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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!

I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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HI Karen can we have a chat if possible asap as I need to be prepared for my meeting with a flaky women day after tomorrow please help.Chat step is good with you . iam in eastern time zone -5 gmt (link)
will try to get on skype shortly

I have acne and ive tried a couple of products but the only thing that makes a change is benzoyl peroxide.ive been using it for 2 months.the problem is that my face gets red and sometimes itchy,there are times when its just a little red and then other times its suoer red and it looks aqful like im sunburnt.but it helps me with my acne so i keep using it.i put it on every morning and night.should i stop? and i know that youd say that if my face turns red and itches it means its not for me but its been doing wonders for my acne,its much less.i really dont know what to do :/ (link)
I think you need to stop using it. You face is trying to tell you that it is bothering you. I know it may be helping but continued use may lead to something even worse. What you are having is allergic reaction. Continued use may lead to skin damage which could scar your face.

See if your mom can get you an appointment with a doctor or better yet a dermatologist. They can get you hooked up with something that will work for your skin type.

Hello. I have had sex with my blyfriend before and i thought that i was pregnant. So i looked up symptoms of pregnancy and theni started feeling them. Could stress cause this to happen . (link)
Yes it can. Many people can read about all sorts of medical problems on the internet or in books and then feel that they have those symptoms.

The best way to avoid worry about pregnancy is to abstain from having sex. If that isn't possible then always have safe sex. Don't let him anywhere near you without protection. Get on the pill if at all possible for the best birth control.

Why do people say there is no perfect ten person. I know a lot of guys who say that Im a perfect ten behind my back. And these guys are not at all alike. Its really weird because I don't that much effort in my appearance. So is their a perfect ten guy or girl society holds to that status? (link)
I suppose there could be people who are a perfect 10 at some things. I doubt that any person is a perfect 10 if that perfect 10 pertained to everything. If that makes sense.

A person can be beautiful and be a 10 as far as how they look goes. That same person could be bad at sports. So they wouldn't be a 10 if all things were taken into account. Just one example but I'm thinking nobody could be a PERFECT 10. :)

What do these words mean;
schatzi (link)
There are many online dictionaries that can help you. Just go to google & punch in your word.

Can an hepatisi c patient get pregnant without a doctor's supervision and not transmit the virus to the baby. (link)
The best way to guarantee that you have a healthy pregnancy would be to see a doctor before you get pregnant. Pregnancy is hard on your liver when you have hep C and so being pregnant without a doctors supervision wouldn't be a good idea. It is possible to transmit the hep c to your infant, but its not a sure thing.

If i had unprotected sex 6 days after my menses will i b pregnant? (link)
Any time you have unprotected sex the risk for pregnancy is there. Don't panic yet. Stress has been known to delay a girls period.

If you miss your next period take a home pregnancy test. You can buy one at any department or drug store. You can even find them in some grocery stores these days.

im 18 and a girl. i hate feeling horny almost everyday. if i do this will the feelings go away? i hope so cause i dont need to feel horny as i cant see myself in a relationship for years. at least 5-10 years. so theres no reason for me to be horny. i feel so dissapointed with myself every time i cave into the urge.. like once every 1-2 days. but if going cold turkey for a month will solve it i'll commit to it (link)
Probably not. Stop worrying about it though. You are a perfectly normal & healthy 18 year old.

I'm a sophmore in highschool and I don't really know what to do or how to react to my family's recent situation. My father just lost his job and is currently being paid a severence for the next 12 weeks. We are immigrant citizens and neither of my parents have college degrees. My mom isn't working and probably will never because she speaks very little English. When my dad told me he was fired I was in shock and i still am. I haven't really talked to him about it nor have I done anything about it. I don't know what to do I looked up online and got people saying how I should get a job to help support my family but Im too young and the jobs fit for my age group are filled I can't even drive by myself yet and my parents wouldn't allow it anyway because I'm a girl and they want me to stay sheltered and let them do the work but I can't do nothing I'm really worried about how my life's going to change and I know how selfish it sounds but this is the first time this is happening to me and it's weird. I see these things on tv and on the news all the time but I didn't ever think it would happen to me. Please, what do I do? I don't know anything. (link)
Talk to your parents about it. Don't just sit around and be worried. Chances are he will find work. It may not be as good as his last job but he will find something to keep you all going until he can find something better.

