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Hi, I am 19 and live in the uk, and will help with anything I can, I'm experienced with psychological anxieties and academic based questions. Please feel free to ask away :)
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No one is giving me the support I want n it been so hard 2 me because I haven't tell anyone how I fell (link)
ok, well how do you feel? what seems to be your problem? the first thing you need to do is try to get the route of your anxiety, really think allot whats bothering you. it can be scary at first but in the long term can enable you to realise whats wrong sooner. is there really no one who you can talk to? a friend perhaps? peer or family member? if you still feel alone then try looking for counsellors or therapists in your local area. although they cost money its sometimes a great way to talk to someone when you feel no one you know is really listening. they also have special training which makes them equipped to deal with more pressing issues you might be suffering. good luck and i hope you are able to talk you problems through, no one should feel alone with their insecurities or worries, its ok to need to talk.


Hai! I'm an 11 year old girl and I would like to dye my hair crimson. Or at least dye the ends/half of it crimson. I have always admired it ever since I was 9, because I loved the way it looked on my mom. Here are my only problems about it:

1. Well it cause my (dark brown curly) hair to damage and fall out?
2. Will my hair change colors?
3. Are there any sprays that can make your hair look crimson/maroon when it touches sun?

Those are a few simple questions I have about it. Thanks! :D (link)
Since your hair (like mine) is dark brown and curly you may find a problem with getting the dye to show through. be best results usually come from bleaching the hair first and then dying it however this can cause major damage and split ends.
a more natural way of lighting your hair is to use lemon juice. squeezing a lemon and then putting the liquid onto your hair will lighten it naturally and less damage will be caused. this means that when you do dye your hair the red will show up better and the end result will look more professional. the only problem with the lemon juice is that it takes a long time to work properly.

an alternative to this is buying crimson hair extensions and clipping them in under the bottom layers of your hair. this mens that no damage will be done to the hair and you can remove them whenever. but hair extensions are also expensive and its
not as permanent as i suspect you would want.

in answer to your feed back, the lemon juice does take a few months to make a noticeable difference, you would also want to apply it regularly and it works best then in direct sunlight.

hope this is informative and gives you a few options to consider. good luck and i hope it turns out great.


Ok so I'm a girl, 12, and I've known I'm lesbain since i was in pre k. I am not really sure how, i just DID. So I used to be pretty lax about showing it until about 1st grade when i realized it wasn't natural, and it was abnormal. Then i was careful to hide it and made sure i was in a relationship/ crushing on a guy so no one would suspect everything. But i always dated a guy for two days and freaked out when things got serious because i know i didn't want this. But I want to want this because I have heard homosexuality is a mental disorder and it can be fixed, so i am trying to fix it and i think a friend is catching on because she notices that I'm acting lesbian and i need to get a boy friend because then she'll just think i was messing with her so i need a boy friend to make everyone think I'm not lesbian while i try to heal. So how can i get a boy friend really quick? (link)
Ok, being lesbian is not a disorder. its the way you are. You are beautiful and perfect and no different from anyone else. denying yourself the same amount of happiness from a relationship as you think a straight couple may have is just silly. you are only depriving yourself and you'll never be truly happy. as long as you know this deep down then thats ok. i understand that at this point it is easier for you to have a 'boyfriend' to get people off your back.
my suggestion is hanging out with boys, finding common interests and genuinely having a laugh with them, however you don't want to hurt their feelings by leading them on. and you also don't want to hurt yourself in the process.
the best thing to do if this is what you really want is to hang with some boys but also be completely open with yourself and in time close friends/ family. its difficult but will be worth it as you will finally be able to be yourself. remember; those who matter don't care and those who care don't matter.

good luck and look after yourself. everyone deserves to love truly


So, I'm a 14 year old girl and I honestly can't cope with the way my parents tell me to live, I feel like I am trapped in my home and I can't do anything!
They have these rules that I cannot go on my iPad/phone until 8pm every night, even at weekends I'm not aloud to use them. They say I'm to antisocial and I need to get out more, I go almost everywhere with them! I do go to town with friends aswell. They won't let me out of my town, I live in Barnstaple, devon and I'm not even aloud to Exeter or Bristol to go on a shopping trip with friends which is only about 2 hours away. Also I'm not aloud to be friends with a few people I know, one of them because there is a rumour going around that her mum is a prostitute and the other one who is my best friend and I still hang out with her secretly because she said something rude on Facebook like 2 years ago! It annoys me how I can't be friends with who I want to be friends with. My parents won't let me go out after school and I always have to be back home at 4pm if I go anywhere, which means I can't go out in the evening or at night and have a laugh :(
They also won't let me use social networks other than Facebook and Twitter, I want to be able to use snapchat, Instagram and tumblr but I'm not aloud to have it on my phone, another thing is that my dad still reads my texts and my messages with friends online!!! I'm 14 and I literally have no privacy! It's really annoying I want to just tell him "no, I won't give you my phone" or just not tell him the lock to my phone but he always makes me! :(
This is really annoying me now how I feel like I am stuck with nothing to do and no privacy at all :(
Anyone know what I could do? (link)
Maybe your parents are afraid of you growing up too fast, try telling them how upset and restricted you feel, do it in a mature and grown up way so that they know you are ready to grow up. If all your other class mates go out shopping further away maybe get your parents to talk to their parents. This could help them understand how it\'s ok and safe for you to be going out alone and with mates. I think you just need to be honest with them instead of just feeling like a child. If they think that you are keeping them informed with what and how you feel they are much more likely to respect your social needs and also your privacy. Good luck!!!


