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Best way to commit suicide.


Question Posted Sunday March 4 2007, 2:46 pm

I have come to the point where I cant write, concentrate, derive pleasure from anything, have difficulty remembering things, have blurred vision, eyes seriously hurt, sometimes have severe headaches, most of the time dont know what I am talking especially with my elder brother. I have nt got father and mother I live my elder brother and his wife since 6 years. I am 26/M an MBA had a successful career but now since six months things have been deteriorating. I cant bear it any more. Plz tell me the easiest way to commit suicide which hurts less and is quick and doesnt make much of a mess.

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cosmo answered Monday January 28 2013, 5:23 am:
It has been a while since this post was made, I assume, but I honestly hope you are okay.

i would suggest seeing a doctor about your eyes and headaches if you haven't already. it may be that you need glasses or contact lenses.

also, perhaps if would help to take up a hobby to improve concentration. i would suggest knitting because it is easy to learn, is very relaxing, fun, and rewarding.

if you ever need someone to talk to, feel free to email me at acaptainsname@yahoo.com

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InTheSameBoat answered Friday August 3 2012, 3:40 am:
I have to agree with most of what ArtsyGrrl said below; except for the student loan part, as I am 57 years old, so ALL is TOO LATE for me. No children in my future or past, no education past one year of college with failing grades (no money, no scholarships for me?! ha-ha, from where, Heaven???), money (what's that????), love (ha ha ha ha ha). I can guarantee you that everyone in my life wishes I were just a bad memory. I only have one reason to be alive, and that is my best friend & companion...my cat. She's old, and when she's gone, so am I. And I live with very sick people (my family) who don't give a rat's ass about her welfare, so she could be dead before her time, too; because of their lack of caring and incompetence. Little do they know or care that if that happens my life ends sooner than later, also. So what.
Believe me, NO one will care for more than maybe a couple weeks (until their guilt wears off) & without my existence here on earth, to remind them who horribly & completely they ALL failed me as their sister, or other relation (you know who you are). I loved you more than you'll ever know or appreciate, or you would have been with me all this time. Now you have to die alone, too. How sad is that, God?
I'd like to tell you there's hope for you, if you're still on this earth; because despite what you said a few years ago, even at your current age there's hope for positive change & experiences in life. Once you get to my age it all changes, but don't do yourself in yet. Look at what the responder below had to say:

ArtsyGrrl answered Friday June 8 2012, 10:30 pm:
Came across this old thread while doing a search on suicide (yep, I'm contemplating it myself.)
Odd as it may sound, I want to tell you not to because there are other people in this world who are suffering just like you, and you can find them (perhaps via the Internet?) Someone out there is looking for you because only you will understand him/her.

Unlike most people who post on these forums, I have no family. My biol family is VERY dysfunctional, toxic&the reason for many of my problems. I have very few friends. I don't meet like-minded people. I'm living in a place where there are few people like me but have to be here due to my financial situation. Been struggling financially for years, watched my life pass me by. Very painful. Tragic. Heartbreaking. Spent my youth hurting, struggling, trying to pay bills. Didn't get a chance to date a lot or party. Just worked & struggled. Now it's too late to start a family, to build a network of friends, to start a career, etc.& of course, I'm still living in poverty, still in debt. If I'd known when I was younger what I know now about this stupid country (the USA--ugh!), I would have spent my hard-earned money & left for a part of the world where a better life is possible. Sadly, it's too late for me to do that now too. I've had to learn the hard way that as you get older everything gets harder because our society is ageist. I'm "overqualified" for most of the dead-end jobs out there, yet I have huge student loan debt because, stupidly, I went to college thinking a degree would help me climb out of poverty. I'm a very intelligent person but no one cares. Employers would rather hire someone younger, less experienced & less intelligent so that they can pay them less&control them better. (I have other problems too, health problems, chronic pain, live in a dangerous neighborhood, am surrounded by abusive people, etc., but just don't have the money to get out of this situation.)

Point is, life is terrible, just horrible, for some of us. My choice to live is a bad one 'cause I'll prob end up homeless, raped & murdered on the street. Suicide would be a more pleasant way to die. Frankly, the way the wealthy elite are running this country rt now, I think they want a lot of us to just kill ourselves & get out of their way.

Yet after all this, I'd encourage you (and anyone else) to live in spite of it all. Why?

I guess I feel that so many of the injustices we're all experiencing are happening because we've allowed the wrong people to attain power in our world. If instead of getting depressed and demoralized we could all get together, all of us who are suffering due to injustices, I think we could make a positive difference in the world, corny as that sounds.

Instead though, so many of us who are suffering just wallow in our misery, contemplate ending our lives. But if we could just come together and work together toward making things better...

Wish I could start a support group of some kind. But I just don't know how...

Anyway, it's years since you've posted, so this prob won't help u, but others will also see this post. (See? You've helped out others suffering like you already! Just by posting this on a forum, you've brought together others who are also suffering & you've probably led some people toward getting some help.)Even I feel better after reading your post 'cause I recognize that there are others out there like me, struggling, hurting, misunderstood.

Still, I believe that those of us who are suffering are the most needed in the world right now! Yes, it's a strange thought to some. But think about it. We're suffering 'cause we're unhappy with the way things are. We want things to change. We are the potential change-makers. Those who are happy and content aren't going to create change. They want things to preserve the status quo 'cause they benefit from it. Think of all the people in the world who are suffering right now. Strange as this may sound, our suffering serves a purpose--to notice and heal problems.

Yes, your problems are unique, but your suffering is not. Once we suffer, we develop empathy for others who are suffering and we can become healers for them. Think about it. Like me, perhaps your family isn't loving or supportive. But there are still other people in this world who need you. You may not have met them yet, but you will...if you try.

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ArtsyGrrl answered Saturday June 9 2012, 2:30 am:
Came across this old thread while doing a search on suicide (yep, I'm contemplating it myself.)
Odd as it may sound, I want to tell you not to because there are other people in this world who are suffering just like you, and you can find them (perhaps via the Internet?) Someone out there is looking for you because only you will understand him/her.

Unlike most people who post on these forums, I have no family. My biol family is VERY dysfunctional, toxic&the reason for many of my problems. I have very few friends. I don't meet like-minded people. I'm living in a place where there are few people like me but have to be here due to my financial situation. Been struggling financially for years, watched my life pass me by. Very painful. Tragic. Heartbreaking. Spent my youth hurting, struggling, trying to pay bills. Didn't get a chance to date a lot or party. Just worked & struggled. Now it's too late to start a family, to build a network of friends, to start a career, etc.& of course, I'm still living in poverty, still in debt. If I'd known when I was younger what I know now about this stupid country (the USA--ugh!), I would have spent my hard-earned money & left for a part of the world where a better life is possible. Sadly, it's too late for me to do that now too. I've had to learn the hard way that as you get older everything gets harder because our society is ageist. I'm "overqualified" for most of the dead-end jobs out there, yet I have huge student loan debt because, stupidly, I went to college thinking a degree would help me climb out of poverty. I'm a very intelligent person but no one cares. Employers would rather hire someone younger, less experienced & less intelligent so that they can pay them less&control them better. (I have other problems too, health problems, chronic pain, live in a dangerous neighborhood, am surrounded by abusive people, etc., but just don't have the money to get out of this situation.)

Point is, life is terrible, just horrible, for some of us. My choice to live is a bad one 'cause I'll prob end up homeless, raped & murdered on the street. Suicide would be a more pleasant way to die. Frankly, the way the wealthy elite are running this country rt now, I think they want a lot of us to just kill ourselves & get out of their way.

Yet after all this, I'd encourage you (and anyone else) to live in spite of it all. Why?

I guess I feel that so many of the injustices we're all experiencing are happening because we've allowed the wrong people to attain power in our world. If instead of getting depressed and demoralized we could all get together, all of us who are suffering due to injustices, I think we could make a positive difference in the world, corny as that sounds.

Instead though, so many of us who are suffering just wallow in our misery, contemplate ending our lives. But if we could just come together and work together toward making things better...

Wish I could start a support group of some kind. But I just don't know how...

Anyway, it's years since you've posted, so this prob won't help u, but others will also see this post. (See? You've helped out others suffering like you already! Just by posting this on a forum, you've brought together others who are also suffering & you've probably led some people toward getting some help.)Even I feel better after reading your post 'cause I recognize that there are others out there like me, struggling, hurting, misunderstood.

Still, I believe that those of us who are suffering are the most needed in the world right now! Yes, it's a strange thought to some. But think about it. We're suffering 'cause we're unhappy with the way things are. We want things to change. We are the potential change-makers. Those who are happy and content aren't going to create change. They want things to preserve the status quo 'cause they benefit from it. Think of all the people in the world who are suffering right now. Strange as this may sound, our suffering serves a purpose--to notice and heal problems.

Yes, your problems are unique, but your suffering is not. Once we suffer, we develop empathy for others who are suffering and we can become healers for them. Think about it. Like me, perhaps your family isn't loving or supportive. But there are still other people in this world who need you. You may not have met them yet, but you will...if you try.

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nobody475353 answered Monday May 21 2012, 9:26 pm:
I'm 13 and I'm pretty sure that my life sucks a logo more than yours... My mom has literally dragged me down the stairs 3 times in the past week, and I barely see my dad because he's ALWAYS working... My school sucks ~<#% and I've been bullied for the past 2 years, which doesn't exactly help anything much... As much as I REALLY want to just go and finish this bullshit off, I can't do it because of personal reasons... All I can do is ask god if he can help me or kill me... Either one works fine for me...