You don't need to get a job. Your job is going to school. Don't panic, talk to your parents about your fears.

This guy keeps texting me and we have a pretty good relationship going. He always calls me beautiful,tells me I'mdifferent from other girls and invites me over but whenever I can follow through he always either cancels or makes excuses. Is it because he's shy? Then he asks me to be his cuddle buddy. I said Ok, but he still doesnt initiate hanging out. I really like him now but am afraid that he doesn't feel the same way. What is your intake on this? Does he like me, is he playing me or just flat out wants sex? Thank you for your answers!
PS Im an 18 yr old girl (link)
Do you really know him? I guess what I mean is have you met him before or know him from school?

If not then I would have to guess that he has been making stuff up about himself and just doesn't want the charade to end. Making stuff up is really easy over the internet. You can send pictures that aren't yours, you can say I am skinny & really be obese...etc.

If you do know him then I think I would still be suspicious. He may have a girlfriend already, or he may just be shy.

He must like you or he wouldn't bother texting you at all. However proceed with caution because something isn't right.

I love my boyfriend dearly but after a few years of dating it's become apparent that he is not what i need in a partner. The relationship has gotten too "comfortable" and he does not make me feel special. I have cried to him about how i need him to be more outwardly loving towards me but it has not had any effect. Ive realized he's just not that kind of guy. I think i need to end it now (we will be apart for a few months), but how do i break up with someone i love? Yes, my life has revolved around him for years, but i am not happy and nothing seems to be changing. The question is not "do i end it", but how do i mourn the loss of my best friend? There are many things i will miss but i cant stay with someone who makes me unhappy. Please help me find some peace of mind (link)
Just because you don't want an intimate relationship with the guy doesn't mean you can't still be friends. You just simply tell him you don't like being boyfriend/girlfriend & would rather just go back to being friends.

It may take a while for you to be just friends again. You may have to keep away from each other until broken hearts mend. Just talk to him. He may be feeling the same way.

Firstly is xasten for gaining weight and I urinate often at mid nite (link)
Xasten is used for treating arthritis & things like that. Weight gain may be one of the many side effects of this drug. It has many.

If you are using this drug, I would advise you to contact your doctor about your symptoms.

I made beef gravy, and added too much salt. Is there a way to cut the saltiness in the gravy? (link)
There are actually a couple of ways. Hope this link is helpful to you.

OK this just a huge mess and I need help ASAP!!! So i went to this fundraiser for a school group. (BTW I'm a freshman) and I have been talking to this guy a lot over summer (I met him and the guy I'm about to mention in a bit a year ago. They are both Juniors) So i was surprised the second guy was there (I'll call him 'Z' and the first guy 'J' for random so you don't get confused.) and that 'J' was there. So this other guy 'E' and I where walking around doing a raffle when J walked up to me and hugged me. But 'E' in a mean way told him he wasn't needed, J left but i saw him later. E told me that he told J to leave because he was a jerk to him (J isn't a jerk at all) There was one thing i was confused about (at another fundraiser two weeks before this We were doing the raffle and a friend of mine from another high school joined us and 'E' didn't complain at all!! But didn't want J with us... Btw 'E' is a Senior). So 'J' and I sat down so he could show me a video and he sat RIGHT next to me, so there was NO space between us. Then we started talking (this was before the video) he just took my hand and held it (he is a shy guy so this was surprising. Also I kind of like J but I feel like he's too old for me sometimes)and he leaned very close to me. I got up with him to go help and mid-walk he wrapped his arm around my shoulder and hugged me closer. He kind of followed me around but it didn't annoy me. And when we where helping i was leaning against the counter and he wrapped his arm around my arm. Our leader shot me a "What's going on with you two" look including mouthing the words. Later i was talking to 'Z's older brother about the activity I'm in and that i got hurt and 'J' who was behind me wrapped his arms around me from behind and held me close again. Sometime in the night he hugged me and kissed my head! He held my hand twice. 'Z' is a little hard to read so i asked him straight out if he and I are friends he said yes to my surprise. I want to get to know him better:) A thing i noticed was that 'E' was a little.. mean/hostile to 'J' tonight and they are friends... like he was being mean in front of me to 'J' but before 'J' had to leave (he left before me) he hugged me again and said thanks for a being a good friend to him (he's not the most popular guy)so... What the heck?? SO THIS IS WHAT I NEED HELP/ADVICE ON!: 1) How do i become better friends with 'Z' i will see him a lot (I will see all of the guys a lot) And I want to be friends with him. (I kind of like him A LITTLE) 2)I'm not sure what to do about 'J' i kind of like him but i feel weird about it I'm very confused... and 3) What the heck is wrong with 'E' he's usually nice... MY GUY FRIENDS ARE SO CONFUSING I NEED HELP!! Thank you!! (link)
Seems a little weird to me that they were all were putting the moves on you, so to speak on the same day. I'm wondering if they don't have a little contest going concerning you? I would hope not but keep it in mind. "E" may not be going along but keeping his mouth shut.

