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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!

I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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Hy bro my name is honey I live in Pakistan lahore
I have a good relationship with my girlfriend
From 4 year but I can't do sex with her because she
Don't want to sex from for year ago ? She always
Said me that she's not type of that all girls
Who do sex ? But I want to do sex with her
So plz tell me who I forced her to do sex
With me ? Give me some tips ? Take care a lot
I am waiting for ur ans ? (link)
You don't force women to have sex with you.
That is rape & rape is a crime. If it isn't a crime'
where you are it should be. If a woman doesn't want sex with you, leave her alone. She doesn't like you.
find someone who does.

How to prevent diabetes and which therapy should i use to get rid of diabetes? (link)
There are no doctors here that can help you with this. Every persons diabetes reacts differently to medications. The only one who can hep you with this answer is your doctor.

Sexually speaking hoe do u knoe if a boy loves u (link)
To be very honest, you really can't tell for sure. If he tells you he loves you, its up to you weather or not you believe him. Some people do tend to lie to get their way sexually. So, unless you have known someone a very long time & trust them a lot, there is no way to really truly know for sure.

I am working for a company part-time and the way my company keeps track of hours spent on certain projects is through a program. If I spend an hour on project A then I will put it into the system and mark 1.0 hour, etc (And that is the amount that reflects my paycheck). Recently my company has been a bit slow so I have been leaving early. My supervisors don't have anything for me to do when I ask them, so I see there's no point in me staying there. Today I stayed there for 8 hours and was only able to charge about half of my time there because for almost 4 hours I had no work to do, but I was basically told to wait there until something comes up. Personally, I feel that it is not fair of them to ask me to stay for 8 hours and give me work that is only chargeable for about half the time I have been there. The way the system works for part-timers is basically... I will get payed by the hours I've spent on the project, so if I'm sitting there for 3 hours doing nothing on an 8 hour day, then I will only get paid for 5 hours. But I'm only sitting there for 3 hours doing nothing because I have absolutely nothing to do from my supervisors. How can I bring this issue up to my company? (link)
This is real simple. If they are taking up YOUR time
for 8 hours, even if they have nothing for you to do, they better pay you for 8 hours. Like it or not. You were away from home and "waiting" at their request.

Look up the labor relations board for your state. Call and ask them some questions. They will help you out.

In an ldr for around 2 months now.My boyfriend is moody..he retreats into his cave.
I last spoke to him day before yesterday and he was all lovey dovey.
And yesterday he didn't reply to my messages and later when I asked him if he's busy, he said he's not but unhappy with his uni.
He moved there 2 months back. Things have been hectic for him I'm assuming.
He skypes often.Usually initiates it all the time.
Talks to me well and all that's there.
I do not like the fact that his mood swings get to me.
I asked him if hes unhappy with the relationship, he said not at all,and he had mood swings last week as well (so I asked him if it was me,he assured it wasn't)
So I dunno if this is a way of signalling that hes donw wit the relationship.
I am totally paranoid when it comes to this.
I asked him "if this changes things between us"
Him : no not the relationship
Me : it eventually would,if you stop talking to me.
Him : I wouldn't stop talking to u,my feelings for you haven't changed
I'm having a bad day.

What am I supposed to assume from this?
I'm confused!:(

Long distance relationships are hard to be in.
Its like texting. Some things you just don't get into because its difficult to explain & be understood. I can't tell you how many arguments and hurt feelings I have had texting my husband. When we can't see someone or hear the way they are saying something, it can get taken the wrong way.
So, talking to someone long distance can be tough.

Then there is just everyday life. You both make friends with people the other doesn't know. After a while its easier to just not speak of those relationships. To much explaining to do.

Then there are the get together's and parties. College is a time for getting to know people. It could make someone feel guilty for having fun without their significant other.

Its not the best time to be separated. But it can be worked out if you do a lot of talking about things. Its kinda up to the both of you. If he isn't to far away maybe you need to get together for a face to face in person conversation.

