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my boyfriend best mate has all ready split me and his best m8 up before and i think he is trying to do it again how do i get round this??
xxgirl needing help :( xx (link)
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Talk to your boyfriend about it. Nothing should come in between you two.
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i'm on a tight budget (let's say less than fifty bucks) and i wanna do something for my 18th birthday. it's in a few days and i want it to be small but fun. any ideas? i was thinking a dinner but should i have ppl pay for themselves? any other creative ideas?? (link)
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For $50.00 theres not a whole lot you can do. But dinner && a movie would be fun. Maybe you could pay for the movie...or they could just pay for themselves. Or have a few girlfriends and drive up to a bigger city and do a mini shopping spree.
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My love life has been a mess recently, and it's turned into me considering giving my ex a second chance. I'm 19, btw. He's 21.
Background: When we were together, emotions ran high and neither of us were really prepared for it. He's struggled with control, and dealing with emotions for most/all? of his teenage life, and he couldn't handle it, so he ended it.
Before he ended it, he was being kind of horrible to me. He unintentionally encouraged an eating disorder I'd been on the edge of for years, he added to my self-hatred, and when he broke up with me, threw me into depression.
On the other hand, before he freaked out about what he was feeling, he was one of the sweetest, most romantic guys I'd ever met, and he loved me. When I wound up depressed, he stayed with me and held me while I cried, if I did, and kissed my tears away. He never meant to hurt me.
We broke up last July, and we're still "involved". There are feelings on both ends and we both know it, but I had the option of being with someone else I developed some feelings for.
When I saw my ex, though, and he kissed me, I felt that he still loves me, and neither of us seem to want to let go of that. We were friends with benefits for awhile, then I stopped it, but now I want to start it again.
Neither of us are ready for a relationship again. I feel trapped and caged easily, and I don't want the "girlfriend" responsibilities.
What do you guys think? Should I go back to being FWB with him with the thought that it could turn back into a relationship? (link)
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I've never personally been in this type of situation. Except looking at my cousin's boyfriend problems (she's 20) I'd say you need to be done with him. Your situation is totally different though, so I'm not trying to base it on something completely different. Just my cousin learned the hard way that it's once a dog always a dog sort of thing. You could give him another chance but before you become official I would have a talk him and work things out. Just so you would feel prepared. As for FWB I guess I wouldn't be ok with that, because to me it would be a waste of what was trying to me passion. If you feel comfortable doing that then you should. Just think about the pros and cons of the situation. Girlfriend: List your reasons on why it would be great, and why it would be horrible. FWB: List why it would be fun, list why it would be stupid.
Hope I helped and Good luck!!
I have hope that you'll make a smart desicion. =]
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Okay. So there's this guy(he's 15) and I like him(14). We're at this spot where I feel like we're more than friends, but he doesn't see it. He is very... blind? He asked me out two halloweens ago at a dance, and then 9 months later told me he didn't know we were going out. >_< Anyway, I love this guy, a lot(no its not dumb high school stuff. I want him. For life. I would MARRY him if he asked me. srsly.)
Last night we went to see a play(slasreveR neveS[he's so backwards... he loved it]) and the whole time we were messing around, playing with each other; poking, teasing. Afterward, I called for our ride, and we were hanging out in the lobby with this girl, and it was fine, totally natural, no jealousy, no flirting with her. Well, so we got in the car, and the next thing I knew, his hand was with mine. I'm like WHAT? he didn't hold it all through the show, but the minute people couldn't see us...? He also brought me a present... Earrings. GORGEOUS earrings. darkish silver, circular with red beads. perfect for me.
the only thing is, he doesn't like me. I asked him to the Sweethearts Dance at V-day, and he said IMMEDIATELY; "Just as friends right?"(he went, we danced the one slow dance)
Anyone want to clue me in? (link)
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Here is a simple explanation to your confusing friendly flirty boy:: *Guys were simply put on this Earth to confuse us girls!* Can I get an Amen to that??? Lol ok it sounds like he's playing mind tricks with you...like he likes you but doesn't want to admit, or he just gets into the moment at times...he sounds like a typical confusing male! lol just let him play it out for like a month or so, then see what happens.
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So...My boyfriend is coming to my place 4 the first time today (I've been to his hgouse a few times and to the mall and stuff ).I cleaned my room so my mom will let us down here,she said we could have the living room for a movie or my room if I cleaned so I can do whatever...Heres my question : What are some fun things I can do that I can get out of REALLY quick if my mom comes in ??? I'm not aloud to make out but I do and ya so ??? AND ANY TIPS FOR THIS ??? (link)
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You know, just putting this out there:: sometimes its nice just to hang out with someone you really care about without being all over eachother. But if you have a TV in your room you guys could cuddle while watching T.V. because that really isn't that bad. It's also kinda fun to go on walks around the neighbor hood and just talk. I don't know if that's anything you and your bf are particualry interested in, but its stuff I've done in the past. Or if you really want to make out just do it like on the other side of your bed and if your mom comes in say your looking for something like a earring or something. Thats sounds really gay...but I've used it before so yeah lol. have fun!