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fhaq answered Thursday May 10 2012, 7:08 am:
Your brilliant answer? HA! Their is none. I've absolutely hated my life as long as I can remember. I hate my family, cant be friends with anyone except for maybe 5 people because for the most part people just cant be trusted, don't know how to be a father, and don't even know what acceptance really is. I hate even waking up. I just want to die, every day, all day. I dont care how smart I am and the company's that I've worked for. I dont care about the problems that I've solved for everyone else. If you cant be happy, whats the point? What is the purpose of existence if it's only for the service of others, and nothing for you? It really seems that some people just aren't allowed to know happiness. And if someone says "what about your loved ones?", I think do I even have them? They should be happy for release from the daily hell. Hell is here and now. I feel like its time for a reboot. But for some reason, I keep going. I see life as nothing but a trivial pursuit for a sense of tranquility, except your a donkey with a carrot dangled in front of you while you chase after it with no reward, and you have everyone on your back for a free ride. Life fucking sucks. But I'll wake up tomorrow. I'm not looking forward to it either.

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father answered Friday March 23 2012, 5:38 am:
I think it sounds like you have been dead for a long time already bro, no one can tell you the best way to end your life on life's terms and if they do there full of shit and should be dead them self's if they are so knowledgeable about the topic!! there is no best way to do it !!! All i can say if it matters at all to you as a complete stranger because when you think about it and really think about it we are all strangers because no one will ever really know how you feel on the inside no matter how you try to tell them but please rethink your decision. There are going to be alot of assholes on this site that would disagree with my advise to you only because there life sucks and they would get some kind of sick kick out of your pain but i don't bro PLEASE BE COOL AND WRITE ME BACK !!! LATER BRO

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justinpark46 answered Thursday March 1 2012, 9:10 am:
My life is like yours.
I am only 13 years old,and i know what you people are going to say that i am pretty Fucked up, but i admit it. It feels good to actually get this writing done so here it is. In my life my parents always fought, so my mother had an affair with another man in the Phillipines. My mother got rejected and so she married another man. so i have been going back and forth to my dad and mum. I JUST WANNA FUKIN KILL MYSELF. this is probably what you all are feeling one or more times in your life. But guess what everyone gets stressed and it can be sometimes FUKIN ANNOYING. What all of you readers out there should do is to go for a run,actually fuck that find something you enjoy in life and do it. everyone has their moments so MOVE YOUR FAT ASS

P.S Sorry about the bad language :)

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giapia answered Wednesday January 25 2012, 5:27 am:
I have had some sort of fascination with suicide since I was a teen. I get to the point some times where I am just over it. I am not afraid to die. BUT I never do it. Why? Because that is a completely fucked up thing to do to the people who love you and that is the only reason. Of course, I can get pissed off at them for keeping me here, but who I am to cause that kind of sorrow to someone who loves me. I am just not that selfish and fucked up.

So, I push past. Usually, something amazing happens and I totally forget for awhile why I think death would be kinder than life. It usually entails a new lover and some exciting thing happening in my life. Even though the really great times can some times be few and far between, they are a zillion times better than the worse day is bad. You know?

If it has been awhile since you have felt such happiness, then I offer this advice: change some shit! Okay, I know, you're thinking easier said than done, but ya. It is simple. Just do it. How? Okay, like this.

I know I do not fit in like the average person. Life has always seemed as if it was different for me than my friends and family. It is hard to really put into words, but I just don't belong. I am either different or I have some jacked up personality disorder that makes me "think" I am a lone soul, but either way, real or imagined, it affects me.

Stuff that makes other people all happy and contented just annoys me. So, I have to find other things to amuse me, or, lessen my anxiety, in the very least. That usually entails me getting fed up with my existing life--partners, city, etc--and changing it all around. 4 years ago, I settled in a town I loathed because I knew I could afford it and I wanted to provide a stable home for my son. He had just come to live with me because his school was crap, and I knew I need to provide a steady pad so he could graduate high school. So for two years, I suffered in hell, but it was totally worth the sacrifice.

Then coming into the third year, I thought to myself,"Gia, you're kid is kicking ass in his classes and he is going to graduate soon, whatcha gonna do?" I thought about what cities I would love to be in and came up with Santa Cruz and San Francisco and I put myself in both. I had a web presents on local sites for both cities and started attending a lot of events in Santa Cruz, where I met great new friends.
Now, one-and-a-half years later, I have a boyfriend and a business in Santa Cruz, and life is pretty cool. For the time being anyway hahaha.

And in case you want to know, my son graduates next week and he still lives in the crappy town, but now my mother and aunt live in the house I used to feel trapped in. As you know, I am not normal, and they are perfectly contented to be there. So anyway, that is an example of just doing it. Don't let anything keep you back from getting a life that will bring you more sunshine than rain clouds. But take some safety measures if you do!

Change whatever you want, but don't dump friends and family unless they are very toxic.
You must keep your life-long friends because they love and support you, even if you don't realize it at times. Plus, those bonds tether you to the earth. I always keep my friends in my thoughts. I admit that Facebook actually acts like a grounding device for me as I can keep that contact with friends (IE reality) a steady thing in my life. You should also be realistic in your life change. Don't run off to the circus if you have no clown experience. You don't want to end up destitute and even more depressed! Take your time and plan it out. You don't need to be in a hurry. You will just have something really cool to look forward to longer! And the last thing? Be kind.

I know, and no I am not getting all touchy-feely! I just know that how you treat people has a direct effect on your feelings of well being. If you are a grumpy asshole, you're gonna feel like shit. Give people a chance to surprise you. I admit that I am not a huge fan of people in general, but it is true that when I treat them kindly, I can see a noted change in them. They get a sparkle in their eye and their affect softens. Ya, sometimes I just take it as a power trip--you know, how easy it is to make people react as you wish they would, but there is a lot of sincerity in my satisfaction for making someone's day a little bit sweeter. You never know.

They may have thoughts of ending it too, and your small gesture is enough to put it off a bit. I know this was long, and if it didn't bore you to death, then you missed your shot. You have to live. Sorry:)

Don't do that to those who love you and recognize the beautiful moments in life that make it all worth while.

Contact me if you need to talk.

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christinaliz answered Tuesday June 14 2011, 1:00 am:
I came across this and thought I'd answer. I am not in the mental health profession. My experience is firsthand. 2 months ago, my husband jumped off of a bridge and died that night. I have spent most of my adult life with him, everyday, for years. What it has done to me emotionally you cannot begin to imagine. Images of his battered body and bloody face alternate with memories of our lives together. Soon after the memorial service, those who were not connected with you (extended family, distant acquaintances or even friends) will move on with their families, vacations, Facebooks, and the one or ones you left hurting the most will hurt alone. Trust me. I could not have answered this even 2 1/2 months ago. I didn't have a clue. If there is someone close to you, your older brother and his wife, boyfriend or girlfriend, I can tell you firsthand that you will scar them. I can't tell you what to do, but I can tell you that with all certainty. Good luck to you.

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adelheid answered Friday February 18 2011, 11:57 pm:
I will answer you in a way that no one else has, yet.

There are ways to kill yourself, and yes, they will all be painful. If you live in the United States, which I am pretty sure you do, then people like Dr. Kevorkian cannot help you with euthanasia.

I do not agree that people who are suffering should have to "fight it out". I think that is just a slave driven nation going insane. Why the hell should any of us have to suffer? And I most certainly do not believe in Hell.

However, I will stress do you this: Death is not the end. Not because of some religious doctrine. Not because it might not be more peaceful there. Nope, pure science and paranormal phenomenon proves time and time again that death is not the end of your consciousness, which means that whatever pain you are having may not actually be alleviated by it. Here is a link to an article about what happens when you die:

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I actually found this question in a Google search because I, myself, was contemplating suicide. I have suffered from suicidal thoughts for 15 years now. I do not know what keeps me going, but there is something here.

Judging by the answers on this message board, most people are aware of this "something" that does keep us going.

Again, I do not think that you should have to suffer or fight it out or take the pain... I think that's ludicrous. Whatever pain you have is legitimate, no matter how insignificant it may seem to others, and no matter how many people have suffered the same pains. Every pain should be changed and made into pleasure. Your problem is... you do not know how to make a pleasure out of your pain, yet.

The longer you continue, the closer you will be to, and finally fixing, all of your problems. You will find the answers you seek. You will find hope and happiness again. Life is cyclical. You will also feel pain again, but most likely, it will be something you can deal with.

Suicide is not something that people "do", it is something that happens TO them. Much like being devoured by a pack of wild wolves, life throws these consciousness bending challenges at us that sometimes actually do kill us. No one actually "wants" to die, including you, and me. We don't want to die. We, actually, just don't like the pain that is in life that should not be there.

You and I are frustrated and extremely excited and angry. It is a deadly combination of feelings. We feel like we should continue, which is why we even went online in the first place, and yet we also feel like we should stop, because we know that damn pain NEEDS TO END, but we cannot seem to figure out how those two different beliefs can live together harmoniously.

Why are countries even at war? Why are there plagues? Why are iPods in existence when people in this very United States of America are STARVING?!

