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Nobody Talks To Me. How do I cope with this?
Okay so im 18 i just turned 18 3 days ago (April 21) & nobody came to my birthday party , nobody told me happy birthday , happy late birthday or anything.
I'm a senior in highschool and nobody talks to me i sit alone at lunch and it's so awkward. I'm a black kid. around 240 pounds & i'm 6'6 any i'm not chubby i have some muscles. and kids who are overweight have friends. I text people and they ignore it and when im in class i hate when the teacher says partner up with somebody cause nobody partners up with me , i'm not a weird person. i dress very nice , i have a great personality but nobody will ever know. people say go make other friends.. but i tried. every single person i try to talk to ignores me and gives me this "why are you talking to me" face.
I haven't even had a girlfriend.. haven't had my first kiss , i haven't even hugged a girl. nobody has came and hanged out with me since. even in middle school. people say nobody that they want ever texts them... but i think in my mind they're lucky.. i wish people would even think about texting me. It's been 14 months since i've gotten a text. When i sit on the bus back home nobody talks to me i just sit in the back and listen to my music. while everybody is in the front just living it up.. I couldn't even go to prom since if i went i'd just be there by myself with nobody attempting to talk to me.
Sorry for venting but i don't know what im doing wrong . like i even to twitter and tried to make friends and nobody even talks to me. i even wrote a girl who i knew who was like my only friend a poem and i would give her goodnight, goodmorning messages and i bought her stuff for her birthday and everything. and outta nowhere a year ago she ignored me and everysince i've never had a friend. she was my only one.. i just need some advice how can i cope with this? :/
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I think you worry too much about other people and what they think of you. In which you shouldn't. The right people would like you for you.
Now a days, people are very very shady. The problem may not even be you. Don't beat yourself up over this small issue.
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I am truly sorry to hear that you are being treated so poorly by your piers, it sounds to me like they are being quite immature about meeting and talking to new people. You generally seem like a good and kind person. And kids at our age (I am 17) don't want to meet other people if they already have a friendship group. I would suggest joining groups that you have an interest in, you mentioned you wrote poetry which I think sounds amazing, so try and find local poetry or writing groups. Meeting people with common interests is the first step to friendships. To me it sounds like you may be a step ahead of others maturity wise which to them may be daunting. What ever you do don't try and change your self so that you fit in to the perceived "popular" persona that will only make you unhappy and you want friends that love you for who you are. So try and find others with common interests (I know it's hard) and don't lose sight of what is important like loving your self and knowing people who respect you. Good luck, and for the record I would hang out with you because you sound like a kind and genuine guy.
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ok heres a few routes you can try that i can think of RIGHT NOW that could help. do you have any hobbies, or like to do anything? you could hang out with people that like doing what YOU like so you have a common interest. You could also go online to forums and start chatting with people that live in close proximity to you that like doing the same things. after a while you could grow close and then meet up with them in person, and youve got an instant friendship! i and many people i know have done this and stayed in touch with those people years down the line. Kids in school and sometimes high school can be awkward and sometimes a bit judgmental toward others because their still discovering who THEY are as a person, so theres alot of inner-turmoil going on inside them that you may THINK is just them not liking you but its not always the case. Try not to take it too personally. GROWN, MATURE adults typical dont act this way and will try to be at the very least "civil" with you even if they dont consider you a real friend. Thats always a good place to start, because a friendship can blossom from there once they've given you a chance. you DO have to be patient with some people though. not everyone has the same temperament as you.
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