You may also need to take into consideration the fact that it is really hard for some people to be away from home during the holidays. Throws a lot of people into depression. Maybe he is having some of that. A good in person talk is called for.

Best of luck.

My friend has been using her facebook for the last week but did not accept my friend reqwest until a week later why did she wate so long is it a girl thing (link)
She probably just didn't notice it right away. I don't think its a girl thing. Maybe you could just ask her and see what she has to say about it.

I'm 16 and I've had a thing with a guy that's 8 years older than me, since I was 14. He's had the same girlfriend since we started. They have two kids together. He tells her all the time that he doesn't want to be with her though and he tells everyone close to him, including her and his own mother, that he's leaving her when I turn 18, to be with me, since it's technically illegal with me still being a minor. I've known him my whole life, and he's stuck to the same thing since we started this crazy thing. Do you think he'll really leave her to be with me? And if it affects anything, the kids aren't really his, but he raises them. (link)
If you don't love a person, you don't stick around.
You are a fun diversion. He tells you he has told her and his mom & others things, but he is a liar.
When you cheat on someone, you are a liar & a cheat.
To expect anything more is crazy.

You are young and you are being taken advantage of. I'm not wanting to hurt your feelings but, you need to break the cycle now. If you don't men will take advantage of you and hurt you your whole life.

I know you want to believe that he tells you the truth & that he is different from all the other men who pull this routine all the time. He isn't. He is old enough to know better. You won't want to but what you need to do is tell another adult & stop him from doing it to other young girls. If he doesn't have yet another on the side yet, he will have as soon as you wise up.

Ok so im kinda very worried, well have been for about a week or two. So im 14 and i rhink i might be pregnant, but the problem is im still a virgin. I know its probably not posble but i read online on a different medical website its possible for sperm to be on a toilet seat and transfered that way and like 2-3 other possible answers. Im showing all the possible signs of early pregnancy and im pretty late on my period. I dont want to tell my parents yet because it might just be something else or nothing and i dont want to scare them so im seeking medical advice before i ask to take a pregnancy test. (link)
If you have been with a boy and somehow got semen in your vagina, it is possible you can get pregnant.
Toilet seats & things like that...Probably not.

When you are 14 there are many reasons you may not get your period. Stress being one of them, and just being a young teen can mean you miss a period now & then. If you are athletic, that can cause periods to stop too.

All the other symptoms you might have can be caused by other things as well. I think you should just remain calm and see what happens next month. Don't stress out because that doesn't help. If you haven't been with a boy sexually, chances are very good your symptoms are not related to being pregnant.

I have this friend that censures people 24/7 and she thinks it's hilarious but I do not. Recently, she saw my mom, my mom has a small cyst on her face and she made fun of her. It really offended me. She keeps telling me that her whole family criticizes people (as always, she thinks its funny), and I don't know how she can be proud of that. It just shows how immature her family is, and turned her into the immature child she is now. We had an obstacle course test in PE a few days ago (I'm the most unfit skinny person you might ever know) and we had the longest running time cause I'm not used to physical activities and all my groupmates are mad at me including the one that made fun of me, and she has this attitude where you tick her off just a little bit, she ignores you for a really long time. What should I do? I really dont want to go back to cutting myself with shards. (link)
Well, whatever you decide to do with your friendship, cutting won't fix it. So, don't go back to that regardless!

You need to ask yourself why this person is your friend. She sounds like a real piece of work in your question to us, but, its easy to make one sound like they have no redeeming qualities when you are upset with them. :)

If she is really so bad that she is unable to take other peoples feelings into account, then I wouldn't hang out with her or be her friend any more. Does she make fun of YOU all the time? If so, that's even more reason to find a new friend. You need friends who are nice and make you feel good about yourself. Not one who is negative and has to belittle others to make themselves feel good.

So, my advice will be to find a new friend or friends. Just say you have decided it is best for you to find positive people to be friends with. If she wants to make fun of you for that, let her. You will be better off in the long run. Negative people tend to make you negative too. Nobody needs that.