Rationality doesn't concern itself with our plight. You and I will find our way, and if we die in the process whether it's from suicide, a car accident, cancer, or even murder... our lives held significance and continue to do so after we die.

I believe in you, no matter what you "choose" to do. I believe that your life has meaning. I also believe that you, being here, in this message board, with all of these people coming together to discuss this very difficult and real part of life, are on the right path to feeling better.

The people who say something, anything, to try to understand this are usually the ones who end up leading the happiest lives they never even could have imagined.

I believe you will have a good life and so will I.

Why do I believe? Because "something" is telling me that is the case, just as "something" told me that I wanted to die in the first place. There are powers greater than us at work here, and if you are not dead already, then you are heading for an even better existence than your earlier life.

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Black_Rose22 answered Thursday February 3 2011, 10:40 pm:
Suicide is a long term solution, to a short term problem, put yourself in your brother's shoes, with how long he's cared for you, what would your suicide do to him? Life is hard, and I'd be lieing if i said I've never considered it, but then i saw what my brother's boyfriend's suicide did. I saw first hand, how a loved one's suicide can tear you apart. Before you even consider actually kill yourself, think about how you'd react if your brother was the one committing suicide, how would it make you feel? Your answer would be whathe would feel if you followed through with this.

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Peeps answered Tuesday November 10 2009, 8:27 am:
A lot of people don't understand that suicide affects other people, even people you don't realize are there for you. A young man on YouTube uploaded a video one evening discussing the issues that suicide has caused for him. A sort-of friend of his from school took his own life. If this doesn't touch your heart and make you change your mind then keep reading below; the video is worth the 5:55 of your time though:

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There are many different suicide hotlines that you can call toll-free. Here are a few, varying by state:

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And you can always call the national hotline if you're unable to call locally.

National Suicide Hotlines (USA)

Toll-Free / 24 hours a day / 7 days a week

1-800-SUICIDE
(1-800-784-2433)

1-800-273-TALK
(1-800-273-8255)

1-800-799-4TTY (4889)---Deaf Hotline

And here are a few more about suicide:

Suicide & Crisis Hotline
1-800-999-9999

Suicide Hotline - (National Adolescent)
800-621-4000

[[For our teen readers: There are also many teen help lines nowadays that you can call and talk about many different problems on:

Teen Helpline
1-800-400-0900

TeenLine
1-800-522-8336

And here is a neat link to something called Boys Town:

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In which they have a hotline number (1-800-448-3000). They claim to they can help:

"...with suicide prevention, depression, school issues, parenting troubles, runaways, relationship problems, physical abuse, sexual abuse, emotional abuse, chemical dependency, anger and much more."]]


The best way to commit suicide is not available. There isn't a painless way to commit suicide. There really isn't a quick way to commit suicide. It doesn't exist because we're not suppose to be doing that sort of thing to ourselves. Many people have suggested that overdosing on things like sleeping pills are effective on a quick, painless death but it isn't so:

"Many people who have overdosed on various pills live later to tell how painful it was. Overdosing is not as simple as falling asleep and never waking up. Many people break out into cold sweats, have seizures, severe stomach pains, and so-on. Overdosing is painful and is not a "quick, painless way out" of life.

Overdosing on any type of pill is definately not painless and quick:

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Overdosing usually leads to messy, painful and long-drawn-out consequences, including slow poisoning. There is not really a pain-less way to find death. If you attempt suicide, be aware that you will probably be in pain for the last bit of your consciousness, no matter what method you choose.

Imagine suddenly having problems breathing and feeling very dizzy and weak. You have to sit down in the floor and before you know it, things are spinning around you and you break out in a sweat. You have to lay down on the floor because you're so weak. Your stomach is hurting--it feels like something is going to rip out of your flesh and eat you alive. Your body starts to shake on it's own, but your muscles hurt so bad you just can't stand it. It's hard to breath now, you're gasping for air, but you can't see anything around you. You lay on the floor, in a puddle of your sweat, while you pray the pain stops. You begin to lose control of normal body functions, maybe you just urinated yourself. You slip in and out of consciousness, in and out of feeling jolts of extreme pain throughout your body that you can no longer control. You finally lose consciousness completely.

You wake up 6 months later. Someone, through a miracle of God, had found you in your very unpleasant state. You scared them deeply and they rushed you to the emergency room, where you spent hours of some group of workers time while they prayed they could save your life. A little 3-year-old boy died because they had to work on you before they could get to him but you won't ever know that. You're awake in a hospital bed you've been taking up for the past 6 months. You've lost your job in this time. Your friends and family have became ill from worry, and a couple have begun thinking of suicide themselves for "pushing you" to it. You now have a slew of medications you have to take daily or you become ill. You've lost control of coordination and will have to have physical therapy in HOPES you regain the ability to walk. You have problems talking and your words are slewed--you'll have to go through speech therapy too.

You cannot hold a decent job if you wanted to now. You cannot even walk from to the restroom without falling twice. You cannot communicate clearly enough for most people to understand you. If you aren't up with your medication, you wet yourself, so you have to constantly be wearing Depends. Because of your medications and your physical disabilities now you have lost your license and are unable to regain the privilege of driving. Your friends and family treat you like an infant--afraid of every move you make. You no longer can live on your own because you need physical assistance. You cannot even hold a pot up long enough to get it to the stove so you don't have one at all. Your neighbors have their eye on you now--just in case--and they talk about how strange you are and that they heard this and that from why you are disabled now.

Which is better? Your life now or the possible outcomes of your life after trying to commit suicide?

I'm sure you'd rather be alive and decently well than to wake up in 6 months, alone, confused, and impaired in some way.

Bad times always get better. You don't want to be left in a painful state, even if you got your stomach pumped if a family member found you is not a pleasant experience and you WILL remember it for a long time."


Now, for my advice...

Make your life meaningful.

Many people seem to be having this sort of problem now and I truly think that it's because we have lost the right path in life.

I don't mean this to be bad but I'm not sure how to put it: you need to start focusing on other people other than yourself all of the time. If you make your time useful and helpful to others, you will gain a sense of care about yourself. You will soon realize that you HELP others and that other people need and appreciate you.

Many people now are so busy with their own lives that they lose sight of what it is to be loving and caring. You see, knowing that you are helping others does great things for the self-imagine. You soon realize that you aren't useless and just a blob of flesh bobbing along through life.

It really seems that the problem is our current lifestyles. We no longer "have time" to help others. Nobody volunteers now because they feel that they should be paid money for their time. Nobody goes out of their way to show care for others because that time could be used for something else. Both of these are common and we're taught (it's drilled into our heads) that we are the most important in our lives. This is not true at all: the people surrounding us are the most important.

The people who surround you create your sense of belonging though. Those people help you to see yourself as useful. Those people are the ones that can show care back for you. Without those people, you aren't anything anymore.

The media keeps telling us to only worry about ourselves. Sure, it's find to tend to your own needs--but what happens when everyone is too busy with themselves? What happens when everyone stops worrying about caring for others? They become depressed, wondering why they don't belong somewhere and why they feel lost in society. That is what is happening to you, most likely, whether you realize it now or not.

What's strange is the more we focus on ourselves and stop helping others, the less we feel good about ourselves. As humans, we NEED interaction. We NEED acceptance. We NEED to know we are important in life. Most of all though, we desperately NEED to help others to gain all of that plus more.

I highly suggest that you stop focusing on yourself. Yes, still continue to get help but try to put your excess time/energy/efforts into others. Find places to volunteer regularly at.

Am I right in this? I bet I am...:

*You feel worthless, unimportant, and useless.
*You feel like you simply cannot do anything right.
*You do not feel needed, and maybe not even loved.
*You feel like people wouldn't miss if you if you disappeared, or that they would get over your departure quickly.
*You feel empty inside--like something huge is missing but you cannot pinpoint it.
*You feel like your best will never be good enough because YOU are not good enough.
*You feel like nobody is genuinely interested in you and what you have to offer (though you may feel that you don't have much to offer)

All of this is exactly what I'm talking about. You need to make more of your life. By giving to others, you are creating your sense of worth. You will soon realize that YOU DO make a difference and that people appreciate and care about you. You will realize that when you have to skip a volunteer day for a doctor's appointment that many of the people you have been helping will ask what happened to you--Ah-hah, there's your sense of belonging! You will begin to realize that being involved with the care of others can be very fulfilling spiritually.

Spend time at soup kitchens helping the hungry, volunteer at shelters, visit the elderly in homes so they're not as lonely (not everyone has visitors and just about everyone has neat stories to tell), read Bible passages to younger children, volunteer at local animal shelters, donate your time to what needs you, and do whatever you can with that time. You may even consider doing random acts of kindness:

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If you feel like you don't have time now--make time. Alter your daily schedules to fit a few hours in for volunteering. Instead of being on the computer for an hour, log in only for 15 minutes and do what you NEED to do. Instead of sitting at home for dinner every day, take one day a week to eat at the soup kitchen after volunteering there.
Focus on who needs you. In essence, this is all for YOU so this is important. Helping others will help you.

I suggest you grab a phone book and make a few calls. Sit down with a calendar and set up one or more days a week to volunteer your time at certain places. Don't stress yourself out trying to fit things into busy schedules, but move things around so that your schedule won't be hectic but will have the fulfilling volunteer time in it.

