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i'm melanie, call me melly ♥
i'm 18 years old & from long island
i go to University at Buffalo,im majoring in nursing and absolutely love it!

i have the big accent, the big smile and the even bigger heart :)


i love giving advice and helping people out, which is why i`m here. I also love getting feedback, it tells me if I did my job. =)


No question is stupid, ask away! ♥

....I might not always give you the answer you want to hear, but from me youll only hear the truth



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i did the cabbage diet, the original version from Poland, and i lost 7 pounds in 6 days. it's an unhealthy diet since you don't eat carbs, but you should only do it for 1 week at a time. And most people say its impossible to keep the weight off, but I prove them wrong.



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So me & my boyfriend had unprotected sex during my period, he pulled out & busted a nut all over my cover. I accidently set my leg in it & it got onto my thigh. Then 2 days after my period ended, we had unprotected sex once again, but this time he busted a nut on his leg & I once again put my leg down & it got on my thigh, both times I wipped it off. But then he cleaned himself off, got dressed & laid with me. Then it started up again, but he didn't bust a nut this time, I just got tired. So my question is; can I get pregnant & if so, how high of a risk do you think I'm pregnant? By the way I'm 18 & a girl.

oyyyyyyy vey.
Unprotected sex=baaaaaad idea.
I dont know if you know but you can get pregnant if you have sex even during your period. Even though he didnt cum inside of you either time, there is still a chance of getting pregnant with pre-cum. And the thing with pre-cum is that he cant feel it and neither can you, and it does happen. The fact that he busted and although he did 'clean up', went back inside of you, puts you at a greater risk of getting pregnant. I think you put yourself at a mediumish risk of being pregnant, and i advise you save yourself the worry and just use a condom next time. A 7 dollar pack of condoms sounds better than a baby at 18 or a 500 dollar abortion.
hope i helped :)
xo

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I have a problem. I am not anorexic or bulimic, I have never gone a day without eating, and I usually eat 1000-3000 calories a day. I am 5'7" and 131 pounds. My problem is that I think I am very chubby even if everyone says I am not. I obsess over calories and weigh myself a few times a day. I get so depressed if I feel I eat too much and hate the feeling of my stomach being full. I eat very very healthy and exercise regularly. My mother and my sister both have eating disorders. I would never starve myself, but I am so sick of thinking about calories all day and pinching my fat spots and making sure I can still feel my hips. I guess my question is how can I stop obsessing and be normal and eat without hating myself? thanks

I know exactly how you feel. I'm 5'7 and 133 pounds, and I use to have the same mind frame as you do. The first thing I started to do was to love myself. I know it sounds so corny, but instead of looking in the mirror and pointing out all the things that were wrong with my body, I would try to find only positive things. By focusing more on the good parts of my appearance, it steered me away from all the negative things, and I really started to see that I wasn't fat, I was healthy, and theres no need for me to count calories. People are like confident people who like themselves, so you just need to learn to love yourself.


if you have more questions or need more input, please drop me on ein my inbox! :]
hope i helped!
xo

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if i wanted to get rid of my arm flab or whatever i should life weights? just like normal like stand there and like bring the weight to your shoulder?

and would running help.
&this is kindof off topic but is it true the more you sweat the more weight you lose.

Yes you should lift weights, i recommend using 5 pounds weights. Start by holding the weights and having your arms by your side. Then lift your arms with the weights in your hands up to your shoulders. Then lift your arms straight up. While you are going back, when your arms reach your shoulders, you will turn each wrist, so that your finger nails are facing towards you, then go down all the way like that. I recommend doing 5 sets of 20, repeating. Running would help you lose weight, but not work your arms out that much. Instead of running, another cardio workout you could do is jump roping for 15 minutes. I usually just do 500 jumps a day. It really makes your hearts stronger and works your arms and legs. Yes it is true that the more you sweat the more you lose, because sweating helps clean your body of toxins, it is another form of excretion. Your body releases toxins and excess salt, which like peeing or pooping, gets rid of nasty stuff that takes up room in your body.
hope i helped!
xo

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ok so im going to homecoming.
and this guys gonna be there.
and were kinda planning on hooking up
he said to "grab his balls"

how do you do that without hurting him? or making it awkward?

I dont think when he said "grab my balls" that he means you to actually grab them. If you dance together, you should totally grind up on him. When you grind while facing eachother, thats your chance to "grab his balls", but dont grab them, just rub around, he'll most likely have a boner. Be seductive, and have fun.
;]
hope i helped
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Where can I get some cool room decorations like on Zoey 101 (in their dorm) besides PB Teen?

