My name is Jillian and if you've got a question, I'll answer it the best I can.
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Age: 16
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16/F
So, on with the story! On Halloween night, my friend threw this amazing party. It turned out we were going to watch a really scary movie. I don't do scary movies very well so I was a little bit nervous that I would scream my lungs out in front of everybody. Then a really nice thing happened. A guy that I'm friends with through my friend who threw the party came over to me. We've talked before and we see eachother at school all the time but we never really... "talked." He came over and said, "Don't worry, I don't really do scary movies either. If you want, we can hold on to eachother..." Of course I said yes and he was really sweet throughout the entire movie, and didn't make fun of me when I screamed like all the other kids did. At the end of the night when I had to leave he came up to me and hugged me really tight. The next day another friend came up to me and said "'D' doesn't hug anybody. What'd you do to him?" So life got really busy and he was in the school play and we really didn't have a lot of time to talk, nobody really did, until last night. Last night another one of our mutual friends had a birthday party. It was a bowling party and I suck at bowling. I pretty much gave up after one frame and went to talk to the other kids who didn't want to bowl. He followed me over there. We talked and talked and talked and all through the night. Every time I wasn't talking to him I'd catch him staring at me. Then he'd blush and turn away. The weird thig was, it was like talking to a male version of myself. We were so much alike it was uncanny. When it was time to go, my friend was giving us all in a ride home so we climbed into her van. It's massive but there were still about 13 of us crammed into it. With her being the driver, she decided who was going to sit where. It just so happened that the guy and I had to sit on the floor, facing eachother. He pulled out his iPod and I was like, "Oh no, don't disappear into your own little world!" and he goes, "Oh, haha, I wasn't. I was going to give you a bud." I have really weird shaped ears and earbuds never seem to fit right. I was struggling and he goes, "Here, let me put it in. I just got to get a little closer..." He got close and put the bud in my ear so it actually stayed. This is the funny part. The song he put on was a song from my favorite band. A highly obscure band that nobody I've ever talked to has ever heard of. It was great. We sang all the lyrics and had a great ride home. At the end he hugged me and went off.
Guys, do you think he likes me? I'm not sure if he was being friendly and nice or flirting with me. If you do think he likes me, how do you suppose I go about maybe asking him out?
Thanks so much, I really appreciate your answers!
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Ask him to hangout next time you see him. Just innocently be like, "hey what are you doing this weekend?" and go from there. If you get anymore indications that he likes you from hanging out, then talk to him about it.
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we went out for a long time. We were inlove, at least I was. He is trying to come back. Its been a year. He doesn't text me that much....he said that he wants to talk to me. Talk to me about? I don't know. He sounded serious so i don't know what to think. the reason why we broke up a year ago is because i found out he was talking to someone. He says he was just playing around with her. We used to hate each other. He would tell my friends how much he hated me. I would tell my friends how much i hated him. I just could never say that to his friends because i felt bad about it. Plus deep down i knew it wasn't true. I was just mad at him for what had happend. I just want if its posibble that a first love can be the one. I have been with many other guys..like dated, but i still like him. What do you guys think? is he just playing with me now, should i give him another chance? should i just forget about It? (link)
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Forget about it, please. Any guy that tells your friends that he hates you is not worth your time at all. You deserve more respect than that.
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Ok i think i have an idea of what you guys will say but is there a way to tell that your ready to date?
I don't want to waste a girl's time if im not ready im 14/m and in 8th grade (link)
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Only you know if you're ready to date. Age has a big thing to do with it...but it's really if you are truly comfortable and ready that matters.
You aren't wasting a girl's time at age 14. She's just as apprehensive as you are.
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Ok so I am going to have my braces off soon. Can anyone tell me what wearing a retainer is like? Do you have any tips to makes it the best possible experience?
Thank you! (link)
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Usually you have to wear it 24/7 at first and absolutely do not take your retainer off in front of everyone else when you take it off to eat. PLEASE. I made the mistake of doing this in high school, and it is just so unattractive and disgusting. I stopped after I witnessed somebody else do it. Spit and disgustingness comes out and just excuse yourself to the bathroom when you have to eat in order to take it out, ok?
Wearing a retainer is not a bad deal and it's worth it. I know people that thought they were too cool to wear it and literally are getting braces next month once again because their teeth shifted.
