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emotionally attached to a guy
15/f
I'm an emotional wreck. And it's almost hard to believe that this has been caused by one guy. I used to be in love with him. He told me he didn't like me in that way (I suppose because he's older). Okay. I accepted the fact that he doesn't like me. But I still am always thinking about him! Always! Always waiting for hours on MSN, while we were in school, anywhere. I'm constantly thinking about him. I can never stop. He's just always on my mind. I don't know what to do. I can't concentrate on anything anymore. It's like, my whole life revolves around one guy. I know he will never like me and that nothing will ever happen, but I'm just so emotionally attached to him. I don't know how to overcome this and stop it. I've tried getting my mind off him; impossible. And jealousy...is a feeling that never goes away as well. *sigh* What can I do to keep him off my mind?
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Heyy.
I'm 15/f also.
I understand where you are coming from. When my exboyfriend dumped me, I was a wreck too. I couldn't sleep, I couldn't eat, and for a while, I just shut out everyone. But I did eventually find how to get over him.
I found that being single, is a time to find yourself. I know that that sounds insanely corny .. but it's true. You find out who you are without the impact of others.
Being single made me a stronger person. And once you know exactly "how you are" and what kind of person you are .. then, if you feel confident enough, can let go. Let go of him. If you say he doesn't like you like that, then let go. I know it sounds harder than that .. but you're a 15 year old teenage girl, you need to live! Get out there and meet other guys! Good luck! If you need any more help, feel free to messege me!
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This seems to happen to every teenage girl at some point and it's very hard to over-come,But it is possible to let things go.You need to do things to get him off your mind.At least, your accepting the fact that it won't work out between you two and willing to get over him.That's a start.Going out with your girlfriends and having fun.Not to worry about one guy.You shouldn't have a guy running your life.There's more to life than just having a guy like you.It's about moving on and enjoying life as it is.Trust that you will find someone else.I'm sure there are plenty of guys who will like you and would love to be with you, who won't determine who he likes on your age.Don't hold back.Focus on more important things like friends,school and whatever you like to do.Enjoy your younger days where you are able to have fun and do what you please.Every time you even have some thoughts of him, disipline yourself and think of something else.Try not to let him ruin your life by becoming bitter and resentful.Be confident and willing to move on.Hope I helped.Good luck though.
<3 Lacey
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I know this feeling. I bet you'll look back years from now and wonder why you were so obsessed with one guy... I know I have before lol. But don't worry about it, there are plently of other people out there to hang around with and have fun with other than this other guy. You sound like a mature person; just wait until after high school, there will be many more mature guys to choose from, and age won't be so much of an issue when dating. For now, just concentrate on school, activities, and most importantly, your friends. Besides, when you look back at high school when you're older, you'll really appreciate the good friends that you had, not guys that you liked or had short relationships with. In the end, remember that there are so many more important things than having guys liking you; in time, you'll find someone special. =)
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maybe ites the fact that you dont know why he is not interested in you, and you thinking about him means you just are crazy about this guy, you need to say to yourself that its never going to happen! and try to not go around him or by him and hang out with your friends, go shopping whatever you know? It'll all be okay Girls always go through obsession phase when it comes to something they really want to happen but deep inside know that its all Fatuation.
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Unfortunately, your feelings for him will not just go away. It is not impossible though. First, you have to be confident that you will find the right person for you. Why waste your time on a guy who doesn't do the same with you?? It isn't supposed to sound harsh, but you said he only sees you as his friend. Why spend so much time on someone that won't date you?? You have to go out & be with other guys. Date around. You don't need to go jumping into a relationship, because obviously you'll still have feelings for him. Go on a few dates here & there. Make new guy friends. Go out with the girls & meet new people. Any of these things will help improve your self esteem. You need to realize that if it isn't going to happen, it isn't going to happen. Don't let your feelings for one guy run your life. You're only 15 years old. You're still in high school. You have so many opportunities to meet someone that will love you for you & that you could date. How can you stop thinking about him?? Don't talk to him. If you talk to him a lot, you need to spend time away from him & try to forget about it. Keep yourself occupied. Whenever you realize you're thinking about him, stop & do something else. Jealousy is extremely common, especially because he is going to go out & date other girls. It's natural. Ignore it. Why?? Because you aren't dating him & since you guys aren't dating, he is obviously going to date other people. Advice isn't supposed to hurt your feelings, but it's a reality. No one should sugar coat it, because it will make things worse in the long run. Give yourself a break. Go out & find a guy who will treat you well & wants to date you. Hang out with your friends from school or your family. Get out of the house & move on from this guy. If you aren't friends with him, it will be a lot easier. Talking casually isn't a big deal, but it may be difficult to get over your feelings for him if you talk a lot. You need to stay focused on other things, such as your school work & your family & friends.
-hope that helped!♥
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Well, some things that could take your mind off this person is to do a puzzle, play games, hang out with your friends. Try to not think about him, you still have things ahead of you in life, and you shouldn't take this time to be a little obsessive over one guy. I used to be an obsessor myself, but it all worked out when I started to like another person. You should try thinking about another guy that you think is cute. That should help a little bit.
I hope this helped.
//Smallazn4lyfe
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