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I've had the same hair for a long time.
I can't think of any styles.
In the past i've had : side bangs, really really short, angles, layers
and right now i have angles and layers except the angels are growing out. I am trying to grow my hair half way down my back, but i dont know what to do with it when it is that length.
some things about my hair:
it does NOT scrunch
its really thick
it doesnt frizz
right now its about 5 inches past my shoulders
anything would be nice; pictures or just a description.. thank you (link)
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I would try going to a hair stylist and seeing what she/he thinks about what would work best with your hair type.
For me, I have the exact same hair type as you - REALLY thick, wavy, and no-frizz.
I would suggest using the curly hair care products by John Frieda. Those work the best for me. I also use the Totally Twisted hair care line by Herbal Essence, and that works wonders, too.
If your hair ever gets out of control, I'd just pull it up into a ponytail.
I would also try to get your hair cut to about shoulder-length, because then it's more manageable...
If you need anymore help, just ask. :)
-Mariah-
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how much money should i be get paid to babysitt a 2 years old and a 1 year old? (link)
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It all depends on your age, babysitting experience, time of day you're babysitting, for how long you're babysitting, and the area in which you live (how much people are willing to spend).
If you are a younger teen (14 or under), and only have a few years of experience, I'd charge about $5 an hour. If you have to take care of more than 2 kids, I'd charge $.50 extra per hour per kid.
If you're an older teen (15 or older), and have more experience, than I'd charge about $6. Please note that regardless of your age, you should add a dollar to your hourly rate if you are certified in CPR and First Aid.
Here are a few tips of mine on advertising for babysitting:
Never put flyers inside of people's mailboxes because it is illegal. I would advise putting them in their newspaper holders instead.
Also, I wouldn't advise posting flyers or handing them out to strangers, because some strange weirdo that doesn't have any kids could call you and you could be in serious trouble.
I pass them out to people that you know, like friends, neighbors, relatives, your parents' co-workers, .etc.
The best and most-trusted form of advertisement is word-of-mouth. But, hear this, customers are 3 times more likely to tell other people about a bad service than a good service. So make sure that you offer a great babysitting service and try not to make a customer mad, because it will come back to haunt you the day that you have no customers because they told everyone that you were a bad babysitter...
I'd also buy some business card magnets at an office store or at Wal-Mart and make some business cards to put on the magnets to hand them out to people that you know. This way, parents will always no who to call when your business card is a magnet on their fridge...
Best Regards,
By Teens 4 Teens
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Hi my name is heather and ive had a crush on this boy tyler for more than 2 years and like were really good friends and i dont want to ruin our friendship if i ask him out plz can u help me?
sincerely,heather (link)
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You need to ask yourself, "What's more important to me? Love or friendship?" Once you answer this, you'll be able to choose between whether you want to stay friends, or take a chance and just ask him out or tell him how you feel. If you don't tell him, he'll never know that you actually like him. Would you rather live not knowing if he likes you or not forever, or would you rather know that he doesn't like you for sure...
It's all up to you.
You will not jeopardize your friendship by doing this, but rather have the chance to turn your friendship into something new and exciting.
If you need anymore help, just ask. :)
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hi i have this crush on this boy jacob and where really good friends but i wont to be more then friends with out runing our friendship wat do i do?
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Whatever you do, don't just blurt out your feelings.
Think about when and how you want to let him know how you feel. Usually, it’s much better to show a guy friend how you feel, by flirting and being sweet to him, than to tell him in words.
Always find ways to do things that you both enjoy doing together.
Since you’re already friends, you have some idea of what activities and events he is interested in. Sports (playing or watching), movies, video games, cooking, chess, photography, shopping - whatever floats your boat. Find ways to do things that you both like doing, together!
Just show him how thoughtful you are.
Show him you’re thinking about him on special occasions - and show him you remember what occasions are special to him. Send him a sweet e-card on his birthday. Buy him a chocolate heart when his team wins a big game. Thoughtful little notes and messages can show him a more romantic side of you, and get him thinking about you a little differently.
Keep giving him hints.