I'm a 15 yer old female, too =]

Ikea has such COOL room decorations!
http://www.ikea.com/us/en/catalog/categories/rooms/youth/

and also you can get good things at target.
http://www.target.com/Teen-Room-Kids/b/ref=nav_t_spc_4_9/601-0019974-4421748?ie=UTF8&node=13033731

hope i helped!
xo

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I am very outgoing and can usually carry conversations very well if there are 3 or more people, however if it is just me and one other person, I can't seem to keep a conversation going. Any tips on how to keep conversations going and not make it awkward?

Be yourself. always. The worst thing is to pretend to be something that your really not. You should walk into your new school with a smile on your face, and into every class. It makes you look approachable. To make friends, you should always try to make them feel comfortable. DON'T endlessly talk about yourself. Ask them questions about themselves, make it seem like you're interested, and don't be afraid to smile. You can ask them questions referring to their heritage, or where have they been besides America, or if they don't like any of their teachers, or if they got lost in the halls or are still nervous about high school, or if they like it better than junior high. Theirs billions of questions and things you can talk about to get a relationship [friendship] going.
hope i helped
xo

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can I get preggers if a boy cums in my hair? my friend said I could... but she's only 11.


13/f

I'm not sure if the 11 year old is speaking out of experience or not, but i doubt she really knows much about sex. The ONLY way you can get pregnant is if semen [cum, or sperm]enters your vagina. You can and will not ever get pregnant if cum goes onto your hair. And i advise you not to ask an 11 year old for advice about sex. :] lol
hope i helped
xo

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hey,
does anyone know the code.
to unhide your myspace comments.
i tried finding the code,
and deleteing it.
but i cant seem to find the right oneee.

thankssss. =]]]

I don't really think they give that code, i tried searching for you, but it doesn't seem to come up.
But http://www.createblog.com has about 600 codes. When you go to the site int he right hand navigation bar it says scripts, in other terms, "codes".

hope i helped
xo

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Am 14/f.

I'm going to a new school...obviously with new people...and I am really nervous about it. I'm not exactly shy, but I'm not like other people...I have a weird sense of humor..and I'm just different( not in a negative way) so I was wondering how I can get to know people in my new school..without looking/sounding like an overjoyed cunt.
I'd appreciate any tips/advice :)

Be yourself. always. The worst thing is to pretend to be something that your really not. You should walk into your new school with a smile on your face, and into every class. It makes you look approachable. To make friends, you should always try to make them feel comfortable. DON'T endlessly talk about yourself. Ask them questions about themselves, make it seem like you're interested, and don't be afraid to smile. You can ask them questions referring to their heritage, or where have they been besides America, or if they don't like any of their teachers, or if they got lost in the halls or are still nervous about high school, or if they like it better than junior high. Theirs billions of questions and things you can talk about to get a relationship [friendship] going.
hope i helped
xo

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Either I have very boring friends, or I'm a really boring person. Either way good conversation doesnt come easily for me. How do I get quiet people to talk, and keep a conversation going well? I'm going into high school in 3 days, so I want to make more friends and be popular, but after I introduce myself, theres a big gap in the conversation, and its awkward.

Usually shy or quiet people will never really talk a lot unless they feel comfortable around you, or until they open up, which usually takes a while. So thats exactly what you have do, try to make them feel comfortable. DON'T endlessly talk about yourself, usually quiet people don't say "what about you?" after you ask them their favorite color. but don't get me wrong, some do. Ask them questions about themselves, make it seem like you're interested, and don't be afraid to smile. You can ask them questions referring to their heritage, or where have they been besides America, or if they don't like any of their teachers, or if they got lost in the halls or are still nervous about high school, or if they like it better than junior high. Theirs billions of questions and things you can talk about to get a relationship [friendship] going.
hope i helped
xo

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i want to lose a little bit of weight for summer...

so i need an easy work out plan and some healthy good foods..

i am not huge but i could stand to lose a few...


please help me if you can...


Lauren

just click my username and in my bio is a list of sites that will help you out.
hope i helped
xo

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how do you say yes ?
and like
how does someone ask will you go out with me ?
wanna be my gf?
or what !?
helpppp

well, everyone asks wil you go out with me differently. The last time someone asked me out. it was after I said, "do you want anything to drink?", and he said, "no, but i`d like a date." and i started to laugh. IT was so funny, sometimes guys have stupid pickup lines, or others will straight out say, "do you wanna go out with me?", when you say yes, you just say, "yes", "sure i`ll go out with you!", its really not difficult.
hope i helped
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I remember about 2 years ago I used to go into AIM chat rooms just to look at people's infos for cool colors and stuff.. but now I can't remember how I would get there. Whereever I went to get there, there were tons of names like "P. Diddy" or "Beyonce" stuff like that.. Now I can't remember how I would get there. Anybody know? Thanks :]

haha, i did the same thing.

