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Last Update: July 19, 2007
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WEll actually i dont think he did mean right because he gave all theses excuses on how he didnt want to go out with anyone, then he goes out with him and she didnt make a move her couzin started teasing them that they should go out and he didnt sday no so then she belived they were going out, then hes tell me he didnt like me , Alll o f a suden, and he still likes flirting with me and being close..thats wat get me really pissed off but he doesnt want me as a girlfriend.! And theres still alot more to it.. but i think its a little too much to write. But so people understand better should i add the extra info? (link)
I kinda get it, Maybe hes more interested in your body than your mind? thats what im getting out of this new information. a puppet to his playing. no matter what your gonna be pissed at him. maybe you should tell him that you dont appreciate him playing with you, and if he is like "im not im just being friendly" go to his girlfriend and tell her, if you want revenge thats how to do it!


i've been molested, as a child. it happened often and i've tried so hard to block it out but now i feel like it defines me. nobody knows, i can't say anything nobody will believe me. everybody will hate me. he ruined me. i picture how my life would be if it never happened, the way i am now is horrible. i make so many mistakes just trying to make myself feel better but nothing works. i dont know what to do, i cant talk to anybody. im 16, this happened the summer going into 5th grade then into the year.

nothing makes it go away i don't know what to do i want to die so badly. (link)
hey i've been in your situation...the first thing you need to do is forgive him. i know its sounds all fucked up and why ! do it. but it helps trust me. love yourself, get your family more close to you or your friends someone you trust and talk to them about it. what your feeling it helps to know theres someone out there that has been through like me. if you ever need to talk to someone im here too. hit me up@ this email

blackheart72001@Yahoo.com


I am feeling lost, I am trying to keep my postives and self exteam good. but lathy I been down and about. I been praying alot. but nothing seem to work, thing is that. i am 22 years old, and I haven't have a job yet or trying get my ssi the 4th time. and i dont have alot of friends hang out with. i love my family very much but everybody busy doing work, i try to enjoy my self and try do what i want to do. but can't seem to do it. i mean i am 22 years old but a about a 12 or 15 year old body.. I not immture at all.. but thing is that i don't dive and becouse of my disbities.. and thing is that i lost my self exteam last summmer. thing is my friend and yet she went collage and had a roomate who treated me so bady online. i didn't do anything. and made me feel like my friend betrading me and stuff like that.. ok lathy i been fill with bad and neitve thoughts in my minds. i use be so postive and have alot of motervation. sorry this is long. i hope someone understand and get me.. i am feeling not my self anymore.. (link)
I understand, maybe when your room mate was being all fucked up to you, you kinda took it to heart. so dont worry so much, go outside look around see the trees, or desert or Ice.? i dont know where ever you live go outside and look out. you'll see what i mean.


14/f
Well i really liked this guy since the beginning of school two d ays after he came.(which was in like september the first week)
then in about janusry-february we became relally close friends. and i still liked him. then about a few weeks ago at the end of june on the 26 or something he told me he liked me and stuff and i got my hopes up. then a day or so later he started going out with this other girl.and evrytime i would ask him if liked her or watever he would tell me no.(and i got my hopes up so i stayed his friend) Then one of the fisrt things i told him when we became friends was NOT 2 LIE 2 ME!!!!
Well today i asked him again and he gave me alll these excuses but i finally got the truth out of him and he only like me a little bit and i dont think even so AND HE REALLY LOVES HER even after he told me she was just an experiment and stuff. After he tells me he asks if we can still be friends like nothing and am i mad im mean wth??
QUestions:
1) do i have a reson to over react?
2)How do i move on if i really really still like him and have to see him in highschool! Plus he live 2 Blocks away and we share a friend!?
3)Am i really ugly or was his choice better or idk tell me wat u think please!!!!!!!!?
me=http://www.myspace.com/darkprincess_tira
her and him=http://a592.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images01/77/l_79000a4197e90867cd42d96b106caab7.jpg (link)
OKay, sounds like he did like you, and well you didnt' make a move so he liked this other girl and she made a move. but he still wanted you as a really close friend or a plan b. the reason for him to make excuses is cause at first he meant it but then he didnt want to take it back maybe so he kept covering it with a bunch of bullshit. (scuse my language) so you are kind of over reacting, he meant well righT? and he obviously wants you as a friend, but a word of advice dont consider going with him if he breaks up with her, it will only end up in disaster. oh
and other thing
NEver Judge your LookS! because Once you judge yourself, you doubt yourself. Hope this helps

-Trista.


Ok, I've only had my period like 5 times and Im almost 17. My mom took me to a doctor who gave me some supplements but Ive only had a period once in the past three months... (I havent had one this month) What do I do? (link)
okay girl, been in your sitatuion- ask for Birth control i know your thinking What?! But its true it regulates your period so you can never have it to much or to little cause that bastard's gonna come every month! so go for it!


15/f
I'm an emotional wreck. And it's almost hard to believe that this has been caused by one guy. I used to be in love with him. He told me he didn't like me in that way (I suppose because he's older). Okay. I accepted the fact that he doesn't like me. But I still am always thinking about him! Always! Always waiting for hours on MSN, while we were in school, anywhere. I'm constantly thinking about him. I can never stop. He's just always on my mind. I don't know what to do. I can't concentrate on anything anymore. It's like, my whole life revolves around one guy. I know he will never like me and that nothing will ever happen, but I'm just so emotionally attached to him. I don't know how to overcome this and stop it. I've tried getting my mind off him; impossible. And jealousy...is a feeling that never goes away as well. *sigh* What can I do to keep him off my mind?

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maybe ites the fact that you dont know why he is not interested in you, and you thinking about him means you just are crazy about this guy, you need to say to yourself that its never going to happen! and try to not go around him or by him and hang out with your friends, go shopping whatever you know? It'll all be okay Girls always go through obsession phase when it comes to something they really want to happen but deep inside know that its all Fatuation.




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