It isn't your fault that you feel this way. You have just been fooled all of these years into believing that you are number one. Relax and focus on taking time for others and you will eventually find what is missing, trust me.

I hope that you find your way through this struggle quickly. I know it can be a hard road to travel and if you aren't willing to open up to your friends and family it's going to be a lot harder. Remember that they are there to help you, not hurt you. They may be helpful at giving you advice or finding you some reliable help so you don't have to journey alone.

I hope you take my advice and improve your life before things get worse. If you have any further questions regarding this subject please feel free to ask me!

P.S. Anywhere you volunteer your time at, you will happily fit in :) I promise, you'll see.

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bucksguy answered Friday October 16 2009, 4:32 am:
HURTING YOURSELF IS NEVER THE ANSWER. NO BULL SHIT. ANYONE ON HERE THAT NEEDS TO TALK OR VENT. PLEASE, EMAIL ME tman1226@gmail.com. DON'T BE ASHAMED, WE CAN TALK ABOUT ANYTHING THATS ON YOUR HEART.

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mike12572 answered Friday July 10 2009, 12:27 am:
life is tough on everyone! some of us get an easier life then others.. thats just the way it is.. a wise man once told me "if you think life nowadays is too tough, read some history books". obviously your brother and his wife care about you letting you stay there for 6 yrs. I myself have thought about suicide many times. especially after my twin brother killed himself @27.But the mess it would cause for my wife and children would make me less of a man.. In order for you to be happy you have to distance yourself from the things that are un natural for humans.. for example worrying about bills and credit. society. religion. Always remember we are animals, Not divine destiny.. it doesnt matter if your rich or poor... get out and do some camping or something.. get away from society for a little...Maybe go to a cancer ward and give someone else some hope.. It doesnt matter how much money you make and how successful you are in life.. just be human...cause when your gone thats all.... Dont buy into the religious comments, those are the week people! they need to justify there death by going to heaven(lol)..talk about selfish!!! your in the right path , just tough it out!! who knnows one day you might have a beutiful son or daughter... if you need to talk feel free to contact me...

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Russky answered Sunday April 26 2009, 7:32 am:
To start this answer I must say Ive thought about offing myself too but Im too afraid of the pain,and then again I should be going home soon thank GOD so no need. I was asked to relocate to USA a few months ago from Moscow, Im 35 and work for design company making dirtbikes and because my English is good I was sent,I have to say Ive NEVER lived in a place this fuked up EVER! I mean are you people fuking serious? You people live in a nightmare but you love it? uhm ok.....? People here have NO concept of morality and people here are completely FAKE,PARANOID, and BRAINWASHED!!!! Your own government lies to your face and you do nothing??? ok....? And you yanks talk crap about Soviet Union?, Nukka Pleaze!!!! So why are you so patriotic and have a blinding sence of nationalism that even brainwashes your own childern? Capitalism is the reason alot of people here get pushed to point of suicide because it turns people into animals to survive, its sick and you should be ashamed to just be ok with a government like that. Besides the fact people in USA hate everyone else including state to state hate, do people here like anyone?,some of you dont even like yourselves, You hide behind distorted religions and patriotism. You put people in jail for rediculous crimes and make everything illegal, but you say you have freedom,...People make horrible wages unless they go to school which isnt free here. what does the government do for you Mr.Kennedy?.. People here smart enough to speak out are silenced or harrased, I can definately see why some people in USA want to jump off a bridge, but instead I suggest you move to a Socialist nation like Norway. You get help with a job, housing, free school and healthcare and a much better life where you can be a human-being.

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joeshmoe answered Thursday March 26 2009, 12:03 pm:
I don't know the disposition of this person's outcome, but for anyone else who is reading this with similar issues: GET HELP. First of all, it's hard to see that your life can be better when you are feeling so badly--that is the insidious nature of depression. It's been described as a black hole for a reason. I've been there, and can totally understand. I've been desolate too, and I can tell you now that my life NOW is perfect. Sure, there are things about myself I still want to fix--that's the cognitive burden of humanity, that we're always restless and want to change things. However, the universal burden of being human is also that the only thing guaranteed in life is change. I know--it's all very cliche, but it's true. If I'd killed myself when I thought about it, I would not now have three beautiful, happy, well-adjusted children, a great job, the most awesome best friend/spouse in the world who I adore and absolutely adores me, a gorgeous home and many friends and family who love me for who I am. I say this because there is NOTHING special about me. I simply chose NOT to kill myself when I most wanted to. And, things worked out.

As for the symptoms the poster described, I REALLY encourage anyone dealing with these types of problems to GO TO A DOCTOR! While what he described CAN be due to depression, it's also likely that there is a medical cause. Some things that can contribute include everything from carbon monoxide poisoning (the symptoms fit it to a "T", a brain tumor, a neurological condition, etc. All of these things can also contribute to and exacerbate depression. How sad to think that someone would choose to end their life for something that might be treated.

I wish the poster--and anyone who is feeling so low that suicide seems reasonable--well. PLEASE reach out to people. There is ALWAYS someone out there who will want to help you. You, like anyone else in this world, deserve an opportunity to live well and be happy. Depression is not uncommon, but suicide is NOT a viable solution. You deserve better.

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KKCrowe answered Saturday February 28 2009, 2:30 am:
"you guys have no empathy"

Are you kidding me?

Idk what's become of this person, or anyone else who has supported it for that matter, but honestly? Suicide's not the answer. There's always worse things that could happen to you, and your life is only as good as you make it sometimes. Yes, shitty things happen to good people, but you roll with the punches and find the bright side. Get a counselor. Write in a journal. Talk to people. Go to groups. The resources for suicidal and depressed people are ENDLESS.

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theemparode answered Wednesday February 11 2009, 5:18 am:
I say don't kill yourself... I am 17, and my dad killed himself 4 years ago, because of emotional pain. It was a spur of the moment idea, but his reaction is costing me dearly. I have less interest in things, I don't do as well on my schoolwork, but I keep going. Just put up with the fucking pain. You are this way because you can handle it, because you are stronger.. A life in pain is better than no life at all. You have a whole life ahead of you, and you want to end it so early. Don't give up so easily.

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ulver77 answered Tuesday December 9 2008, 1:36 am:
dude im 26 too. i was a heroin addict for years and lost everything that ment anything to me. PLEASE PLEASE dont kill yourself. look, everyone isnt happy, we all have to drag our faces through this shit we call life. your living with your brother man, he doesnt wanna wake up and find you dead. im not gonna tell you shit will get better, but i will tell you that by not doing this, you will make alot of other peoples lives alot better. i hope your still with us bro.

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hopefiller answered Thursday October 30 2008, 12:10 pm:
Everything is going to be okay. I have felt suicidal and i had tried to commit suicide by taking a whole bottle of sleeping pills. I am lucky that i didnt die i just slept for a really long time :) but i cant say i know how you feel because i havent been in your shoes but i know how it feels to be hopeless ,defeated, and haveing no motivation to live. It sucks. But just have hope. Everything will be alright.

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unwritten4u answered Friday May 30 2008, 1:02 am:
As a catholic i am required to step in and tell you to stop. i dont know how recent this post is, or if you have already commited suicide and i am writing this to nobody, but i just thought that as a servant of God i would abide by his rules and put a say in this. i think you should do the same.

don't get me wrong, im not some old nun who knows everything about God and is a Jesus obsesser or anything. and i can't make you do anything, and im fully aware of that, i'm just informing you that what you're feeling right now is nothing compared to what u will feel when you're dead. you'll go straight to hell and suffer 50 times worse than you are now for all of eternity. so...yea. think about the after effects.

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lasthope answered Friday May 9 2008, 1:24 am:
Well, im not going to be like everyone else and say don't do it, but im not going to be like those people who say give up and just kill yourself. i've been thinking of killing myself a lot recently. to be honest im almost tempted to. but i can't help but think of all the people i am leaving behind. so wat im trying to say is...the choice is up to you. You can choose to just waste life given to you and die or you can live and find some help.

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xxaxxmxxxc answered Thursday March 20 2008, 9:15 pm:
DON'T DO IT !!!!!!!!!! you maybe going through a really rough time at the moment but your life WILL get better . a couple of years ago i was going to commit suicide , i was really depresed . I thought no one would care if i was gone . NOT commiting suicide is the best thing i have ever done , yeah i still get depresed but i can deal with it now , when i feel down i talk to my friends & i feel so much better , they really are my angels . you really need to get help , talk to a friend , councellor or your brother . i know your brother would help you . If you did commit suicide then your whole family would be heartbroken & they would have to live with the pain forever .

PLZ DONT DO IT !!!!!!!!! XXXXXXXX

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blair_ok answered Sunday March 11 2007, 6:55 pm:
First of all I don't think you should kill yourself. Just go to a doctor. Please don't do this to yourself. I have lost a loved one from them commiting suicide. It hurts to lose somebody that way. I am in a fostor home right now and my parents aren't with right now. Please go and get help. I am really concerned about this. Contact me if you are still okay.