I know it may seem like a hard thing to do but it will work out fine. I am betting there are others who will want to be friends simply because she isn't hanging around with you any more.

And no cutting! Ignore any crap she throws your way. Don't let her win by cutting yourself. Get rid of ALL negative things. :)

What happens if a girl swallow sperm of a girl during blowjob? (link)
Nothing at all.

i finally got nomintated for the ice bucket challenge and the thing is I recently found out that als tests on animals. and i heard from someone i can do it for which is compassionate care and they dont test on animals or anything. im really against testing on animals and i have a little over 12 hours to do my challenge. how can i word it to make others also aware that they are testing on animals and is the actual other thing that will support the same cause just minus the testing on animals. any advice would be extremely greatful thankyou so much in advance to anyone who replies (link)
You will find it very hard to find any medical cure that wasn't first tested on animals. I believe all drugs by law have to be tested on animals before humans. They are trying to find other means of testing but for now its what we have.

The animals used for testing have saved many many lives. The animals are never mistreated and many are adopted out afterwards, unless they were testing something contagious. I love animals too and wish there was another way to test things.

Ccals is a great organization for helping families deal with ALS. But they are not an organization that is hunting for a cure. They are similar to hospice in that they help the families cope with the disease challenges. The best way to make others aware of this organization is linking them to the website.

I have a relationship with a guy that seems to be ok.But for no reason there are sometimes that i feel afraid of him.He hasn't done anything but he looks kind of rum.I don't know if I believe that he would never harm me.What should I do? (link)
My advice would be to end the relationship.
People do not follow their instincts as they should.
If you feel afraid it is for a reason. You may not know the reason, but trust your instincts. They rarely steer you wrong.

I am 28, female..i recently had sex with my boyfriend but both of us were having our clothes on..he got a bit wet and me too. We only rubbed our genitals with one another. My trouser got a bit there any possibilty of getting pregnant.also my period are not coming even after jus few(3-4) days of my cycle date?
PlZ do reply soon.. (link)
You may be stressing out thinking you could be pregnant. THAT can make you late. If clothes remained on and if your genitals didn't touch, you are not pregnant.

It sounds like it is time to see your doctor or local health department for some birth control options. Everything you discuss with them is kept confidential, so ask lots of questions. :)

So this morning I got a letter from the health department & it said to call their number asap concerning my health. I've had chlymadia twice.. & I took a hiv test back in march. & I don't know If someone reported me recently & that's why they are trying to contact me, or if I had hiv or aids. I'm very scared. The last time I took a HIV test it came back negative.
& I haven't took one since. (link)
The only way to find out is to call them and see what they want. Hopefully it is nothing serious.

You really should start buying and carrying condoms yourself and making your partners use them. You are taking to much risk and causing yourself stress.

Call as soon as possible and get it over with.

I'm a sophomore in highschool and a vegetarian and the only one in my family who is. So I don't necessarily eat the way I should. I do eat a lot though. I haven't grown or gained any weight since about 7th grade I've been the same. My doctor said I'm a bit underweight for my height but not too much that's its unhealthy. I do lots of sports and activities but id get light headed easily. So my doctor said my iron levels were low so he gave me prenatal pills in 7th grade I quit them because they were too big and nasty. Also 7,8 and 9th grade I would get really bad menstrual craps so bad id puke from pain. Finally this past beginning of June I got the birth control shot only to stop the pain I was getting. (I'm not sexually active or plan to be) but then my doctor put me on prenatal pills again because of my low iron levels. Since I'm older now I know how to take them. So my question is, is it okay to be taking the pills and stuff while I'm on the shot ? I know it probably is because my doctor is the one who set it up. But id just like some other opinions. (link)
I don't think it would be unsafe for you if your doctor prescribed both. Prenatals are mostly vitamins & minerals. Nothing dangerous or that would cause a problem with birth control or anything else you take for that matter. If you still have doubts or questions though, call your doctors office and talk to the nurse. She will be happy to answer any questions you have.

