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I can't gurantee that my advice will always be right. And some things I might not even know. But I will do my best to answer any questions :] I'll tell you exactly what i think, so if you don't like it, dont read it!And lately, i've discovered that one of the best answers for relationship problems is communication. talk. explain. share. it does wonders.
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I'm an American I'm 17 years old and I need some good advice?i really like this guy and he likes me too. We haven't done anything together we hung out a lot but it was more like friends we were still shy to do anything with eachother but we stopped talking for awhile and he fell in love with someone else they broke up and now I still want to be with him. I don't know how to show him how much he means to me?we talk still but not about our relationship.
I apologize for the extremely late response.
If you still care about him and he's not actively pursuing someone else, you should tell him how you feel. You should take the initiative in this case to not only show him how much he means to you, but that you want to be in a relationship with him. He might not realize that your mutual feelings can progress into an actual relationship so it'd be up to you to take the first step in that direction. I realize it might be difficult, especially since the guy is always assumed to be the assertive one, but sometimes the girl has to take charge too.
I don't know if your situation has changed since you asked this question. If so, let me know and I'll try to give more advice?
i have a laptop. when it goes into the hibernation mode [when the screensaver disappears and it just shows a black screen] and when i shut my computer [i have a laptop], my AIM disconnects and, obviously, signs me off. but, if remember correctly, my internet pages i had up will still be there. is there a way i can make my AIM stay on without leaving the computer open? any help is appreciated (:
1. right click on your desktop/background and go to bottom and click on properties.
2. Go to Screensaver tab.
3. Go to under "monitor power" and click on "power...".
4. Go to the Advanced tab.
5. Under "power buttons" change: when i close the lid of my portable computer: "Hibernate" to "Do nothing".
6. Then press okay/apply.
That way when you close your laptop lid it still stays open on your desktop and keeps your aim/etc running. Though you have to realize this is essentially just leaving your computer on.. with the lid closed so if you unplug the battery from it while doing that, it will still use up the battery life and can result in you losing your data/etc.
what are benefits to eating chocolate on occasion?
generally it's dark chocolate that benefits the human body. As the website given below says, chocolates:
* Decrease blood pressure
* Improve circulation
* Lower death rate from heart disease
* Improve function of endothelial cells that line the blood vessels
* Defend against destructive molecules called free radicals, which trigger cancer, heart disease and stroke
* Improve Digestion and stimulate kidneys
* Has been used to help treat patients with anemia, kidney stones and poor appetite
Of course eating large amounts of chocolate is still bad for you and could cause weight gain. But, taken in smaller quantities, it could prove to be very beneficial to your health. It all depends on the quantity and the type of chocolate that you are eating.
[i pretty much copied important parts of the website in case you didnt want to look. hope it helps!]
http://www.yachanagourmet.com/health_benefits.htm
hey! ok. well there is this song, but i have no clue who sings it or what the name of it is. it's that one song that goes "Jump on it, Jump on it" and there is that dance to it where you move your hips to one side, then back, then the other side, then the front. and i think it was in that movie Stick It and i know it was in one episode of Fresh Prince of Bel-air. and please please don't tell me to google it cause i already tried that. and i already searched it on itunes, so please only answer if you know the name or the singer of the song. thanks!!
apache (tanto jump on it) by gang sugarhill? haha that's like my friend's song.
here are the lyrics if you're not sure.
http://www.lyricsondemand.com/g/gangsugarhilllyrics/apachelyrics.html
i have a couple actual guy friends, but i want more. im so sick of all the drama girls bring along, and i think hanging out with guy friends would be a ncie break once in awhile. the couple i have that are actually friends not just aquantinces could probably introduce me to their friends, but once im introduced i dont know how to like become friends with that person. any advice? also, how do i make more of my OWn guy friends? thnakss
You need to hang out with them more often. That's how I got accepted into my group of guy friends. I hung out with one or two at first and through them i started hanging out with their other guy friends and after a bit i was friends with all of them. Just act the way you do around your normal guy friends. Meet more guys through the guy friends you have already and hang out with them. Suggest to your guy friends that they should hang out more with their other guy friends as well as yourself. While the first few meetings might be slightly awkward, it gets more comfortable as time passes. After you hang out with them long enough, they'll accept you into the group. There's no real 'way' to make more guy friends, it usually just happens after you hang out with guys long enough (:
ps. guys can have drama too. lots of it and just as bad as the kind girls have. trust me on that haha
i want to have sex with my boyfriend. but he is a couple years older then me and definitely way more experienced then i am. i am afraid that if i have sex with him then thats all our relationship will be about. and i dont want that. so should i just wait to have sex with him?