Okay so im 18 i just turned 18 3 days ago (April 21) & nobody came to my birthday party , nobody told me happy birthday , happy late birthday or anything.

I'm a senior in highschool and nobody talks to me i sit alone at lunch and it's so awkward. I'm a black kid. around 240 pounds & i'm 6'6 any i'm not chubby i have some muscles. and kids who are overweight have friends. I text people and they ignore it and when im in class i hate when the teacher says partner up with somebody cause nobody partners up with me , i'm not a weird person. i dress very nice , i have a great personality but nobody will ever know. people say go make other friends.. but i tried. every single person i try to talk to ignores me and gives me this "why are you talking to me" face.

I haven't even had a girlfriend.. haven't had my first kiss , i haven't even hugged a girl. nobody has came and hanged out with me since. even in middle school. people say nobody that they want ever texts them... but i think in my mind they're lucky.. i wish people would even think about texting me. It's been 14 months since i've gotten a text. When i sit on the bus back home nobody talks to me i just sit in the back and listen to my music. while everybody is in the front just living it up.. I couldn't even go to prom since if i went i'd just be there by myself with nobody attempting to talk to me.

Sorry for venting but i don't know what im doing wrong . like i even to twitter and tried to make friends and nobody even talks to me. i even wrote a girl who i knew who was like my only friend a poem and i would give her goodnight, goodmorning messages and i bought her stuff for her birthday and everything. and outta nowhere a year ago she ignored me and everysince i've never had a friend. she was my only one.. i just need some advice how can i cope with this? :/ (link)
I am truly sorry to hear that you are being treated so poorly by your piers, it sounds to me like they are being quite immature about meeting and talking to new people. You generally seem like a good and kind person. And kids at our age (I am 17) don\'t want to meet other people if they already have a friendship group. I would suggest joining groups that you have an interest in, you mentioned you wrote poetry which I think sounds amazing, so try and find local poetry or writing groups. Meeting people with common interests is the first step to friendships. To me it sounds like you may be a step ahead of others maturity wise which to them may be daunting. What ever you do don\'t try and change your self so that you fit in to the perceived \"popular\" persona that will only make you unhappy and you want friends that love you for who you are. So try and find others with common interests (I know it\'s hard) and don\'t lose sight of what is important like loving your self and knowing people who respect you. Good luck, and for the record I would hang out with you because you sound like a kind and genuine guy.


So my boyfriend & I recently discovered we both had chlyamdia. I got it cured. But my boyfriend on the other hand, hasn't yet. He went but they sent him somewhere else, anyways we were messing around we been using condoms since we found out but I was messing around & I was teasing him & didn't think anything of it but I just licked the top of his dick (the head) & just remembered you can get chlymadia through oral. I didn't think about it, but it was literally just a lick. Not a suck or anything. One lick! Lol he didn't cum or anything. Is there a chance I have a chlymadia? Please answer asap! (link)
I have absolutely no experience with sti\'s or std\'s so I am not realy sure but I think you should go back to where you got treated before and ask them. Then I would hold back until your boyf is completely and utterly cured. Then no one can get hurt. Sorry I can\'t be much more help but I hope you are ok. :-)


She dresses like a freak, does stupid things, sticks her tongue out like an idiot, appears naked in her music videos, and literally only sings one song these days. WTF? She used to be my role model, but now I hate that stupid bitch. I know Ariana Grande defended her, but she defends everybody. What my friends say about Mileys “wrecking ball" is,“good song, bad singer" what is wrong with her? (link)
I think from what I can gather from pop culture magazines is that she is trying to break away from the \"good girl\" reputation that she had been given, I think that this just demonstrates her insecurities within herself. I understand totally what you mean and much preferred her catchy \"party in the USA\" song and music Vidio rather than watching the monstrosity that was \"wrecking ball\". Try not to hate her though, she is probably going through a bad time because it defiantly looks like it from the outside. If I was you I would treat past and present miley like two completely different celebs. You can carry on admiring old miley and ignore the stupid and sometimes selfish ways if the new miley. Sorry that it doesn\'t exactly solve your problem but neither of us have that much influence over poor, ignorant crazy celebs. Just remember that she isn\'t worth getting so angry about. Just be glad that she did have a good run before she turned \"crazy\"


Which thing is best as a birthday gift for my daughter (5 years old)? (link)
Depends on how girly she is, if she loves fairys and princesses then maybe consider a doll or a dressing up costume, if she is more of a tomboy then some baseball boots or a bat may be cool, hope this helps. Remember you can\'t go wrong with colouring pens!