Before you consider any of them for a relationship, I think you need to sit down with "E" and see what he knows.

15/f almost 16 I cant see myself waiting another year or so to lose my virginity and I don't even have a boyfriend soon on one hand I thought that would be kind of silly to take bc everyday for something that might just happen once or now and then, but then again im like paranoid of getting pregnant and I know they can help with cramps,mood,and breakouts which is good. I have asked my mom if I could and shes just like no you don't need it its not good for you. she hates prescription drugs and just thinks they are bad overall and she is really stubborn. and we don't have a lot of money so she needs to know that its necessary because in the past I said I wanted it for my horrible cramps and she said no. im very open and mature with her so I don't know if I should just lie and say im already having sex or im going to soon becasuse I don't really see any other way becasuse she doesn't understand and thinks im too young when im very mature and responsible that's why im trying to sit down and talk to her about getting me on bc. so how can I convince her to get me on it? also do not tell me that I can ask my gynecologist for pills im not doing that and im not going to planned parenthood either im broke and have no way of getting there.i don't want to go behind her back we already have trust issues (link)
Since you seem to have a good relationship with your mom, I think you should just sit down & talk to her about it like you did here. Tell her you aren't having sex yet, but you want to be prepared.
You want to be responsible. Which is very mature thinking :)

If you live in a location where you could get a small part time job to help pay for them...that may be in your favor. Cost seems to be a big excuse for parents sometimes. A gentle reminder of the costs of raising a child should you get pregnant (living with her) might not hurt, only if needed.

Good luck

Hi I was being a domass and shuved somthing up my ass, it does not hurt there is barely blood and I am scared as shit help me please
Sorry for the late answer. I have been moving and only just internet service back on.

Regardless of weather or not you have pain, the foreign object will need to be removed so you can avoid infection or tearing your rectum.

Make an appointment with a doctor or visit your local ER. With luck it can be removed without surgery. Be prepared though because if it is still there you need it removed. Good luck.

My daughter pooped a lot of blood in the toilet , my daughter said the water was like red , she does not have her period yet , and she's still not twelve but will be this year , what might be the cause of this ? And how can I help cure it ? Is it serious ? (link)
Sorry I am late answering. I have been moving and they only just got my internet back on.

Anytime there is blood in the stool you should have a doctor make sure all is well. It could have been a hemorrhoid. It may have simply been a hard dry stool. I would take her to a doctor who can ask her the appropriate questions to find out the problem.

I am a 25 year old female who is no stranger to intercourse. I have been on Birth Control for ten+ years now. Birth Control has always worked well for me. I have always been on the same brand. I have never had any pregnancy worries while on Birth Control.

However, I wonder if this is cause to worry....??? I am on my "Sugar pill" week so I have my period. Last night, a male friend came over and we were intimate. We didn't use condoms and he finished inside of me three times. Normally, he always finishes inside of me multiple times like that; but this was the first time he and I have done it on my period. How much of a difference in either direction does that make??

Would you worry if you were me? What would you suggest? (link)
I'm sorry to be answering this so late. I just moved and have been without internet service.

