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I'll cut to the point and lets just say... Basically i have a 'problem' or an 'issue' i suppose, that isnt a major problem right now, but im sure it will be in a few years to come. My lifes not bad at all, in fact theres nothing wrong with it at all, so whats the problem?... I feel my lifes just pointless at times which really does get me down, i dunno why i feel like this, i just do. My life just seems like it should end sometimes, i have thought about self harming and even suicide, but i could never put my parents through that, which is why ive been thinking about it in maybe a few years time. Ive recently been to see a doctor as i dont eat, sleep or concentrate well, There i was told i was 'deeply depressed' which really didn't help.
Now im not too sure what i should really do, just need some advice, or maybe if theres anyone else whos been through the same kinda thing. Thanks (link)
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I feel that way any time I'm alone too much. Honestly I think bored depression is the scariest kind... there's nothing to fix, but monotony makes things seem a little pointless. Anything that makes you smile or laugh is good to keep around, and I personally avoid being alone whenever I can. I feel safer if I don't spend much time inside my own head alone, if that makes any sense.
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i am 21/f. how every sister wants a younger sister to do hair and make up and just girl stuff with. my little sister is so different. i miss her when we were little. shes just such a gloomy and dark person now. i moved out and i live far away right when i turned 18. our family was always just so bad and mean. shes not old enough to move out shes 13. our mom wont let her even go stay with me fo a week end or even come see me i have to go there. it takes over an hour to drive there. we hate our mom shes even harder on my little sister than she was on me. i feel so sorry for her. i dont know what to do. she hates our mom...she wears dark clothes has a dark personality and wears dark and alot of makeup but when i wanted to do makeup for her she was just no... no... no... no... no... no... no. god shes so depressed. shes not girly anymore at all shes worse than anyone. shes so deppressed now and shes so sneaky now. i cant listen to her music,see who shes talking to,see her room,meet her friends,see her friends list on her phone. shes wanting death soon shes driving mee so crazy ill be wanting death. she denys everything. our mom gets on her about everything and she wont listen, well neither will my mom or my sister. she wont let her wear what she likes or talk to or listen to what she wants, although she does anyway i knew she would i would too our mom wont let her do squat,god. how do i help my sister, by just me and my sister or me and our mom, anything? although our mom wont listen. what do i do to help with any of this? (link)
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If it's her style and interests that are changing, you're just going to have to accept the way she is and get to know her the way she wants to be now. She deserves space and acceptance and is obviously not getting that from your mother. If, on the other hand, you get the sense that her secrecy and seclusion are covering up something dangerous- depression, serious drug habits, suicidal tendencies, anything to that effect-- make sure that your mother is aware of it, and if she refuses to listen, tell somebody nearby like a school counsellor or doctor. Knowing what you do of your sister, you need to find out as much as you can about what's going on and through that what she needs.
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I seem sick everyday ..im tired all the time, i feel so messed up, I've never takin any drugs or drank,I eat healthy food, im just...
i have thought about killing myself, but thats just plain stupid, still laugh sometimes, main things is my pains hurt so bad, such as my stomach, almost feel the flu :|, but its not, i need advice, or distractions, or love: something, i just wish i could be better, but no matter what though i still fail, i probley sound stupid, but im so.. sad , then i ask, sad of what? depressed of what? wtf i don't know, i don't want attention, i pretend at school that im ok" but i don't lie.
Maybe its this girl i know? shes the only one who actuallys make's me feel happy, but i don't want to intrude on her, nor do i want her to feel sorry for me, i can survive the depression
but the stomach pains and headaches is what is killing me.
I hope my pains go away tomarrow, otherwise im in for it
my question is, depression? stess? being sad sometimes may be the cause of these awkward stomach pains?, i feel stupid for even saying this
maybe i need antidepression pills..? so i can be tipsy
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Im gonna try real hard to pull myself together
cheers :(
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I'm sure this is going to sound stupid, but it's worked for me and it tends to be worth at least a try. In addition to the other things that were suggested, I would try getting out as much as possible, working out, stretching, that sort of thing. It helps to raise your energy level, let you feel better and relaxes some of the stress on your mind and your body. I'm glad you're looking for ways to make things better; talk to someone and good luck with this.
