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I feel kinda odd
15, boy
I think out of all of my friends, I'm probably the only one that hasn't had a girlfriend. Is that weird? I'm a really independent person and I'm not really into any girls. It's almost like there isn't anyone worth going out with at school. I'm also pretty picky so it feels like I have no chance.
When people would ask me why I didn't have a girlfriend, my usual response was that I was so busy and didn't have time for that stuff, or that no one would really like me that much. I mean, I really don't know if any girl would want to go out with me. I'm really tall for my age, I'm in marching band, I'm one of 3 guys on my swim team, and I run track. I get really good grades as well, so basically I'm the typical nerd, or thats what people say. haha.
Most of my friends have had girlfriends before, and they usually end in as a train wreck. They always tell me that I'm not missing out on anything, but sometimes I'd like to know what it's like. Is it really as great as some people say, or is it just a waste of time?
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Different people have different opinions. My opinion I think having a boyfriend,(in my case) is a good idea, that way I can learn things and I'll always have someone there for me-but other people don't want to bother with it until college or even later because they know they're not going to get married in grade/high school. You can always wait until your perfectly ready to have a girlfriend, or experiment now. Either way I'm sure your going to turn out and find someone at the right time in your life just fine. But don't just have a girlfriend to have one, eventually someone will come around who really sticks out to you, and you like and that's when the right time will be.
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You're just fine. However, I wanna give you some words of warning. You say you're picky. Now is not a time to be picky. It's a time to experiement. If you've never dated anyone before, how can you really know what you want? I didn't date until I was 18. I have had a lot of problems with that. Those silly, meaningless high school relationships that end in "train wrecks" are actually a postive thing. They help you grow and learn about love, life, and what you really want from it all. I'm not saying go out and date a bunch of random girls just for the heck of it. Just try not to have the attitude you do about dating. Be open to it and work towards getting there. I had the same exact attitude as you have now when I was younger and it turns out that being smart about relationships when you're a teen isn't the smartest choice. Make mistakes, be young, and you'll grow up a whole lot faster. When you finally do find that girl that you know is the one, you'll know what to do so you don't lose her. You'll know what she wants and you'll be able to give it to her. She isn't going to be patient if you're totally lacking in experience. So, high school relationships are great while they last, suck even more when they end, but they are not a waste of time in any way. They will help you immensely in becoming the man you want to be. As much as you can get hurt over them, they help you more than you can imagine. Good luck. :)
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No of course its not weird!! Guys become attracted to girls at their own pace. If you don't feel the need to have a gf then why have a gf. Its true that you may be missing out on somethings like kissing and "stuff" ,but your not missing out on heartbreaks, and stuff like that. Eventually you will become interested in girls, and you will have a great gf. Just take your time, and don't worry!
Love,
Nicole x0x0x0
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Well you can't just expect for a girl to just go out with you bacuse of your grades or something. You need to ask one of you guy friends to introduce you to some of their girlfriends, then you need to talk to them and get to know them. At least you will start at the beginning, as friends and build up. If you start to feel some thing more then friendship with one ask her out. If you are thinking about one girl all the time thats a sign that you feelings for her are growing. Take a chance.
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Belinda
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I'll start off by saying that I love nerdy guys. And I know I'm not the only one, so you just haven't found the right girl yet.
Socialize with friends, be yourself. You're already doing that. You'll find someone, I promise you. By not making it your life's goal to always have a girlfriend, you're not making yourself look desperate, which isn't the impression you want to give someone. Girls who want a meaningful relationship, and not "just another hookup" will like you for who you are. Finding the person that's right for you isn't a complete waste of time, no. But you don't want your grades or other aspects of your life to suffer because of it either.
hope I helped you! :)
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You're only what, fifteen? there's no rush or competition for getting a girlfriend. It's not weird if you don't have a girlfriend; I think the fact that kids younger and younger are getting into relationships is just pushing it. Most people start going out just to see what it's like to have a boyfriend/girlfriend; it's not really about love or anythinga anymore. I'm seventeen and I haven't exactly gotten a boyfriend yet. Some of my friends have and I've seen almost all of them crash and burn. So there's nothing wrong with waiting. Sometimes it helps lead to a better, longer lasting first relationship. My friends would advise that you wait till college, but I don't see a problem in going out with someone in high school, though i'd say wait until you think you're actually ready and not about to dive headfirst into a relationship without being sure about it.
Being picky is good, it means you have standards and arent willing to go after anything that wears a skirt (or any metaphor like that). And most people think that there are few choices at there schools. My friends and I have decided that there isn't anyone worth going out at our school (though it's not as true anymore). The fact that you're a 'typical nerd' doesn't mean girls wont be interested in you. I for one would go out with a guy taller than me and/or a guy who did all the things you do and still manage good grades.
Depending on the people, a relationship can be really great or it can be a waste of time. I wouldn't dive into a relationship just to 'have a girlfriend/boyfriend'. Waiting for the right person might seem frustrating or a long time, but in the end, it's better than just going out with someone you have mild feelings for just to see what a relationship is like. Don't worry about not having a girlfriend and having high standards. When you finally get a girlfriend who you really love and stay with for a long time, the wait will seem worth it. Even if it's years from now, because you are willing to wait for the right girl, I hope you find her =)
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