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suicide: Divorce, lost my house and family, bankruptcy and lost my job all within the last year.
I went through a divorce, lost my house and family, bankruptcy and lost my job all within the last year. I have been diagnosed with clinical depression. I am suicidal most days but haven't attempted yet. What do I do? I have been through lots of therapy also. I don't really want to die, just want pain to stop. Help me please.
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You have every right to be clinically depressed; you have had a lot to deal with in a very short period of time. I can understand how you feel having had a similar problem with clinical depression after being disabled by a car accident where I was the only victim and innocent in a three car collision. My disability forced me to retire before I was ready or fully prepared.
I know how you are feeling at the moment and all I can tell you is to hang in there, things do get better. Therapy with a good therapist, someone you are comfortable in working with is only part of the answer. Medication to help relieve the clinical cause of depression may also be needed.
Clinical depression is caused mostly by stress and you have had more than your share. Stress effects mood swings. The body has two hormones that control mood swings and depression. Given the amount of stress you are under your body may not be making enough of either hormone to help you control your mood swings and depression.
Therapy with a clinical psychologist helps identify and deal with the stress(ors) it does nothing to add to or replace the missing hormones; only a doctor can help with this.
The best doctor to help with this since these hormones are secreted in the brain is a Board Certified psychiatrist. They are best trained to deal with this problem and have served a fellowship and past the needed test to be certified in psychiatry. No your not crazy; you would have to suffer from manic depression to be classified as delusional and depressed.
I would like you to do three things for me which I believe will help you feel better sooner and keep you safe.
You say you feel suicidal most days, I understand this. If ever you feel like acting upon this or start to think about how. Please promise you will pick up the phone and dial 911. I understand that right now you are in a bad place and things just don't make a lot of sense. That's the depression talking. It makes us see things differently than if we were not depressed.
Next I would like you to find a Board Certified psychiatrist to visit with and hopefully be prescribed the proper medications that will help you feel better and allow you to work better with you therapist.
The third thing I would like you to do is call the following hot line where they can help you with the second thing if you need. They are the National Suicide prevention Hot Line. No matter what problems you are dealing with, they want to help you find a reason to keep living. By calling 1-800-273-TALK (8255) you’ll be connected to a skilled, trained counselor at a crisis center in your area, anytime 24/7. They will find you the help you need in your neighborhood.
As I said I have been where you are today and I have survived and recovered. There is alight at the end of this tunnel. The right kind of help is there all you need to do is ask for it. IF need be I am here to correspond with if you wish too.
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It sounds like you have the right to be depressed for sure. Thats a lot of crap to go through in such a short period of time.
I know you are probably sick or hearing &thinking this, but it takes time. The best way for you to get over it all and back into the swing of things is to keep busy.
Find a new job. Any job will do at first. Just find something to occupy your time and to feed you. Keep your eyes open for new opportunity's but do any job you can find for now.
Divorce is hard to get over. When the time is right get out there and have fun with people your age. Don't worry about a serious relationship for a while, but just get out of the house & have fun.
Keep busy for now. Keep in touch with your doctor. If he/she has you on meds & you don't feel they are helping, make an appointment and discuss it.
I'm sorry for what you have been through. It really is just going to take time to get over it all. Keep busy & good luck.
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You need to start fresh and now that it is the new year I would take it as an opportunity.
Get yourself into counseling. Divorce counseling can help speed the healing process. Focus on you, Start looking for a new job, save money or even consider going back to college.
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you need to find your passion and reinvent your life. stop thinking, start meditating. the answers will come to you through outside sources
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