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Prom is coming up, and my friend has been trying to convince me to go tanning with her. So i went today, and it was pretty okay. but when i got home i found a website saying all these risks about tanning and i'm not sure i should go again....
Do tanning beds really cause skin cancer and other skin diseases? are there safe ways to get a tan?
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Well, if you put it all into perspective, you've probably soaked up a whole lot more UV (cancer-causing) rays of sunlight just walking around outside in your life than you'll get from tanning. Still, the whole point of a tanning bed is to concentrate those rays so you get hit by about ten times as many at once. It's really the actual tanning of the skin that causes the increased chance of skin cancer, so nothing but a spray-on tan is totally safe. Still, you'd be surprised at how much higher typical radiation from the sun is than nuclear waste or x-rays or any other one of those things that people get so worried about. So.... wear sunscreen. :)
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i just finished watching the movie "just like heaven" and im so lost! why could only the little girl and the man see her and no one else? (link)
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This is the interpretation I've heard: The man could see her because fate was bringing them together from the start. As far as the little girl, first of all, it could never have happened without her so that was partly fate. Also, little kids are generally more likely to see "spirits" and stuff just because they don't dismiss the things they see as impossible the way adults sometimes do.
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FIRST PART: Ok I joined an online dating service and I was emailing one of the guys who wanted to know about me and what I looked like. My mom said tell him you are tall and slim. I said to her why did you say slim and not thin because I am thin. She replied because it sound sexier. I got a little upset that she said slim because she always tells me I am thin/skinny. She said slim means thin but sounds sexier. MY QUESTION: AM I OVERREACTING AND WHAT DO YOU THINK OF WHAT SHE SAID? SECOND PART: Today at work I had to call my mom. During the course of the phone conversation I asked her about slim and thin. I said to her that I was surprised she said slim because she always tells me I am thin. And she said you are - you are even skinny, but slim sounds nicer. She said; if someone is a bleached blonde you would not say bleached blonde because it isnt nice so you would say blonde. It is the same with thin, instead of saying thin you would say slim. Well then tonight I asked her again and she said the following; (1) at the beginning of tonights conversation - you wouldnt put thin on the online dating service because thin sounds anorexic; (2) towards the end of the conversation - what is the difference between thin and slim. MY QUESTION: WHAT DO YOU MAKE OF WHAT TRANSPIRED ABOVE?
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Your mom's definitely not trying to offend you; she's just having a hard time explaining. I think she calls you thin because you're family and so she figures that you know she loves you. However, "slim" is more generally used to describe yourself to a stranger... it's just one of those weird semi-formal quirks of English. Thin is taking on a connotation of anorexia; in your family it just means "slim." She just talks differently with you because she knows you so well. It isn't an insult at all. I hope that makes some sense.
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well i always get advice from my friends because i cut, and the thing is i think there sick of dealing with my problems and they mostly all ditched me. long story. anyways, i was wondering if this works, well everyone always says when your about to cut or when you need a distraction that you just talk to someone online that you dont know with similiar problems because they cant use it against you and stuff.
so my question is does that work?
and is anyone on here a cutter? (link)
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As a recovering cutter, yes, any distraction works. If you've got people who you think are honestly holding the addiction against you then find someone else to talk to. There are a lot of blogrings and forums for cutters, which are great places to go if you need a circuit of people to talk to online... search SIdney, cutter, whatever and just see what you find. It really is an addiction, so be proud that you're trying to stop. You can do it.
One thing that's important though... make sure you're talking to somebody else who really wants to stop. Otherwise you'll just be pulled down farther. Good luck.
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lately,my best friend and i arent as close as we used to be.we talk and everything but it just feels like something is different.i used to be able to tell her everything without thinking twice about it but now i do have to think twice because if i bring up say my b/f she will be like oh my god do you have to be always talk about him and i might just say his name.she has no b/f so that could be it but i cant talk to her like i used to about anything.i might ring her just to see how she was and it would be like what do want in a really mean voice.
i rang her today because i was really upset because my granny was rushed up to hospital and im very close to my granny.she sounded like she didnt care and just giving me the impression like is that all i rang her?why did i ring her?and if i acted that way to her on the phone she would get really pisst of with me.
i just feel like we cant talk anymore and i feel like we arent the best of friends we used to be.what should i do?i tried talking to her about it but she wouldnt listen.please give me some advice im really stressed out about the whole thing.xxaoifexxx (link)
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Do you know if your friend's been having problems lately too? If she's got a big problem like depression or a family issue it's possible she's just pushing everybody away. I'm not saying that what she's doing is right, but you might want to ask her what's going on in her life right now, too.