-Alex

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mn731 answered Sunday March 11 2007, 4:18 am:
I know I'm not in the same position as you..but I can see from from your point of view. I was seriously considering killing myself when a couple years ago..I mean, no one would care right? It's not like I would make a difference in the world. I guess fear stopped me from doing it...fear of the beyond, maybe? Looking back, I'm relieved I didn't go further then thought. I mean, YES, I still have my moments where I am dreading everything I'm going through...yes, I sometimes wish I wasn't here..but those are just little moments that don't count. I've learned to enjoy life even though I have MAJOR imperfections that I know I can't fix. I just have to make use of what's given to me. Anyway, my point is, don't kill yourself. Someone cares for you, even if you don't think so. Everything will get better, because..it always does. As for now, find a trusted friend/family member/counselor..ANYONE to talk to. It REALLY helps to get things out. :)

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loca1xcel3b answered Sunday March 11 2007, 1:41 am:
dont kill yourself.

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DancinHottie22 answered Saturday March 10 2007, 9:51 pm:
do NOT commit suicide!! I know your suffering, but let's face it everyone suffers. You really should check in with a doctor if your at this point, or get over to America and GET MAJOR HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Suicide doesn't do anything! At all, because when you commit it you go to hell. Plain and simple. Don't commit suicide just get some help or talk to someone! You are NOTT doing the right thing whatsoever! I know your probably not having a good time right now, but I'm serious you can change around everything you probably need some medical attention. Please do NOT COMMIT suicide. It hurts others so badly, and it won't do you any good because you'll just be in a worse place. Please take my advice, do the right thing. You'll be okay I promise!

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XkittyOkatX answered Saturday March 10 2007, 8:30 pm:
Hun, I'm going to sound soo cliche here, but that's really not the right thing to do. Obviously it's going to hurt everyone else (you honestly don't realize how many people care for you, do you?) but you're also going to be letting go of something amazing; life. You were put in this situation for a reason, you're meant to endure it, to get stronger and show that you can maintain yourself!!! Suicide isn't a way out, it's just a final resolution to a temporary problem, and you KNOW you'd hurt your brother and everyone around you!!!
The things you'd described earlier seem like they could be treated.. for example, headaches and everything, you can go to a doctor for that.

Please, i know my answer isn't anything great, but there have been some AMAZING people who have gone through so much worse than this, and got over all of it and went on to be amazing.


Really, email me if you need someone to talk to. suidice is NOT the answer, no matter how bad you think things are!!!!!


xo_graziano_ox@hotmail.com

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evil-devil12 answered Saturday March 10 2007, 6:44 pm:
dude DONT KILL YOURSELF!!! it would ruin you and your family. it would be really selfish of you. maby you think noone would give a shit but trust me the would! they will feel horrible and you'll be gone forever. you only live once so trie and make the most out of it
pray to god , and go see a counselor

i wish you the best of luck!!!!!!!!!!!!! =)

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LilAngelOfDoom answered Saturday March 10 2007, 8:45 am:
Well really commiting suicide is bad. you may not think when your dead people may not miss you but just as you die people realize how much they ned you, all you just have to do is pray to god, god will help you out, trust me! just please [ray to god. if you want to commit suicide an easy way to do it is pray to good adn say'' god i want to die, im ready for you to swipe me off my feet and put me in a good place(heaven)'' just try and do that

BUT DONT DO IT! PLEASE I BEG OF YOU!

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dancinangel1029 answered Saturday March 10 2007, 7:29 am:
you should try to get counseling and this could help you you need to know that life is a precious thing no matter how you live it you should want to get more out of your life and try ur hardest to overcome this i hop you can cope

hope i helped
Beacky &hearts;

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Yvonne011 answered Saturday March 10 2007, 5:55 am:
O god...nothing is so bad that should make you want to commit suicide...i have been through feelings like this...wanting to commit suicide.thinkin there is no other way out...one of mi very close friends has thought about commiting suicide...so that had a great impact on mi life....you seriously need to think about how many people would actually care if you killed yourself..how many people would be willing to take their life just to spare yours...you mite not think there is anyone out there liek that...but trust me there is....when i was planning on killin miself...i got this lecture and it helps me alot now...but nothing can possibly be that bad that you would want to take your life for.....hope this helps..


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anonymous334 answered Saturday March 10 2007, 4:12 am:
Commiting Suicide will do nothing if anything it makes it worse. Doing that will Disrespect your entire family including your mother, father, and elder brother. Dont Do It Plain Out Dont!!!

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angel201 answered Saturday March 10 2007, 2:22 am:
well to tell you the truth commiting suicide aint goin to work well there is alot of people out there that have problems and think commiting suicide is the best way but really do you want to give your life up i know it may seem like a struggle but i think you need some help you know get some conciluing before doing anything stupid.I cant say things will work well but u need to know, are you sure you want to do this, all i can say his there aint no easy way to commit suicide so dont think it will less painful because it want. So you need to know before doing that get some hepl and maybe things might work out.

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cheerbabe834 answered Friday March 9 2007, 10:40 pm:
DONT COMMIT SUICIDE!!! your life IS worth living whether it is right now or not is different. but things change. wat if things are about to get better. everyone goes through hard times.
i dont know if you believe in God but you will go to hell if you commit suicide. im not kidding it says it in the bible.

i think you shud get counseling it will really help.
please write back to me and tell me u didnt commit suicide! PLEASE DONT!

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OASIS answered Friday March 9 2007, 7:23 pm:
i think u will be alot braver to live and work throu your problems then to take the easy way out not goin to beg u not to do it but you may no longer be in pain if you kill yourself but what about your brother you are the only person he has got trie goin to the doctors and tellin them this
for one sec dont think of your pain think of other you would leave behind if you died
to answer your question there is not a way to kill yourself that is not messy and not hurt

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junebug93 answered Friday March 9 2007, 7:03 pm:
please don't commit suicide. Get help. It's harder and you have to work way harder and try way harder than if you just gave up, but I promise it is worth it and it does make you feel better. Not completely better but better.
One of my friends just told me that he tried to kill himself last year. And I am so glad his attempt failed, or I wouldn't have met him, would I? Life can be shitsville a lot of the time, but us less than happy people have to keep trying, stick together, try to prop ourselves up as best we can until we get through the tests life sets before us. Please please please keep living. There is a reason you are here, even if you can't see it right now.

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AdviceStar answered Friday March 9 2007, 4:01 pm:
seek a doctors help ifu commit suicide it hurts u and your family!! ask God for help

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xcheerbabex108 answered Friday March 9 2007, 10:42 am:
DON'T commit suicide. That's basically just cheating death. You sound like maybe you're depressed, you have a lot of symptoms. Trust me, suicide isn't the answer. The best way to get you feeling better is to seek medical help.


Jess&hearts;

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DaAdvicePerson answered Friday March 9 2007, 10:20 am:
I would NOT suggest you commit suicide!!! Maybe this is what you want, to make your life easier, but think about others...people who love you.

The way I would solve this problem is by talking to the MOST trusted person you know, and just talk about all of your problems, and you never know... they might help you. If this is not possible, see a doctor, your doctor. He might give you some pescriptions that might make you feel better.

There are more to life than just the negatives, think about all of the fun times, and think about all of the compliments people gave you...whether it was from a teacher, a friend, a family relative, or a stranger out of the blue.

Cry it out if you have to.

Hope i helped, and please do not kill yourself, there are people out there who just could not live without you. Sorry for this lengthly paragraph.

Much hearts,
DaAdvicePerson

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Hearts98 answered Friday March 9 2007, 2:46 am:
Ok i know how you feel. I have felt so useless and depressed that i didnt know what to do! But suiside isnt the anser. Just add soem excitment to your life, Have kids, adopt, get a new job, take you wife out somewhere nice. Explaint to you wife how plain you feel your life is. Im sure shell undertsand. Just dont commit suisde. Please dont. If you need to talk im always here. You were givin a life to live it to the fullest, dont abuse thata atvantage.

Feel better,

if you need to talk my aim is sasa9821

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ashmoe2 answered Thursday March 8 2007, 11:21 pm:
okay honey look i know how you feel i have been put in the same situation and have thought of commiting sucide a few times but i can tell you from experience that it is the wrong thing to do. you may seem like everything is falling apart but if you just sit back and take a look at what is bothering you one by one you might be able to fix it up a little that is what i did. i know that it may seem impossible and yes there is those long periods of time in your life that aren't going well at all but that is just life and you have to deal with them. you can just push them out and take the rest. life may not seem fair but that is just the way it happens and commiting sucide isn't going to help any. just take your time and try to wrk things out and if you need to just get away from it all and take a vacation somewhere give your mind a rest. just DON"T commit suicide it is the last thing you should everdo even then you shouldn't do it.

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prep21 answered Thursday March 8 2007, 10:52 pm:
Commiting suicide is wrong. I have had friends who have been in your position and I will tell you now DO NOT DO IT!! If the case is that you think no one loves you, you are most likely wrong. I don't know you, but I can tell you that God loves you. He took the time to create you, listen to you, care about you, and if you commit suicide, then you will go straight to hell. So even if you think life is not worth staying alive, you're wrong. People make mistakes, people can start over, and people can be forgiven. Obviously (and I don't want to sound rude about this) you have a mental problem. Something is tearing you apart, and you have no control of it. From the bottom of my heart-I am so sorry. But please do not kill yourself!! I dont have any more reasons-but SUICIDE is wrong.

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VainTaraLynn answered Thursday March 8 2007, 9:46 pm:
Hm? Want to know the way that hurts the least? That would be STAYING ALIVE. If this was a cry for attention I'd say you got it, considering your headline is that across the top of Advienators.

