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obsessive of weight
I have a problem. I am not anorexic or bulimic, I have never gone a day without eating, and I usually eat 1000-3000 calories a day. I am 5'7" and 131 pounds. My problem is that I think I am very chubby even if everyone says I am not. I obsess over calories and weigh myself a few times a day. I get so depressed if I feel I eat too much and hate the feeling of my stomach being full. I eat very very healthy and exercise regularly. My mother and my sister both have eating disorders. I would never starve myself, but I am so sick of thinking about calories all day and pinching my fat spots and making sure I can still feel my hips. I guess my question is how can I stop obsessing and be normal and eat without hating myself? thanks
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To me a 131 pounds for your height is a normal size.
You're not chubby and I believe you are just over obsessing and over exjagerating the whole thing itself.
You say you exercise regulary and eat healthy, You need to just relax and stop questioning the way you look.
I'm pretty sure you look fine the way you are and listen to what your friends are telling you.
Do not become what your sister and mother is, do not make your self sick.
Just follow the healthy foods and continue to exercise like you say you do and everything will go well.
Hope i helped
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Hello, I have gone threw exactly the same thing. thinking of i amchubby, people must be lieing to me because they say im not, but i truely know that i am. In my room i have a picture froma magazine that says i heart my body, that helps me every day, before you go to bed tell your self, i am beautiful, i am healthy, i am gorgaws (not sure how to spell that), i am not fat,. i am not chubby i am the perfect weight. YEs i used to think that to, but i believe you are beautiful! youa re someone who is very pretty i know that with out looking at you. you are amazing. just try to write down 10 good 'cheer me ups' a day and you will start believeing it.
plus weighing your self every day is a bad idea, because yoru weight changes from day to day
ex.
1. i am pretty
2. i will not weigh myslef every day:P
3. I am not chubby
4. I( am an amazing person
5. I believe i am capable of anything i put my mind to becaus i can do it.
I know making a list sounds really lame, but i think it could help,
hope for the best
Mslovely22
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Bulimia and Anorexia are both serious and life threatening disorders, the problem is you have described some symptoms which over lap and others which should rule out each diagnosis. At 5’7” weighing in at 131 pounds, it is concerning for you to see yourself as being chubby, your over exercising is another concern, as well as your feelings of guilt and depression when you feel you have eaten too much.
Disorders like anorexia and bulimia as symptoms of a bigger issue, most commonly a fear of rejection or a pronounced need for acceptance. With the popular media constantly depicting “sexy” people, especially women, as being skinny, it would make sense that someone with acceptance issues will attempt to model themselves after a popular image.
In response to your question, my first advice will be for you to see a therapist; I imagine and hope that your mother and sister already are seeing therapists. Secondly, accept yourself unconditionally. Regardless if you see yourself as being chubby, give yourself the self love you deserve, if you feel your stomach is full, pat your self on the back, no one should go hungry. The way to stop your obsessing and guilt associated with eating is to change your beliefs about body images. For example, you can practice telling yourself “chubby people can be sexy too,” (even though I think you’re skinny).
Most importantly, you should see a therapist.
Take care,
P.S 1000-3000 calories a day is a significant difference. I wouldn’t recommend going below 1600 calories per day.
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I just want to say that I was going to say the same thing. I know sometimes that kind of stuff sounds corny and I didn't want you to just brush off what the previous girl said. My weight used to go up and down and up and down. When I was "fat" guys said I was too big, when I was "small" guys said I didn't have enough ass. Nothing was ever good enough. My family always said I wasn't small enough yet. I would be perfect til I was 36-24-36. I just said you know what, who cares what they think. I am short and thick and i am the happiest with my weight that I have ever been. I am not exactly where I want to be, but I am happy with my self and I know at the right time I will lose weight, just like I have before. But No matter where I am, I am happy with my self. I am good enonugh and this is what you have to say to your self. Other wise you will never be satisfied. :) Peace
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I know exactly how you feel. I'm 5'7 and 133 pounds, and I use to have the same mind frame as you do. The first thing I started to do was to love myself. I know it sounds so corny, but instead of looking in the mirror and pointing out all the things that were wrong with my body, I would try to find only positive things. By focusing more on the good parts of my appearance, it steered me away from all the negative things, and I really started to see that I wasn't fat, I was healthy, and theres no need for me to count calories. People are like confident people who like themselves, so you just need to learn to love yourself.
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hope i helped!
xo
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