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Really shy guy - want to be friends?
Hey guys, there is this guy, named Matt. And he is really shy, but he talks to me online all the time. He seems really funny and nice, and I want to be friends with him. He normally takes the intiative to message me. Today was the first time we talked in person, face-to-face. I was the one who talked the most, and he seemed like he didnt want to talk to me even though he told me he wanted to. Now i'm really confused... he says online that he wants to be friends, and that he likes me and stuff, but in person he hardly talks.
1) Is this like a shy-flirting thing?
2) What should I do about his shyness?
3) also, i've heard from many people that he has a crush on me... he's really outgoing yet he doesnt talk a lot.
Thanks for the help guys. :)
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When two people meet for the first time, of course they're going to be shy. I mean, if you're not that kind of person, then props to you, but most people I know and met for the first time, the majority was very shy.
I think you just need to give it time. You two only met once, meet a couple more times and see where it go from there.
You can try to make him open up to you. He needs to feel comfortable around you.
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this is common in guys who dont have alot of "experience" with girls. hes probably just being really quiet because he doesnt want to say the wrong thing or come off sounding stupid. my now husband was the same way.
when i a guy really likes you, he'll be shy at first and intimidated. Hes letting you do all the talking so that he can get to know you and understand your thoughts on things and how you view the world so that he can feel you out a bit and see if your the "the one" for him, or if his feelings for you are just on the surface.
try asking him things too and MAKE him talk but not in a mean way. ask him about his job, or hobbies he has, or what he likes to do etc. just say "but enough about ME, what about YOU? tell me about you more"
things like that.
Does he stare at you and smile alot and then look away? thats a huge red flag that he likes you and just cant even stand to look at you because your so pretty. ; )
good luck sweetie.
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