Lifes hard. Its the hardest thing you'll probably ever do, and sure it seems pointless and a waste of time, but come on; what else better do you have to do? You have NO idea whats going to happen in 2 months. No idea who you're going to meet or what opportunities can come along. no idea what so ever.

What if 2 months after you kill yourself this amazing person would have walked into your life and you would have never known it? Pff. Dont kill yourself now. Youre only 26, you have practically your entire life STILL ahead of you.

Im not going to waste anymore time on this response seeing as how many other people have said what they had to say but I think its pointless to kill yourself now when you're only 26. I could see if you were 70; but come on. You have a life to live, why dont you go live it instead of making suicidal gestures on a website.

Its not going to change if you dont make an effort to change it. Life doesnt come easy. You gotta work your ass off and work like hell.

Dont give up now.

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liviy94 answered Thursday March 8 2007, 9:15 pm:
Well, what i would have to say is it would be a bad idea. Think about all the people you love and how it will effect them if you were to do that. Maybe you shuld talk to some1 close to you about what is goin on, or go to guidance,But killing yourself wont solve anything, if u deal with more, your eye will open and dont let every u love be depressed.

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tootsierollsweet999 answered Thursday March 8 2007, 7:47 pm:
There's no GOOD way! Killing yourself with bring you straight to hell! Don't you believe in life after death? All the problems you have now will fallow you into the after life, you may think now that it's the only was to turn, but people love you and ill give you my Email so you can talk to me if you like.I maybe half your age but it's best to talk to anyone instead of no one.
You may think your solving your problems but your creating them for ur family and loved ones.
You can't run away from your problems. Trust me I know, Can't hide for one day and hope for them to be gone. You need to face them, not let them concore you.You need to believe yourself and be strong..
Said4eva999@yahoo.com
My name is Katie and I also have a myspace if you want that.I may know nothing about you, but its not an answer and you shouldn't turn to it.

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help0matic answered Thursday March 8 2007, 6:57 pm:
Well, i'm sure you've heard this many, many times, but killing your self is not going to help, it is going to bring pain to your family and friends,if your upset with your life, killing your self will not help. If you are strong, you can get through this. Just belive in youself, just belive.

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dpsbar3 answered Thursday March 8 2007, 5:41 pm:
Have you spoken with God about this? You some people have it worse than you do. If you dont go to church regularlly you should. You will find a solution.

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Elcee answered Thursday March 8 2007, 1:17 pm:
There is no good way to commit suicide - it will all hurt, be bloody, painful, disgusting and heartwrenching and that is just for those left behind. Do you really want to leave those kind of memories behind for those you love? You seriously need some professional help from people trained to sort out all your problems. Your eyes might hurt because you need glasses, your concentration is bad because you are worrying about everything too much. Your headaches are probably caused by tension and your lack of pleasure with anything is a symptom of depression. Listen to everyone who has answered your question - it is all valid and common sense. You can be successful and happy again and with the support of everyone around you and the people on this site you will get through it. None of us are doctors on this site but we do know about life and the consequences of the actions of others around us. Life is precious. Good luck and feel the power of your heart beating.

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DiNOxTHUNDER answered Thursday March 8 2007, 1:15 pm:
i know i may be young,but i know a thing or two about suicide.
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE do not do it.
youre only 26,so you havent lived your life to the fullest.
you still have soo much more to experience and live before its time for you to die.
i tried to commit suicide once,and even though my situation wasnt as bad as yours,i still wanted to die more than anything.
so i tried and after i realized it was THE WORST THING I EVER DID.
if i could take it back i would.
what you need to do is first see a good doctor to help your with your medical problems,and then have them recommend a good psychiatrist/psychologist.
after you get your health back on track,try getting involved in things and have some fun.
thats what life is all about.
live it to the fullest.
try to get your career back on track.
im more than sure that your brother and his wife would be very supportive and they would help you whenever you needed it.
please dont kill yourself.
although it may seem like theres no other solutions,just give it some time and things will work out.

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cloie6 answered Thursday March 8 2007, 4:24 am:
hun, lets see killing yourself is the worst thing you could want to do you should go and find something you like to do and keep doing it you will be much happier doing that then killing yourself





be brave



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SoCcEr92RoX answered Thursday March 8 2007, 12:52 am:
wanting to kill your self is not the way to go at all.
First:
*think about all the people who care about you and imagine how they would feel if you did that
Second:
*All your symptoms are surly treatable
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jlle answered Wednesday March 7 2007, 6:34 am:
It sounds as though stress and depression are your major problems. Guess what? They're treatable through considerably more pleasant methods than killing yourself. It's a waste of a valuable life, not to mention a kick to the gut to everyone who has ever helped you or loved you. Trust me; three of my friends have killed themselves never knowing how many people really loved and cared about them or how much better things could soon get. Suicide is never the best option, even when it seems like the only one. And now for an unpleasant (to you) answer to your actual question: there is no way to commit suicide that doesn't involve some horrendous cleanup for the unlucky and more than likely traumatized person who stumbles upon it... see, suicide's aftermath always involves a body. Do you know anyone who wants to clean up one of those? Also, it's never peaceful- your bowels evacuate, you might hemorrhage-it's all a nasty mess. And there's a distinct possibility that you'll survive but do permanent damage to yourself, so you'll have not only a painful experience but years of pain and difficulty. Even when you can't think of a reason to live, there a lot of great reasons NOT to kill yourself.

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yourname241 answered Wednesday March 7 2007, 3:36 am:
seriously you should see a shrink also i heard that theres brain disorders liek that you should deffantly see a brain surgen (doctor man person thing) but seriously suicide is never the solution just lison to ozzy osbourne's soucide solution

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smichele427 answered Wednesday March 7 2007, 12:23 am:
i have been recently been going thru alot of shit too. family problems, friendship problems, stress from school. but ive been talking to one of my friends about all this and he told me that no matter what, i shouldnt give up. because wether you realize it or not, theres someone out there thinking about you and loving you. wether it be your brother or an old friend that you've lost touch with. why hurt the people youve touched by ending everything? ive wanted to commit suicide. ive cut. he always tells me that things are going to get better. think about all the possible people who look up to you. or who care about you. keep pictures of them with you to encourage you to keep holding on. Consult a doctor for your physical problems and a psychiatrist for your emotional problems. email me if you want to talk more.

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softballchickx28 answered Tuesday March 6 2007, 9:20 pm:
Sometimes life gets hard for all of us. But everyones life is special. I am sure that many people care about you. Suicide is not the answer to distress. You should try to make an appointment with a therapst, they can help you sort out your life and make it easier. TRUST ME KILLING YOUSELF DOESN'T SOLVE ANYTHING.

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brunetteQT answered Tuesday March 6 2007, 8:27 pm:
DONT DO THAT! its not worth it. think about it you never want to meet the love of your life or have children or have grandchildren? come on think about the people who love you. your brother and his wife must love you a lot. think about how much they would hurt just because you are being selfish. think about it you will only hurt for a few minutes and they will hurt for well A LONG TIME! okay please DONT do this its not worth the pain you'll cause on yourself and others please!

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CHECKERED-LOVE answered Tuesday March 6 2007, 8:14 pm:
honestly why would you put your brother through that much pain. i mean about your headaches and stuff, see a doctor. just get a job, meet someone to maybe date or something. i dont know but you are young so suicide is soooo not the answer. maybe see a therapist. i have seen people in way worse condition than you. have hope maybe try some new hobbies to get you happy or something.

JUST DONT KILL YOURSELFFF!

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SoNuLiCiOuSsS answered Tuesday March 6 2007, 6:23 pm:
hey im from pakistan too... you didn't say why you wanted to commit suicide? What is making you feel this way? I know it can be difficult growing up in a pakistani community, especially if you are living in pakistan. But that doesn't mean you should end you life. You have a lot going for you... you have an mba degree and a successfull career right? There are so many people in pakistan that can't even afford to get an education. You very lucky that you were able to do so. I have cousins in pakistan that are struggling because they cant find jobs. Why dont you try to talk to someone about your problems. Someone that you can trust that has no emotional influence in your situation. And you can always leave questions in my inbox, i would love to help you out. I hope everything works out for you. Good Luck.

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xOaAlLiIeE answered Tuesday March 6 2007, 3:07 pm:
Whoa! You definitely should not commit suicide! I definitely don't know what you're going through, but you should NOT give up on life, you're just going through a rough time. One of my friends thought about suicide too, but eventually he forgot about it. You just have to think about the people who love you and the good things in life. Also, you should probably see a doctor or psychiatrist. But seriously, don't give up hope. God has something in store for you. Hope I helped! &hearts; But please, please rethink this.

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luv3 answered Tuesday March 6 2007, 9:17 am:
suicide is not da key ta making your life better. u may thunk dat but it wont all it is is killing your self n you don want dat follow ur heart n wutt our father n heavin wud say... jus don do it da wronge way by saying your gonna commit suicide.. get sum help n talked ta sum one about your problems dey will surely help out.. if not m willing ta help ya out n chat... well gud luck n ihope you make da right chioces

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howfair answered Tuesday March 6 2007, 9:13 am:
Please don't commit suicide! Your brother and his wife love you, they need you. You have no idea what it would do to them to lose you. Seriously, don't end your life. Things WILL get better. You need to talk to someone about it. When you're mad, or sad, or happy or whatever, TELL someone. Tell anyone. Just don't think about killing yourself.

