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Iam so confused right now
Iam 19 years old female and i just graduated high school last year and i moved out ot my mom 's house and into my cousins house and iam much happier at my cousins house than i was when i was living with my mom in high school and i have a much more structured envorment at my cousins house than there was at my mom's and now i've realied iam a lot happier in a structured enviornment. I might better explain to you what it's like at my mom's and what it's like at my cousins.
when iam at my mom's house my mom and i always get into fights last weekend she got so mad at me she through a chair on the kitchen floor and broke it into 4 big pieces and when i tried to call my cousin to come and get me she snatched the phone from me and somehow i managed to get the phone from her and got my cousin to come and pick me up.I also did anything i wanted to and ran wild even if my mom begged me no to do something i did it anyway. Iam going to give you some examples.
1I smoked
2 I had oral sex with a guy and a girl
3I tried drinking and i drank untill i got drunk
4. I tried pot
5 whenever i got pissed off at my mom i ran off no matter what time it or how late it was at night.
but now at my cousins i've settled down and iam not as wild and i don't do those things anymore or even want to do those things anymore and i don't want to go back to my mom's anymore becouse iam afraid of getting into trouble but i don't want to hurt my mom's feelings either what should i do?
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Hi,
first of all, did your mom ask you to come back or are you feeling guilty and want to go back?
Either way I think that you know yourself better than anyone else and you have already answered your own question.
YOu are doing much better for yourself and you are succeeding as a person and a student. What could be better than that?
Every child, whether they admit it or not wants some structure in their life. It's human nature. It shows us that people care about us.
On the other hand, I'm sure you love your mother very much and want a relationship with her. Why don't you take small steps into making that happen.
Make appointments to sit down and talk with her to talk about your issues and how you cam make your relationship better. Go from there.
I hope I helped. Good luck,
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You seem to understand yourself more now that you are settled into your cousin's house. Do you need to go back to your Mum's house or can you stay with your cousin indefinitely? If you do need to go back, reflect on how much better you feel in a structured environment and continue with that structure yourself. You don't have to have rows with your Mom if you can back off and give yourself some space if she starts anything. You can help yourself by remembering how it felt to be out of your head on drugs or drink, and stop yourself before it happens again. Your Mom sounds like she has a lot of issues in her life and they are for her to deal with. If you can stay with your cousin for a while, she may come to understand herself what she is like and may really miss having you around. If she is willing to improve her temper you could have a really great relationship with her. Good luck with whatever decision you make. Take care.
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