I am a single parent. I have two children. My oldest 7 years old has aspergers. I sometimes feel I have it figured out I can handle this. Other times I am on the verge of tears and just don't know what to do. He is in therapy, the school knows about his disgnoses, he is now being medically treated. ( he has ADHD and Aspergers) If I take him to a store, zoo, holiday party, etc he will have a melt down just cry scream not want to be there. If we go to friends birthday parties he will get angry with the other kids and they are being kids not being any meaner than normal kids would be. I stand right there supervising because with him having problems I dont always know how hell get or how other kids who have not been around kids with problems may react and it doesnt help that he is a lot taller than children his age he is 4'7". He plays sports but when his younger sister is in gymnastics which his grandfather takes her to because I normally work that day he will act up in public. I feel I cant take him anywhere feeling trapped. Dont get me wrong. I love my son and would never trade him for anything I enjoy all our good times but I want him to interact with people. I want to be able to call people over and do a dinner or play date or take my kids on a summer vacation. (link)
My best friend has aspergers and it is difficult at times to do things especially when he feels out of control. The best thing that I have found is putting us schedules and planning ahead for him, we also have discovered that he tends to get upset if he is confronted with a difficult situation in public where there is a possible audience ( I am sure you know how that feels). Try finding things that your son has an interest or hobby in, my friends is fish. And then do things that relate to that hobby. We go to the aquarium a lot and have sushi afterwards. The best thing to do is let them know that it is ok and they don't have to worry. When tommy gets upset or frustrated we sing a song and it usually calms him right down. It takes time but the best thing to do is to fing out what "works" for him and take it from there. Good luck


I truly loved a girl name preethi she lives in Coimbatore im Arun maheedhar in same area because of her situation and completion of her parents she left me we both doin masters in Coimbatore the day of her proposal is Nov 8 th around 7.30 in the evening then our life was awesome for few days like upto Dec 30 th the same year 2013 I was last seen her at Dec 30 th 2013 evening I dropped her in a market place and I left with tears and my tears still not stopped today april 6th 1.14 am I was feeling very sad abt the memories I tried to erase her memories but I can't I tried many things but only fail remains in love in carrer in life only her memories left with me now I want to die with that same memory but I don't want any resurrection after this life it's enough I'm now not fit for my life. Her birthday is April 9th so on that day I pray for her life for last time and I want to die with those memories please tell a way for a quick painless death (link)
I don't think that death is the right answer for your problem, perhaps writing a book with all the memories that you have of her could act as a form of closure for you and help you cope with your feeling of loss, I have no experience if this kind of pain and I know that it is very difficult for you but the best thing to do is keep on fighting treasure those memories you have of her because they are so precious and if you die they will be lost forever. Remember that you are not alone, there are people who have been through the same thing as you and trained professionals who can help with your feeling of loss. If I were you I would try and book counselling sessions or you can keep messaging me, I don't mind helping you.
I wish you the best and hope you can pull through this. If you do write that book about your memoirs then I look forward to reading it. Stay strong and good luck xx


I really like this girl, and i want to SHOW her that i would do anything for her to be safe, and i really would, i would take 10000000000000000000 bullets for her and im dead serious. i just want to be recognized as a good guy for one day. (link)
spend some time with her and be gental with her girls want to feel protected but not over protected, if you act over proctective towards her she will start to think of you like an older brother and that is not a good thing. if you dont get the oppertunity to save her, save other things infront of her this will highlight you as a hero in her head.


I really want to lose weight, I can never do it becuase no one can support me. Please help (link)
i would think about the resons why people won't supprot your weight loss. are you already skinny? i think that you should type your details into the BMI calculator online and then make a decision.


Hi all,

Recently I put on a good 10kgs (unfortunately) therefore also rendering most of my wardrobe useless.
I am now working out and have already dropped a kilogram but am not enjoying this mid-state of not really having anything to wear.
Whilst I was still in shape I would often wear slightly baggy tops (but flattering on my figure), blouses, etc with fitted jeans and then whatever footwear.