I wouldn't worry at all. You are protected even while on the sugar pills. It should make no difference at all. :)

Hai I'm 14/f and lately I've been thinking a lot about smoking. Everyone in my family has smoked at least once and my mom is the only one who contunues to smoke. Also my best guy friend smokes as well and has offeres me mutiple times but Ive always turned him down. I really don't know I'm somewhat stressed due to school and slight family issues so I want to know what to do. I'm just so unsure of wht to do at the moment please help. (link)
I'm a smoker & I will advise you not to start.

As has been mentioned it is much easier just not to start. Stopping is difficult. Don't start to fit in & don't start with the notion it will relieve stress. It doesn't. It can sure cause some though if you need a smoke & can't afford the costly cigs!

So don't start. Its bad for your health, it costs way to much money (better spent on other things). It gives you bad breath & is bad for your teeth, it makes your clothes, house & car stink. I could go on & on. Just don't start. :)

I am 22/f and I live with a bully... my mom. My mom is the type of person who does not take any responsibility for her actions. If she does something very wrong, she gets defensive, throws a few tantrums, and she's off the hook. She is truly a bully. I don't want to go too deep into this because there are other things that I need to explain. What you should know is that she is very mean to me, her only child. She tries to control me and wants everything I do to be her way. She is a cumplsive shoper. She feels that she should not buy clothes for herself because she feels she is too overweight and nothing looks good on her. So, she always bought clothes for me. The only thing is, which I didn't know, was that she was using my credit cards to do it. I didn't even know that these credit cards existed! She opened up a whole bunch of things in my name when her credit got ruined and she couldn't take out any credit. Needless to say, I found out when I pulled up a credit report.

I told my grandmother about it, since I live with my grandparents, and all my grandmother was concerned about was me turning her in to the police... OBVIOUSLY i'm not going to do that. that was never even an option. I just told my mom that she would have to pay me back the $3000 that she took from me. The issue is that this is not MY money. It's not cash that she took out of my checking account for an emergency. These $3000 are CREDIT... which means that she borrowed money from a company in MY name and never paid them back... so it's like stealing. But... it looks like i'm the theif! Nobody is holding her responsible. My grandmother just told me "A daughter doesn't ask her mother to pay her back... ever." Fine! If that's what she thinks then fine. But, this isn't MY money... like I said. This debt is owed to creditors who are harassing ME for it. I'm about to give up, pay the whole thing, and take responsibility for everything. That's how tired I am. I'm so tired of her being like a baby sister who gets away with everything because she doesn't know any better. She is an adult and she is the PARENT.

My parents got divorced when I was 1 or 2... that's almost over 20 years ago. My mom never dated again. Fine, that's her choice. She is not obligated to date someone if she does not want to just for the sake of dating someone. But, she constantly blames my dad for everything. She told me that she wasn't going to pay me back a dime and that I should ask my dad for it because he's the one that ruined our lives. Everytime she does something wrong like this... and maxes out credit cards, but can't pay them back, she says "this is all your father's fault." Right now, I owe my university some money... which is normal... and she says that is my dad's fault because if she were still married to him, they would have set up a college fund for me. After the divorce, she never worked again... claiming that he left her incapacitated. He is no hero. He cheated on her and that was very wrong. Yes, it set us back. Yes, it caused some problems. But, you can't continue blaming him for 20 years because YOU couldn't get YOUR life together.

Please offer me any advice. This was just a rant... but I don't even have the questions organized in my mind to ask. I'm just so confused and tired of this!
Oh boy. What a mess.

I will have to be honest with you and just say that
as far as this problem goes, you are the one letting her get away with it. She isn't a bully, she is spoiled rotten because everyone always lets her get away with her bad deeds.

I certainly understand why you wouldn't want to get mom in trouble. I don't know if I could do it either in your situation. BUT, the truth of it is that your mom has basically stolen your identity.
She should be charged with identity theft. That is probably the only way you will ever get your credit rating cleaned up.

Its time for you to get mean. Either go to a lawyer & see what your options are legally, or wait for ten years or so & hope it gets taken off your records & also hope she doesn't do it again.
Whichever way you go, don't take any more nonsense from her. You hold the key to her freedom at the moment. Ball is in your court. Let her know it.

Good luck to ya.

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