Clean it often and get a color that isn't noticeable when you laugh or talk. I got royal blue and I have no idea what I was thinking because now you can see a big slab of blue whenever I open my mouth. Or just get the clear one altogether.
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for the past 2 weeks my left eye has been weird...
my left eye starts to hurt alot, like there is cold air blowing against it, so i always close my left eye and it stops the pain. I Dont know why, but this happens most of the time when im at school. I can see, but it just hurts. Is there something wrong with me? Am i going blind or something? Please help me! (link)
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Oh I know exactly what you're talking about. You probably have very dry eyes, like I do. Maybe you aren't drinking enough water? Your eyes need to produce tears in order to keep them moist and if you are dehydrated then you don't have enough to produce the correct amount. Have you been drinking less water lately?
Another theory I have is perhaps it's the air conditioning. I absolutely hate being near air conditioners or fans on full blast, because my eyes completely dry out and I feel like there is constant pain due to cold air blowing on a dry eye.
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So I went in the living room after school and my mom was looking at PORN on her laptop. I totally don't know what to do about this. She is old and I don't understand why she would want to see porn. I just feel really wierd and I can hardly look at her. Can you help me get past this? (link)
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At some point your parents stop seeming like perfectly angelic role models. They are completely human, just like you. They were once a teenager. They once had their first kiss. They once were dumped by a boyfriend or girlfriend that they thought they loved.
Think of it biologically. Sex and being turned-on is a complete biological human need. Chemical synapses are released,telling your mother to satisfy a particular need. It's completely natural and completely harmless. While she should have satisfied it somewhere else, just remember that she is only human.
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I am trying the victoria's secret model diet and I just have to wonder is it possible for a size 0-3 person to have breasts that large naturally or should I be looking for more information on breast implants? Thank you. (link)
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Depends on how old you are...are your breasts fully developed? They pretty much stop growing at the end of puberty so if you're already pretty much there then I would look into implants.
It's not AS COMMON but it's not at all rare either for a size 0-3 woman to have victoria secret boobs.
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19/f Lately I feel like a total and utter loser. I'm nineteen years old, no license, no job, no car, and I'm not in college. I graduated over six months ago, and still have nothing. I feel like no one really cares. My grandparents keep telling me I need to join the military, and my parents keep reassuring me everything will be fine. I'm starting to think they don't know anything about me. All I do is sit around my house, reed books, see my boyfriend, watch movies, and play on the computer. I'm in over my head worried about health insurance, a place to live, etc. I've been trying to get my license but every time I take it I get nervous and I've already taken it 3 time. I know. Pathetic, right? My boyfriend has been driving with me, but my parents haven't been at all. I feel like I'm at his mercy and that I'm using him, and I don't like feeling that way. I always tell him I appreciate everything he does for me. I just wish I could SHOW him how much I appreciate him. But I don't have anything. What do I do? I don't want to live with my parents forever, what do I do? I hope to get my license but I always get so nervous. How can I make that so it's less? Please help! (link)
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You just need to find yourself. You need to develop a plan. Who do you want to be? How are you going to get there?
It's not an easy process at all but everybody at your age has to go through it, no matter how many plans they make.
As for the drivers license, there's no secret to passing the test. Just don't think about how much you want it while taking the test. Relax.
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So I was masturbating and I noticed there were little white bumps all over my penis. Is this abnormal and what the hell is it, im 14 and 6.5 inches does that have anything to do with it??? (link)
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It's normal to have random white spots on the skin, no matter where it is so it could be absolutely nothing to worry about at all.
However, this isn't anyting to be messed with and I suggest you take a quickie trip to the clinic to get a couple STD tests. And even if you are not sexually active, STDs can come from other things so definitely go get it checked. I believe you don't need your parents permission to do so, also.
But it is common and could be nothing.
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I'm so beyond overwhelmed with my college work. I have a difficult major that requires a lot of studio time to build models and projects. That alone could easily take up my time but then I have to take the core classes too which have nothing to do with my major. I'm so exhausted because I don't sleep much because I'm up late doing projects and papers. Everyday from the moment I wake up until the moment I fall asleep I'm doing work stopping only twice to eat. So thats from 8am-11pm everday, 6 days a week.
I don't know what to do. I'm on the edge of crying because I just can't take it and it's only September. (link)
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Hm you really took on too many classes at once then. That is a ridiculously crazy schedule.