http://site.aol.com/community/chat/chatnav/winchat.html

theres the site.
hope i helped
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So I really like this guy! LIKE SO SO SO SO SO SO SO MUCH! But here's the thing: I never actually talked to him, I never even said one word. But I was at this party and I was talking to one of my friends and he sat next to me but didn't say anything. It was during cocktail hour so you could sit wherever you want. I was kind of suprised cause i'm not even his friend and he just sat at the table. Also, we had assigned seats during the actualy party but no one was in a seat at my table and he sat there. But I think maybe that was because his friends were at the table. But theres some things that make me think he doesn't like me. He doesn't ever stare at me or try to talk to me. I mean if he tryed to strike a conversation with me or stared at me I would know for sure. I'm confused, does he like me?

I think he`s nervous, so YOU should take the first step. Simply by saying "hey what`s up?". If you get a response, great. If you don`t, theres other guys in this world. By taking the first step and saying hey, you are giving him bait, and if hes a good fish, he`ll follow the bait and it`ll become something bigger.
hope i helped
xo

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15/m

what can i do with my girlfriend when we make out to make it a little more interesting?

please and thank you

you guys could play a game with a sour icebreaker. You have to try and get it out of eachothers mouths, or keep it away from eachother. It can get very steamy.
hope i helped
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I need your help deciding what the ideal menu for a public dinner would be.

Not knowing what would be the best dishes to serve is making this an impossible task.

If you will tell me your favorite foods, or point me to your favorite recipes, it would really help a lot.

You can list as many things as you like. They don't have to be fancy things at all. I am all about the comfort food baby! :)

This will be a mixed group of people so I would like to have something for everyone.

Cooking for a banquet is not as hard as trying to figure out WHAT to cook!

Everyone will receive feedback.

Thank you!

P.S. If all that was a lot to digest, pun intended, here is a summary: Please list all your favorite foods.

-shrimp cocktail
-pierogis
-baked ziti
-pizza
-penne alla vodka
-garlic bread
-fettucini alfredo
-spaghetti
-chicken cutlets
-Daurade Provençale
-Herb Crusted Red Snapper
-stuffed mushrooms
-stuffed peppers
-tacos
-kielbasa
-nachos
-quesidillas
-buffalo wings
hope i helped
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i dont like my boyfriend ((that i started going out with yesterday)) as more than a friend. i've figured that out. i always feel akward talking to him, and when i think about him at all, look at his screen name, or talk to him, my stomach hurts. that takes up a lot of time in my day. im not ready to break up with him. he LOVES me. i'd feel way too bad. i also feel like its too soon. but the feeling i get from him makes me feel nervous, and its a bad nerevous. help?

eek. I think you need to breakup with him, whether you feel bad or not. Put yourself in his shoes. Say he leans in to kiss you, but you don`t want to, and he says why? If you continue to date him, even though you don`t really like him, it`s kind of like you`re leading him on, or teasing him. I know you feel bad, i understand, but again, what if you were in his situation? You could go up to him and say, "Derek, I don`t think this is going to work. I don`t feel comftorable around you and I dont think that`s going to change."
and then if you want you can say, "but we can still be friends."
=)
hope i helped
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how the hell do you masturbate with your boobs? like eww haha i dont get it

No question is stupid, but some can be asked in a immature way. "eww haha"? c`mon.
Some girls masturbate with their boobs, while others don`t. You can rub them, massage them, squeeze them, or try to make your nipples hard with ice or just rubbing them.This is how most girls masturbate with their boobs.
hope i helped
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helloo, im 14/f and we all bikini season is coming very fast. i'm okay with my upper body, but my lovehandles, butt, lower abs, and upper thigh are pretty flabby. i'm not fat...5'5" and weigh 130, a normal BMI. my main form of exercise is horseback riding-usually 3 hours twice a week. i need exercises to work on the area i described before. should i go on a diet ( i don't eat very well by the way. vegetarian, dont eat poultry or fish either, and i dont eat tofu or nuts..and veggies are quite blech) unfortunately i'm picky with my food, but i really wanna lose the chub around the bikini bottom area! i wanna be able to wear the skimpy cute bathing suits that are super cute. sorry its long. thanks =]

Just click my username and i have a list of sites in my bio that could be of great use to you.
hope i helped
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im not sure what this goes under.



i was wondering if anyone knows

where to get quotes or have any cute quotes



something to deal with love, growing up, something like that/.

p.s. girl 14



i rate

http://www.poems-and-quotes.com/

http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendid=36627661

if you need more hit my inbox. but these sites are pretty good.
hope i helped
xo

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