing led to the next. I ended up performing oral sex on him(with a condom), we made out for a while, and he fingered me and gave me oral sex. I like him so much, how can I continue the relationship without getting him or me in trouble and without people finding out?
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OMG please dont continue!you could DIE from something like thus.i know,because its happend to this girl my friend knows. you think he really likes you, but hes really all planning this. if he really cared about you he would be mature and know the age and it could never happen. hes hurting you,and this will not be a good outcome. age DOES make a difference. 27 years age difference is to much. he should know,you should know that it cant work out. theres been so many articles on this, and its really foolish. i might sound horrible and mean but this has happend to someone i know. i really want to do everything to stop things from happening.
if you wont listen to me right now, i have to tell you this. if he EVER asks you to go to his house/go out on a date alone- say NO. its too risky.this has happends to many times. i dont want to see it again.people wont find out unless you tell them.just please for your safety dont go further. you might think "oh,but hes so nice and gentle" NO, he wants you to think that,if he realyl wanted a girl he would've looked for one his age. Instead find someone your age and you'll probably have more fun with them. This relationship is illeagle.
im sorry im being mean..but understand what im comeing from- i dont want to see you in the newpaper one day saying you were raped. im sorry..good luck and make the right desitions.be clever and smart and try to follow his every move. try to be one step ahead. ask him quick questions and random ones,it'll be easier to see him lieing.
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Ok I know im like eyeryone else who is answering but really you need to go for someone your own age. That is considered rape, even if you wanted him to do it. Really you need to stop because if anyone does find out then he will be sent to jail so you should put this behind you and move on
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sorry but no!
that is ILLEGAL
there is never a way that you two could continue this and youre putting both of you at danger
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It's illegal. And discusting. Your teacher could go to jail and you could get expelled. I'm sorry to be blunt, but get yourself out of this relationship before you get hurt. And people will find out if you think they won't.
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omg sweety you need to stop this right now. He is 42!!!! there is no possible way he has healthy feelings for you. A fact of life is that a 42 year old should not have sexual or romantic feelings for a 15 year old, there has to be something wrong with him. What he did was not only illegal but its rape! Even if you did say it was ok, having sex with a minor is ILLEGAL. If he is married the situation is even worse. He wont leave his wife for you, you wont have a relationship, he is a petefile who just wants you for sex! And your giving it to him. Be strong! Stand up to him and say"no i'm sorry, i do have feelings for you, but they are just childish. nothing is going to happen with us ever again." you may even want to tell another adult, because he will probably do this again to some other girl. I'm sorry to be so blunt but this is the truth and as much as it hurts, its what you need to do. I know your probably scared, but you need to tell someone ASAP.
I hope I helped, feel free to drop one in my inbox if you wanna talk some more. I'm 15 F too, if that helps.
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Seek Medical Help immediately.
Sorry, but this is a hard situation.
Lets face reality.
Okay, he's a 42 year old man first of all.
He's had his life and all that.
He could be old enough to be your dad,
and not only that but hes your teacher!
Imagine how awkward it is to see him.
If your 15 , you dont want to ruin your life like this, and you cant continue your life like this.
Please be the smarter person and just let it go.
He may be attractive on the outside, but inside he's a 42 year old english teacher, and he could be your dad.
Theres plenty of 15 year old hotties out there for you, I promise.
And i didnt want this to be mean in anyway.
Hope I helped a little!
--Kendra
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is this probably isn't going to help u...but...i went out with a guy 9 years older than me...and i felt so strongly about him...things happened...and it was the biggest mistake of my life...he ended up dumping me...think about it.....
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i think it is crazy!!! something is going to go wrong sooner or later and then youll both be introuble and your teacher will go to jail. i dont care how much you like him. its wrong and im sure your teacher knows thats wrong too. STOP THE realationship. im sorry i dont want to be rude im just concerned. this is just my opinion. umm...meet on the weekends and tell your parents that your going out with some friends and meet him somewhere secret but thats all im saying. stop before something serious happens and if you dont want to get introuble and if you care about him dont do it becuz if he and you get caught you in trouble and he is in even more trouble. but i cant tell you what to do. good luck.
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You are heading down a very dangerous path here, one that will likely end up with your teacher going to jail. I have to confess that at this point I am thinking that jail is exactly where this guy deserves to be.
Let me be blunt. This relationship is going nowhere. It has no future at all, and it is almost certain that the only thing he is after is sex. From what you are writing its clear you have feelings for this guy, and you will end up being hurt sooner or later.
This is a time when you must learn to listen to your mind not your feelings. If you think about this, you should be able to see that I am right. Its hard enough for a 25 year old to relate to a 15 year old, but a 42 year old guy... not a chance.
It is very likely that you will regret this later in life, and if this gets out think of what people will say. Bluntly put, you have everything to lose here and (whether you see it or not) nothing to gain.
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you are fucking nasty.
i hope he rapes you for that.
stupid slut.
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Back off on it and try to be just non-sexual friends until you've reached the age of consent.
Talk to him privately, and acknowledge the passion, but come to a mutual understanding of what you both feel is appropriate and respectful until you are a little older, and not in a professional relationship with him.
If you care about him enough that you want him to be able to keep his job, you have to for his sake keep a lid on this.
The legal and professional penalties for him engaging in sexual behavior with a minor, and/or someone he is in a professional relationship with, are devastatingly and disproportionately enormous at this time in this society.
The lifetime penalties and requirements for someone who has been labelled a sex offender are more severe than someone who has committed arson or almost any other crime. And sex is not actually a crime, but it is labelled such in today's society.
Luyah
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As attractive as your teacher is, I think it is best to not continue this relationship.
I understand you like him and it is perfectly normal and healthy to have feelings for people, even teachers. But acting on these feelings is innapropriate.
First of all, you are 15 and he is 42, a 27 year old age difference. You are a minor so these types of actions are illegal. But putting the law aside, 27 years is a huge difference, especially when you are young. You are both at two very different points in your life. Despite the physical, there is probably not much grounds for a romantic relationship. Basically you are just setting yourself up to get hurt. Despite the fact that if he has a wife and kids you are hurting his family as well.
Secondly, he is a professional and there are certain rules that prohibit teacher-student relationships. If what you are doing gets out, he could lose his job. Are you willing to put him through that if you really like him so much?
I think the best thing to do is to let him know that you cannot continue this relationship. You don't need to alert the authorities on his behavior. Just know that you are putting yourself, your repuation, your heart, his reputation, his job, possibly his family, and many other things in jeopardy with this relationship. Don't risk it. There are plenty of other hotties out there for you to choose from ;)
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you know thats illegal because youre 15 and hes 42. just stop what you are doing because it can go no where but trouble. you can get expelled, and he can lose his job and get arrested. trust me, there are better guys out there that are your own age. if you don't want to take my advice think about where this is going...(nowhere but TROUBLE!)
please don't do thiss !!!
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