First of all, find more times to snack on something to eat. Doesn't have to be a meal--some crackers or an apple in between one class and another is enough. You can't do things without energy and you don't get energy without food.
Second of all, I WOULD suggest dropping a class--but man oh man that looks terrible on your transcript. College semesters go by really really fast. The more you take on, the faster it goes, So yours should go by reallyyyyy fast. Just take some deep breaths and deal with what is put in front of you for now and next time don't take so many classes at once. Perhaps if you took all of your core classes first and studio things after that?
Third, Remember to prioritize. Do you really need to do this textbook reading tonight--or can it wait until the weekend? I know teachers always say to do certain things at certain times, but your health is more important. If the assignment isn't due the next day and it can wait a few more days or until the weekend, then let it be and deal with it when you have more time.
I can guarantee that once you get more into the swing of what needs more attention than other things, it will get easier. I hope things start going more smoothly for you.
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Hello, I'm an 18 year old male. Today, I was in the shower at my local gym when a guy came in to shower as well. he was at the shower tower in front of me. these are communal showers by the way. I have showered in front of him and vice versa for a few days VERY COINCIDENTALLY, not planned at all. i notice that he starts to umm "warm up" when in the shower. he started to give me the eye and he came over to where i was showering and he started stroking my penis. i started to get very hard and i actually didn't feel weird about it. Does that make me gay? (link)
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You seriously think that a straight person doesn't get hard when someone, ANYONE, strokes their penis?!
The penis is just reacting in the way it knows how; it doesn't know if whatever is stroking it is a man or woman! I don't think it makes you gay at all.
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How much would watching a porn video affect a 10 year old girl in the future? Would it possibly mess up future romantic relationships or else cause some other psychological effects? (link)
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Yes. She would develop a completely false impression of sex. She would start sex way too early from thinking that it was a no-big-deal normal thing.
She would learn that sex is just for pleasure and not really for showing love and creating life.
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16/m
Hi well my problem is that I can't ever keep a relationship going every time we breek up within the few weeks or days I can't ever be happy, the other week I asked a girl out I thought we were doing well I was doing everything living it up enjoying my time with her, berly a week and she broke up with me... Why would this happen to me everytime especially this time I really like her I did everything differnt yet I failed, I was once told that I'm the type of guy who usually in those chick flicks gets the girl in the end I never believed it but now I think I'm beginning to understand it, it meant for me to last with a girl I would have had to been through a breakup with her meaning that this would be our second time going out, sounds dumb but I'm willing to try it, the one thing that scares me is that if she don't like me I'm going to end up waiting for years just for nothing,
When I asked why? she told me it was because she was confused and did not know if she liked me the same way as I like her, I gave her a letter and a drawing and a hug and a kiss before I walked away
I don't know what to do (link)
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I think you should just chill out. Lately I've been meeting a lot of guys that are all hyped up over finding "the one" and as soon as a girl expresses ANY sort of interest in just talking to him they go crazy and get clingy and worried.
Also nothing is like the movies. Don't act naive in thinking that because you're a nice guy that you will eventually find the one automatically. It takes searching. Guys don't get girls by just going out with the first ones that they find interesting. You have to search a little and notice the ones that don't shout amazing the first time you see them. Maybe you are going out with the wrong type of girl?
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ok well i have been with a guy before and everything and im 19/f last year i was with a jerk that i thought was the one for me was going to spend my life with him but then i found out about his secret life where he was unfaithful to me and a whole lot more which i wont go into detail.
lately i think i have been checking girls out and im not sure but i think im finding them attractive. I would look at them and scan them from head to toe i think i check them out and i cant help myself!i do find guys attractive but am i bi sexual?does this sound like a thing that a bi sexual would do or am i like this because i got hurt badly by a guy i had my heart set on?is it normal to be straight and severly check girls out?i think i would even make out with a chick but never done it so i wouldnt know
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I think it's normal to think that the same sex is sexy and whatnot. But what you should ask yourself is can you see marrying a girl and being happy? Or do you see yourself having a husband and being happy that way?
Don't think of it just by attractiveness. Which would you truly be happy with as a lifetime partner?
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I need to know where to go,or who to call to get a free g.e.d.. KFINLE75189Y@YAHOO.COM (link)
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Oh just go to your old high school and they can tell you how to arrange it so you can get your GED.