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christina answered Tuesday March 6 2007, 6:47 am:
Don't kill yourself. Life isn't always fair, life isn't always the greatest, but it's worth living if you get help, trust me. See a psychologist & see what they do. If it doesn't work, try another psychologist.

Suicide is never the answer. Why would anyone wanna be another statistic?

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kiran answered Tuesday March 6 2007, 6:35 am:
Please do not kill yourself! Life isn't easy at all everybody knows that! You can ask anybody in the world if they ever had something bad happen in their life and they have! Life will get hard for everybody. And you would say well "Nobody is in my position right now" Well somebody may even have it worse than you. Just please don't kill yourself your wasting your life away. Trust me killing yourself won't solve your problem. Please don't do it!

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angieroonie answered Tuesday March 6 2007, 5:16 am:
what kind of person are you to consider committing suicide? you brother and his wive obviously love you so how could you do that to them? my cousin did it and you dont realise what kind of mess you leave behind when you kill yourself. everyone goes through a bad time in their life but we manage. if it's too hard, see a psyciatrist or talk to your brother. dont take the cowards way out. please, i'm begging you. dont hurt the ones you love.

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MW8305 answered Tuesday March 6 2007, 5:09 am:
Two words: clinical depression. You just described several common symptoms.

I know how you must be feeling right now... And what you must be thinking. I know because I have been where you are right now. Suicide is not the answer.

This is my story, I'm telling you because I hope it will help you...

I was born in a broken home. My father was an alcholic, my parents were divorced before I was even born. I grew up not knowing my father, and being told that the reason I didn't know my father was because he didn't love me. Before the age of four, I was molested by my baby-sitter.

By the age of five, my mother married again. My step-father was also an alcholic, and tended to neglect me frequently. My mother also suffered from depression, and became co-dependant upon me before I even managed to reach adolescence.

I was asthmatic as a child, and ill on a regular basis. For this reason, my mother and my step-father decided to home school me. After that, I became extremely isolated, rarely ever left my house, and developed a social anxiety disorder.

By the time I was thirteen, everything that I had experienced in my life began to overwhelm me. I became severely depressed. I experienced anxiety, social anxiety, panic attacks... I lost the ability to concentrate, became extremely absent-minded, and my education began to suffer. I experienced insomnia during the night, and slept most of the day, finding it difficult to get out of bed and function regularly. I was always tired. I never had enough energy. Sometimes I would forget to eat for days... Other times I wouldn't be able to stop binging. I cried often, and if I wasn't sad... I just felt numb.

I hated myself. I hated my life and didn't believe that it would ever get better. I suspected that life was totally pointless, and didn't think that my death would matter. Maybe death would be the great escape. Maybe I should just kill myself...

I'm not going to talk to you about faith or miracles. I don't know what you believe and I'm not going to try to convert you either way. Let's just say... Something always kept me from doing myself harm. Maybe it was the fear that my mother would have an emotional breakdown if she found me dead. Maybe I still held a little hope, no matter how small that life would get better for me. Maybe I was just too stubborn to give up. I don't know. What I do know is that I'm still here, and I'm glad. Doesn't mean that I don't have problems anymore, doesn't mean I don't get disappointed or sad sometimes. It just means that when I'm sad, I don't want to kill myself anymore because I have faith that everything is going to be okay.

No one knew the extent of my depression. Everyone suspected that something was wrong, but they never said anything because I didn't talk about it. Finally... When I was nineteen I told someone. I told my family physician, a doctor that has treated me for everything from congestion to pnuemonia. I rode the anti-depressant roller coaster for six months, it didn't help, but that was the first step towards recovery. I am proud to say now that I have battled depression and won the war.

My advice to you... Don't give up. You're young, you have your life ahead of you, and... While the world is an ugly place, it's beautiful too. You still have a lot of beauty to discover, you still have a lot to learn, and you still have a lot to experience. Don't cheat yourself and end it now. Give yourself the greatest gift... The gift of life. The chance to keep on living.

Tell your brother about your problem. Let someone know what's going on. You don't want to stay in the place you are in by yourself. And once you've told him, seek professional help. See a doctor, see a therapist... See someone who is trained to help you, someone who can determine what the problem is and help you help yourself.

A doctor will prescribe medicine. It may or may not help in the beginning. But I would like to mention that I believe that medicine alone can not treat depression. You are going to have to take a good, long, hard look at your life and figure out what went wrong. Why do you feel the way you do? What went wrong? And how are you going to make it right? I know that must seem like a daunting task... But it's not as hard as it sounds. Nor is it scary. There is nothing more satisfying than knowing that you have control over your own life... That you can make your own decisions... And believing that within you is the power to make the right decisions.

And last... I'm not a doctor, but I think the blurred vision, eye discomfort, and headaches, could mean that you need to see an eye doctor. When you can't see very well (everything is blurry) you strain your eyes in an attempt to see better. Straining not only causes discomfort, but it can also cause headaches. So... Go see a doctor about the depression first, then see an eye doctor.

I don't know if anyone on this site, including myself has helped you in anyway... But I hope that someone did, or that someone will. I hope that you will find the courage to keep living, that you will seek the attention that you need. And all I can do is offer my prayers, and an invitation... If you ever need to talk to someone, my door is open. You know where to find me. ;)

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LagunaBabe answered Tuesday March 6 2007, 4:49 am:
Please, I urge you not to commit suicide. I don't know you personally, but I care enough to not want you to do this. We all have our problems, you are not alone. And believe it or not, there are people out there who are worse off than you are. Much worse, and really, it's not worth killing yourself over.

I'm sure you have friends and family, who love and care about you. Think of not only what that would do to you leaving them, but what that would do to them. That would kill their souls! Your brother and his wife, would be devasted as well.

You're very young, and you have a lot of life ahead of you. Don't cut yourself short, because you have some problems here and there. You are worth living on this earth, and you were put here for a reason. You have people who love you and care about you, who would never want anything to happen to you.

There are so many things for you to live for, and I think therapy would be great for you. Because you can express your feelings, and the therapist is a professional and can help you understand and sort out your feelings and problems. I think you may have depression, in which, your doctor could diagnose you. My mother has this, and had some of the same problems you're having. If you are diagnosed with depression, going to the doctor and getting medication will really help you. And you'll feel a whole lot better, I know you will, if that's what you have. Either way, I still recommend seeing a therapist.

Again, please do not commit suicide. You're worth being here, and living on this earth. You are a good person! And if you would decide to do this terrible thing, you won't be able to change your mind tomorrow.

I wish you absolutely nothing but the best, and everything will work out for you and you will be okay. I know it!

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Depressed_Poet answered Tuesday March 6 2007, 2:23 am:
Are you kidding me??? I'm not going to give you ways to hurt yourself! I'm going to give you reasons why you shouldn't. Go ahead and rate me a 1 if you don't like them, but I don't want anyone to hurt themselves. Your life is more important than a dumb rating!
I know life is hard, but when people your age are depressed, they can't see through it. I was once but then I was glad later I didn't harm myself! Life is great, it's a gift. I know so many people who've felt suicidal. My cousin's boyfriend killed himself because she dumped him. Everyone felt TERRIBLE! And guilty. My other cousin's boyfriend felt the same way, but he didn't kill himself yet. AND one of my old best friends almost killed herself too. But let me just ask you this one question. Why do you care if it hurts? You must appreciate yourself somewhat or you wouldn't care. Don't take your life for granted, killing yourself is just as bad as killing someone else! It's a sin too. Don't do it. There are people there for you. GET HELP! Professional help. People love you. <33

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soendearing answered Tuesday March 6 2007, 1:26 am:
Life is a gift, and it's hard. There are people out there that have way worse situations; and they're still out there, and probably are trying to make the best of what they have. I understand that you have lost your parents and I'm truly sorry to hear that. But, think for a second, what if they were still here, would you want to commit suicide? How would your mom and dad feel about it? How would your brother feel? You shouldn't just try and take the easy way out. How would your friends, brother, and sister-in-law feel? Think about how you would impact them. It should bring you to tears. Everyones' had their phase of wanting to die, and this is yours. I swear it's just a phase, if you try and make things better, you'll come to realize the great things in life you would be missing. Suicide is permanent solution to a temporary problem.

What I ask of you is to just think of your peers and friends and how they'd feel, that alone could change your decision.

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jammy12 answered Tuesday March 6 2007, 12:19 am:
Hun...there are so many better ways to reason out your problems. Killing yourself...or even thinkin of this is horrible and will not solve anything. I can't advise you to be positive because I'm sure that's not an option...but please just think of ALL the things and people you care for. I'm sure your mother and father would not be very happy to hear that you're thinking these thoughts. I know sometimes life is too difficult, challenging...HARD...but these are tests to see how strong we are. I'm sure you don't want to give it...it just shows how weak you are...and I'm sure you're not weak at all.
The best thing to do is understand why you feel this way. Depression...or something that just is bothering you. There is counsilling (which helps) and there is always someone you can talk to either online or at home or work I suppose.
don't do it hun....