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14/f;I've got this friend, im naming her "ashley", well i've known her since kindergarten. And she & i have been fighting a lot lately, bcuz we've changed and stuff.well i found she talks about me behind my back a little bit. well she wrote me a letter telling me that i dont care about our friendship and that we are no longer friends. Well she cries about it a lot and sometimes she cuts herself.her and my b/f dont get a long, so it makes it hard for me to spend time with them;plus i have a job. wut do i do? cuz she can b really really bitchy and mean, but then again i love her to death!but shes threatend to stop being my friend before... & shes trying to make me choose between her & my b/f.
point is wut she i do just stop being friends with her?Or try to work things out?
P.S. if you have any questions write it in an answer and ill post additional info.
Thanx in advance!
~remember i love u~ (link)
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Start by getting her help. Self-mutilation is not something to be taken lightly. After that, spend some time with her and decide if you want to be around her more. Then decide for youself whether to stick with her or move on. If you're just sticking with her out of a sense of duty, she'll probably notice and it can make things much worse. If, on the other hand, you find out that when you're together she can let down her guard and be the friend you've loved "to death" for years then absolutely, do what you can to make it work, and she'll probably start to respond.
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It seems to me that there are two kinds of trickery: the ''fronts'' people assume before one another's eyes, and the ''front'' a writer puts on the face of reality.
what does this quote mean or symbolize?
i promise it's not homework or anything. This quote just caught my eye and i don't exactly know what it's saying.
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This is my take on it: The "front" a person assumes in front of someone else is their acting the way they want to be seen--not so much fake as just a public personality. The "front" of a writer is like fiction, although it can apply to conversation, too--intentionally misleading someone through a lie.
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i can't do this anymore.
living and all the crap that goes along with it.
I don't want to live, but I can't bring myself to commit suicide. So i'm stuck in-between life and death. and i hate it. i hate having to be alive. i bet things are so much better when you're dead.
don't ask me what my reasons are, and don't say anything like "oh things will get better" or "don't kill yourself" or anything liek that.
I can't do anything at all.
I can't even get a boyfriend- which is my main reason for wanting to commit suicide. everyone is automatically unattracted to me. I'm not even kidding.
I'm "obese" and i hate it. I can't even help it because I work out every day and I eat the right amount of calories. But i'm still fat and that won't change. it never can. I have a problem.
I'm not a christian- I don't believe in any god and i never will again. i'm not a satanist either. i'm an atheist. (link)
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This is more a question than an answer; I've read the previous answers and they know what they're talking about. What I wonder is, what exactly do you think is so much better after death? As an atheist who seems to believe in an afterlife, you must realize that that essentially leaves you in exactly the same condition that you are in now, but without a body. No way to feel... which means that without a sense of happiness here, I can't imagine why you think you can find one in death. You are punishing people who care about you, and I'm afraid that it really doesn't change a thing for you. Friends matter more than boyfriends, and a friend can do wonders in pulling you from the limbo between life and death. Find something you like to feel; that does the same thing.
And it never hurts to reinvent yourself--on a chatroom or something if that's what you feel comfortable with. Don't give out personal information, but be whoever you want for a while. It's a way to get out of your life without ENDING your life.
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the past week i have had this rash on both on my arms. They itch like mad crazy. it a bunch of lil scab dots all over and if i scratch my arms i end up scracthing the scab off and it bleeds. I have no idea what it is going on here i never had anything like this and its driving me crazy.
if anyone has ever had this before or if you have any idea what it could be please let me know
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That's what happened both of the times that I had an allergic reaction to the medication I was taking. I'd definitely suggest going in to a doctor so they can figure out what's going on... I wouldn't be surprised if it was an allergy, though.
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Ahh I love the idea of love.
