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Hey! =) People tell me I give really good advice, so yeah, just ask me anything, as long as its a serious question, and I'll do my best to help you out. Um, I play piano, sing, dance, run track, and paint so if you have a question on one of those topics I'd definetly be able to answer it =). I mostly listen alternative or rock music but I like all kinds of music for the most part. The Used, Something Corporate, Brand New, Jack's Mannequin, Taking Back Sunday, Incubus, Matchbook Romance, Bayside, Bright Eyes, Hidden In Plain View, Dashboard Confessional, American Hi-Fi, Straylight Run, My Chemical Romance, The Academy Is, The Beatles Red Hot Chili Peppers, 30 Seconds to Mars, and Rooney are freaking awesome bands =).
If you have a question about song lyrics,(for example "I know song lyrics but I don't know what the song is") I recommend you go to letssingit.com =).

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so theres this guy i really like and i think he likes me back but im just waay to shy to talk to him. like when i see him in the hallway he smiles and i say hi, but thats it. to be honest i dont like his friends and they dont like me because they know i dont like them haha. sometimes hes alone at the busstation though until his friends come but he's always quite early. should i talk to him then? and i always have issues with smiling. like everytime i see him i freeze up and cant smile. once he's passed me, i cant stop. it really stinks cause i wanna smile at HIM not at the ground :/
help?

I know it can be intimidating to talk to someone you like, but it feels so much better when you finally talk to them. You have a perfect opportunity to talk to him when he's alone at the bus station. Just be like "hey, what's up?" or talk about the bus schedule haha. He sounds like he would wanna talk to you because he smiles and says hi to you. But if he doesn't respond the way you want him to, don't worry about it. The most important thing is that you tried. It's better than not talking to him and wondering what could of happened. Who knows? Maybe he likes you the same way you like him. It's worth a shot. Good luck!

So I did ask a question about this before but this is a lot shorter and not exactly askign the same thing...

One of my really good friends sent be a bumper sticker on Facebook the day before yesterday. The message that went along with it said something like, "Just a heads up! Please come back!" and the bumper sticker said "I miss you... the old you."

I've already established that yes, I have changed, but this girl is immature and I did mature. We don't share the same interests anymore and her sense of humor really bugs me. I'm willing to still be friends and hang out with her ocassionally, but I'm pretty sure she doesn't like my personality anymore.

Anyway. She sent that to me and I ignored it, figuring that it was immature and a bitchy thing to do and if she really wanted to talk to me about it, she'd at least send me a message or something. Nope. Yesterday in school she was distant, not making eye contact. She sent me the same one last night. That annoyed the crap out of me. Today in school she flat out ignored me.

16/f Should I initiate conversation or ignore this? Its all so immature and I feel like she should really be the one to start the conversation if she wants to talk about it but I feel guilty/mean ignoring it.

Thanks for your opinions :)

It may seem annoying that this girl isn't directly talking to you about how she feels, but she may just not know how to go about it. Maybe the bumper sticker is the only way she can bring herself to confront you because she's really nervous and probably can't find the right words to say what she means. Maybe she's tried before but couldn't bring herself to do it. That's probably the reason she's ignoring you. So, you should confront her instead. Ask her why she sent you that bumper sticker because you weren't really sure what she meant by it. Chances are, she really wants to talk to you about it and will be relieved that you initiated the conversation and are finally discussing it. If she doesn't talk to you, don't worry about it; at least you know you tried, and maybe she'll talk to you about it later. But don't make it a big issue if she doesn't talk to you. It may have seemed strange, but it was only a bumper sticker. So, just try talking to her and see how it goes. Good luck!

i'm looking for some songs like these ones:
ohio is for lovers-hawthorne heights
never too late-three days grace
all the songs off the matchbook romance voices album
umm and really just anything like that

thanks!!

Try some of these songs:
Twenty Twenty Surgery- Taking Back Sunday
Sound Effects and Overdramatics- The Used
Devotion and Desire- Bayside
Masterpiece-Bayside
Seventy Times Seven- Brand New
Bleed for You- Hidden in Plain View
Car Underwater- Armor for Sleep

This might generally be what you're looking for, I hope. I tried to pick bands that are relatively in the same genre.