out of curiousity, how long have you guys been going out? but regardless, I really suggest you wait. Just rushing into the physical part of a relationship is generally not a good idea. You want to wait till there is a strong bond of trust between you two and you feel like you are ready to do it, not to mention the fact that you are sure that, even without having sex with him, your boyfriend will still love you. And that even after having sex, his feelings for you wont change. Also, consider the fact that you have a high chance of ending up in a position that you will really regret, because once you do it, you can't wish it never happened.
I've become this depressed slump in the pass couple of months and there's no one to blame but myself.
I let selfish feelings take over and I got attached.
My mind is eating itself up and everytime I seem to open my mouth, no one seems to care.
I don't even care anymore.
The thoughts I have are stupid and fuckin pathetic.
But I can't control them, Or hide them like I use to. I need a release. But I don't have one anymore. Hanging out doesn't work, going to shows doesn't work, Writing doesn't work - Everything I write is an added complaint to the last thing I wrote.
I feel like I bring everyone down when they're around me.
I'm mad. And I feel like no one cares... And the people that do seem to care, I just can't bring myself to open up to them. So yet again, this is all my fault.
Sometimes I get too stressed and end up crying. I can't control it anymore.
Other days I feel like destroying everything in my sight... Luckily, I can still control that.
I wonder how long I will be able to.
I actually had this feeling not too long ago and it's 1 am in the morning.
I'm scared of what's coming. I no longer have school to keep my mind busy.
Graduating should be a great experience. But it wasn't.
I still can't stop thinking about him... I fell in love. How could I have let this happen again?
Why do I get attached to people and always end up getting hurt?
It's an endless cycle and I don't know how to kill it.
It hurts. Everything hurts, and I don't know how to kill this pain.
I need something, but I'm not sure what it is.
I'm not sure of anything anymore.
you know the amusing thing is that i'm dealing with the exact same feelings as you are. I read this and was like wait, did i post this? Because thats how I'm feeling about all the things in my life right now. Except that it's 12:33 am.
I got more attached than I should have and got hurt instead. I can't get over him and at the same time I know there's no point in doing so and that it's over. I am graduating in a few months and it drawing near is not as exciting as i hope for. nor is school anymore. I dally between wanting to just cry my heart out and wanting to destroy something everything.
Leave me a message, maybe we can discuss these mutual feelings and figure out how to deal with them. Besides that, I don't know how to offer advice. I could tell you what my friends told me.. but i dont know if it'd help you. But if you would like to know, message me anyway.
Ok well if anyone has read my other question you would kno that i hav been daing someone for 3 weeks now and he wants to have sex with me. but i didnt know if he was using me or not.
Well he sed that he will wait but he wants to finger me and stuff. Should i let him or should i just want because im scared that he might get the idea that i want to have sex with him soon but i dont. Im going to the movies with him on saturday and he wants to feel my up my skirt and stuff should i let him do that or not? I want him too but idk if thats the right choice. Please help!! thanks
it's only been what.. 3 weeks? Definitely not a good idea to let him. For one thing, i'm pretty sure you guys haven't developed enough trust to even do it. If he loves you that much, he should be willing to wait till YOU are ready. Three weeks isn't even long enough for him to start feeling you up. Tell him to keep his wandering hands to himself or end it. It seems like he just wants to get physical with you rather than have an actual relationship with the other things (ie hanging out, talking etc). It's not the right choice so I would advise you definitely don't let him. You have a high chance of ending up in the position that you really regret it.