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15, boy
I think out of all of my friends, I'm probably the only one that hasn't had a girlfriend. Is that weird? I'm a really independent person and I'm not really into any girls. It's almost like there isn't anyone worth going out with at school. I'm also pretty picky so it feels like I have no chance.
When people would ask me why I didn't have a girlfriend, my usual response was that I was so busy and didn't have time for that stuff, or that no one would really like me that much. I mean, I really don't know if any girl would want to go out with me. I'm really tall for my age, I'm in marching band, I'm one of 3 guys on my swim team, and I run track. I get really good grades as well, so basically I'm the typical nerd, or thats what people say. haha.
Most of my friends have had girlfriends before, and they usually end in as a train wreck. They always tell me that I'm not missing out on anything, but sometimes I'd like to know what it's like. Is it really as great as some people say, or is it just a waste of time?
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Different people have different opinions. My opinion I think having a boyfriend,(in my case) is a good idea, that way I can learn things and I'll always have someone there for me-but other people don't want to bother with it until college or even later because they know they're not going to get married in grade/high school. You can always wait until your perfectly ready to have a girlfriend, or experiment now. Either way I'm sure your going to turn out and find someone at the right time in your life just fine. But don't just have a girlfriend to have one, eventually someone will come around who really sticks out to you, and you like and that's when the right time will be.
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I have come to the point where I cant write, concentrate, derive pleasure from anything, have difficulty remembering things, have blurred vision, eyes seriously hurt, sometimes have severe headaches, most of the time dont know what I am talking especially with my elder brother. I have nt got father and mother I live my elder brother and his wife since 6 years. I am 26/M an MBA had a successful career but now since six months things have been deteriorating. I cant bear it any more. Plz tell me the easiest way to commit suicide which hurts less and is quick and doesnt make much of a mess. (link)
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do NOT commit suicide!! I know your suffering, but let's face it everyone suffers. You really should check in with a doctor if your at this point, or get over to America and GET MAJOR HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Suicide doesn't do anything! At all, because when you commit it you go to hell. Plain and simple. Don't commit suicide just get some help or talk to someone! You are NOTT doing the right thing whatsoever! I know your probably not having a good time right now, but I'm serious you can change around everything you probably need some medical attention. Please do NOT COMMIT suicide. It hurts others so badly, and it won't do you any good because you'll just be in a worse place. Please take my advice, do the right thing. You'll be okay I promise!
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So its almost my sweet sixteen && i have no idea what i want to do for it. I havent had a bday party kinda thing in over 5 years. I wana do something fun && cool but most of my friends would just wana drink for my bday && stuff like that..
Any ideas on what to do!? (link)
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Ok this may be a stupid idea, but my cousin rented out a club house (like a golf club house) and she just had a DJ and everyone danced and stuff and then she had a preformer and stuff, it was cool.
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hey um i was wondering i asked another person for advice and she said i am having this thing called "discharge" going on. its like a clear goo thing that comes out near your butt. but its soooooooo annoying and i really hate it and it has been going on for more than like almost half a year. and i was wondering if you know about it or if you know how it started or how i can get it to stop. because i have really fun things in my life and it just ruins them. and it sucks. but i am asking you because you have given great advice and you are sooooo awesome and good at it. : ] :D and i wanted to thank you so much. you help sooo many people out including me. :D so please if you have answers...i need them im desperate. thanxx so much :D (link)
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Yeah it is that. But you can't stop it...sorry i know it really stinks but it means your going through puberty and when i started having it i got my period so yeah...just don't let it bother you and when it is try to make an exscuse to go to the bathroom and take care of it!! sorry but you can't stop it... i know it sucks!
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Hi, for the longest time I have trying to get more volume in my hair. everything I try just falls flat in the first 10 mins. I use volume shampoo and conditioner. I have tried hairspray, I have tried teasing it. I have tried volumnizing spray and gel. I have also tried blow drying it upside down. Nothing seems to hold. Does anyone have any ideas of what I could try or do to get more volume? Any products or techniques that would help. (link)
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Ok well I don't know if this will work for you, but it worked for me. I used sunset hair elements shampoo and it worked pretty nicely. After that I put hair gel in my hair and just ran it through my hair...kind of teased it with that. Then I blow dryed it straight ish. Then I used hair spray and sprayed it all up and finally I used a curling iron and just kind of wave a couple pieces to make it look bigger. So I kind of combined all of the things you did and its a lot of product to put in your hair but it turns out silky and has major volume!!
