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'fingering girl, may have precum on finger, but girl took ipill after the incident....will she be pregnant? (link)
There is a 50/50 chance. But you're gonna have to wait and see.


So there's this guy I've been crushing on so hard for the past while now. I'm in the US and he's in... Australia (fml). I really like him. Don't know if he sees me the same way. People think I'm crazy. But I was gonna like take it REALLY slow, get to know him a lot then tell him if I still like him as much or even more. Because if you truly like someone and want to be with them, it doesn't matter the distance, how much time you have with them, or how long it'll take to meet them, right? Btw, he said he's going to move to the UK or US when he graduates university. So there's a good chance with that, right? (link)
All of what you're doing is NOT wrong if he feels the same way that you feel about him. As long as he feels the same way for you then I believe that you should take it slow and do your best till he finally move to the US or UK.
But if he doesn't feel the same way, then why waste your energy? It takes two people to make a relationship work. So, if you're the only one who has feelings for him whilst he doesn't feel anything for you, then it'll be just a waste of your time.

But talk to him about it. See if he feels the same about you. Good luck :)


i have been confused about what i should be, i am a female that is more comfortable dressing in male clothes, i act more masculine then i do feminine however i do have certain female traits that keeping coming out (maternal - from when i was a step mum). i have been reading up and considering going through with a sex change operation. the only thing that is holding me back is i want kids and want to be able to conceive naturally. (link)
Well, maybe you should have kids now and then when you're done having however how many kids that you want then you can get a sex change. And adopting is okay too.


My friend found a baby kitten at her work and I ended up taking it because she couldn't. It looks about no more than 2 weeks. It can bearly hold its head up and shakes when it walks, its eyes are fully open and it fits in the palm of your hand. I have a bottle for it and it takes a few drinks then pushes away. How do you know how much to feed it? Do you know exactly how old it i? Do you know what I need to do for a kitten this young? Please help!!! (link)
If you feed the cat and it doesn't eat anymore, it probably mean it's not hungry anymore.
I'm not really sure too because I had never own a cat. But you can also look it up online.


Is it possible to get a rental car with 100$ in NYC? (link)
I would say it is possible and it also depends where you go to rent a car too.
Here\'s a link that may help. :)

http://www.dollar.com/Locations/LocalSites/NewYorkCity.aspx?LocationID=LGA


As well as other meet & fuck websites & zoosk. We've been together over 3 years & I love him so much idk what to do. His family means more to me than my own, & I really can't see him cheating. Do you think it's possible he could be part of these websites without actually going though with it? (link)
The only way you\'ll find out is if you ask him.

It COULD be that someone is using his picture. Who knows?


Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 3 years now. I'm 19 and he is 24. When me and him first got together I was 17 and he was 22 and we couldn't keep our hands off each other and he was always texting me and calling me and telling me how beautiful I am and we were always excited to see each other. He is also the only guy I've been with sexually. Now that we live on our own and have a 9 month old son he doesn't do everything he used to and he doesn't seem happy to see me anymore and we only have sex once a month. Is this normal? I feel unwanted and unloved:( I really wanna get back to the way me n him were before:/ please help. (link)
Marriage and having a child changes everything, love.
From my own experience, you can\'t change it.
I feel the same way too, and it hurts deeply, but there\'s nothing I can do. Things change.


What do you do when your significant other is kind of a jerk but knows it and is depressed about it and trying to change?

My boyfriend is a complicated person. He is extremely smart, logical and straightforward. He is loyal, honest, and fair. But these qualities make him terrible with people and relationships. He just doesn't get niceties, emotions, or how to relate with people. He is kind of dry and very serious. He can't pretend to enjoy something is he doesn't.

This brings me to my problem. He has slowly been losing his friends because he's been depressed and realized that people don't like him because of the way he is. Everyone is put off by his nature and they think he always has a stick up his butt. I don't know what to do because to me he opens up about how much he doesn't want to be the way he is but he just doesn't understand/trust/believe in people. He's always gotten bad reactions from them. He is extremely afraid of ending up alone and clings to me because I'm the only one who understands.

Slowly my friends started noticing this and I've noticed they contact me less to hangout. It was minimal and I tried to ignore it until the other day they told me I wasn't allowed to invite him to hang out with them because they don't want him there.

I don't know what to do. I know he has issues but he is a good person that just doesn't get people. He is not disrespectful or rude or anything. I feel bad leaving him because I know he's good but I feel like I am losing all my friends because I'm choosing to stay with him.

I don't know what to do. They do understand he's difficult but it's not their problem to stick by him or me until he changes. I'm stuck. Help? (link)
I\'ve always been a firm believer that true friends would ALWAYS be there and have your back no matter the situation. Friends just don\'t leave each other when their friendship is hard or get hard to be around each other. Maybe you both need new friends.

I can understand where your boyfriend is coming from because I too can be honest to the point of being rude, but I have a humor and I can joke around. And trust me, no one likes to be around whose always telling it like how it is. Most people can\'t take the truth, but if he doesn\'t want to be lonely then he needs to change. How? It\'ll take time. He just can\'t change within a day.