When you and your crush/friend have five minutes alone, tell him you had a dream that you two were boyfriend and girlfriend. Say that the dream was really happy and felt so natural... and see what he says. If his reaction is negative (he says "as if" or "that's sick!"), then you know to back off. Save your pride - just laugh and say something like "I know, it was the stupidest dream!" But if he blushes, wants to hear more about the dream, laughs nervously or seems flattered by what you said, it's a sign he is open to the idea of dating you. In that case, say to him "maybe we should go on a date and see if I'm psychic or something." Hopefully, he'll say "great idea."
Take chances and make mistakes
One of the biggest fears for many girls in asking out a friend is "ruining the relationship." Get over it. If he says no, do you really believe he won't be your friend anymore? If he’s your real friend, it might be weird if he says no, but he’ll most likely be flattered and get over the awkwardness. Besides if you never ask, you might never know if he felt the same but was too shy to say it! You should ask yourself honestly if you two would probably be better staying friends, or if your feelings are growing stronger with love and can’t be ignored. If you’re crushing hard enough, it’s worth the risk. Being casual about asking him out can help to avoid strange feelings later.
If needed, give him some space.
If he backs off and acts awkward after you ask him out, give him time to get over it. Distract yourself with other friends, and pick up your friendship again when he seems ready.
Don't regret anything!
Don't feel bad or think you were stupid to ask him if he ends up saying no. You've been really gutsy to try it, which is quite cool. Plus you have let him know how you feel about him, honestly and openly, and that is never a bad thing. Now that he knows you like him, he’ll be thinking about you differently. Sometimes it takes some time for that to sink in... he could end up turning around and asking you out when he feels more ready!
Know when it's time to stop asking.
Never, ever ask someone out more than twice if they say no. That will just makes your friend feel uncomfortable, and he’ll feel like you’re not listening to him. This can make it hard to go back to normal in the friendship.
Don't tell anyone about your plans!
Don’t tell everyone you’re going to ask him out. For one thing, if he says no, you have all those people to tell and that would be totally embarrassing. For another thing, you don’t want him to find out that everyone knew how you felt about him before he knew, because that cheapens the emotion. Tell your best friend, but until you know his answer, keep this situation pretty private.
-Mariah-
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im a little confused about guys.
like how come their so obsessed about sex and everything?
im really curious and help would be nice :]
sorry if this is so stupid. (link)
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It's because of their hormones, or testosterone. You don't normally see girls watching guys, gawking at a guy's tight clothing and revealing attire. But, yes, girls do get the sudden urge to stare at a guy's butt when they're walking along the sidewalk. Girls and dudes just have different hormones, which makes them both do weird things.
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are there any websites or programs that are free that will update my drives for free (link)
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I'm not sure what driver you have, however, if you have a Nvidia GeForce 2 card, please follow this link and then follow the instructions.
If this does not work, or results in other graphical issues, you may want to try another driver. The 77.77 version can sometimes be more successful for this graphics chip. Follow the link below to this driver.
http://www.nvidia.com/object/winxp_2k_77.77.html
If you need anymore help, just ask. :)
-Mariah-
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what can you do about unavoidable, unwanted odors, such as in the genitals or serious foot odors?? thnx in advance for the help. (link)
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For the feet, I'd wear "breathable" socks that allow your feet to access the air so that there is little or no foot odor. Because most of the odor on various body parts are caused by bacteria that is blocked from being carried away by air, so it stays there and creates an odor. I'd also sprinkle some shoe deodorizer in your shoes so that they can make your feet smell fresh and your shoes as well. You can also apply foot lotion, like a mint scent would be good, to help hide the odor.
For the private parts, I'd wear 100% cotton underwear because, as I said before, bacteria will become trapped if you don't, leading to odor. I'd also dry the Always brand of feminine wipes as well if that doesn't work...
If you need anymore help, just ask. :)
-Mariah-
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have any of you been in the situation where you have a really great guy friend and you laugh and have fun with them and you can be yourself around them? and you love to be around them and hangout? just talk about random stuff and but stupid with eachother and not mind to be the real you? then you get to thinking 'maybe i like him' or 'maybe i want to be with him' but then you think about kissing him and stuff and you just dont see yourself doing it? like, you think about it and your like 'no i dont see myself kissing him' or something? and it just seems wierd? well, thats the situation im in. he told me he likes me and everything and he wants to be with me and stuff. and hes asked me out. and i said 'lets wait and see, let me think about it' or something like that. the thing is, i think i waited too long. he has a girlfriend now. but he says he still likes me, and is waiting for me. help!
i need advice. what should i do? dont say 'go with what feels right' or something. have any of you been in this situation before? if so, then did you two get together and what happened with the relationship?