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Well I dumped my four month boyfriend
today and I'm fine. But the thing is I
did it through a text message because
he texted me telling me he loved me
and I didn't want to lie to him.
The problem was we never saw each
other so I wouldnt be able to do it
in person, he's ALWAYS busy.
Now I feel guilty because I know doing
it through a text is bad, should I call
him or something or just forget about it? (link)
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Well if it was me I would either call him or try to schedule a time to talk to him in person. Just tell him that you didn't want to be in a relationship where you weren't feeling the same for him, as he was for you. And instead of wasting his time you wanted to be honest. I would call him and tell him you need to talk to him about it and that you didn't want to be mean by doing it through texting...you could tell him that its just hes always busy and you didn't know what his plans were and that you're sorry you did it through texting and you want to be friends still (unless you dont then leave that out!) ok! hope I helped!
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I've been in love with the same guy for almost a year. The thing is he's one of my good friends. I love him but i really only want to be his friend but its like i can't help but to love him like that. How can I fall out of love with him?Its kind of wierd too because I'm only 13. (link)
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Sometimes you just can't stop loving people! I've been in the same situation too...but I got advice from my 15 year old cousin who told me that sometimes you can't stop loving people because its just impossible...I guess its ok to love him but just act like his friend
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what is your opinion on a 16 year old girl going out with or liking a 14 year old guy. i turn 17 in may but this guy will be turning 15 in january. soo yeaaah..too young? i know it seems like it kind of but i have such strong feelings for him (link)
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Well i think that if you really like him age doesn't matter. Its about the feelings you have and you know when you really like some one or not, so think about it. Be prepared people will say some pretty mean things to you or might think your a dork...but you just have to think if this guy is worth it! Hope i helped!
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welll i was out with my boyfriend and his friend and my friend today and i got the impression he was flirting with her i know i may sound paranoid but he was like rugby tackling her and like stuff and the way he looked at her and stuff and alwas standing closer to her than me and it was really getting to me and it was the first time they'd met and she said she thought he was nice and that she was happy i was going out with a good guy am i just getting paranoid and protective???? please give your ides love me xxxxxxxxxxx (link)
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I would say you should talk to him about it but be reasonable! It sounded like he was flirting but i wasn't there so im not sure just talk to him!
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my best friend and i used to date for about a month cuz we liked eachother.. and now that im over him, i keep thinking that i have to like someone.. what does this mean??!(16 F) (link)
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What I am about to say doesn't mean its right, but anyway, maybe you had such a nice relationship with this guy that you want to find a new one to have another with, im not sure if thats right but thats one of my guesses, all you have to remember is that relationships are something special!! so don't think you need to! I hope I helped some how sorry i don't know what to really say
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Summer is supposed to be the best time of the year for me. It has been once in a while but lately I havnt been doing anything at all.. my mom works till 5 30 everyday but on mondays and wednsdays shei dont see her till 10 at night my dad also works and his house si wicked boring sometimes. My point is i have no one to hang out with everyone is always out doing something else with other friends. I feel like im the only one sitting at home by myself all !! (link)
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Try to invite your friends over but set up a date so they can come like call and say: What would be a good day for you to come over and hang out, OR if its not to late where you live get active in sports!!! If you have any family or neighbors who are around your age ask them to come hang out or go meet new people somewhere!
Hope I helped!
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My bestfriend moved far away in the begining of the summer. I used to do everything with her without realizing that I only hung out with her and never made an effort to hang out with anyone else. Everyone else has their own cliques and groups of friends I sit home everyday on the computer with nothing to do. I feel like my life is going to waste what should I do to put my life back together and become popular with other friends? (link)
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Go over to the other cliques or groups that you can see your self hanging out with, by nice ask them about their lifes and what they like to do, also be nice to them and be yourself! Like in the cafetiera go up with a group of people you know and ask if you can sit with them just go with the flow about what they talk about and ask their opion on maybe a teacher or a test you took. Hope I helped!
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Hi everyone, this is the first time im trying this site, but my situation has gotten so serious, i really need some advice from outsiders. Im a 18 year old male.
Alright, the situation is that at our college we have this group of friends that we all hang out in. We are all a pretty close knit group, go to the movies together, lime at each others houses etc.. In this group there are a few relationships, one of which is Julia and Danny. They were in this constant on and off sort of thing for 3 years, he would break it off to give her space and they used to fight all the time. One time when it was off, me and Julia started talking alot, some flirting started and she eventually told me she liked me and i admitted i did to. I had liked her but was always afraid to admit it. Anyways, things took off from there and everything was great. She still didnt want to commit so soon after ending a 3 year relationship..which i understood..so we just dated.