I was seeing this guy mostly on and sometime off for about 7 months. At first he seemed like the perfect boyfriend, but then his ex interrupted our picture. The thing is, he has a daughter with her, who is adorable I may add. His daughter is going to be 3 this year and they basically are in a custody battle over her because the Mom would rather party then raise her daughter and though he works full time, he says if he got custody he would make it work so he's with his daughter even more than he is now (everyday after work). He's a great father at 27, his ex is 19 right now and I'm 22. See, the only trouble is that when he sees his ex, his attitude completely changes for the negative... but he doesn't realize it, which caused little disagreements between us and now we've stopped talking because I know I can't fix whatever is going on between his ex and him. I'm not saying I've tried to fix their situation as that is purely between them and I can only be supportive, but he never wants to talk about it.. he'd rather be bitter. So now we are in limbo with eachother and I found out I'm pregnant. I have never believed in abortions, so I am keeping it. He once told me if I got pregnant he would support us 101% like his current daughter but now I'm not so sure and he may have deleted my number. I was thinking I might wait until I know I won't miscarry to tell him since I have some health issues. Part of me says he'll be excited to be a Dad again and the other part... (link)
In most relationship where it didn\'t end well, there ARE going to be bitter feelings when you see each other or hear about each other. That\'s normal.
But he shouldn\'t be bitter towards you. You\'re not the reason why he\'s bitter, so he should bring it out on his ex.

Sweety, listen to me. No matter what he\'s going through right now. Either hell or not, he DESERVES to know that you\'re pregnant. It takes two people in the act of making a child. So, he should know. Don\'t hesitate to tell him due to his problems with his ex. If you do, the one whose going to be miserable is you. Do yourself and the baby a favor and TELL HIM.


I have registered for my 5th year for college and it seems as though I am not getting any financial aid money this year. What is going on? I filed my fafsa a month ahead of time. There was a verfication worksheet I had to do (which is suppose to be random, but I have done this for the 3rd time in a row) and I did it late, but that was after I found out that I can print my IRS transcript online, so I had to wait four weeks. 2 weeks because I accidently ordered the wrong one and another 2 weeks because I had them mail it to me. Still, that is not a good reason for me to NOT get financial aid because most of them are student loans. (link)
I think you should check and make sure if you\'re actually going to get financial aid because from what I believe in, it shouldn\'t be taking forever.

I don\'t know the exact reason to why, but seriously, get it checked out.


Hi, I'm 19/F. I'm deeply in love with my boyfriend of almost 2 years now but our relationship has been kind of private due to my parents. They are not allowing me to start dating until I get at least a bachelors degree but I love my boyfriends so much. He wants me to tell my parents about us so do I but I'm scared that they'll get mad and start drama. His mother knows about us and I just want to be able to tell my parents about anything. What should I do? (link)
It shouldn\'t always matter what your parents say. When you love someone, you fight for them.

Yes, I understand that your parents care for you, but is it really call caring if you do what they say and it breaks your heart? They wouldn\'t want to see you upset. You have to make them understand that you\'re in love with him. And there\'s nothing that can tear you two apart. And if you two shall ever part it is because of you two, not anyone else.

I was in the same situation as you are in now. I fought against my parents to be with him, but you know, sometimes parents know best, but that was in MY case. Even if you do fight and in the end, it didn\'t turn out the way you wanted, at least you could say you tried and it made you stronger.

Never give up on your love because of other people.


something happened in the past that i cant forget and it really affect me a lot after that incident i can never go out meet other people because im scared that it might happen again i really dont know what to do it happen before my graduation since then i never try looking for a job but well i try once and after that every night i always thought of that day and i cant calm down i cant erase it from my memory i lost my confidence to go out meet other people im even scared of meeting those people involve in that incident im scared to meet them again not just other people im scared even my own family im scared of them i always want alone eating alone watchng alone sleeping alone i dont know whats happening to me. i need help and an advice please (link)
I can\'t possibly help you when I have no clue what your problem is. Yes, I know that something happened, but what? It\'ll be nice if you\'re more specific.

Face your fears, they\'ll never go away on their own.


Okay so im 18 i just turned 18 3 days ago (April 21) & nobody came to my birthday party , nobody told me happy birthday , happy late birthday or anything.

I'm a senior in highschool and nobody talks to me i sit alone at lunch and it's so awkward. I'm a black kid. around 240 pounds & i'm 6'6 any i'm not chubby i have some muscles. and kids who are overweight have friends. I text people and they ignore it and when im in class i hate when the teacher says partner up with somebody cause nobody partners up with me , i'm not a weird person. i dress very nice , i have a great personality but nobody will ever know. people say go make other friends.. but i tried. every single person i try to talk to ignores me and gives me this "why are you talking to me" face.

I haven't even had a girlfriend.. haven't had my first kiss , i haven't even hugged a girl. nobody has came and hanged out with me since. even in middle school. people say nobody that they want ever texts them... but i think in my mind they're lucky.. i wish people would even think about texting me. It's been 14 months since i've gotten a text. When i sit on the bus back home nobody talks to me i just sit in the back and listen to my music. while everybody is in the front just living it up.. I couldn't even go to prom since if i went i'd just be there by myself with nobody attempting to talk to me.