So my boyfriend and I like to hang out at school in the morning during the zero hour. And seriously, we just talk. Occasionally I'll hug him, but there's honestly minimal kissing. It's just kinda how it is.

Anyway, most of the time around friends we just hug each other, and before class it's like, 'goodbye, *kiss*' and then we're done. It's not like it's anything all that bad that you don't see around schools anyway.

So the issue is, one of my friend's been giving me a hard time about it. Like, this girl was talking about how she hates when couples get all into it in public, and my friend was all, 'kinda like you guys!' And I told her that it wasn't how it is, and she said 'oh please, you guys are always all over each other.'

We're really not. Honestly, I'm not into the whole PDA thing, hugs are mostly all I'm comfortable with at school.

So...how can I talk to my friend about this? Obviously she thinks it's something bad, because she told me, 'people always say, oh, I saw her with her boyfriend'. Well, yeah, we talk. That's mostly it.

And should I talk to him too? Maybe say something about nothing other than hugging at school?
I dunno, this is bothering me. I always said I'd never get into the whole PDA thing and it looks like I have, even though I'm serious, it's not as bad as she makes it sound.

Help?

I think you're fine. I'm sure there are plenty of other kids at your school that show more public displays of affection. There are kids at my school that make out with each other like everyday in between classes and no one really sees an issue in people hugging lol. I honestly don't think hugging is a huge deal, and I'm not sure why your friends see it as one. I mean, sure, I could see if you and your boyfriend were literally all over each other in their presence, but it sounds like you're not. So even though they're your friends and of course their opinion matters, I wouldn't stop hugging/kissing your boyfriend just because people say that; it doesn't seem like the PDA is too over-the-top. Next time they say that, just be like "Hah sure whatever," and if she keeps insisting that you're doing that, just talk to her about it. Hope I helped! =)

We have to present a song with political meaning for my political science class and i was wondering if anyone had any ideas for a song to use. So far the only ideas i have are:

Like Toy Soldiers -- Eminem
Dear mr. president -- Pink

I can't do Bruce Springstein because thats the example we were given.

Thank you for your suggestions!

"We Didn't Start The Fire" by Billy Joel.
"American Idiot" by Green Day.
"Give Peace A Chance"- John Lennon
Look up lyrics to songs by The Beatles-- they wrote songs about peace around the time of the Vietam War so there are political messages in their songs.

I'm not really sure if these songs are exactly what you're looking for haha but they have political messages in them. Hope I helped! =)

I bought this really nice cheap marshmellow body mist by calgon but its only limited edition so that means it aint going to be out for long does anyone else know of a marshmellow perfume besides calgon or mariah careys??

Well I have this perfume called Pink Sugar, and it's by a company called Aquolina. It smells amazing; it really does smell like cotton candy or marshmellows. I got it at Sephora about two years ago. If you like the smell of marshmellows, then I recommend you buy it. =)

does anyone no any songs/ quotes about like being betrayed/ditched /ignored by best friends thankss a bunch ahead of time =]

Seventy Times Seven by Brand New
Saying Goodbye by Sugarcult
Existing In A Crisis (Evelyn) by Bayside
This Photograph Is Proof by Taking Back Sunday
Fairweather Friend by Spitalfield

Look up lyrics to songs by Brand New and Taking Back Sunday. They have a lot of lyrics that deal with ex-bestfriends, backstabbing, and other stuff like that (mostly because the lead singers of the two bands are ex-bestfriends.)

15/f
I'm an emotional wreck. And it's almost hard to believe that this has been caused by one guy. I used to be in love with him. He told me he didn't like me in that way (I suppose because he's older). Okay. I accepted the fact that he doesn't like me. But I still am always thinking about him! Always! Always waiting for hours on MSN, while we were in school, anywhere. I'm constantly thinking about him. I can never stop. He's just always on my mind. I don't know what to do. I can't concentrate on anything anymore. It's like, my whole life revolves around one guy. I know he will never like me and that nothing will ever happen, but I'm just so emotionally attached to him. I don't know how to overcome this and stop it. I've tried getting my mind off him; impossible. And jealousy...is a feeling that never goes away as well. *sigh* What can I do to keep him off my mind?

