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another question about guys.
have any of you been in the situation where you have a really great guy friend and you laugh and have fun with them and you can be yourself around them? and you love to be around them and hangout? just talk about random stuff and but stupid with eachother and not mind to be the real you? then you get to thinking 'maybe i like him' or 'maybe i want to be with him' but then you think about kissing him and stuff and you just dont see yourself doing it? like, you think about it and your like 'no i dont see myself kissing him' or something? and it just seems wierd? well, thats the situation im in. he told me he likes me and everything and he wants to be with me and stuff. and hes asked me out. and i said 'lets wait and see, let me think about it' or something like that. the thing is, i think i waited too long. he has a girlfriend now. but he says he still likes me, and is waiting for me. help!
i need advice. what should i do? dont say 'go with what feels right' or something. have any of you been in this situation before? if so, then did you two get together and what happened with the relationship?
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I've been in a similar situation before, so I definitely feel your pain and confusion.
To be honest with you, I don't think that you're truly attracted to him, especially since you said that you couldn't imagine kissing him.
Did you start to question your feelings for him after he revealed his feelings to you? If so, do you think that you might just like the attention he gives you? It's possible.
Also, if you started questioning your feelings for him after he asked you out, you could be trying to convince yourself that you like him to get rid of the guilt that comes with breaking the heart of a good friend.
Or maybe you're bored with the friendship and want to try something new. There really are a lot of possiblities here!
If you can't figure out your feelings soon, let him know that you're confused and need more time. If he doesn't know this, he could jump to conclusions. Don't leave him hanging.
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-Manders
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HAHAAHAH THIS IS SO WEIRD BECAUSE I'M IN THE SAME SITUATION! HAHAH.
This just happened the other day, I know exactly how you feel!
I told him that " He has to wait and see" but in my mind I was just really scared and confused on what to tell him.
I told him that I just wanted to be friends. I first thought ; " no that'd be qweer to say" but, I said it and he totally understood. And if he doesnt talk to you, if you do say you dont want to go out with him, then he is deffinatly not the right guy for you, hes just showing you that he is thhatt desperate to be in a relationship.
If you have second thought of going out with him, meaning doubts, then its not the right thing to do. You'll have more trouble in a relationship with a guy who your not sure about then facing this.
I hope I helped!!(:
-Speakfreely
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I would wait and see what happens between the two of them. I'd stay friends with him, though, for as long as it takes. He seems like a really cool and sweet guy, and a guy you wouldn't want to lose. I would just talk to him and see if he feels the same about you as you do with him, and maybe something will come out of it. Even though he has a girlfriend, most relationships don't last long, in fact, few of them are true love, because finding true love takes time.
But, then again, if the relationship does work out between them, I'd start looking for another guy. There are a million guys out there that are just waiting for the right girl, and every girl in the world has another guy that is secretly linked to them, and hopefully they find each other sooner or later...
If you need anymore help, just ask! :)
-Mariah-
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Hmm, where have I seen this situation before?
Oh, yes. Me =)
I have the exact same problem.
He's my best friend right now and I am so confused with him. Like I see him as the greatest guy friend ever but at the same time, I can't help but wonder if I still have feelings for him and what not.
I say that since he has a girlfriend, you lay low. And tell him that you don't want to risk the great friendship you guys have going on right now by going out. Tell him that you have mixed feelings for him and you can't really see yourself actually going out with him. Say that you'd really love it if you guys could stay friends because it lasts longer =)
<3 Good luck
~Emily
15/f
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