I am freaked out here and I want some assurance. Well, yesterday a guy lay on me and was kissing my mouth and smooching and all and I was fully clothed as in I was wearing a salwar kameez and had my panty, my top of the salwar and my kurta on...and he too had his lungi on...I don't think he came or something but even if he did what are the chances that it would have travelled from his penis to his lungi from there to my bottom and then to my panty and finally to my vagina. And just for the record there was no direct penis-vagina contact at all as throughout I was fully clothed and neither his penis nor his hands touched my vagina or my genitals. Every body's telling me I have nothing to worry but then I just needed some assurance and I am sure this is the best place. Please help me! I am going crazy
If you were both wearing clothes then you are fine and have nothing to worry about. It's only if you guys were both naked that you might be in trouble. So no worries.
ok i have this so called guy friend who likes my good friend, my friend knew that he has a crush on her and he knows it too
and him and i always talk about her and i always listen and trying to help him out and he said this to me after my friend told me to tell him:
"friend": she said she likes someone ?
me : yeah
"friend": : ic...
me : yeah
me: ey no meeting in the library for a while
me : cause people are being UGh
me: so annoying
"friend": : well theres no need to talk to you anymore
me: as in?
"friend": : i only talk to you cause of her...
me: icic
me: umm ok then
"friend": : nice knowin you
and he signed out so was he using me?
Wow. What. a. jerk.
If he's telling you that he's only talking to you because of your friend... then yeah he's using you. Which is utterly wrong and mean. He has no right to be friends with you only to get to your friend and then stop talking to you after finding out that she likes someone else. What an axxhole.
i have a really immature and pathetic problem thats made up of a few little problems. but it's REALLY bothering me and stressing me out.
this part isnt really a problem; two days ago the most amazing, sweetest thing happened to me. "matt" is my best friend. he means everything to me. i am so comfortable with him, can be myself around him, can tell him anything, and our relationship is so important to me. it's so hard to do that with anyone else because i'm kind of shy and insecure. but matt gives me butterflies
First off. Your friends' stupid behavior is NOT your fault. It comes from their own selfishness and jealousy and the fact that matt chose you over them.
1) You are not a selfish bitch.
2) Don't blame yourself for their actions.
While there are the terms "bros before hoes" or "chicks before d*cks", it's not always the case. If your two 'best friends' decide to hate you and treat you horribly just because the guy they like in turn likes you... don't bother being friends with them anymore. Real friends WOULD support you and be willing to let go of their feelings (as hard as it may be) so that you can be happy. I mean, shoving you in the hallways and talking trash about you...? What kind of friends are those? They don't care that they're hurting you and they're acting like total bxtches. My advice is to let them go and make new, better friends.
Now to address your third problem. Cutting themselves over this? How immature can they get? While I may sound totally offensive in saying this.. cutting yourself because some guy chooses your friend over you is so overrated. It's not something that depressing and worth cutting yourself over. Have your mom call their parents. They may hate you even more for it, but it's for their own safety and health. While it is the answer for stupid things to do while being depressed, cutting is not the answer for heartbreak or 'release from problems'.
Don't feel guilty or selfish. Don't feel bad. it's their own stupid problem and it has nothing to do with you. So find new friends, have fun with Matt, and have a happy life. Friends who hate friends for getting the attention of the boy they like aren't people worth being friends with. I hope you have an amazing time with Matt and find friends who actually love you and stand by you no matter what. If you need someone to talk to, feel free to leave me a message (:
15, boy
I think out of all of my friends, I'm probably the only one that hasn't had a girlfriend. Is that weird? I'm a really independent person and I'm not really into any girls. It's almost like there isn't anyone worth going out with at school. I'm also pretty picky so it feels like I have no chance.
When people would ask me why I didn't have a girlfriend, my usual response was that I was so busy and didn't have time for that stuff, or that no one would really like me that much. I mean, I really don't know if any girl would want to go out with me. I'm really tall for my age, I'm in marching band, I'm one of 3 guys on my swim team, and I run track. I get really good grades as well, so basically I'm the typical nerd, or thats what people say. haha.