And anything romantic. :]
So, I was wondering, what are some good really good, possibly alt. rock, folk, or alt. pop -
I really like "Blue Eyes" by the Cary brothers
and, I like Coldplay, Iron & Wine, Counting Crows, Ben Harper, Kings of Convenience, Blue October, Simon & Garfunkle, anything of that nature. :)
Or any other sweet, romantic lyrics about who you love, whether it's happy or sad.
and while I'm at it....anyone know some good waltz songs? I'm thinking "Lover, you should've come over" by Jamie Cullum. sound good?
They're having a dance at my school on Friday and I'd love to request some good slow songs with sweet lyrics and pretty melodies. Thanks much :)
(no R&B please! thanks again) (link)
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Not everybody's into this sort of sound, but I love "Sunsets and Car Crashes" by The Spill Canvas. The lyrics are sad but sweet. "Your Guardian Angel" by Red Jumpsuit Apparatus is sort of the same sound.
Other semi-conventional choices:
"The Difference"-Matchbox 20
"I Will Follow You Into The Dark"-Death Cab For Cutie
"Everything You Want"-Vertical Horizon
"All Or Nothing"-O-town
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Everytime after I eat, I feel like throwing up. Not because I want to purge to lose weight or anything. I just am uncomfotable with having food in my stomach. It grosses me out. I want to enjoy food, like most people, but I can't get over myself. Help?? (link)
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I know the feeling, and there isn't much you can do but just make sure that you're eating enough anyway. Sometimes it's easier to eat around other people so that the conversation distracts you from the feeling in your stomach.
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you probably read the subject and thought "she must be complaining because she is over weight" well i am not over weight i am under weight. I HATE IT! now ur probably thinking "what is so bad about being skinny?" well i am not skinny i am TOO skinnyi am as skinny as my 10 year old sister, and she is under weight for her age. The prboblems i face are: nothing fits me because all clothes are too big or made for boobs. I have NO boobs at all. people always ask me if i am annorexic. People call me "flat" and a "twig". ALSO i have a disease called Ceoliac disease, which means i cant eat gluten, and gluten is stuff like :wheat, flour, musly, oats, barly, malt, and MUCH more. that means i cant eat anything with bread on it (hot dogs, hamburgers, cakes) and all those things are fatty foods, so i cant get fat!!!! o cry nearly everyday because i know that guys arent attrated to my 'skinny-ness' and my 'flat-ness' i also hate being teased at school.
PLEASE HELP ME!!
what should i do to make my self fatter or happier or both?
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Just a note... coconut flour mixed with rice flour and tapioca starch make a good wheat flour substitute in cookie recipes, but you have to add extra eggs and shape drop cookies before you bake them.
Also, Taco Bell is usually gluten free, and brownies made with gluten-free flour tend to taste pretty well. So, treats may help a little if you look in the right places.
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On my last visit, which was the second visit to my new therapist's office she said I was using histrionics and that what I needed to learn how to do in my relationships is be honest. I've been dramatizing and overexaggerating for so long, I'd not thought about the possibility of my not telling the complete truth to therapists. Anyway, I'm feeling like when I talk about it to my new boyfriend, I'm being dramatic or if I cry. I don't even want to emote at all anymore. I'm ashamed of my behavior, needing to manipulate men, needing to be the prettiest, the center of attention. But when I think about not doing that anymore, about talking to him in an unscripted sort of way, I become very anxious. I almost and sometimes will have a panic attack. Its as if this histrionic state of mind is just the way my mind is set up to work and communicate. I never seem to be living in the present moment because I'm constantly thinking about the next moment, or the current mind game I'd be playing. I miss out on feeling the real things because I'm such a fake ass. I feel like I'm in a hopeless situation because on these websites the doctors say there's no medication you can take for this- that therapy is difficult, there's not a whole lot a person can do for themselves. I don't want to be this way. Does anyone have any suggestions who knows anything about this disorder? I want so much to be mellow and laid back, happy with myself and independent. I don't want to be needy. My boyfriend knows of my manipulative and exaggerative ways, I'm afraid now that he will think everything I say is stretched. That I'm always trying to play him. I know there's no instant cure or even a cure at all really, but what CAN i do? Is it too late for my relationship? He said he trusted me, but can he now? I've never outright lied to him. Just over exaggerated. I feel so fake and ignorant and hopeless. (link)
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I'd suggest you stop beating yourself up, first of all. For one thing, this isn't all your fault, and for another feeling down on yourself can easily make this condition worse, or at least it has for me. When you learn to accept yourself and feel happier about who you are, it's a little easier to take things unscripted and natural, and life is a lot more fun. However, this isn't easy... healing is never very easy. Just start small, by thinking a few good things about yourself that you know, and then try to find out a few more. If you can get to know and like yourself it'll be easier to see that other people can get to know you and like you too. I know it's scary, but your boyfriend obviously sees things in you that he likes--try to follow his example :) You can get better, and you deserve to. Good luck.
