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hes still in love with ex
i've been talking to this boy for 2 weeks now. i'm starting to really like him, and i think he really likes me also. the only problem is he is still in love with his ex girlfriend. he brought up a couple times already comments regarding his ex. i think he was unaware of it though.
so i went on his facebook today and saw the pictures of them still up. updated only a month ago. i know they're not still seeing each other. i'm afraid if i continue to see him i might really fall for him and get hurt in the long run. what would you do in my situation?
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You need to give it some time and don't rush into anything. You want him to like you for you and not because he misses the attention he got from having a girlfriend.
If I were in your position, I wouldn't stop talking to him because I could trust myself to not fall for him and keep it strictly as friends.. but seeing as you're already developing feelings towards him, it's probably best to get the idea of dating him out of your head and stop talking to him as much. 2 weeks is early days, if anything is meant to blossom from this, it will, given time.
Good luck.
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I've been in this situation 5 times, and honestly all five situations ended the same way. I liked them a lot and they either left me for their ex girlfriends, or told me they can't be in a relationship after we already are in one. My best advice from the five situations I was in, i would say turn around and keep walking. These situations only lead too heart breaks.
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Although it seems unfair at first, I'd say it's more pain than its worth, so If I were you I'd leave it with this guy.
If he's talking about his ex either consciously or unconsciously its clear he hasn't moved on yet. So if you get into a relationship with him now then chances are it'd be a 'rebound' relationship-he needs to love someone else so he can't face up to the feelings he still has about his ex.
I myself have been at the recieving end o f arebound relationship-and what you'll find is they're not worth it and also when it ends he'll get back with his ex pretty quickly.
If you want this guy you have to make him want or feel like he needs you. The best thing? Silent treatment! No communication will make him wonder-absense makes the heart go fonder right? In my exereince this does work, but then again I don't know details such as the legnth of the breakup etc..
Whatever you decide to do-good luck :)
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