Most of my friends have had girlfriends before, and they usually end in as a train wreck. They always tell me that I'm not missing out on anything, but sometimes I'd like to know what it's like. Is it really as great as some people say, or is it just a waste of time?
You're only what, fifteen? there's no rush or competition for getting a girlfriend. It's not weird if you don't have a girlfriend; I think the fact that kids younger and younger are getting into relationships is just pushing it. Most people start going out just to see what it's like to have a boyfriend/girlfriend; it's not really about love or anythinga anymore. I'm seventeen and I haven't exactly gotten a boyfriend yet. Some of my friends have and I've seen almost all of them crash and burn. So there's nothing wrong with waiting. Sometimes it helps lead to a better, longer lasting first relationship. My friends would advise that you wait till college, but I don't see a problem in going out with someone in high school, though i'd say wait until you think you're actually ready and not about to dive headfirst into a relationship without being sure about it.
Being picky is good, it means you have standards and arent willing to go after anything that wears a skirt (or any metaphor like that). And most people think that there are few choices at there schools. My friends and I have decided that there isn't anyone worth going out at our school (though it's not as true anymore). The fact that you're a 'typical nerd' doesn't mean girls wont be interested in you. I for one would go out with a guy taller than me and/or a guy who did all the things you do and still manage good grades.
Depending on the people, a relationship can be really great or it can be a waste of time. I wouldn't dive into a relationship just to 'have a girlfriend/boyfriend'. Waiting for the right person might seem frustrating or a long time, but in the end, it's better than just going out with someone you have mild feelings for just to see what a relationship is like. Don't worry about not having a girlfriend and having high standards. When you finally get a girlfriend who you really love and stay with for a long time, the wait will seem worth it. Even if it's years from now, because you are willing to wait for the right girl, I hope you find her =)
Hi, i'm about 5'6 105. I know that i'm i guess.. "considered" thin, but i don't really believe it myself sometimes. I often feel fat and i always want to lose weigh. I come up with different diets, like eating just salad (lettuce with fat free dressing.) I do like food sometimes, so i'll want to eat something and feel kinda bad about it. I feel like i'm never thin enough.
Trust me, you are THIN. I'm 5'5" and about 115 lbs and my friends consider me so thin to the point of being anorexic haha. So I wouldnt advise you to go on a diet because you're not fat at all. If you want to still 'eat healthy', I would suggest a balanced meal of meat and vegetables etc (like not too much of one). Just dont over-snack on junk food or fatty foods; and if you think you did, exercise. You can run, play tennis or basketball, or go to the gym to workout. But all in all, don't worry about it too much. You're fine as you are right now.
my boyfriend said he had to go and that he loved me and i didn't want him to leave and i told him if he left i would dump him. he still signed off, and i dumped him on the phone. and then i called him again and he hung up on me.
who did the wrong thing? me or him? did i over react because he had to go? or was it him?
=/ i feel like crap. i think i overeacted
how can i tell him how much he means to me?
umm as harsh as this might sound: yeah you overreacted. You can't stop your boyfriend from leaving if he has to go; threatening to dump him over something that small is just ridiculous. It's just unreasonable on your part. It makes it seem like you don't care about making the relationship last.
Talk to him tomorrow (if you see him) or if you call him and he doesnt pick up, leave a voicemail explaining that you were overreacting and that you are sorry. Email or note helps too. Apologize about overreacting and tell him how much he really means to you. You might want to mention to him that you want more of his attention and next time, dont dump him over something that small. It makes a relationship hard to deal with.
Joan and Betsy are coworkers, but not in the same office and they saw each other a total of three times spread out over in a year. Joan is 5 feet 6 inches and Betsey is 5 feet 1 inch. Any way they were talking and Betsey said "I cannot get clothes in Blondies because they come in people size like you". Joan (who is thin) changed the topic. They spoke about other things. And then Joan said: Betsey you are always saying you are short, how tall are you" Betsey said "5 feet one inch, I have to shop in the little people department." Joan told her friends the story and they said "All Betsey is saying is you are tall and she is short so she cannot buy clothes for tall people. MY QUESTION: DO YOU THINK ALL BETSEY IS SAYING IS THAT SHE IS SHORT AND CANNOT SHOP IN TO MANY PLACES BECAUSE THEY ARE FOR TALL PEOPLE AND THAT IS ALL SHE IS SAYING?
yeah. she's just saying she can't shop in many stores because their clothes wont fit her because of her height.
how do u get a background on ur advicenators column
1. Go to the left blue bar on this website and click on "Column Settings". At the bottom of the page theres the "column colors".