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I would wait and see what happens between the two of them. I'd stay friends with him, though, for as long as it takes. He seems like a really cool and sweet guy, and a guy you wouldn't want to lose. I would just talk to him and see if he feels the same about you as you do with him, and maybe something will come out of it. Even though he has a girlfriend, most relationships don't last long, in fact, few of them are true love, because finding true love takes time.
But, then again, if the relationship does work out between them, I'd start looking for another guy. There are a million guys out there that are just waiting for the right girl, and every girl in the world has another guy that is secretly linked to them, and hopefully they find each other sooner or later...
If you need anymore help, just ask! :)
-Mariah-
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so i've been getting into this mood where i get depressed, and i start thinking so low about myself, this last for only a few minutes, then i'll tell myself, "i'm going to go on a diet" and i will right down everything i eat, exercise, etc. and ill loose like 5 pounds, and then i'll stop and gain it back. and this has been going on/off since like may. my question is, i need help getting to stay commited to something, and to stop being so lazy...i've tried anything i could think of, so, help? (link)
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The best thing to do is to find a friend just like you, in the same situation or in a similar situation. You could be each other's inspiration to just keep on going to reach your goals. But make sure they are healthy goals, like it's nearly impossible to lose 10 pounds healthily in a week. Help each other keep track of each other's progress. Once you both reach your goals, throw a party for yourselves so that you can celebrate your great achievement.
But always remember to be happy, no matter what the situation. Every morning when you wake-up, keep telling yourself that you're confident, you are unique in your own special way, and that no one on Earth is like you in mind, body, or spirit. You are you and be happy with that. :)
If you need anymore help, just ask. :D
-Mariah-
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i've never had a boyfriend, im 15 and i've kissed one person.....i really just want to have a boyfriend, that and to get more experienced, but, how? (link)
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I wouldn't be so worried about getting a boyfriend. If you're really desperate, that just gets you into trouble when you choose a boyfriend to soon before you get to know them enough to trust them and whatnot, which usually leads to heartbreak, and leaves you even more depressed than you were before.
I would just wait until someone special comes along, rather than trying to find someone. However, if you still want a boyfriend, I'd join some clubs or look around places that you like to hangout. Guys that have the same interests usually turn out to be the best catches. Strike up a conversation with a random guy, and who knows, maybe you'll either find a great friend, or a lasting love relationship.
If you need anymore help, just ask. :)
-Mariah-
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i met this guy but he doesnt go to my school so i dont know much about him. he seems really cool, and he makes me laugh, and is nice to me. hes the only guy i know that has so much in common with me. i really like him and he likes me but he hasnt asked me out yet.
my point is, is that i was talking to his friend and he told me some things like that he lies alot and argue alot. and that he gets into trouble alot. he says that he cheats on girls and just wouldnt make a good boyfriend.
we've talked and he seems like he would be. i dont mind the arguing part or him getting into trouble. i just dont know about the ling part. i dont know if i should just go out with him and see for myself. i just dont want to get my heart broken cause i really like him. (link)
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I would try and ask him out. There's no point in forever wondering if he really likes you or not, when you could rather know that he doesn't like you and be done with it.
I would not trust his friend, he might be lying as well. It's only you that can see if he's really like that, and if you really like him a lot, then you can try to help change his weak points as well. Maybe him being around you will be good for him, you know, make him more truthful and he'd be able to spend more time with you, which would allow him to not have as much time to get into trouble.
And who knows, he might just become a changed man, all thanks to your hard work and dedication.
If you need anymore help, just ask. :)
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Okay, it's 2 in one I guess.
Basically, I have this major crush. Which means it's gonna last for 3 years or more or until I give up and accept that he and I are gonna be only friends. Well, anyways. He's ex gf...let's call her Cindy. His ex gf is Cindy and I'm somewhat friends with Cindy. Cindy and my crush went out few times last year and they're off now. I think my crush still sometimes like her but yeah. Well, I don't know how I'm suppose to deal with that. I mean I know that Cindy gets pretty jealous. I don't know. How do I deal with that?