But then we started to do "stuff". Not sex, but nearly evreything except sex. And I am not the type of person who just gets into a relationship to do stuff. I really want to be comitted..and even though we do evreything a commited couple do, knowing that we werent really together and she still thinks about gettin back together with him really pulls at my heart.
I have really falling in Love with Julia, I do these spontaneous things around her that in never knew i was capable of and she makes me feel complete. I know it is not Infatuation cause i have felt that before with another girl and this is far different. And btw, we have been out for two months constantly now, and we find it impossible to argue with each other.
The real twist in our relationship now, is that now he really wants her back, and he is saying all this mushy stuff like "he is changed person and wil treat her better". HE USED TO IGNORE HER FOR VIDEOGAMES! and didnt make alot of sacrifices for her. I would sacrifice anything for her. and i mean ANYTHING. So now she is between two minds wether to hold onto the past or wether to move on to something new. And she was kissing both of us at one point...now she has stopped kissing both of us till she makes her decision. Plz give ur comments on this situation, I want to be with her so badly it hurts...and give her some advice too, and i will relay it..anything is much appreciated (link)
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Don't bug her about choosing you, cuz that will annoy her. But talk to her tell her how much you care about her, then tell her whichever choice she makes you'll still be there for her, if you really will be there for her. That way she'll know that you care about her and support her which could make her choose you. But don't try to convice her to pick you to the point where it gets super annoying. Hope I helped!
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year. The first few months we started dating, he asked me the usual "virginity" questions and things like that.. I told him everything, BUT I added and took away things to make me sound ok. I still wasn't comfortable telling him everything.
After the drama of me being a "liar", I prayed, and realized that if I want this relationship to be the way it needs to, then I need to let him know EVERYTHING about me. Nothing should be hidden. So, at 4am (what a great time) I let him know.
8 months later, he has moved to my city for me, we'll be going to school together.. basically starting a new chapter. Everything is PERFECT.
I live in a VERY small town where everyone knows everyone and everyone likes to have something to say bad about someone. A guy that comes into my boyfriends store often came in to tell my boyfriend a handful of LIES about me. The things he said didn't derive from any truth.. they were literally made up off of the top of his head. My boyfriend knew this guy lies about a lot of things, but then someone I had never met before that was friends with the liar backed him up.
The liar is someone I went to highschool with, but never knew. I knew of him. The other guy I have yet to have ever met him, nor have seen in my entire life. Plus.. both guys kept saying to my boyfriend "don't tell her we said this.." That's pretty obvious to me that those were all lies.
I want to confront the liars without making a scene.
I feel like I'm 15 again.
Why can't people grow up, and why can't my boyfriend believe me??? I have been truthful to him since the one and only incident before.
I'm way past this nonsense drama. I'm ready for a future and I can't have this future here with people like that. I'm tired of people that I don't even KNOW stepping into my relationship and causing problems.
...I'm clueless.. Hopefully this will blow over. (link)
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If your boyfriend believes you and know those guys are just jelous then don't worry about it because the one you care about belives you but if he doesn't then ask him if he loves you and if he says yes then tell him if he really loved you he would trust that you told him everything I hope it works and that those 2 boys grow up!
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This is going to be super long...
Me and my boyfriend of about 7 and a half months broke up at the beginning of the week because he's leaving for a 9 month missions trip to Africa in 2 months. We were taking it way too seriously emotionally, contsantly disagreeing on things and just generally not doing too well. The breakup was mutual because even though we agreed the decision sucked, it is what's best for both of us right now. We resolved to be friends until he returned from Africa and try being together again when he gets back. So I turned around my claddagh ring (an Irish promise ring that kind of shows what your status is in relationships, I got one from him for Valentine's Da), put everything he ever gave me (cards, roses and other flowers that were now dead, poems and a few other things) away where I couldn't see them and basically cried until it was time for me to get up to go to work the next day. The next day I felt just kind of numb inside. Two days later he called me and then came over for a few hours to just hang out. We were having a great time, laughing and acting like the kids that we keep forgetting we are, like we used to. But the whole time I kept getting those painful stabs of missing him and I had to keep reminding myself that we weren't together anymore and that I couldn't randomly kiss him anymore. Everytime we've said goodbye since the breakup he kisses my cheek or my forehead or my neck and it hurts even more. There will be those moments where I'll catch him staring at me or vice versa and we both know what the other one is feeling and thinking, still even then. Since we've broken up we've hung out two or three times and the whole idea of being best friends again is going really really well. I have no problem with it at all I guess I just need help with getting used to it. Anybody have any suggestions? (link)
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It's really hard when you like someone and then all of the sudden you have to be just friends. The best thing I can say is that Its going to hurt for a while but eventually everything will fall into its place, and just enjoy being a best friend with him! Sorry thats the best I've got!
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