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My World History class is SO effing BORING! I fall asleep EVERY time I'm in that class...and the thing is...we're not allowed to sleep...otherwise, we get an F for the day. And I can't help it. My eyes close...and I can't stop it lol. What's the best way not to fall asleep? (link)
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Things like gum and candy do always help, and so does sitting up straight--it keeps your breathing deeper and doesn't wear you out. Also, you want to keep your circulation going--flex and wiggle your toes, kick your feet if possible... and I know this sounds strange, but the best thing you can do to keep yourself alert is to clench and unclench the muscles in your butt. It's possible to do less noticably and it should keep your blood moving and your heart rate up just enough that it isn't too hard to stay awake.
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I know the first step to recovery is admitting you have a problem. So i've covered step one but I don't know what to do now. I have a problem with depression which results in hurting myself and I don't know what to do to stop being sad and stop all of this. What do I do besides go to a phyciatrist or the school counciler. Please i really don't have anywhere to turn. (link)
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Recovering from depression isn't always a "one-size-fits-all" program, and at some point you won't need steps. You'll find your way out of it. You don't have to go to a psychiatrist or counsellor, but at least call one of the free anonymous helplines (usually counselling centers have lists of the available centers, or you can check online for your area) because talking about the problem is a good step two. Beyond that, I can tell you that I changed my diet, got more exercise and fresh air, and then found a few new friends who made me smile. It's always personal, but find something that makes you happy and hold on to it! Good luck with everything... I hope it all turns out well for you
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My best friend ever is anorexic.. shes 5'3 and has to weigh like 105 noww, she didnt eat for like 3 dayss.. she has absolutely no ass now, and she's had this problem when she was 12, now she is almost 15... I feel as if i tell her parents, she'll get depressed. me and her are going on a cruise for spring break in 25 dayss..i dont want her to get sick, depressed. she is soo skinny. shes always complaining how cold she is, she cant sleep... shes always light headed. my mom knows she iss, butrecently shes been claiming to be eatingg.. but ive been with her and shes been lying to her mom about like eating in school. ive tried talkin to her, and i think that gettin her real help will make things worse. but idk.. she may be depressedd
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I'm sorry, but you've GOT to realize that this friend is already sick and depressed. Tell her parents as soon as possible--and tell a doctor, too. Getting "real" help never makes things worse if you get to people who will be responsible about it, even if she is mad at you at first. And there isn't much that could make this situation worse... eating addictions are something that you can get psychologically addicted to, and this not eating is putting your best friend in serious danger. Go to someone as soon as possible.
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I feel different. I feel hurt. Sometimes I don't want to get up and things seem to be getting harder. And other times I feel like someone should beat the shit out of me just for feeling this way. I feel like a hypocrite. I feel selfish. Nothing helps anymore. Going to shows don't seem to help. Hanging out doesn't seem to help. I don't know what to do. Or who to talk to. (link)
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It definitely sounds like you're having a problem with depression. Excercise, fresh air and a healthier diet (maybe with vitamins) always is a good first step. If that doesn't help (or if you've already tried it) then talk to someone. The best person to talk to depends on your personality. If you're really close to your friends, go to them and tell them what's going on- or just talk about something else for a while. Know you aren't alone. And if you're a little more private, sometimes it's easier to go to a partial stranger-me, or someone else on this site, if you want. And if none of that helps, go to a professional, whether that's a school/clinical counselor, clergy, whatever works for your situation.
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