=[

I know this feeling. I bet you'll look back years from now and wonder why you were so obsessed with one guy... I know I have before lol. But don't worry about it, there are plently of other people out there to hang around with and have fun with other than this other guy. You sound like a mature person; just wait until after high school, there will be many more mature guys to choose from, and age won't be so much of an issue when dating. For now, just concentrate on school, activities, and most importantly, your friends. Besides, when you look back at high school when you're older, you'll really appreciate the good friends that you had, not guys that you liked or had short relationships with. In the end, remember that there are so many more important things than having guys liking you; in time, you'll find someone special. =)

Okay... well I'm not trying to get any religious views, or have anyone change my mind or anything like that... but I've always had a hard time figuring out what to believe in. I went to a Catholic school when I was younger [only cause it was right down my street though, haha] and neither of my parents are very religious... infact, they hardly are at all. But I never know what to believe. Like, I don't want to not believe in God... cause if there even is a "Hell" I don't want to go there and burn for all of eternity haha. Now, I don't really think there is [well I'm not even sure what to believe... there's so much I can learn about] but what if there is? I'll never know for sure. So basically, I'm just always worrying about things like that and I never know what to think =/ now don't like, try to call me stupid and naiive or anything, cause it's not my fault that there's 9857285 religons. Usually I just try to live my life being a good person... cause there's really no religon that looks donw upon that... That's what my mom always says anyway. "If there is a God or a whatever, as long as I spend my life being a good person, I'll be fine" So that's what I try to live by. [religon-wise]. What do you think?

I wonder the same thing all the time, actually. But I agree with what you're doing; it's great to just live life being respectful of others' beliefs and just trying to be a good person. Some religions, like Christianity, follow the principles of believing in certain things to get into heaven... but that doesn't mean that you have to necessarily believe in that to get into heaven. Like you, I was raised to believe that I should just be a good person and pick a religion to follow if I really wanted to, and just being a good person is fine with me because I don't really know what I believe in at this point in my life lol. I mean, there are plently of people out there that are religious and do good things for other people, but there are also people who claim to be "religious" but are just intolerant of others and are trying to force other people to believe what they believe religion-wise, if that makes sense, haha. What I'm saying is, everybody has different beliefs. Like you said, there are many, many religions, so maybe you'd be interested in researching and learning about different religion. I know some colleges offer courses about the origins of certain religions and stuff like that, so maybe when you get older and you're still interested you could look into that. So maybe look into it and see what you believe in, but there's nothing wrong with what you're doing right now; it's great that you're living your life as a good person. =) Sorry if I rambled; your question was really interesting to answer!

I'm doing a Jazz solo this year and I need some suggestions on songs. I really do not want a new song because those get annoying after awhile, so an older song would be better.

Thanks!

You know, there are quite a few songs that I listen to and think that they'd be a perfect song for a dance solo. =) I wish that people would do lesser-known songs for solos in dance like you're doing.
So here it goes:

Punk Rock Princess- Something Corporate
Cryin'- Aerosmith
It's Still Rock And Roll To Me- Billy Joel
Honestly- Cartel
Soar- Christina Aguilera
Promise- Matchbook Romance
Shimmy Shimmy Quarter Turn- Hellogoodbye
Privelege- Incubus
Into The Airwaves- Jack's Mannequin
Don't Stop Believin'- Journey
Everything Is Alright- Motion City Soundtrack
The Future Freaks Me Out- Motion City Soundtrack
Lunacy Fringe- The Used

Ok so there's this kidd in my summer school class and i dont know anyone in that class but he started talking to me and every class he talks to me and one time he sat next to me and said i'm gonna sit next to you cause your my friend he sat next to me when he could have sat anywhere else in the classs near the people he know's but then the teacher made him move to his actual seat and he was like ahhhh man does anyone think he likes me

Yes, it sounds like he is interested in you. That's pretty cool that you've met someone to sit next to in that class, especially someone who's already calling you their friend. =) Well if you like him, you're in luck because he probably likes you, so just talk to him more and continue sitting next to him, if you can. Maybe one day you could talk to him outside of class and ask him to hang out. This kid obviosuly wants to be around you, so if you want to, go for it. =)

Does marc anthony's instant straightning cream work? if so will it work on thick frizzy wavy hair? thanks in advance