Sorry for venting but i don't know what im doing wrong . like i even to twitter and tried to make friends and nobody even talks to me. i even wrote a girl who i knew who was like my only friend a poem and i would give her goodnight, goodmorning messages and i bought her stuff for her birthday and everything. and outta nowhere a year ago she ignored me and everysince i've never had a friend. she was my only one.. i just need some advice how can i cope with this? :/ (link)
I think you worry too much about other people and what they think of you. In which you shouldn\'t. The right people would like you for you.
Now a days, people are very very shady. The problem may not even be you. Don\'t beat yourself up over this small issue.


Hey guys, there is this guy, named Matt. And he is really shy, but he talks to me online all the time. He seems really funny and nice, and I want to be friends with him. He normally takes the intiative to message me. Today was the first time we talked in person, face-to-face. I was the one who talked the most, and he seemed like he didnt want to talk to me even though he told me he wanted to. Now i'm really confused... he says online that he wants to be friends, and that he likes me and stuff, but in person he hardly talks.

1) Is this like a shy-flirting thing?
2) What should I do about his shyness?
3) also, i've heard from many people that he has a crush on me... he's really outgoing yet he doesnt talk a lot.

Thanks for the help guys. :) (link)
When two people meet for the first time, of course they\'re going to be shy. I mean, if you\'re not that kind of person, then props to you, but most people I know and met for the first time, the majority was very shy.
I think you just need to give it time. You two only met once, meet a couple more times and see where it go from there.
You can try to make him open up to you. He needs to feel comfortable around you.


So, this weekend just gone I had sex with a guy. Him and his girlfriend were split up at the time and he said they weren't getting back together so I didn't see much of a problem. But the next day he said they sorted things out but he didn't tell her about me and him.

I'm really not comfortable about this as I'm friends with alot of her friends so I'm gunna see her about alot and I hate keeping secrets and lying.
I've tried persuading him, but said I won't say a word until he says something to her 'cause she should really hear it from him not me or someone else. But this also means I can't talk to any of my friends about it, which sucks.
He won't tell her though as she has alot of family problems at the moment and doesn't think she'd be able to handle it and isn't sure what she'd do (guessing he means self harm etc).

Some sort of help would be great as I'm really not keen on this situation and can't chat to anyone! Thank you! (link)
First, he sounds like a fucking idiot.
How the hell are you going to break up with someone and then go fuck someone else? That\'s pure stupidity. And trust me, he won\'t tell her.

If I were you, I\'d look past all her life problems at the moment, because telling her would be the RIGHT thing to do. I mean, if you was in her shoes, wouldn\'t you want someone to tell you?
The longer you wait to tell her and the day you or him tell her, it\'ll hurt her even more. Trust.


my heart has been doing weird stuff so i was looking what can be wrong with the heart and it said "coronary artery disease" but i don't know what that means. can some one please explain so a 16 year old can understand? (link)
http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/coronaryarterydisease.html


I mean is it all like "unholy"? I know that black magic is like witchcraft but whats white magic? Will it get you sent to hell? I have been thinking about this since I read "Jays Journal". Also are spells considered witchcraft? (link)
To be honest, I don\'t know anything about Witchcraft , but to answer your question, I think that it depends on what you use magic for. For instance, if it\'s for a good cause, then no, I don\'t think it\'s bad, but if it\'s for a bad cause then yes, I would say it\'s bad.


I just cant stand it, I really want to masturbate, but I'm on my period right now. Is it still ok to? (link)
Yes, it's fine. I actually read that if you have bad cramps, an orgasm can help with the cramps.
Hey, anything to make cramps go away, right? Haha.


I had sex with Nathan after not seeing him since I was four yreas old he's a friend of,y older brothers . He seems t
He might like me but I know I like him more after having sex with him he doesn't really cuddle and I told him about it in fb not in a nagging manner or at least I don't think I did and he just read the message with no response which he might wait unilateral were both online ugh what the heck lol.....I'm a 21 yr old female and he's a 29 yr old male. (link)
Well, obviously if he isn't responding, then it means he doesn't feel the same way about you. It only makes sense. If he DOES feel the same way, then he would of wrote back.

I know this might sound harsh, but I think he just wanted sex from you, nothing more and nothing less.


I had been staying with wife for almost a year. Then suddenly she leaves house and has been really abusive verbally ever since. She has filed a divorce case against me. But, I cannot stop liking her. I tried to convey my liking to her in many ways, but nothing seems to work. Can you please advice what to do next/ how to get over it? (link)
How long have you two actually been married?
I don't think you can do anything to stop her. When a woman doesn't want to be with a man anymore, her heart is as cold as ice. Only time can heal the pain.
Usually when I'm upset about something, I do something that makes me happy. And if she is your happiness, then you're at fault for making her your everything because when she leaves, you're left with nothing.




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