2. If you have the picture you want for your background, upload it (or if its already a link copy and paste it)
3. Then copy the link into the space next to "Page background image (URL):"
4. Then submit colors.
that should work!
last night i was at a party that my girlfriend dropped me off at because she trusts me, but i got really drunk and cheated on her, now she doesnt know anyone that was at that party, and if i dont tell her, shell never know, but i feel guilty because she does trust me, but the whole reason i dont wanna tell her, not so im not the bad guy or not so she dont leave me, but because it will hurt her, and i really do love her so thats the last thing i want to do. overall im not a cheater, i was really drunk and would never have done it sober. should i tell her??
i find it amusing that you give everyone who told you not to tell her a 5 and those who told you to tell her got 3s.
Let's put it this way. If she somehow finds out about it from someone besides you, she'll be even more devastated. She will be hurt probably, but she will get over it. And it could cause a better understanding and trust to form between you two since you were willing to admit your mistake even in face of losing her trust. Contrary to you not telling her, it will cause a gap to form between you and her, whether unconsciously or not. Buying her a present will make you feel better, not her. It'll only be something nice you did for her and have no real meaning. Seeing that you were drunk, she should understand. People do stupid things when plastered.
On the other hand, you could not tell her and have this dark secret that is always between you and her. She might not know, but you do and it'll eat away at you. She'll love you, trusting you, not knowing that you really betrayed her the one night you got drunk. Too soon, the feeling of guilt will overwhelm you every time you see her laughing unknowing face. You'll end up telling her and she'll become upset that you choose THEN to her and not right after it happened. She'll ask you why. why you couldnt trust her enough to tell her earlier and why you did it and then kept it a secret.
Think about it. If you love her as much as you say you do, then you would tell her. It will hurt, after all betrayal always hurts, but it will save your relationship from shattering if she were to find out later and through different means. Dark secrets are the ban of relationships and your secret can lead to things that you wish never happened.
how do you change the margins in Microsoft Word? they need to be one inch and i don't know how to change it. thanks!
1. Go to the "file" at the top bar of microsoft word
2. go down to 'page setup' and click on it.
3. Then under where it says margin you can adjust it
4. press okay when you're done and the margins should be changed!
(haha i had to do it to make sure i was right)
How can I get rid of mucus clogging my nose----and quickly????
taking hot showers and breathing in the steam generally helps; so does those nasal spray stuff and blowing your nose (though not that much).
http://www.cnn.com/HEALTH/library/ID/00006.html
^ hope the site helps.
ok i'm in 8th grade.. and i dont smoke,drink or do any drugs whatsoever. so me and my friends are talking about when people in my school start drinking which is 8th and up. they said that they wouldnt mind starting now or in 9th.
anyway i was with one of my friends and she said she would do it and everyone else does. she says its not wrong and its not right, just another form of partying. personally i dont feel like i would drink at a young age, and i dont want to give in to peer pressure. i feel pressured to start soon,what should i do?? help is appreciated.
Don't let in to the pressure. I'm a senior and I still don't drink. My friends do and they've tried pressuring me into doing it before but they step back when i refuse. Just tell them you dont want to do it and if they're really your friends they'll understand and back off. If you're with them and they try forcing you to drink, tell them you don't like it when they try to pressure and then leave. It's not that fun and hangovers SUCK. not drinking before high school isnt a crime and is actually something admirable. So many young people are falling into peer pressure and drinking/doing drugs; the ones who dont are the ones who are smart. so my advice is stay above the influence and dont give in to your friends. It might seem 'not fun' or 'antisocial' but trust me, its worth waiting till you're older to get drunk.