Well I've used the straightening shampoo and conditioner before and it did not work for me at all, and I was pretty disappointed. I mean, I'm just saying that the Marc Anthony stuff didn't work so hot for me, but you could try it if you wanted. Who knows? It could work. But I know that many girls wish that there was some kind of miraculous straigtening cream that made hair perfectly straight and didn't damage hair as much as a flat iron, but in reality, there isn't one...yet. Haha. If you need to straighten your hair, always remember to use some kind of heat-protective thing. I recommend anything by Tresemme or VO5... or you could just ask your hairdresser, she'll know what's best. =)

Moments ago I made french fries, I was looking for an alternative to ketchup (because it gets old) and came up with garlic ketchup. More simply, it's ketchup with garlic powder mixed in. It's not bad.

My question is, however, what are some weird foods/combos that are enjoyable?

I always find seem to find weird food combinations that are really good. Try:

-Ramen noodles and chocolate syrup (but don't boil the ramen noodles, just take them out of the package, break them apart, and put chocolate syrup on them.
-Crumble up doritos and put them in a salad or soup.
- Those jumbo pretzel things with ranch dressing. Actually, practically anything tastes good with ranch dressing.
-Put cheetos in sandwiches.
-Try putting salsa on hamburgers instead of ketchup. =)

What makes you happy the most?

This is a really interesting question. Thanks for asking it; it makes everyone think. =)

When the weather is perfect, feeling loved or cared about by people, doing something out of the ordinary, laughing about something with friends, staying up really late just talking to someone or for no reason at all, and other stuff.

But sometimes being positive just makes me happy. Like, thinking about something you want the most and knowing that it could possibly come true, or even just temporarily realizing that things are just going how you want and having that feeling of optimism that nothing could bring you down and that everything is going to turn out alright. I just wish I felt like that more. Hmm... anyways there's my answer. =)

14/f, if it matters (:
i want to find songs like these;
When I Go Down - Relient K
Save Us - Cartel
Gravity - John Mayer

my friend died last friday, her funeral is thursday, and i'm supposed to make a CD of songs like that,

like, rock-ish, but slow songs, and sad.
thanks in advance for any help

I'm sorry about your friend. =(

Try some of these songs:

Your Guardian Angel- Red Jumpsuit Apparatus
Bend Your Arms To Look Like Wings- Funeral For A Friend
Poprocks and Coke- Green Day
I Miss You- Incubus
I Wish You Were Here- Incubus
Rescued- Jack's Mannequin
Tiger Lily- MAtchbook Romance
If All Else Fails- Matchbook Romance
I Wish You Were Here- Matchbook Romance
What A Sight- Matchbook Romance
Paper Airplane Machine- Meriwether
The Ghost Of You- My Chemical Romance
End- Secondhand Serenade
Walking By- Something Corporate
Sidewalks- Story Of The Year
Hard To Say- The Used
Hands On Deck- Waking Ashland
One Year, Six Months- Yellowcard
View From Heaven- Yellowcard

Some of these songs start out slow and turn into kinda fast songs, so just check 'em out. Hope I helped. =)

I can never sleep if i have something nerve racking to do the next day. and like, when school comes, since im going to a new school, ill be so nervous. what are some ways to go to sleep?

I used to be nervous about everything and was practically an insomniac because I could never fall asleep before like 1:00 lol. But I remember the thing that freaked me out the most was thinking "Omg I'm never gonna fall asleep; everyone else is probably asleep right now except for me." But there are a lot of people who have trouble sleeping at night, too, including myself. Try buying that lavender-scented stuff that you could put on your pillow; lavender is supposed to calm your nerves. You could try doing something that will make you bored and tired, like reading an instruction manual or counting the number of dots on your ceiling haha. I heard if you concentrate on relaxing every muscle in your body while laying, you'll get tired and want to fall asleep. Or you could drink non-caffinated tea or get some kind of sleep medication. If you can't fall asleep, it's not the end of the world; just watch TV or read a book until you're tired. The bottom line is, just try not to get wound up about school while trying to sleep...but if you can't, try the other random things I just mentioned haha. Good luck and...goodnight. =)

are cameras allowed into the honda civic tour (fall out boy, +44, the academy is, and cobra starship)?

thank yyou!!