Always ask your doctor any questions you can think of when you have an appointment. If you wonder about anything ask. Be informed & be really nosey! :)

Is taking sleeping pills a painless way to die? I am tired of being betrade by my husband ;( (link)
Taking sleeping pills is not a painless way to die.
You would die fighting to breath.

Leaving the betrayer would be the better way to go. Ya it will be painful. BUT, you will get over it & live to love again.

14/f and I'm actually anorexic and people who are anorexic usually lose their period. So I haven't had mind for a year but I had it prior to that and it's always been irregular. I never get cramps either or any pain from it. Then I got it 21 days ago and I still have it.. Is this normal? (link)
No its not normal to have a period for so long.
It is responding to being mistreated. You really need to get help for your anorexia. Once that is under control everything else will return to normal.

I urge you to talk to an adult and get help.
Anorexia can destroy so many things in your body.
The longer you wait to get help the more permanent the damage will be.

A few months ago, I began seeing this really great guy. We attend the same university, but I am a sophomore and he is a senior. He is graduating next month, and after that, he plans on moving to a city six hours away from where we go to school.

We go out on dates and are physically intimate, but he told me straight up that once he moves, we are to be just friends. He doesn't do long-distance relationships.

He plans on visiting the university when he moves, but he told me that we would be strictly platonic, nothing physical.

He doesn't understand how much this upsets me. I have tried so hard to keep from having feelings for him, but he's the kind of guy I'd want to be with, and I fear that I will never meet anyone like him ever again. I don't think he has any real feelings for me, seeing as he essentially placed an expiration date on our relationship.

It pains me to admit this, but I don't think I can convince him to carry on the "relationship" when he moves. So how can I keep myself from going crazy for the next month or so? I enjoy being with him, but I always end up nearly crying because I keep thinking about how awful it's going to be when he leaves.

Thank you for any advice :) (link)
It sounds like he has his life planned out already. Thats good for him I guess, not so good for you.

Long distance relationships don\'t often work out.
A couple needs to be together for things to work. I doubt you will get him to continue the relationship after he moves. He probably should have been smart enough not to get into a relationship knowing he would be leaving.

You do need to tell him how you are feeling. Cry if you want to. Who knows, there is a small chance it could make a difference. I would not continue the relationship though unless he decided to stick around & be available.

The truth of it is you WILL find someone after he leaves. He will be even better. But first you have to go through all the pain of this guy leaving. You will get over it though. Grieve for a little while & then brush yourself off & get back out there. It will be awful. I\'m sorry there isn\'t any good advice for this one.

im 25 yrs old.i've got a seat in medical school and bcoz of some reasons i didnt complete it and my parents doesn't know it .i didn't even tell them.only some of my friends know it and now a day has come that my parents are going to find out that im not a doctor! i cant show my face to them .want to take away my life!pls anybody suggest me the best way to die?' (link)
Nope. There is no painless or good way to die.
You can however come clean to your parents and
get on with your life. Will they be upset? Sure
they will. Nobody likes to be lied to. Will they
get over it? Yes they will.

Come on, just tell them you lied. Explain why.
Do you want to continue with your education? Let
them know. Want to try to study something else?
Want to get back on track with the medical thing?
Talk it out with them & go for it. Its not to late.

Just confess, get it over with, let them be mad & get over it. It will work out in the end.

Trust me, they would rather have a kid who lied
to them & confessed about it to making your funeral plans.

I'm getting a tattoo on the side of my ribs this Thursday (May 1st) and I'm unsure of what to wear on the day.
As if I wear a bra I will have indents where the tattoo is going.
My sports bra doesn't undo at the back so that wouldn't work.
I was thinking a bikini top but I'm not too sure.

Some advice and ideas for before/during/after would be great! Thanks! (link)
I would give the tattoo place a call and ask them.
I\'m sure someone will be happy to help!

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