Right now I'd naturally not wear skin tight tops, and at the same time, certain oversized shirts make me look even bigger.
So, my question is does anybody have some outfit ideas or suggestions (Or even looks created on polyvore or similar) that would be suitable for a slightly overweight figure?


Since it's still chilly where I live, I would like it to be jeans based.
My basic footwear goes from boots to flats, depending on the weather, a pair of white low-top converse and a pair of girlie Vans.

When it comes to tops - I am quite casual but still feminine/pretty (i.e not just band shirts or hoodies..)

I would really appreciate some outfit suggestions that don't accentuate the extra weight but still work with it. As we all know, confidence is essential and I want to feel good about myself again, especially as I am working off the extra weight! Right now I find myself reaching for the plain black tops in my wardrobe which do nothing for me :( (link)
one word; blazers!!!
They will make you look sopisticated and also edgy,you can choose if you want fitted or baggy blazers and they generaly look good on everyone! the best thing to do however (i know that it sounds a bit cheesy) is to feel confident and to smile!


Okay , so, two hears ago, i move to a new school, i meet an amazing guy, soon we're best frriends, we text, talk, all the time! He however, has a girlfriend, and i think they're happy together, n i dont want to break them up, but i like this guy, and we do go well together, problem is..this girl's smokin' hot! N im not as good looking, so thats a downpoint for me. I have no idea what to do, because we do flirt, but i dont think he's serious. And i dont think confrontaion is a good idea because we're really good friends and i have no idea what to do! (link)
the kind of girl that you are describing here sounds like all the other average "hot" girls. if you share interests and are friends with this guy, that is instantly better than looking good as he will feel comfortable in your presence be patient and make sure that you hang out more because this way he will see the real and interesting you


ive asked myself this a lot of times,why am i depressed?
i have great parents that are so openminded,i have friends,i go to an awsome private school that i love,i have nice clothes,i have a pet that i love,ive traveled,i get almost anything that i wont,i have sort of good grades,im not insecure,not a skinny gurl,but i love myself the way i am,sooooo why am i so sad,why do i spent nigh after night crying for hours and hours? what went wrong? whats the reason for this unhappiness? it hurts so much and the only reason that i dont kill myself are my oarents,it would ruin them. but i dont know if ill make it,im 15 and already so damaged,what will that turn into after a few years? will i take it,im strong,very string,but im feeling like ill break,can you help me please (link)
definatley hormones, at 15 your body is going CRAZY because you are developing, the best thing to do is to concentrate on what good things in your life are coming up and focus on those instead of thinking about how miserable you are! engage yourself more in fun things rather than depressing ones


hello, im18F
im a student and there's this guy in my class who im crazy about. I liked him since we first met and now after more than six months we have become real good friends. We sit together, and are in the same group in college. I really like him alot but how do i know if he likes me?
I like advising people on their relations but i suck at my own.
I terribly afraid of rejection, and i don't want it to be something just for fun.
I think about him all the time, and i long for a single message everyday.. What's do i do?
PS: im not really pretty or extremely attractive, i feel it may be a reason he may not feel the same:/ (link)
I have almost exactly the same problem and completely get how you feel, because of this I can't offer advice but I can offer moral support. It seems that others find dating and relationships easy but there are others out ther exactly the same as you so hang on in there and just get better friends with this guy, meening that you get to spend more time with him.


so first of all i hope you know what ask.fm is, if not its a social network where u can ask people questions and they will answer.So we are close friends, we hug and she kisses me on the cheek sometimes, but she does that to many other guys, so you can call her a brave girl.There is a dance the 23 of march and i asked her if she wanted to go with me on ask.fm. and she responded not in public but sent it to me privately:
"I love you *schel!!You have a nice butt!! LOL (link)
she does want to go but may be a bit embarresed


hey im 18F
i need some advice on how not to get distracted easily. I get it, its a weird question, but my problem is i cant completely devote my time on a particular activity for long, i lose focus or get distracted. Like studying or keeping a resolution etc.
I really need some thing that will help:/ (link)
set your self a "reward scheme" i know it sounds stupid but tell your self that if you finish a peice of work then you can have X amount of time on the computer or doing something fun


tell me cool and fun places in philadelphia :)) (link)
type fun things to do in philladelphia into a serch engine and things should come up


Hi i am a 13 year old girl and i have acne, who doesn't at this age! does anybody know how to calm it down or get rid of it? i have very sensitive skin and can only use certain creams and stuff on it so i find it quite hard to find anything. if anybody knows let e know, thanks x (link)
i dont know if you are in the uk or usa but in england we have a cream called sudocrem and its mainly used for nappy rash but it actually works wonders on acne! this is because it drys out the spots and balances the natural oils on your face!




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