When I went, my friends brought digital cameras and there were a couple other people with them, too... but if you're in the mosh pit section-type thing, try to hide your camera if a security guard looks at you lol. Every once in a while they would check to see if anyone had a camera and everybody in the pit just hid them until the security guards looked away. So yeah, bring one, but don't make it too obvious that you have a camera, I think you'll be alright. =)

when i am bored i eat. and i'm bored a lot. i'm bored becuase i live in the country and there is nothing to do out here. and most days it's windy or rainy to go outside or its a raging inferno. i hate that i eat so much but it's a way to keep me preocupied. What can i do to stop this?? and i want to go on a diet but i can't stay on it becuase of this boredom thing. it really really sucks and believe it or not it's slowly control and hurting my life. I have no self confidence since this all started. I used to be a skinny minnie but then i got bored with these little things and now i really am over my head and need serious help. please anwer anything you can think of to keep me focused on my diet.

Well you already have the motivation you need to lose weight-you have lost self confidence, it's controlling your life, and you want to be at the weight you used to be. Now, you're saying that you eat because you're bored. Well, instead of eating when you're bored, do something active that will both entertain you and keep you in shape. Take a dance, yoga, or some kind of workout class or go to a gym (if you have one nearby.) Since you said you live in a rural area, there are things you can do at home, too. Buy workout tapes/DVDs, run outside when the weather's not bad, or simply just buy a jumprope and jumprope while listening to music. You'll find if you're bored and you workout as oppsed to eating, you'll stay in shape and be occupied with something. Maybe try getting a job or doing volunteer work, too. Since you live in the country, there are probably farms and orchards you could work at, so look around.

Try these websites for indoor workouts:
http://exercise.about.com/b/a/222990.htm
www.emaxhealth.com/43/1138.html
http://www.mindspring.com/~ronstein/Articles2/Indoor%20Workouts.htm
Just go to google.com and type in "indoor workouts." Hope I helped. =)

This is going to sound stupid,
but I'm 16/f I've never had a boyfriend yet,
never been kissed.

Its pathetic right?

I'm one of those people who crave a relationship, to be loved and to love.

All the guys I meet seem to just be 'good friends' and a lot of them actually, have feelings for my best girl friends.

I usually can solve or potentionally solve all my problems with answers from myself or others.

But I dont know why I cant find a boyfriend,
I have a lot of guy friends, but none seem to be interested in that way.

I dont even know how to attract them anymore,
I'm just so confused. And I'm lonely.
I know I'm young, but can any of you relate, and if so, what happened so far?

I just feel like something is wrong with me.

Wow, the same thing is happening to me, lol. I'm also 16 and I wonder all the time why I don't have a boyfriend while it seems like everyone else does, especially my friends. But I realize that not everyone that is in a relationship is happy. The majority of my friends have boyfriends, and I've noticed that they all gradually start to spend less time with their friends, worry constantly about troubles with their relationships, and are distracted by their relationships most of the time. You never know, one of your guy friends might think of you as more of a friend and you just may not know it. I know that sounds cliche, but it can be true, who knows? You're only 16; when you get out of high school, more guys will be more mature; you'll probably have a lot of guys interested in you... as for now, you don't need some guy to make you feel loved. Just concentrate on school, friends, and other stuff, maybe even join a club or work somewhere where you can get to know guys better. High school relationships only last for a little while, anyway; I bet when you're older you'll look back on highschool and be okay about not wasting any time on short relationships that didn't really amount to anything. Believe me, there are a lot of people out there who are in the same situation as you, including me. Just don't worry and you'll find what you're looking for. =)

can drinking a lot of water everyday make you lose weight?

Sort of. If you substitute the drinks you usually have daily with water, then you have a good chance of losing weight. For example, if you drink soda or juice alot and start drinking water instead, it's very likely that you will lose weight. Plain water has no calories and it filters out impurities in your body, so it's very good to drink. But since it really has nothing in it, you can't drink it instead of actually eating, lol. Plus, if you just drink water and don't start eating healthier, you'll probably just see a small change in your weight. You are, in fact, supposed to drink 6-8 glasses daily but you'll have to pee alot haha. So, yeah, if you just start choosing water over juice and/or soda, you will probably lose weight. =)

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