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vomski10 answered Tuesday March 6 2007, 12:18 am:
alright well i will never tell you or any other soul to commit suicide. it's the worst thing to do. i know things are bad for you but you can't give up! there's still hope in the world for you. what you need to do is go to a doctor and list all the things that are wrong with you. they can give you medicine and such to help you. and then i would go to a phycologist just to talk about your problems because they really help. and once you start feeling better get a job! maybe if you didn't graduate college go back and graduate and make a career and buy your own house and make a family! there are a million possibilities out there for you! and you will never get to experience them if you kill yourself. and no one knows where you will go after you die. you might just be stuck on earth if you think about it. just as a spirit. so either way your are going to be on earth! don't kill yourself, seek medical and emotional help asap and change your life around. I BELIEVE IN YOU!

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TinkerbellsHelp answered Monday March 5 2007, 11:28 pm:
I know the everything seems really bad, but you can't let it get to you. You need to stay strong and continue living. Ending your life may sound like a good idea but its not. Things may get better, and you killing yourself will just end the chances of it getting better. There are people who care about you who will be very sad if you commit suicide. Think about how they will feel. They will be very sad that your gone. Don't make them feel that sadness. Please don't think the way you are. Try to be happy. Love the little things in your daily life that make you happy and think about them instead of focusing on the bad things. I'm going to say it one more time, please dont kill yourself.

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DepthofHeart answered Monday March 5 2007, 10:38 pm:
Okay I know life can be difficult but suicide is never ever the best answer to anything at all. You were given one life to live and It wasn't meant to be thrown away when things get hard. When life doesn't seem worth living anymore you may think that the only way to find relief is through suicide.

You might not believe it, but you do have other options — options to stay alive and feel better about your life. Maybe you think you've already tried them all and now you've had enough. Or maybe you think your family and friends would be better off without you.

It's OK to feel bad, but try to separate your emotions from your actions for the moment. Realize that depression, other mental disorders or long-lasting despair can distort your perceptions and impair your ability to make sound decisions. Suicidal feelings are the result of treatable illnesses. So try to act as if there are other options, even if you may not see them right now.

No, it probably won't be easy. You may not feel better overnight. Eventually, though, the sense of hopelessness can lift. You can find support, appropriate treatment and reasons for living.

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cheifbritneeilu answered Monday March 5 2007, 10:16 pm:
NO NO NO NO. ive wanted to die before too. ive attempted. its not the anwser i know im still glad im here. just dont. go to a doctor. or a counselor. please IM me or msg me if you have any problems. ( brittletsbang x3 )

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loveanddrama20 answered Monday March 5 2007, 10:09 pm:
Don't go through with this! Don't do it! Suicide is not the answer. If you're hurting physically go to a doctor and get evaluated. If you are hurting mentally and emmotionaly go to a physcologist. I'm serious this is not the way you wanna go. I've seen someone die and I know what it does to people. It's not just you that you'll be giving up on. It's your family, your brother, your brothers wife, and his future kids. Don't you want to meet youre neices and nephews? Do you want them to think of you as a quiter in life? No. If you once had a successful career you will have another one. You just have to keep going and trying. There is no such thing as a painless death either. You will be hurting so many people. Don't leave your brother behind with this to deal with. Trust me, losing a brother is like losing your own life. Remember SUICIDE IS A PERMANENT FIX TO A TEMPORARY PROBLEM. Please don't go through with this...please.

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missbananafontana answered Monday March 5 2007, 10:09 pm:
I cant give you advice on how to kill yourself, but i also cant say anything about how your life is good and needs to be preserved. i dont know what your life is like. your average day could be worse than my worst day ever. i'd say that you should think about how much you could miss life, and to be told, i think you should go get a girlfriend, to ease your pain and find a little meaning to life. or volunteer for the peace corp., to make others feel better, and that will make you feel better.

Good luck~~~~

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Darkhelp66466 answered Monday March 5 2007, 9:38 pm:
NO! NO ABSOLUTELY NOT. DONT YOU DARE TALK LIKE THAT. Please please please dont commit suicide. i understand your in an awful situation but please dont do this. you still have life, but you have yet to learn the good things about it. please, try to set up an appointment with a therapist or atleast visit this site. www.metanoia.org/suicide maybe it will put things in perspective for you. there is no going back once you do that. your brother will certainly miss you as will others. keep holding on. you could be all alone in the world but there is always someone there for you. keep holding on, please. just stay strong. im still young to this world and not yet 15 but you are young. the world still has so much to offer. some times life can really suck and i have moments all the time when i want to give up and and just die, but what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, and it hurts me to know that someone is in pain an wants to kill themself, please reconsider.

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solidadvice4teens answered Monday March 5 2007, 9:06 pm:
It seems to me that what you are describing is chronic depression. It's a mental illness and 100% treatable. No matter what your problem seems to be there's NEVER a reason to kill yourself as there is always a solution.

What you must do is tell your brother how you are feeling and that you are sure you have depression or another mental disturbance. Proceed to the emergency room and tell the psychiatrist that will come talk to you the complete truth about how are feeling.

This person will assess you and likely because they know you feel suicidal will make you stay there for a period of time to ensure you cannot hurt yourself at all and put you on medication that will make your depression dormant.

This may take a few weeks in hospital but at least you will be safe. Also, as far as a job goes they can help you find a new one with a social worker assiting you or they can help with government assistance as mental illness qualifies as a disability and reason why you cannot work.

If your job is causing so much stress and part of the reason you feel this way move on to something else. The bottom line get to an emergency room and be honest about everything while there as they can and will make you whole again. How do I know? Let's just say I've been there myself-- slightly different illness but same situation.

You do have choices, make sure you exercise the right one. All of what you describe can be treated and fixed. You might even enjoy a happier and better life than you ever thought you could.

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teenagex3romance answered Monday March 5 2007, 8:27 pm:
awh please dont hurt youself your brother im sure will be devastated...people love you..ive had times where i wanna die too, email me if you need someone to talk to (lorynx3@yahoo.com) dont hurt yourself please.

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Trina_boo answered Monday March 5 2007, 7:53 pm:
even though you are going through a phase you just want to die you need to fight it!! You need to get your life back together! first by getting your life together you can see a doctor to fix all your promblems then get back in the game and later you will never feel like killing yourself again


please don't try it remember you can go to hell for doing this it an't worth killing yourself!!

please don't kill yourself!

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rainbowcherrie answered Monday March 5 2007, 7:01 pm:
Suicide is never a good option.

You may feel that your life is bad right now, but just think about how your brother and his family would feel if you killed yourself. Don't think they won't care because if they really despised you they wouldn't be living with you.

You're so young, you're an MBA, you can do so much with your life.

If you can then try and seek professional help, if this isn't an option then try talking to your brother or anyone you know who can help you to move on and feel better about your life.

Whatever you do, don't commit suicide. I don't know whether or not you're religious but I believe that God created us all and that we all have a purpose. Just think of all the things you have the potential to go on to do and all the people you could benefit.

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o0what0o answered Monday March 5 2007, 4:35 pm:
death is pointless, where will you go? you acctuaily dont know. just keep on with life and in the long run you could be living wealthy with the fact that you dident commit sucide.

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Lorrena answered Monday March 5 2007, 3:35 pm:
Hi what is wrong with you? why do you want to give up your life for? If your from pakistan i take it your a muslim, and you should know that it is a sin to commit suicide and if you do, you will just go straight to hell! i strongly advise you not to commit suicide like allah says that life is a test! You should not give up so easily, there are starving little children out there without a home and a family! And you think you've got problems! Am sorry but the problems you have got right now can be sorted out, so don't give up so easily!
i hope i helped
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LoveMeDo answered Monday March 5 2007, 1:31 pm:
Please do not kill yourself. It is a permanent solution to what could be a temporary problem. You need medical help, don't hurt yourself! Don't do that to all of those people who love you. I will be praying for you.

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mwalnutss answered Monday March 5 2007, 11:32 am:
hi. your story makes me cry. and iknow, you'll probably think badly of me cause of this. but i know how it feels like to want to commite suicide. and i have tried. and i know im not in the same situation as you. but there are docters and people willing and wanting to help people like you. seriously going into a phsyward would probably help you. there ARE people that will miss you if you commite. they will miss you. life is a gift, and dont take the easy way out. i know tons of people that have commited, and what it did to there familys and everyone WAS horrible. please, trust me, do not commite suicide. get help, maybe get meds?. just dont commite, please. sorry for being so abrupt. and i hope i changed your mind about commiting. and i hope i helped. bye.

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DangerWench answered Monday March 5 2007, 1:01 am:
Please see a Doctor immediately!

Suicide is not the answer. Getting help is the answer.

We are not doctors here, and it sounds like you need a doctor as soon as possible. It sounds like something is medically wrong and you need treatment.

Go see a doctor right now!

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karenR answered Sunday March 4 2007, 5:29 pm:
We won't give you any information on suicide methods here.

You need to seek some medical help. Everything you describe could be related to any number of FIXABLE medical problems. Even if you are depressed you can be treated and feel better soon.

Don't give up. You have a brother who would miss you. You just need to get your life straighted out. Get a good job, get your own place, someday make your own family. First you need to to get some medical help so all that is possible.

I realize that medical costs are awful. This is something that is well worth that price though. You do not need a special kind of doctor right now. Any doctor (or even an emergency room if things get rough) will do. Dig out those yellow pages and start fresh as soon as possible! You can do it. :)

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