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Well I'm really skinny and I only eat healthy foods (with candy occasionally) but I've been gaining the pounds recently and it's showing, only through my stomach. I mean, I wouldn't really mind if my whole body got a bit bigger but it's just pushing through my stomach and since I'm skinny, it just looks as if I'm pregnant! (Well not that much but if this keeps up, in the future it will!)
For two years now I've wanted to have a treadmill or an elliptical machine in our house but my dad refuses to buy one so when I decided that when I turn 16, I'll go get a job and hopefully get a gym membership at this popular gym place that a lot of people in my grade go to. Do you think that's a good idea?
Oh! And it's like an additional...$180(?) for a personal trainer, do you think I should get one? Because I know that you can't just target a certain area, you got to do everything and I wouldn't know, I'd just use the treadmill and the elliptical machines every time. And I can't lift weights either (I can barely lift my back pack!).
And other info you can squeeze would be very nice, thank you! =] (link)
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You know what works wonder for the abs/stomach? Pilates.
It completely targets the abs, which is what you want, and the stuff isn't very expensive. It also makes you feel more fit and lean and you have more energy.
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are there any songs about like, a guy and a girl that dated, but then broke up and stayed best best best friends and everyone thinks they're meant to be but he has a girlfriend? thanks so much =] (link)
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The first thing that popped into my head was that teardrops on my guitar song by Taylor Swift. It's virtually perfect.
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okay, well there is this boy josh that told me he liked me well idk what to do, because he first went out with my sister but they are long gone done with each other, and like i started hanging out with him at the skating rink and he has been an absolute sweetheart. He already told me he loved me and when we were skating i didnt have the hang of it and he helped me he actually held my hand and everything, And a couple days ago we went again and he sat by me the whole time until i would get upp.
So a little after time passed he asked me for a kiss and i liked him so much i couldnt resist so i did and it met so much.
I just dont know what to do.
please help me! (link)
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This is probably off topic of the actual question, but he does not sound worth it. He sounds like a player.
I mean, he told you he loved you ALREADY? And he kissed you ALREADY? Without even going on an offical date? He doesn't seem very genuine and sincere about liking you and I'm sure your sister wouldn't be hurt, but you have to admit that it'd be kindof weird to date someone that she's dated. So all in all, not worth it.
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well at the moment i have a slight cold so i dont know if this has anything to relate to this but i am F/18 and on my left brest i have this slight pain that feels like it is behinde it a bit so it isnt the actual brest itsself it gust feels like it hurts, i know thought it'll go away soon cuz i've gotten this pain b4 but its bothing me when eve i get it because i think it may be something serious??? could it be? (link)
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Hm. I THINK that I've gotten this pain before; I always chopped it up to be breast development.
I don't think it is serious at all.
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15/f.
I guess this isn't really a question, but to see if anyone has gone through what I am going through now.
You see I seem to be getting more and more depressed lately.
I just feel so alone. I have friends, but I don't have like a super close friend who is always there for me. I don't have a boyfriend. The guy that I have liked since seventh grade is now practically dating this amazingly pretty girl who seems to have everything. It just hurts so bad because for some reason I thought that he had feelings for me. It makes me feel like I am not good enough, or pretty enough.
I don't think people know what I am going through. I live in a nice home, my parents have good jobs, and I get good grades.
People don't understand that every night I turn up my music (so my family won't here me) and just cry.
I don't know if I should talk to my mom about going to counseling. But, you see, I've went to counseling before when I was younger because I was sexually harassed, and I know that if I talk to my mom about counseling she will think that its about that and really isn't.
Anyway... I am kind of babbling on... so I'll end it here. Any input would be great. (link)
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I have been in the same position as you since I was 14 and I'm 17 now so...yeah. I'm still sortof depressed. Ah who am I kidding, I'm still very depressed.
However, it does get better. I've found myself and I feel more sure of myself. Looks aren't the reason for my depression anymore. 15 is an extremely difficult age. Don't even get me started on how much I hate 14 and 15. It's an awful, unsure, stupid, pointless age. I never felt like I was a part of the world and no one was ever interested in me.
But it got better. I found what made me happy and you will too. Be on the lookout for new guys to distract you, maybe even get a job as a distraction. I always wanted counseling also, but never got it. It does help to spill your guts to someone so maybe it isn't a bad idea.
Just remember that there is a light at the end of the damned teenage tunnel.
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