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Good Conversation
Either I have very boring friends, or I'm a really boring person. Either way good conversation doesnt come easily for me. How do I get quiet people to talk, and keep a conversation going well? I'm going into high school in 3 days, so I want to make more friends and be popular, but after I introduce myself, theres a big gap in the conversation, and its awkward.
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Asking people questions about themself is a good idea, because most people like talking about themself. Also, what topic do they know better than themself? One thing that is very effective is to ask open ended questions. (they aren't necessarily questions though) But instead of asking "do you get along well with your parents?" say "tell me about the relationship with your parents". If you say the first example the answer will be yes or no. That creates a lull in the conversation. The lulls and quiet moments are what kill conversation. If you need to, think of the questions you would like to ask but tweak them so they aren't yes or no questions. If need be have set questions you ask people. Even if you ask everyone you meet the same things, it is only an old question to you. These things are sales techniques but they are used to create rapport and that is exactly what you want. Good luck and if you need any more detail feel free to ask.
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Usually shy or quiet people will never really talk a lot unless they feel comfortable around you, or until they open up, which usually takes a while. So thats exactly what you have do, try to make them feel comfortable. DON'T endlessly talk about yourself, usually quiet people don't say "what about you?" after you ask them their favorite color. but don't get me wrong, some do. Ask them questions about themselves, make it seem like you're interested, and don't be afraid to smile. You can ask them questions referring to their heritage, or where have they been besides America, or if they don't like any of their teachers, or if they got lost in the halls or are still nervous about high school, or if they like it better than junior high. Theirs billions of questions and things you can talk about to get a relationship [friendship] going.
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High school is a lot easier to make friends..but you have to go out there and find out what people are interested in and find people with similar interests...don't focus solely on making more friends because if you focus on it you wont...and don't worry about being popular...in high school it's about having the friends that you've got who like you...there is not set popular crowd (no matter how many people think that they're in one) just join clubs or activities of stuff that you like to do...you'll meet people with common interests and will make friends a lot easier.
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