And also my crush and I are kind of growning apart I guess? I don't know. I'm pretty much struggling with depression right now and I go through periods where I just withdraw from everyone completely and I have low self esteem. So when my crush compliments me, all I can do is give him the sarcastic "right" or the "what are you smoking?" look. But yeah. How can I be more open to people's compliments and take them as they are? I feel like I'm pushing everyone away by doing what I'm doing. Oh, and when a guy says "you look cute when you get angry" what the heck are you suppose to say back? I mean, he meant it in a nice, flirting way. And what are you suppose to do when you crush has that dreamy expression on his face when he's looking at you? Like at this one school event, we were sitting across from each other after I attempted to arm wrestle him. well, he had that goofy dreamy look on his face and was staring at me and I didn't know what to do. Yeah. I'm a loser that sucks at dealing with situations. (link)
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Okay, for the question about your crush and Cindy, you have to choose who you care about more. Would you rather tell your best friend the truth, and hope that she doesn't get mad at you, or would you just find someone else to crush on, knowing that you won't jeopardize your friendship? It's all up to you on this one, I can't help you with your decision, sorry.
As for number 2...
Accept compliments that you get graciously. If someone is going out of their way to compliment you, then you should be proud and say, "Thank you". Not just any person will compliment someone, so take it as being a special moment.
As for "you look cute when you get angry"...
I'd play along. If someone flirts with you, flirt back. It's great fun, even if you have no intentions of going out with the guy. Although, it does confuse them sometimes, so if they ever ask why you were flirting with them, if you don't really want to go out with them, just say, "I wanted to see what your reaction would be", then just smile. :)
If you need anymore help, just ask, I'm always here to help. :D
-Mariah-
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How come guys r such pervs (link)
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It's because of their hormones, or testosterone. You don't normally see girls watching guys, gawking at a guy's tight clothing and revealing attire. But, yes, girls do get the sudden urge to stare at a guy's butt when they're walking along the sidewalk. Girls and dudes just have different hormones, which makes them both do weird things that we wouldn't normally do if we didn't have hormones. However, hormones are what makes our bodies reproduce and whatnot, so without them, we'd be a dying race...
Not all guys are perverts on purpose, it's just in their "guy nature" to be that way, and they have no control of it. However, there are guys out there that are just sick, disgusting perverts that do have control over what they are doing, but just choose not to because that's just the way they are...
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okay so one of my friends kissed this guy (her boyfriend) and he wasnt suppose to tell anyone he swore to her he wouldnt no one but his best friend and he told his best friend but he also told one of my other best friends. So my other best friend (the one the guy told) told me he told her and said not to tell the friend that got kissed but shes been my best friend since we were 3 but so has the other best friend......WHAT DO i DO????? pleaseee help
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I wouldn't worry about it. Just don't get in the middle of this mess. You had nothing to do with it, so I would just let that little factoid go in one ear and out of the other, or else you will be caught stuck in the middle between your two best friends, and it just won't work out...
If you need anymore help, just ask.
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I woke up yesterday and i had a little dot on the inside of my upper lip along with my upper lip being swollen it swelled down youcouldnt even tell but when i woke up today the dot got smaller but my lip got its only one side of my top lip where the dot is and it looks liek theirs a hug e mountain on my lip it doesnt hurt unless i bite it obviousky what is it how do i get rid of it?! please help (link)
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First you should call a doctor, and second put sime ice on your lip to make the swelling to go down.
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i just switched to tampons, because i don't like pads at all. so i'm kind of confused about them. today my flow is regular, and at 11:30 this morning i put in a Playtex plastic regular flow tampon. so until what time should i keep it in for? i'm scared about TSS because i don't want to keep it in too long. thanks! (link)
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Depending on your flow, you could leave it in for different amounts of time. Since it is a regulaar flow then leave it in for an hour or two. If a heavy flow then leave in for about an hour. If a light flow then leave it in for 2-3 or 4 hours.
Hope this helps,
Alyssa
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Do you think it's a big deal for an 18 year old girl to go out with a 26 year old guy? Is that too much of an age difference? (link)
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I don't think it is a big deal, but even though you are an adult, and unsure if you should of not, you might wnat to talk to your parents about it. Even if you think that they won't know what your talking about, find out their age difference, it could be the same as yours.
Hope this helps,
Alyssa
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